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How to Tell If a Girl Doesn’t Like You: 11 Signs You Can’t Ignore

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Girls like to have guy friends in their life, but do you know how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you? The signs are there, you just have to see them.

We have all heard about the book and movie called He’s Just Not That Into You. A phenomenon a decade ago, for the first time, a guy came forward to tell women that their friends are blowing smoke. When you ask your friend, do you think he likes me, and she says “yes” even though all the signs say no, it isn’t fair. What it did was open a blind eye to the signs that men send to women when they aren’t interested. And likewise, if you’re wondering how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you, so you can back off for good, you’ve come to the right place.

The problem is that there hasn’t been any counter book saying “she’s just not that into you.” Men have a tendency to think that women are mysterious creatures, but the truth is that we are pretty predictable by nature. Once you figure out how we think and what motivates us, you have the key to unlocking the female species.

How to tell if a girl doesn’t like you – The easiest ways to read her mind

I don’t have the magic key, but what I do have are the signs that scream that a girl isn’t into you. You can continue to tell yourself a good story, or overlook the behaviors saying “go away” if you want. But, if you want to know how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you, the answers are below. [Read: Is she playing hard to get? All the signs she just wants you to go away]

#1 She doesn’t text you back. Women are communicative creatures. If someone texts us, then we feel it is our obligation to answer them, unless of course, we don’t like them. If a girl isn’t returning your text messages, don’t believe her when she says she forgot to get back to you, or that she has been really busy lately.

If she isn’t answering your text messages, that is a sure-fire sign that she just isn’t that into you. After all, even girls who are trying to play hard to get will answer, it may just take a while. [Read: 12 important rules to text a girl so you don’t creep her out]

#2 She is always busy. Sure, she might be a professional and climbing the corporate ladder, but if a girl likes someone, she puts them as a priority in her life. If she is constantly telling you that she can’t possibly get together because she is so busy, then you may want to consider that she is making up excuses because she doesn’t want to see you. This a classic sign to watch out for when learning how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you.

#3 She doesn’t show up to the same old places. Women are also creatures of habit. If we have a favorite hangout, we tend to flock to the same places unless there is someone or something there that we are trying to avoid.

If you keep trying to run into her and make it look like an accident, but she isn’t going to her same old hang out, then chances are good that she is avoiding you. If she isn’t going to the places that you used to hang out at, that is a big tip for how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you. [Read: Are you boring her? 20 clear signs she’s not interested]

#4 She leaves when you show up. If you walk into an establishment and she can’t get out the door quickly enough, she is trying her hardest to ignore and avoid you. Women don’t like confrontation, nor do they like to tell someone they don’t like them and hurt their feelings. Avoidance is one of our favorite behaviors. If we continue to avoid a guy, we figure at some point they will take the hint. So, take the hint.

#5 She tries to tell you all her bad qualities. Often, if a girl doesn’t like a guy, she will point out all the things that are wrong with her. She will downplay all her good qualities and make sure to highlight that she doesn’t ever sleep late, she smokes, and that she isn’t a good girlfriend.

Pointing out all her faults is a way to tell you that you should find someone who is better suited for you, or that she is just not into you. [Read: 12 telltale signs she’s just not that into you]

#6 She avoids being alone with you. This is a huge tip for figuring out how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you. If she always says things like “I’ll meet you there,” or if she never wants to hang out alone with you or at your house, then she probably doesn’t like you.

A girl who is nice and likes you, but not in a romantic way, doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. So, she isn’t going to be blunt. Not wanting to be alone with you is just a sign that she doesn’t want to give you the wrong impression.

#7 She doesn’t do anything special when meeting you. She may be interested in being your friend, but not your girlfriend. If she makes no effort to dress up or put makeup on when you go out together, then likely you have hit the “friend zone” and she isn’t interested in you in “that way.”

There are other hints that she is sending to you, but if she is way too casual when you see her without putting any effort into getting together, you are probably not on the same “interest level,” which is a very important tip for how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you. [Read: 18 clear signs you’re in a girl’s friend zone]

#8 She is always talking up other girls. If a girl is interested in you, then she wants all of your attention and gets jealous when you talk about other girls. If she is not only on board with you talking about other girls in your life – friends or otherwise – then she is probably not into you in a romantic way.

If she points out the positive in the girls around you, in your life, and in hers, then she probably isn’t going to be trying to get with you any time soon.

#9 She always brings someone else with. If every time you meet out, she is always accompanied by another friend, then that is a huge sign that she isn’t into you. Girls bring along friends to create a buffer. It makes no difference if it is a guy or girl, single friend or a group, if she is always bringing along a companion, then she is avoiding any serious talk with you. Or, having any romantic attachment to you. [Read: 10 very big signs you need to back off right now when you’re pursuing a girl]

#10 She won’t introduce you to her friends and family. A girl who is interested in a guy can’t wait to show them off to her family and friends. Albeit, she is not going to want to introduce you to Mom and Dad right up front *most likely because she is embarrassed by them or doesn’t want to pressure you*.

But, if you are ready to make your appearance and she can’t seem to take you anywhere, or she picks places to meet that are off the beaten path, then she is probably trying to avoid contact with others in her life. Although that may be a sign that she wants you alone, it is probably a signal for how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you. [Read: 15 signs the girl you like is just leading you on and taking you nowhere]

#11 She doesn’t flirt with or touch you. Not every girl is touchy-feely, but if it has been a while and she still doesn’t flirt with you or touch you in any way, then she probably thinks you are nothing more than a friend. If she can be around you without wanting to reach out and touch you, then there is little chance that she is interested in you.

No one wants to admit when someone isn’t into them, but don’t make the girl come right out and say it. There are signs all around that she isn’t into you, and you shouldn’t ignore them. Instead, embrace them. No matter how much you like her, if she just isn’t into you, there is someone out there better who will be.

[Read: How to make a girl like you again – 10 steps you need to follow]

Now that you know some tips for how to know if a girl doesn’t like you, keep your eyes and ears open. Because sticking around for slopping seconds isn’t cool on any level, so just don’t do it.

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Julie Keating
Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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