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Heteroflexible: All You Need to Know About a Rare Sexuality

You might know all about bisexuals, homosexuals, and even asexuals, but heteroflexible is one sexuality you might know nothing about—but should.


Everybody has their own type. You know, the type of person they prefer to date. Maybe you like blondes, brunettes, tall people, short people, red heads, muscular, and thicker varieties of people, just to name a few. But there are also people out there—as I’m sure you know by now—who also like different genders. Guys like guys, girls like girls, and some even like both such as the heteroflexible. It’s the way they were born and really isn’t any different than liking a certain type of person.
What is heteroflexible?
Many people closely relate heteroflexible people with bisexuals. Meaning they have a romantic and attractive desire for both genders.
The difference with heteroflexible people to someone associating as bisexual, they identify more with being straight. So they usually see themselves in a relationship and finding “The One” in the opposite gender. They also have sexual and romantic desires and thoughts about the same gender.
Everything you should know about heteroflexible people
There is much to be learned about this mysterious sexuality. People are still trying to understand what it really means. Are they straight, bisexual, gay? If you really want to know about this unique sexual orientation, read on for all you need to know and more. [Read: Are you a try-sexual? Find out now!]
When someone identifies as heteroflexible, people who don’t understand this sexuality get uncomfortable and form their own opinions that are often incorrect. Here are the most common misconceptions about heteroflexible people.
#1 They’re straight but going through a phase. Many people that find out someone is heteroflexible immediately dismiss the sexuality as being a “phase” the person is going through. They say they’re just experimenting but are ultimately straight.
This misconception doesn’t take into account that people who identify as heteroflexible don’t have a choice in the matter. Even if they end up with someone of the opposite gender, they aren’t technically straight. [Read: Infatuation vs Love – 14 ways to tell the difference]
#2 They’re bisexual but don’t want to admit it. Now, people get heteroflexible and bisexual confused often. They think anyone who identifies as heteroflexible is just bisexual but doesn’t want to admit to that sexuality.
This is false. While heteroflexible and bisexual contain striking similarities, they aren’t the same. Bisexual means you are attracted relatively equally to both genders. Whereas heteroflexible means you’re more attracted to the opposite sex, but you still are drawn to your same gender.
#3 They just want the attention. The biggest misconception about this sexuality involves a desire for attention. People think that by saying this they just want to get attention from certain people.
And yes, drunk college girls do make out with other drunk college girls in order to get attention from guys, so that may be where this idea originated. However, being truly heteroflexible is NOT just wanting attention. [Read: 20 sexually enlightening movies all about sexuality]
Misconceptions get a little out of hand when certain people don’t really understand what being heteroflexible is all about. Check out the truths of this sexuality.
#1 They’re not straight. Heteroflexible people tend to be more attracted to the opposite sex—just like heterosexuals—but they’re not completely straight. Because they do have a slight attraction for the opposite sex, it means they can’t identify as 100% straight.
They may only date and be with the opposite gender but still be heteroflexible. If they experience an attraction to their own sex and yet not act upon it, they are heteroflexible. So even though “hetero” is in the name of this sexuality, they are not.
#2 But they’re not completely bisexual either. The line between heteroflexible and bisexual remains very blurry. While heteroflexible may be a category under bisexual, they’re not the same thing.
Those who are heteroflexible prefer the opposite sex over their own gender; whereas, bisexuals experience equal pleasure with either. So while others may categorize them, mistakenly, as bisexual, they aren’t that sexuality. [Read: 9 sure ways to tell if you’re really bi-curious]
#3 They have a hard time explaining their feelings to their significant others. Can you imagine trying to explain to your straight partner you are into them, but you are also attracted to your own gender? Not exactly easy. It’s often difficult to get someone who doesn’t feel the same way to understand those types of feelings. It can even cause backlash and wind up ruining a relationship if the other person refuses to accept it.
#4 They can be confused themselves about their feelings. Some heteroflexible people have a hard time understanding how they themselves feel. One moment they experience intense feelings for their opposite sex partner. Then feel they want to experiment with their own gender sometimes. So just because they feel this way, doesn’t mean they completely understand it.
#5 It’s difficult finding someone who understands their feelings. Ruined relationships occur sometimes between a straight partner and a heteroflexible partner because they just don’t and can’t understand their way of life.
It’s hard for people who are heteroflexible to find someone who not only accepts them, but to find someone who can really understand the way they feel. [Read: 15 rules to be a good partner in a relationship]
As you can imagine, society perceives people who don’t identify as straight certain ways. Meaning there are downsides to being heteroflexible in a society that shuns this way of living.
#1 People don’t take them seriously. People often roll their eyes at those who announce they’re heteroflexible. Because they don’t take someone who can’t pick a sexuality seriously. While heteroflexible is certainly a sexuality, other people have a hard time accepting this and won’t take those who are seriously.
#2 Finding a partner okay with this lifestyle can be hard. Yes, some people accept the ones they love in their entirety, and that is awesome! But there are also people who won’t accept someone who identifies as heteroflexible based upon their own beliefs.
It takes a long time to open up to your partner if you’re unsure of how they might take the news, which also means you can’t really be yourself around them. You’re always holding back, unable to give them all of yourself. [Read: 10 self-reflective questions to help stay true to yourself]
#3 It is confusing to be heteroflexible if you don’t know you are. If you’re someone who has always been straight but has also been semi-curious about your own gender, it can be really confusing. It makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you, when really you’re just heteroflexible.
There are probably TONS of people out there with no idea they’re heteroflexible but live their lives in mild confusion. Never quite knowing where they belong in this confusing world.
[Confession: My first heteroflexible, accidental threesome experience]
Not everything about being heteroflexible is a struggle. They have more love to give to more people. If you didn’t know what this sexuality was before, well, now you do.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...