One of the best and most difficult things is empaths and relationships. If your partner is a true empath, you’ll need some help maintaining happiness.
It’s not that having a significant other that’s an empath is a bad thing, but you do have to be more aware of how they operate. Empaths and relationships can be tricky to operate if you’re not sure what to do.
Thankfully, we can help. Being able to understand your partner is the first thing to master. Once you manage to figure out an empath, your relationship will run much more smoothly and you can find true happiness together.
Empaths can actually make the best partners
As hard as it can be to get into the groove of being in a relationship with an empath, it’s worth it. Being with someone who can understand you like no one else has perks beyond your belief.
Not only do they make more of an effort than most other people, but they’re honest and passionate when it comes to those they care about most. You’d be lucky to have an empath in your life as long as you’re willing to work hard to make it work at first. [Read: Why being an empath in a relationship is a blessing and a curse]
How to deal with empaths and relationships
One of the best things you’ll do in your life is putting forth the effort to understand an empath as your partner. But it’s a lot easier said than done. If you truly want to have a happy life together, this is how you can learn more about your significant other and make the relationship work.
#1 Have patience. Being with an empath can be difficult at times. You won’t always understand them and it can take them a while to open up to you. That means you’ll need a bit of patience to get through those rough patches.
The thing about empaths is the more you’re with them, the more they’ll open up to you. While this may take a while at first, you’ll soon understand them better and will figure out what they need and when. That’ll open your relationship up to deeper bonding, too.
#2 Remember that they feel deeper than you. It’s hard to understand just how an empath works in a relationship. They don’t just feel the same as you do. They actually feel deeper and can take longer to get over certain things. So remember this and when they’re upset, put yourself in their shoes and then triple what you feel. [Read: 12 signs of an empath you have to know]
#3 Communicate as effectively as you can. It’s all about being able to talk to each other. If you don’t tell your partner what’s going on, they’ll just start to analyze your emotions as their own and things can get thrown way off track.
For this reason, you have to talk to them. Whenever you’re upset, just tell them what’s going on. I’ll make things a lot easier to handle in the long run and they’ll feel better about opening up to you, too.
#4 Let them have space when they’re emotional. Those who are highly empathetic need a bit more time to process how they’re feeling. They’ll be more sensitive and more emotional about things you won’t think are that big of a deal.
Give them space during this time. Let them calm themselves and deal with how they’re feeling if they’re at a point where they just can’t talk to you. Let them know you’re there to talk if they want but don’t push the matter.
#5 Ask them questions so they open up. People who are highly emotional often spend a lot of time inside their own head. They’ll try to process things themselves but that’s just not always possible.
So if your significant other is having a hard time, ask them questions. Ask how they feel and why. Tell them to let you know what’s going on so you can help. They’re more likely to open up if they’re prompted to do so. [Read: How to get someone to open up so you can really connect]
#6 Appreciate the little things they do. Those little favors and sweet things your partner does says a lot about how they feel about you. Something as simple as bringing you coffee in the morning can be a huge sign of affection from them.
That means you have to appreciate those things. If you don’t, your empath will feel as though you’re taking them for granted and that’s never a good thing. They’ll start to hold back and that’s when your relationship is in trouble.
#7 Think about where their actions come from. Empaths can sometimes do crazy things but in actuality, they’re coming from a very pure place. Those things can get annoying sometimes and you just have to think about why your partner is doing what they are.
Questioning you about your day in more detail than usual can seem irritating but it’s more than likely a result of your emotions being a little more frazzled. They can sense tension and stress and will want to get to the bottom of why you feel that way. [Read: How to be more empathetic and forge emotional connections]
#8 Don’t lie. Empaths are like walking lie detectors. They’re able to pick up on a lie a lot easier than others and that has a lot to do with their gut instinct. They follow it a lot more often and it’s usually right. So don’t lie unless you want to get caught. They’ll find out.
#9 Never belittle. When you’re arguing and tension runs high, avoid belittling your empathetic partner at all costs. Because they’re more sensitive, they’ll take it to heart and it’ll affect them going forward. It hurts them a lot more than it would hurt you.
#10 Focus on quality time together. The one thing that means the most to an empath is quality, emotionally intimate time. Giving them the opportunity to grow close to you emotionally will make the biggest difference in your relationship.
So don’t just go out and do stuff together, spend time talking and discussing meaningful things. Get deep and discover each other’s desires and dreams in life. That’ll be far more meaningful to your partner than you realize. [Read: 8 little habits that bring couples closer together]
#11 Make an effort in the relationship. You don’t have to be perfect. All your empath wants is for you to try. Make an effort to make them happy and you’ll see how much they appreciate it.
Even if you mess up sometimes, showing them that you’re trying and you want to make the relationship work will keep them around. They’ll feel just how hard you’re working to make things better and that’s far more meaningful than anything else.
#12 Figure out what sets them off. All empaths have certain situations that can be a bit draining simply because there are a lot of emotions involved. Knowing what those are can help you assist them when it happens.
You’ll be able to steer them away from things that set them off and keep them in a more upbeat, happy state of mind. It’ll also help you understand them on a deeper level and having that type of understanding in a relationship is what’ll make it work in the long run.