The Guy’s View on What’s Cute vs. Sexy About a Girl

Ever wonder what’s cute and what’s sexy about a girl? And what’s the real difference between the two? We’ve got your answers, straight from men’s mouths!

what's cute vs what's sexy about a girl

Whether it’s body type, actions, personality quirks, or speaking patterns, men tend to categorize women in one of two ways: cute or sexy. But what do these phrases actually mean? Does cute refer to the way a girl looks, or the way she acts? If your crush says you’re cute, does that mean you’ve been friend-zoned?

If you’re sexy, does that mean you come off as easy or intimidating? So many questions, so few answers! We’re getting down to business and asking our favorite fellas what’s the deal with calling girls cute or sexy, and what it “actually” means.

What’s cute about a girl?

Have you ever wondered what the draw of having a “cute” girlfriend was? Let us enlighten you! Cute girls are like your best friend turned lover. She’s low-maintenance, does adorable things, likes the same nerdy stuff you do, knows how to hang back with the guys, and isn’t afraid to embrace doing cute “girlfriendy” things, like making you scrapbooks and baking cookies.

But what’s cute and what’s sexy about a girl? We’re narrowing down what makes a girl cute, with opinions from some of our favorite men.

#1 Being playful. “By far the biggest difference in a girl being sexy compared to cute is how playful she is. Being playful is… well, it’s just cute. The cute girl is playful. This is where inside jokes are made, where stupid nicknames live, and where many a laughs are made. I want a cute girl who tries to have tickle fights, who isn’t afraid to play soccer, and who wants to kick back and play video games. Dig?” -Jason, 24 [Read: 12 things guys absolutely love in a girl besides appearances]

#2 She loves being a girl. “This seems like a no-brainer, but it’s cute when a girl likes being girly. Girls are cute when they love pink stuff, keep stuffed animals for sentimental reasons, and keep little journals. There’s something so old-school adorable about these things in a girlfriend.” -Tim, 17

#3 Innocence. “I think it’s cute when girls are just, innocent. Not like ‘Teach me how to give a BJ’ innocent, but they like what they like, they don’t make crude jokes, and they don’t have shady motives behind what they do. Now that’s cute. Hell, that’s perfect!” -Brent, 30

#4 Shmoopie Voice. “I think it’s really cute when girls do like, the “shmoopie” voice. You know, that kind of high-pitched cute voice girls usually reserve for talking to babies, kittens, and one lucky boyfriend? Just a caveat, though, it can get annoying if it’s done way too much.” -Steve, 22

#5 Friendly, not intimidating. “One of the reasons us regular guys don’t tend to go for the sexiest girl in the room is because she’s way too intimidating! Plus, hot girls are a total hassle because you’re always wondering who else is going after her. Cute girls, on the other hand, have this awesome, outgoing personality that makes you feel totally comfortable. Love that.” -Aaron, 27 [Read: 25 tips to look cute and melt any guy’s heart instantly]

#6 Giggling with a sense of humor. “When a girl can be funny and knows how to laugh with a hard, belly laugh. That’s adorable. That’s what every guy wants for his girlfriend. Giggling is also cute. Giggling is pretty well the cutest laugh a girl can give.” -Cody, 29

#7 Geeky girls are cute. “I don’t know what it is, but being a geek is totally in. Check any Twitter or Instagram hashtag and you’ll be bombarded with nerdy pictures featuring people from all over, most with plenty of “Likes” to back up my argument. Geekiness is more cute than sexy. It sounds dumb, but glasses, no makeup, more wearing of PJs… video game nerds just like us guys. Now that’s a cute girl.” -Gordon, 24. [Read: 22 unintentional girly things you do that guys really love]

What’s sexy about a girl?

When it comes to what’s cute and what’s sexy about a girl, many women wish they could fall on the sometimes shallower end of the spectrum: Sexy! So in the war against “Sexy vs. Cute,” what makes a girl sexy? We’re asking men their thoughts on the top 7 items that make a woman super sexy.

#8 Confidence. “Confidence is just… it’s just damn sexy. Women who know what they want are so sexy they almost intimidate the rest of us! Another plus, a girl who’s confident in life is confident in the bedroom, and that’s hot!” -Tray, 19 [Read: The step-by-step guide to feeling sexy and desirable all the time]

#9 Curves. “I don’t want to give the shallow answer, but a girl with curves is the complete physical package when it comes to what’s sexy about a girl. I don’t care if she’s a size 2 or a size 12, if she’s got curves then she’s got sex appeal.” -Michael, 35

#10 Intelligence. “Smart is sexy. That’s the mantra of my generation. I like a girl who reads, who’s knowledgeable, and who can teach me something with passion. Intelligence, about any subject, gives me a figurative and literal hard on. That’s sexy.” -Tom, 28

#11 Being self-sufficient. “Some men find that whole “Independent Woman” intimidating. I don’t. To me, there’s nothing sexier than a career woman who is self-sufficient. There’s just something enticing about her getting far on her own that has its own particular brand of sex appeal.” -Danny, 26

#12 Those eyebrows though. “There’s a certain “look” girls give that is sexy. It’s all in the arch of the brow and the fire behind the eyes. Remember that part in The Lion King where Simba and Nala roll down a hill during “Can you feel the love tonight” and Nala gives him that “come and get it” look? THAT’S the sexiest look girls can ever give. Except… as humans, not as animated cats.” -Eric, 30 [Read: 25 things guy find really sexy and attractive about a girl]

#13 Bedhead and hair details. “To me the thing that makes a girl sexy can come down to something as simple as her hair. Sexy girls have sexy hair. It’s thick, dark, long, and preferably in a bedhead style. That shag of morning hair on a sexy girl wearing my shirt makes me want to pull her back into bed and call in sick!” -John, 40 [Read: The enigma of the hot mess: Do you want to be one?]

#14 Passion. “I don’t care who you are or what you look like: Passion is sexy. Passion during sex, passion for a hobby, for music, passion in love. That’s hot, sexy, and absolute perfection when it comes to a woman.” -Daniel, 27

The wrap-up

So, given the male opinions on the matter, does that mean a cute girl can’t have curves, or a sexy girl can’t be playful? Of course not! Women are multi-faceted creatures with much to appreciate!

[Read: 12 dating stereotypes of women in a man’s mind]

Think you have more to add to the list? Let us know what you think is sexy or cute in the comments below!

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