Fuckboy: What It Means, Why Guys Do This & 36 Signs and Ways to Get Away!

What is a fuckboy exactly? You’ve probably heard of one, but this isn’t a guy you want to keep around for long, trust us! 


The chances of you going through life and never encountering a guy who could be described as a fuckboy are pretty slim. They’re far more common than you might think! It’s time to learn what a fuckboy is and how to deal with one, so you don’t end up heartbroken in the end.

Listen, maybe if you’re really lucky, you won’t encounter this type of dating creature. But in all honesty, no matter how great of a girl you are, there will be one guy that tries to treat you like shit.

Usually, you don’t realize the guy is a fuckboy until he’s made you go slightly insane and left you heartbroken with a bunch of unanswered questions. You’ll never get closure with this type of guy.

But don’t let him win. Nuh-uh, come on, we know it’s hard, but when you see the signs, cut it so you keep your heart intact. [Read: The womanizer alert – The warning signs a player just can’t hide]

What is a fuckboy? Everything you need to know

When you’ve encountered a few fuckboys in your life, you’ll start to become convinced that they’re the only type of guy that exists. But that isn’t true, and there are good guys out there. You just seem to go after the wrong ones.

It’s time to get down to serious business. We want to make sure you end up with a good guy, not someone who doesn’t appreciate you. Save yourself by knowing the signs and then learn how to deal with a fuckboy in the best possible way.

Of course, before we even start looking at the signs, we need to answer the burning question: what is a fuckboy? [Read: How to play a guy at his own game and 40 ways to beat a player in style]

A fuckboy is a guy who is strictly into sexual relationships. Now, that part isn’t a bad thing. However, the difference between a guy who wants casual sex and a fuckboy is that this particular specimen doesn’t tell you what they want.

Instead, they lead you on, making you think that you’ll be able to have something more with them just so they can continue having sex with you.

They have no intention of being with you or committing to you, even though they want you to commit to them. They want all the goodies without being honest with you from the beginning. [Read: 15 signs he just wants sex and is only using you for his personal pleasure]

How to tell he’s a fuckboy who wants to play with you

Not sure if the guy you’re “seeing” is only out for sex? Well, if you notice a couple of these signs in his behavior, there’s a solid chance he is one.

After that, you need to learn how to deal with a fuckboy and get away ASAP.

1. He’s not interested in deep conversations

He doesn’t want to know how your day was or if you passed your exam. What he cares about is if you’re still going to hang out with him tonight at his place.

If a guy really likes you, he’ll want to talk to you about everything. The subject isn’t important, what’s important is that he speaks to you. If your conversations are shallow and mostly revolve around sex, he’s a fuckboy. [Read: The biggest booty call moves that may be disguised as true love]

2. He doesn’t make plans to see you

He doesn’t ask you to hang out with him. If he does, he conveniently asks you late at night and always at either your place or his.

If he really liked you, he would be making sure you see each other as much as possible and not just to have sex. He should want to spend quality time with you, not just bang. [Read: Signs of an online dating player]

3. He’s always texting other people when you’re around him

Yes, you may not think it’s a big deal, but why is he texting other people around you if he’s with the girl he likes? Could it be that he’s trying to hook up with other girls? That would be a yes.

Don’t argue with us and make up an excuse.

If he likes you, he wouldn’t care who’s texting him, he won’t be ignoring you and focusing on someone else’s texts. If you want to know what is a fuckboy, this is definitely something to look out for. [Read: What is cheating in a relationship? The truth most people ignore]

4. You haven’t been on an actual date with him

Sure, you grabbed pizza with him after the club or watched Netflix together, but that’s not a date. In fact, now that you think about it, you’ve never actually been on a date with him.

He has never taken you for dinner or to the movies. Nothing.

That’s a huge red flag. [Read: Dating rules for the woman tired of terrible dates and games]

5. He isn’t into labels

Oh, this one is a classic. Yeah, he can’t stand labels. If you have been seeing each other for some time, and it’s that weird period where you want to know what’s happening between you, he suddenly says he’s not into labels and likes it how it is.

Of course, he likes it the way it is, he doesn’t want to commit to you. Another red flag! [Read: When should you define the relationship? 20 signs it might be right now!]

6. All his exes are crazy

All of them are nuts. Every single one. He never says anything nice about the girls he’s dated in the past. This is because he’s a fuckboy who doesn’t take any responsibility for his actions. Thus, he blames it on everyone else.

She dumped him because she was crazy, not because he cheated on her. A fuckboy has a very special talent for twisting everything in his favor. [Read: 34 big relationship red flags almost all people ignore early on]

7. His friends are just like him

Who you hang out with is who you are. It’s true. So, it’s best to see what his friends are like.

If they’re all non-committal and sleeping with ten different women, the odds are he’s not much different. His friends are probably all fuckboys as well. Check them out by meeting them, or at least creeping on their social media.

8. A fuckboy hits on other women in front of you

This is because you two are not actually together. You get that—right? If he thought you were his girlfriend, he wouldn’t do that. And if he was serious about you and respected you, he wouldn’t even look at another girl in your presence, or at all!

But if he does flirt with other women even when you’re right in front of him, it’s a clear sign he doesn’t care about you. [Read: 17 signs of disrespect in a relationship that reveal a lack of love]

9. He’s all about the nudes

All he wants are nude photos of you. Yeah, he follows you on Instagram and Facebook, and he gets to see your selfies and your family photos there, but that’s not what he wants to see.

Instead, he wants those naughty photos of you all the time. But if he was really into you, he wouldn’t be asking you for them constantly. [Read: Warning! How to be careful when sending dirty snapchats]

10. He thinks he owns you

He doesn’t like it when you go out or talk to other guys. Also, he thinks he’s entitled to sleep with you whenever he wants.

Yet, when it comes to committing, he’s nowhere to be seen. He doesn’t own you. If he thinks he does, he’s a fuckboy.

11. A fuckboy never says “sorry”

Why would he say sorry for anything when he doesn’t care? Everything you say to him comes off as an attack, and he’s quick to defend himself. But you’re not asking him to defend himself, you just want to talk.

Why would he feel the need to defend himself if he isn’t doing anything wrong? This is classic fuckboy behavior. [Read: How to forgive and forget – 24 thoughts to decide on the right step]

12. He loves to talk about himself

It’s all about him. Him, him, him. He doesn’t ask you anything about yourself because he doesn’t care. It’s always about what he’s doing, how he feels, if he’s hungry or bored.

It’s never about you, your dreams, your passions, your wants—nothing. It’s totally one-sided and when you’re honest with yourself, you can see it. [Read: Selfish people – 20 ways to spot and stop them from emptying you]

13. He’s always testing you

He’s doing small things to test you and your loyalty to him. Though, you don’t test him, because why would you? You like him.

He always makes sure he’s holding the power, ensuring you’re not going to screw him over.

But, a real relationship has equal power. In fact, it’s not even about power. In this type of situation, you’re experiencing true fuckboy behavior. [Read: 17 answers to why a guy is ignoring you]

14. There’s no evidence of you together

That’s only because he doesn’t want any evidence of you in his life. We know it sounds harsh, but it’s true.

Why would he keep you a secret? Because he has other women. He doesn’t want them to know about you and vice versa. If he likes you, he would have no problem displaying photos of you together on social media.

15. He rarely calls you by your actual name

No, we’re not talking about the unique, cute pet name he occasionally calls you. If he rarely says your actual name, or probably never, then there’s a good reason for that.

He’s worried that he’s going to get your name mixed up with another woman he’s hooking up with and doesn’t want to be caught out. So he uses a generic pet name like “babe” so he never utters the wrong name accidentally.

Go on, ask him what your name is and watch him squirm for a second! [Read: What your pet name says about your relationship]

16. You hear rumors about his behavior

Have you heard the odd thing about him but just put it down to jealousy? It’s probably time to re-assess that thought and wonder whether there’s some truth to it.

It’s quite likely that more than one other person has been treated badly by this guy and the utterings you’re hearing are from experience. 

17. Your text sessions often turn into sext sessions

We mentioned before that he’s not really interested in having an actual conversation with you. He doesn’t care to find out about how your day went or how you really are. Instead, he wants to turn every conversation around to sex, texts included.

So, if you notice that every innocent text you send ends up in heavy sexting, you should probably question whether you’re dealing with a fuckboy. [Read: How to sext – 16 flirty tips to learn to text sexy, dirty, & naughty]

18. A fuckboy is keen to tell you what a great lover he is

A fuckboy doesn’t have a problem with sexual confidence. How could he when he’s getting it far more often than the average?

If you’re with a guy who’s extremely confident between the sheets and has no problem bragging about how great he is in that department, you should question why. 

19. He won’t introduce you to his friends or loved ones

If you suggest hanging out with his friends at the weekend, he makes an excuse. If his sister drops by the house when you’re there, you’re bundled out, hidden, or he doesn’t answer the door. Basically, he doesn’t want you to meet them.

Why? Because you’re not his girlfriend he’s not serious. He doesn’t want these people to know about you. [Read: How to accept your BF’s friends and get them to accept you]

20. He’s full of excuses

When you think about it, he’s the king of excuses. There’s always some reason that something happened, and they become even more creative as time goes on.

This is a guy who’s pretty good at keeping track of his lies, but sooner or later, they’ll catch up with him!

21. His social media is full of females

Take a look at his friend’s list, that’s if it’s public. He’s probably got it set to private so none of his women can see the others.

Basically, his social media is jam-packed full of females and he’s probably messaging a good portion of them. [Read: Snapchat cheating – What it is and 12 signs your partner is doing it]

How to deal with a fuckboy made easy

If you’re lucky, you’ll only have to deal with one or two fuckboys in your lifetime. You may know many more, but if they keep their distance, it’s not your problem.

It won’t always be easy and it won’t always be fun, but this is how to deal with a fuckboy and get rid of him for good.

1. Figure out if he’s really a fuckboy by recognizing the signs early

Guys who walk around acting like a fuckboy basically have it written across their faces. You can tell within the first 10 minutes of conversation with someone that they are going to be the type to cause you trouble.

Any guy who starts a conversation with a sexual innuendo, is rude to waiting staff, compliments you only on your sexual traits *boobs, butt, etc.*, or only talks to you to “Netflix and chill” is a fuckboy to the max.

Those early signs can help you steer clear before the real trouble sets in, so beware! [Read: Unassuming signs that show you’re dating a jerk]

2. Devise a plan

Once you’re in the clutches of a fuckboy, it’s very hard to yank out his claws and pry yourself away from the nightmare that has now taken over your once vibrant, hopeful life. This means that you need a plan of attack to set yourself free again.

You can’t just treat a fuckboy like any other person, because they’re very unaware of their level of fuckery.

A lot of times, they don’t know what they’re doing wrong, or else they just flat-out don’t care, so leaving abruptly can lead to catastrophic consequences.

Make a plan and see it through. [Read: How to stop selfish people from hurting you]

3. Seek support from friends and family

You’d be surprised at how much backup a mom can be when trying to rid yourself of the heinous fuckboy that has invaded your life.

Your friends probably saw his tricks long before you did and will be willing and ready to back you up.

Friends and family are your go-to’s to help you come up with a plan and see it through, because, without that support system, you may just crumble under the weight of a fuckboy’s influence. [Read: Good friends are like stars – 18 ways to build lasting friendships]

4. Build your confidence

Fuckboys feed off insecurities. If you aren’t self-confident, they’re going to find you like you’re the only clothed person on a nude beach. You have to find ways to build up your confidence if you’re going to learn how to deal with a fuckboy.

This may take more time than you have, but hitting the gym, surrounding yourself with positive people who make you feel good, and telling yourself that you’re awesome every single day is a damn good start.

And if you suffer from self-esteem issues, you can ALWAYS fake that confidence until you have it. [Read: Subtle body language moves to appear more confident]

5. Play their game right back at them

Disarm the dreaded fuckboy using the mirror effect. If he’s ignoring you all day only to text late at night once the bars have closed, why not go ahead and give him a taste of his own medicine? Go MIA for a while.

But beware, this tactic can backfire. Game playing is never without its risks. [Read: Guys who play games – 17 signs, reasons why, and what you need to do]

6. Tell their mom

We know this sounds a little elementary, but when learning how to deal with a fuckboy, you have to use all avenues available to you. You would be thoroughly surprised how much a man will change his actions if his mother knows about the way he’s been treating girls.

All it takes is a quick Facebook stalk, page click, and message before his mom knows all his dirty little fuckboy secrets.

Take some screenshots of the things he has said, thoroughly explain the situation, and don’t forget to mention that you know she has raised him better, but he might need to be reminded of how to be a good man.

She will flip on him faster than a pancake. You’ll more than likely never have to deal with him again. [Read: Easy things you can do to get his mom to adore you]

7. Command dominance

If you have a fuckboy in your life, then you have to deal with their dominant behavior all the time. This is how they manipulate and get in your head. They claim their ground and don’t budge, making you the submissive one.

Don’t let them! March into a room, stand tall, look him in those annoying fuckboy eyes, and make your presence known.

He will practically back away with his tail between his legs because he knows you’ve just owned him. That’s how to deal with a fuckboy! [Read: 18 signs to know if he’s overprotective and dominating]

8. Call them out on their behavior

Once you gain that confidence and have claimed your dominance over them, call them out for all the stuff they’ve been doing that has qualified as fuckery.

Tell them how horrible it is, how crappy it makes you feel, and how it makes him look like less of a man.

And keep going! Don’t give up. Don’t feel bad. Tell him everything that you have held in because you were afraid to say anything.

Let it all out, honey, because they need to be aware of their wrong-doings, and you need to be free of the pain. [Read: Relationship arguments – 23 dos and don’ts to remember]

9. Then tell them how it’s going to be

Once that’s all off your chest, recompose yourself, and then with a dominant, confident stance, tell them how things are going to be.

If you’ve been dating this fuckboy for some time, tell him what needs to change unless he wants you to leave and never come back.

Tell him your expectations and that you will accept nothing less than that. Once you’re done telling him how it is, his attitude will have dwindled down to merely nothing.

And if it hasn’t, then he is a lost cause, anyway, and you shouldn’t waste any more of your precious time with him. [Read: How to make a relationship work – 34 ways to a stronger bond]

10. Never falter in your decision

You’ve learned how to deal with a fuckboy, but the most important thing to remember is, after all your effort, never falter in your decisions. You made your point, set your standards, and now he WILL abide by them, or you’ll keep your end of the bargain and leave.

You can’t go back to being treated how you were, because he’ll just think you had a bad day and will keep doing the same thing, never realizing his mistakes and wrongfulness.

Be strong! Be demanding! And be rid of that fuckboy attitude for good. [Read: How to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you]

11. Recognize your feelings don’t mean anything to him

If you’re going to stay with this guy, you have to know that your feelings mean zero to him. He just wants sex and nothing more. He doesn’t care about you one iota, because if he did, he wouldn’t act this way.

Don’t stick around thinking that he might change when he falls in love with you; that’s not what he wants. If you’re going to stay, know this fact, but seriously, don’t you deserve better?

12. Know your worth and find a man worthy of your time

At the end of the day, you can try to stick around and learn how to deal with a fuckboy, but is it worth it? You’re never going to be anything more than a casual hookup to him and that really sucks.

You deserve someone who values your time and wants to show you off to the world. Find a guy who isn’t going to hide you away and will do whatever he can to make you happy. That’s what you deserve. [Read: The step-by-step guide to get over unrequited love]

Why it is hard to get that fuckboy gone

We wouldn’t be writing this feature if fuckboys weren’t so common! The reason so many women stick around is because they’re convinced the guy is going to change his mind, fall head over heels, and change his behavior.

He won’t. Trust us, he won’t.

But why is it so hard to let that fuckboy go, even when you know what he’s really all about? [Read: How to walk away from being a side chick and be someone’s number one instead]

1. It’s almost fun to work for their affection

Maybe not ‘fun’ per se, but you think that if he suddenly starts being all romantic, you’ve earned it and you’re the special one.

Look, if he starts being all romantic, it will only ever be in private and it’s probably fake. Sorry, but it’s true.

2. The mindset of ‘something is better than nothing’

No, no, no! There is nothing wrong with being single and trust us, that’s far better than learning how to deal with a fuckboy every single day.

Being treated terribly isn’t better than nothing. Instead, spend your time with friends and family, get out there, focus on you, and the right guy will come along. [Read: How to stay single until you’re seriously ready to mingle]

3. Oxytocin

Ah, that pesky cuddling/love hormone. Oxytocin has a lot to answer for.

After you have sex with someone, cuddle with someone, or basically get super-close physically, your brain releases a hormone called ‘oxytocin.’ This bonding hormone is the reason why you feel all happy and loved up after sex.

But it’s not real. It’s just a hormone, remember. [Read: Chemistry of love – How hormones make you feel love the way you do]

Fuckboys be gone!

Now, don’t get us wrong. If you really just want casual hookups and you’re not bothered about anything else, maybe spending time with this guy isn’t so bad.

But if you’re looking for something more meaningful, do you really want to be treated like nothing more than a portable sex machine?

He doesn’t care about your feelings and he’s never going to fall in love with you. The moment you even start to think about a beautiful future with this guy, you’re in far too deep.

It’s time to get out and find a guy who actually cares about you more than what’s in his pants.

[Read: 40 rules and advice for women tired of bad dates and shitty men]

Now that you know what a fuckboy is, it’s time you memorize these signs. Make sure you stay far away from them; they ain’t nothing but heartbreakers!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...