You really like this guy, but deep down something signals a problem. Could he be using you? It’s time to find out the signs you’re being used by a man.
You know the saying, “love is blind,” while cliché, it’s true. Being in love is amazing, and everyone should experience it. But you want to share your love with someone who appreciates and loves you back. If not, you’re going to be hurt—and I swear I’ll come over there myself and kick his ass! So, please, do me a favor and memorize these signs you’re being used by a man.
How to tell the signs you’re being used by a man
When you really like a guy, you don’t always see the things happening in front of you. When it comes to love, you’ll be surprised by the things you ignore or simply don’t see.
I’m a big romantic and you should be too, so don’t let this deter you from finding love. You’ll encounter a bunch of different men, some nice and some not so nice. This is just a part of life. Learn to recognize these signs you’re being used by a man right away and ditch him.
That way, you’ll only feel a small sting rather than huge heartbreak. It’s time to protect yourself. Take a look at the signs and put the pieces of the puzzle together.
Thank you, next.
#1 You feel it. You know when someone is using you. You feel something is off. This feeling is there for a reason, don’t ignore it. If you do, you’ll only get yourself hurt. If you feel uncomfortable and suspicious, your body is telling you something. This guy is lying about something. And if he’s lying to you now, he’ll continue to do it. [Read: The hidden signs of a one-sided relationship we all choose to ignore]
#2 They’re nice when they want to be. In the beginning, he was super nice, but now, he’s only nice when he needs something. If he only treats you nicely and with respect when he feels like it, he’s using you. Relationships don’t work like that, you either respect the person or you don’t. If you notice him being super nice right before asking for a favor, he’s using you.
#3 You have a hard time saying no. You usually don’t have a problem, but when you’re around him, you have a hard time saying no. When you’re being used by someone, they use all the tricks in the book to manipulate you. If you find yourself falling for their tactics and end up doing everything they want, they’re using you. [Read: 15 signs of manipulation you should never ignore]
#4 He loves asking for favors. It’s the only thing you really get to talk to him about. He doesn’t call for anything else unless it’s about sex or favors. I know you want to help him because you like him, but if he’s constantly asking favors from you, he’s just using you. All you need to do is stop feeling guilty and say no.
#5 He calls you on his time. When you text or call him, it’s radio silence, but when he wants to get a hold of you, he’ll call or text you obsessively. If he really cared, he would respond to your calls and texts like a normal person. Maybe because he’s using you, he doesn’t see you as someone important until the right moment.
#6 He doesn’t fulfill your needs. There are things you’d like to see or places you’d like to go, but he doesn’t do anything you want. He ignores your needs completely and makes you feel like you’re just there to serve him. And that’s because you are. Your needs don’t matter to him, what matters is that you pay attention to his needs. [Read: 23 signs you’re dating a manchild and an immature prick]
#7 He gets angry when you don’t fulfill his needs. If you don’t do what he says, he becomes angry. And then he punishes you. He’ll ignore your calls or texts, posts things on social media, and make you feel extremely guilty. If he’s guilt-tripping you and making you do crazy favors, it’s time to let him go. He’s using you.
#8 He only calls at night. This is such a classic move and one of the clearest signs you’re being used by a man. He probably told you he works a lot or his days are super busy, but that’s crap. Unless you only hook up on a specific day of the week, there’s no reason for him to only call you at night. If that’s the case, he’s only using you for sex. [Read: 15 signs he just wants sex and is only using you for his enjoyment]
#9 He’s hot and cold. This is an old trick, yet it works on everyone. It does a great job of emotionally controlling someone as it makes the person work harder for attention and affection. He’ll ignore your calls and texts, but just when you think it’s over, he’ll text you and ask you to hang out. He doesn’t want to hang out, he’s playing games.
#10 They’ve used you to get ahead. It could be by flirting with your best friend or stealing your ideas, these are all signs of a user and manipulator. You don’t need a guy like this. He’s only going to get worse with time. He needs to go.
#11 He doesn’t give back. You may have cooked him a romantic dinner or bought him a shirt he wanted, but he never does anything back for you. He never takes you out, buys you anything small. It doesn’t have to be big gestures, even the smallest ones show he cares. [Read: How to pull back in a relationship when you’re giving too much]
#12 He shows off what you have. When you’re being introduced to new people, he always introduces you by talking about what you have, not what you are. You’re kind, funny, and smart… but he doesn’t think about those things. He likes the car you drive, the house you live in, and the people you know.
#13 You pay for everything. Strange, right? Whenever you go out, he never seems to have his wallet on him. Pay attention to how many times you end up paying for things because it’ll be a lot. He may pay occasionally to make it look like he cares, but if he’s smart, he’ll let you do all the money moves.
#14 He doesn’t remember the details. Your birthday passed and he didn’t call to give you birthday wishes. He doesn’t remember the dentist appointment you have today or that your mom is sick. These are small details that people who care would remember. He doesn’t care though, he’s just using you. This isn’t information that gives him anything. [Read: How to stop being taken for granted of in your relationship]
#15 You feel it’s one-sided. When you talk to him, he’s there, but he’s not really listening to you. It feels like you mainly talk to yourself. That’s because you are. He’s not there to solve your problems, he’s there so you can solve his.