14 Signs Your Guy Means It When He Says “I Love You”

14 Signs Your Guy Means It When He Says "I Love You"

Is he really in love with you or is he just trying to get into your pants? Use these signs to find out if he means it when he says “I love you”. By Colin Andrews

When a guy pursues a girl, all he cares about is getting her to fall for him.

He may be in love with her, he may be infatuated by her, or he may just be trying to get into her pants.

It doesn’t matter what his intentions are.

But he’d say just about anything to get the girl he likes to fall for him!

[Read: How guys fall in love with a girl – The 7 stages of love for men]

So how can you ever tell if a guy truly loves you, or is just saying that to get you to fall in love with him or get into bed with him?

How to tell if a guy means it when he says he loves you

Unfortunately, there is no clear and easy way to know if a guy truly means it or is just saying that he loves you to flatter you or get into your panties.

But there are a few clear cues and signs he’d give away that can help you see through his words and find out if he truly loves you.

Firstly, the easiest way to know he means it when he says he loves you is by keeping his sexual innuendos in mind.

[Read: 22 big early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]

Does he try to slip his hands into your shorts as he says he loves you? He’s obviously saying it just to flatter you or impress you enough to unbutton your shorts!

The further away his first “I love you” is from the possibility that both of you may end up in bed, the truer his intentions may be. [Read: 25 signs your boyfriend really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

Why guys say “I love you” even if they don’t mean it

For a guy, sex is just that. It’s sex. It doesn’t always have to be attached with emotions. On the other hand,  for a girl, sex is almost always entwined with emotions and love. And guys know that.

By promising a girl that he’s in love with her, he’s saying just what the girl wants to hear, he’s mixing sexual pleasure with the promise of emotional attachment. And when a guy does that, a girl almost always feels obligated to give in and indulge the guy’s sexual desires because “he truly loves her!” [Read: Are you falling for the just-the-tip sex excuse?]

For a guy, it’s easy to say a few words, especially if the reward for it is sex. You’re happy, he’s happy. And everyone gets what they want, don’t they?

The 3 circumstances when a guy would say “I love you”

When a guy dates you, there are just three possibilities when he would say that he loves you. Even if there are any other smaller reasons, they can still be summarized in these three circumstances.

#1 He wants to get into your panties. He wants to have sex with you, and he knows you’ll indulge him only if he makes some kind of a commitment first.

#2 He’s trapped into saying it. He may really like you a lot, but he’s still confused about whether he’s truly in love with you. But he says those three words because you’re forcing him into saying it *by saying you love him and waiting for him to say it back*, or worse, he feels obligated to say it because he assumes that’s what you want to hear. [Read: 10 reasons why saying “I love you” too soon sucks for the relationship]

#3 He really does love you. He really loves you, and he means it completely when he says those three words. He could say it on the very first date or a few months down the dating lane, but he still means it with all his heart and sees you as a long term lover in his life.

Using his behavior to find out if he loves you

As a girl, you’re entitled to be cautious when a guy says he loves you. After all, what if he’s just lying and breaks your heart someday. But you need to remember that not all guys say those three loving words just to get into your panties.

It’s easier to judge his intentions depending on the kind of relationship both of you have. Actions always speak louder than words. How does he behave when he’s around you?

Is he keen to introduce you to his friends? Do you catch him staring at you when he thinks you’re not looking? Does he seem mesmerized by you? And most importantly, does he try to constantly impress you and woo you? [Read: Does he really love me? – 20 signs to know the answer instantly!]

14 signs your boyfriend really means it when he says “I love you”

If you’re in a new relationship and your boyfriend tells you that he loves you, keep an eye on these 14 signs here. In all probability, these signs will help you find out if he really means it, or is just saying it because that’s what you want you hear from him.

#1 He says it first. There’s no pressure or need to say that he loves you, but he still says it when you least expect it *and he doesn’t expect sex in return*. He’s not forced into it and you haven’t asked him a question like “do you love me?” He says it because he means it. [Read: When is it the perfect time to say ‘I love you’ for the first time]

#2 He looks into your eyes. His eyes reveal his feelings for you. He stares into your eyes tenderly and lovingly when he says that he loves you.

#3 He squeezes you. Does your boyfriend squeeze your fingers or your arm when he says he loves you? When you really care about someone and love them, you can’t help but want to wrap them really tightly in your arms.

#4 The long kiss. He says he loves you after kissing you passionately, and then he comes closer again and continues to kiss you for several more seconds. [Read: How to kiss a guy and turn him on with your passion]

#5 He holds your hands. When you’re sitting next to him, has he held your hands gently and played with your fingers or stroked them while saying “I love you”? He may be feeling awkward or shy to say it, but his overwhelming emotions may force him to pour his heart out to you.

#6 The cozy hug. He hugs you affectionately, and kisses your neck while saying how much he loves you. Hugs, cuddles and kisses always make us weak and we can’t help but say the things we really want to say.

#7 When you least expect it. A guy who’s trying to sleep with you would say that he loves you when he thinks you’re expecting to hear it. But if a guy truly loves you, he’d say it not just when he thinks you want to hear it, but even in moments when you least expect him to say it. [Read: 25 qualities in a guy that make him a really great boyfriend]

#8 He sounds serious. The tone of his voice would reveal just how serious he is. He looks you into your eyes, and tells you matter-of-factly that he loves you. He’s not saying it to get something back in return, he’s saying it with the sole intention of letting you know that he really loves you.

#9 He looks vulnerable. A guy won’t reveal his vulnerable side to a girl if he’s just trying to get into her pants. He’d try to play it cool or act cocky instead. But if a guy really loves you, he’d reveal his vulnerable side and appear completely helpless in your arms.

When he’s confessing his feelings for you, he’d appear almost weak and he’d talk slowly, and say “I love you” almost in a whisper like he’s telling you a big secret that he keeps close to his heart. He may even seem like he’s overcome with emotions because he’d want you to understand just how much he means what he’s saying. [Read: 18 ways to decode his body language and find out if he loves you]

#10 Close proximity. A guy who loves you can’t hold his loving words back when both of you are all alone and sitting really close to each other. He’d want to cuddle you or kiss you, but most urgently, he’d want to tell you just how much you mean to him.

#11 When he does something special. When a guy who loves you gifts you something special to show his feelings for you, his gift will almost always be accompanied with an “I love you”. It’s his way of showing his appreciation for you *by giving the gift* and revealing his feelings at the same time.

#12 Jealous love. Has this guy ever told you how much he loves you when you’re having a petty fight, or when he feels insecure because you’re flirting with some other guy? When a guy tries to express just how much he loves you when he’s angry, it’s a sure sign he really loves you.

After all, in that heated moment, all he wants to do is reinforce just how much you mean to him and how much it hurts him to see you with someone else. [Read: How to make your guy jealous and get his attention]

#13 He talks about the future. If he says something serious about your relationship or talks about the future together, and says that he loves you in the same sentence, that’s a good sign that he means it. He sees you in his future and that thought makes him realize just how special you are to him. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never ever forget!]

#14 Your intuition. This is as simple as it gets. Your guy may not reveal all these signs here, or it may be too early in the relationship to know if he really loves you for sure. But the easiest way to trust a guy when he says “I love you” is by following your instincts.

If you really think he means it, there’s a good chance he probably does. After all, what better way than to trust your instincts when you fall in love with someone!

[Read: The Lovepanky dating girl code all girls need to know!]

Use these 14 signs to find out if your guy really means it when he says “I love you”. Even if you can’t see all these signs when he says he loves you, you’d surely see more than a handful. And that’s a great start to know if you mean something special to him, don’t you think?

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Colin Andrews
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9 thoughts on “14 Signs Your Guy Means It When He Says “I Love You””

  1. Max says:

    I pity the people that believe these tips. Obviously this is written by a woman who does not understand the majority of men at all.

  2. ben says:

    I’ve got to say, max has a point. Saying that sex to men is just sex, and nothing more, is a ridiculous and unfair generalization. I’m a man, and you wont catch me just hooking up randomly at a party. It makes me feel sick, and sad, to hear about those one night stand deals, and I know I’m not the only one. And believe me, I enjoy sex as much as the next bloke but I wont go through with it with someone unless I have strong feelings for that person, and am in a relationship with them.
    That said, I appreciate the knowledge made available by these articles, and have already benefited from their wisdom on numerous occasions.

  3. Sao says:

    I talk to the guy in face book I never met him . He say ,he love me .He in UK. We talk on the phone . The second time on the phone he ask me, you in bed room, you lie down, what you wear, you look sexy and you wear underwear? I want to know , how this guy are? You should continue relationship with him or not?

  4. Cassy says:

    OK But what if you live with him (open relationship) I call it, and The girl he knew longer b4 you doesnt live with him and im pretty sure he doesnt want her to live at his house one could be becuase we fight. Anyways she ussually just visits and I have asked him b4 why dont you tell me “I love you” and you tell her? His Response is an all most of the time when I used to ask is….. “It doesnt matter what you say it matters what you show”? “Anyone can say I love you But it takes A real person to show I love you”. AN he also says ” Dont you live with me” I say “Yes” and he says ” well what are you worried about than?”. could he really love her because he tell her ” I love you” or does he really mean what he tells me?. Any ways Even at the begining When i just barly moved in like 2 years ago he invited me to a Family Wedding that he hasnt seen in 8 years and Only invited me. an there were 2 weddings that He invited me the 2nd one his whole fam Invited me. Even his Older brother that Never really liked me since day one when we all met. (because of my actions) Says that IM not A homie IM Family. An I knew his brother looking at me with him on my side really want me to stop messing up an doing good. and I guess thats why im here. Also I noticed When we watch Tv I like or stuff I play and he likes the song w.e if it sounds or looks romantic he will Be like “wow what a kiss ass” laughs an looks at me and when he sees me liking a guy on tv giving a girl a ring or flowers or w.e he looks at my eyes and my smile and stays quiet and turn back watching tv.
    No: WE RARLY KISS AND GET INTIMATE AN SAY those three Words to me.(Like he does with other girls) Yes: I love him. An I know that he loves me but why he gottta look at me diffrent and not say it to me he even says WHEN I ASK ALSO ” Be your SElf dont worry about anyone eles and dont be anyone eles.” Anyways whats your opion is he not like that because hes not intrested and Thinking of throwing me out witch he says “HE wouldnt waist his time being or living with me if that was the case.” Anyways type your opipion. Real Love or what?

  5. Kassandra says:

    Whoever thinks men are capable of real love is suffering a delusion caused by patriarchal society and religion. God doesnt exist and neither does love from men. Wakeup and move along.

  6. carlissa says:

    if a boy says he love you that means he might really love you . peole dont kno if he want to get in a girl pants or not . if a guy say he love you you should feel lovee good . maybe he might . but if a guy jus want to do it let him go he’s not worth fightt for.

  7. Stuart says:

    After reading the comments on this article i am completely disgraced at the male race. I am a male and after reading comments by women that include saying things like no men feel love or have any emotional feelings and girls are stupid if they think a guy cares about them, thats complete crap (well for the most part)… Not all men are the same, and according to the comments that some women have wrote id think i was a different race. I have been going with my girlfriend for not even a month! A month! And i know, i know for a 100% fact i want to be with her for the rest of my life. I’ve told this girl i love her and she hasn’t said it back yet and i dont blame her because love is different for different people. Love for me is wanting to be exclusive with my girlfriend forever and it means wanting them to love you back! I do want my girlfriend to love me back and in time she will and i respect her enough to wait! As long as we remain completely faithful and always caring about each other i know this girl plays a huge part of my life! I’m not like other guys and not every guy is out for the sex… I love my girlfriend! Yes love!

  8. Annoynmous says:

    I really hate when guys throw out out the “I’m in love with you” just to make you feel better.
    This guy I know did it too me the other day, I was sad.He wanted me to tell him what was wrong,but I didn’t want to, so he came around and wrapped his arms around me, rested his head on my shoulder, held my hands and told me he thought about me the other night.That he had a dream about me, I was “so beautiful” and he was “In love with me” I don’t believe him, there’s no way he meant what he said.And it really irks me to say things like that when you don’t mean it.Love is a strong word to use.

  9. SAD says:


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