16 Signs a Guy Likes You but is Scared and Unsure What to Do

It’s not you, it’s him. He may be in love with you, but scared. Can you blame him? These signs a guy likes you but is scared helps you understand it.

signs a guy likes you but is scared

Listen, if anyone ever told you women are more indecisive and scared than men, they’re obviously a guy. Because there is no way that is true. Women aren’t the ones scared, it’s men. Men are possibly the biggest babies I’ve ever seen in my life. Yes, I know, it’s a generalization, but whatever, I’m not too far off. If you aren’t sure what’s going on with your cruh, these 16 signs a guy likes you but is scared helps you decide if the relationship might go somewhere.

All the signs a guy likes you but is scared to make a move

A guy can be hopelessly in love with you, yet, terrified to make the first step. When a girl sees something she wants, aka. a guy, there’s no discussion, she jumps on it. But men are a little different, they internalize everything. So, if you want to know if a guy likes you but is scared, here we go, ladies. Bring out the notepads.

Why can’t things be simpler?

#1 When he’s with you it’s amazing. But when you two aren’t together, there’s not much happening. You guys don’t text each other, and he’s not making too much of an effort. But, here’s the thing, when together, you have the best time. Does he like you? Absolutely. Is he wanting a relationship? No. That’s the difference. What he feels and what he thinks he wants are in two different places. [Read: 20 subtle signs a guy likes you but is trying not to show it]

#2 He’s keeping the relationship where it’s at. He’s not saying he wants to get into anything serious, however, he isn’t saying he doesn’t want anything. That’s the thing, he’s liking everything where it’s at. He likes you but also doesn’t have to commit to you and for him it’s perfect. He can be your “boyfriend” without the label because he’s scared of committing.

#3 His friends don’t hit on you. It’s because they’ve been warned. They all know you’re his girl. Maybe he didn’t tell them, but they’re not stupid, they see it. So, if you talk to his friends but you notice they simply keep it friendly, it’s because they’ve been told to back off.

#4 He doesn’t talk about other women. Because there are no other women. Now, fear of committing to you could be because he’s simply scared of messing things up or he’s scared of losing out on other opportunities. So, if he’s not talking about other women it’s usually because there are no other women—right now.

#5 No talks about the future. He met your friends, slept over, had dinner at your parents, but he’s not talking about the future with you. If he isn’t bringing up future plans, let’s say, even to travel during the summer, he’s not ready to settle down with you. [Read: Talking to someone about your relationship: DTR made easy]

#6 Hot and cold. When you like someone, there’s a lot of emotional instability going on. You’re nervous, then you’re happy, then scared, then jealous—it’s a lot to go through. He may be super affectionate and thoughtful one minute and then the next he goes completely cold. This is usually because they fight internally with their emotions. He likes you, but he’s not sure what he should do. [Read: 13 hints to make a guy realize he’s losing you]

#7 He wants to get to know you. If a guy spends his time getting to know intimate details about you, he’s not doing it for his health. If he was just a friend, he would care, but he wouldn’t be trying to find out information about you. If he likes you, he’ll dig around to get to know you.

#8 He’s always around you. No one, and I mean no one, spends time hanging around people they aren’t interested in. Friends are different, I’m talking about in terms of relationships and intimacy. If he hangs around you all the time, calling you, visiting you—he’s into you. It’s not rocket science. But he may just be too scared to tell you.

#9 He’s there when you need him. There are times when you need a helping hand. Maybe someone in your family passed away or you lost your job, these things happen. But someone who really cares and loves you, supports you through those hard times. If he sticks it out with you during those times, then he truly does care. [Read: 17 signs he likes you more than a friend and wants to ask you out]

#10 He doesn’t like other guys around you. He’s jealous. I mean, guys hate to admit that, but it’s true. If he’s all red in the face because you talk to another guy, he’s into you. Remember, he’s too scared to admit his feelings for you, so don’t hold yourself back from talking to other people. He knows what he should do. [Read: 30 wicked ways to make a guy jealous and win his attention]

#11 It’s in the eyes. You know when someone just looks at you and when someone looks at you. You feel it and see it in the eyes. If he looks at you like a newly discovered diamond, well, then it’s safe to say that he’s into you.

#12 He thinks of the little things. Maybe you’re sick, so he brings over chicken soup. Well, first of all, that’s adorable. Second of all, if he wasn’t into you, he would just call you in a week. It’s the little things to keep an eye on. Those small details show the feelings that they have for you.

#13 He compliments you. Now, when I mean compliments, I don’t mean him saying, “Oh, you look banging today.” No, no! Those guys are douche bags, and I recommend you stay away from them. When I mean compliment, he tells you that he likes your hair today or that you’re funny. These comments are genuine. [Read: Decoding compliments: 50 cute words and their true meanings]

#14 He invites you out. Any party that he’s invited to, you can be sure you’re going with him. He takes you everywhere he goes. He’s into you. I mean, if I was a single guy going to a party, I wouldn’t bring a girl with me. I’d make sure I look single. Him taking you to a party makes people question his status.

#15 His friends tell you. Friends are great for finding out information. If his friends come up to you and tell you that he’s into you, well, he’s into you. This usually happens if his friends really like you and want you two to be together. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes you: The complete guide to decode guys]

#16 He tells you. Or, he could deny it when you ask him. Listen, I don’t make the rules and guys tend to make things more complicated than necessary. He may get drunk one Saturday night and confess to you his feelings, or if you confront him, he may completely deny it. Either way, he’s literally shitting his pants and can’t handle his emotions.

[Read: How to make the first move on a guy: 15 creatively sweet ways]

Now that you know these signs a guy likes you but is scared, start putting the pieces of the puzzle together. If he’s too scared to make the first move, you can either be the one to do it, or move on to someone else who has the balls to be with you.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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