It’s an unfortunate reality but we can’t escape it; immature men are all over the place. Even grown men can be ridiculously immature and sometimes it makes things much harder for you. You’ll also really want to avoid dating a guy who’s really immature.
If you want to keep your sanity, stay away from those men. They probably won’t be at your maturity level and this often makes it hard for them to understand commitment and what you need to make a relationship work.
Why you should steer clear of immature men
If you’re looking for love, it should definitely NOT be with guys who are really immature. They’re the worst types of guys to date because they seem really fun but then you realize that’s where the positives end.
You’ll end up having issues when it comes to communication, the depth of your relationship in general, and you’ll run into problems when you discuss your future. You may want something a hell of a lot different for your future than he does. He might not even have an idea for his future in mind, either. [Read: 16 types of guys you should avoid like the plague]
How to spot immature men from a mile away
If you’re trying to avoid immaturity in the guys you date, you’ll want to figure it out early. Here’s how to tell if a guy is super immature. These signs may not be super noticeable at first, but after some practice, you’ll be able to point out the immature men easily.
#1 They get upset about little things really easily. This is usually just because they don’t possess the skills to solve problems on their own yet. And that means they’re pretty immature. When someone is always getting upset about things that aren’t really that big of a deal, it means they’re immature.
#2 They’re jealous. Those who are jealous are usually insecure. Those who are insecure are usually pretty immature. They haven’t yet figured out how to accept themselves as is. That means you can run into a lot of issues with jealously simply because they’ll be comparing themselves to anyone else you ever talk to. Which obviously causes major fights and unhappiness. [Read: 25 signs a guy is jealous that he just can’t hide]
#3 There’s no communication on their end. Immature men have trouble communicating in general. They don’t really know how to effectively communicate and they often don’t understand the importance of it, either. If a guy is having major communication issues early on, he’s probably really immature. Watch out!
#4 They get weirded out by commitment. Guys who are very immature don’t like commitment. They think about all the stereotypes of guys in committed relationships and they run for the hills. This is a major sign of immaturity.
It takes a mature man to admit that commitment is actually great. It makes him stronger when committing to a single person and being faithful. Immature men, on the other hand, are scared by it. [Read: How to get through the most common commitment issues]
#5 They don’t have plans for the future. If you ask a guy what they want for their future and they shrug or mumble about how they don’t know, they’re pretty damn immature. Failing to make plans shows a lack of interest in your future and that definitely shows a level of immaturity.
#6 They complain about things instead of changing them. Those who complain and complain and complain without ever doing something to make a difference are really immature. They’d rather bitch and moan about something than do something to fix it. If you start dating a person like this, get out as fast as possible. They’re super immature.
#7 They don’t like people who are more successful. This is a dislike that’s linked only to the fact that they’re successful. It has nothing to do with anything else. This is a major sign of immaturity because it’s also a form of jealousy. They’re upset someone else is doing good things mainly because they’re not.
A mature man would see a successful person and want to learn from them. They would look up to them and try to work just as hard to succeed. That person would become more of a role model and less of a hated person. [Read: How to tell the difference between jealousy and envy]
#8 He judges you harshly. If you can’t safely open up to someone you’re dating, it’s a pretty big sign something is wrong. And that thing could potentially be his immaturity. A guy who judges you harshly without knowing the background information is super immature. He’s not taking the time to think things through. He’s judging based off one little thing and that’s it.
#9 He’s lazy. People who are mature know that it takes hard work to make things happen. Immature people, however, would rather do nothing and wait. If the guy you’re seeing seems to be super lazy, he’s also probably very immature. [Read: Chivalry is dead because men are lazy]
#10 He doesn’t respect your opinion. Aka, if he disagrees, he gets pissed instead of talking things out and trying to understand where you’re coming from. This could be about anything, really.
Maybe you two are having a discussion about politics and you disagree with each other. Instead of listening to your reasoning, immature men will just argue and get mad when you don’t agree with them.
#11 He always “jokes” with you. But his “jokes” are always super harsh digs at you. They’re not innocent little jokes. They’re hurtful. When a guy is making fun of you in a way that actually hurts you, he’s just really immature and has no regard for your feelings. That’s not really someone you want to be in a relationship with.
#12 He doesn’t take responsibility for his actions. Maturity is being able to admit when you’re wrong and apologize for it. Immature men will continuously argue that they weren’t wrong or they’ll ignore the issue altogether. If a guy is showing this sign that he’s super immature, run. You’ll only have problems with him. [Read: 10 devious signs of a manipulator you need to watch out for]
#13 He’s rude to others. This can be waitresses, random people, cashiers, or really anyone who is supposed to be doing a service for him. Being mean to those who are trying to help is a major sign of immaturity and a lack of empathy. Both of those qualities aren’t exactly great things to have in a man.
#14 He doesn’t stick to his word. Does he stick to his promises when he makes them? If not, it could be a big sign of immaturity. Guys who are always making promises and never keeping them don’t respect you or their own words. How can you trust someone like that? His immaturity in this sense can cause major issues. [Read: 22 early signs he would be a bad boyfriend]
#15 You feel the need to tell him to grow up. If you’re always fighting the urge to tell someone to grow up, then they’re probably immature. You already recognize that they’re acting childish. Need we say more?
[Read: 23 signs you’re dating an immature manchild]
Dating immature men can be one of the most frustrating things. In order to avoid them altogether, you’ll need to know the signs first. If a guy is showing you multiple signs from above, ditch him fast!
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