Decode His Texts: How Often Should a Guy Text When He Likes You?

He’s texting you, but you’re not sure how often should a guy text when he likes you. Reading his mind can be tough, but don’t worry, read his texts.

How Often Should a Guy Text When He Likes You

We, women, love to have exact numbers. It makes things so much easier if things had a numerical value. Of course, you want to know how often should a guy text when he likes you. But if there were an exact number, well, then there would be no drama and wasted time. And where’s the fun in that, right? Right?!

I know you want the answer to this question, but unfortunately, I can’t give you a number. And quite frankly, no one can. But there are other clear ways to know for sure if he has any feelings for you.

Some guys like to text a lot, others not so much, but that doesn’t mean anything. Of course, if a guy is texting you all the time, it’s safe to say he’s into you. But, as I said, not all men are avid texters. So, what happens in those cases?

[Read: How guys text when they like you – 15 things they do differently]

How often should a guy text when he likes you?

Well, at the end of the day, what really matters is what’s in the text messages. That’s where you’re going to find out everything you need to know. Some texts are short but can say everything you need to give you an answer. And other people will write you an essay that’s filled with nothing but crap.

So, how often should a guy text when he likes you? There’s no straight answer. But, in this article, you’re going to find out what you need to look for in a text message to see if he’s into you. [Read: How to decode a guy’s texts and know what’s really on his mind]

How to decode his texting habits to know if he likes you

Are you ready? Let’s see if he’s into you.

#1 The texting is consistent. He texts you consistently. He doesn’t text you once a month to check-in and see what’s going on. If he’s interested in you, he’ll want to keep consistent communication because he doesn’t want someone else to take his place. The texting should be frequent and not to the point where you’re surprised to see a message from him.

#2 He texts you. That’s right. Not you texting him first all the time; he will start conversations with you on his own. If you’re always texting him, back off a bit and see if he initiates the conversation first. If he’s not interested in you, he’s not going to waste his time trying to talk to you. It’s as simple as that. [Read: How to get a guy to text you when he basically refuses to]

#3 He doesn’t take forever to reply. People are busy with work and school, but they’ll always find a minute to shoot a text to someone special and on their mind. So, if he texts you back within a couple of hours, that’s always a good sign. And yes, I said hours. Not everyone is glued to their phone, and though you’re eager for a reply, he has a life of his own.

#3 The texts are more than one-worded responses. Sure, he may write you back, but are his texts only one-worded replies? If so, that’s not a good look. If a guy is interested in you, he’ll send you back a message that gives you something to work with. It’s a conversation, right? Which means it needs to be flowing on both sides.

#5 You don’t have to try hard. If a guy likes you, you won’t need to try hard to get his attention. You won’t have to come up with witty conversation starters. Though you may be excited and giddy to text this guy, texting him won’t be such a challenge for you or for him. Because let’s face it, if you two are both texting each other, you’re into each other. [Read: 12 common texting habits of girls that push guys away]

#6 He uses emojis. Okay, this is a loose one. Because some people love using emojis and it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a hidden motive. But then again, there are some emojis which we all know have a sexual vibe. This includes the eggplant, peach, drooling mouth, and tongue emojis. If used at the right place and time in the text, it can mean much more. 

#7 The conversation is flowing. This is a great way to see if someone’s compatible with you or not. If the conversation is flowing, then it’s a great sign he’s into you. The fact you two are bouncing texts off one another is a huge sign that there’s chemistry going on. [Read: What it means when he never texts you first but always replies instantly]

#8 He asks you out over text. When he texts you, it’s never just to chat. Instead of wondering how often should a guy text when he likes you, pay attention to how often he asks you out via texts. Whether it’s in the middle or end of the text, he finds a way to ask you to hang out. And that’s a great sign that he digs you. A guy who has his eyes on the prize will make sure he tries to hang out with the girl he’s into. If he’s trying to see you in person, then he’s into you. [Read: Why is he texting me if he’s not interested? 15 reasons why guys do this]

#9 He calls instead. Oh, I know. The minute you hear the word ‘phone call,’ a chill goes up your spine. Who calls other people? Is that still a thing? Listen, if a guy goes the extra step to call you, instead of texting, that’s a very good sign he’s into you. Or, maybe he just likes talking on the phone. But either way, he’s into you, or else he wouldn’t be texting or calling you.

#10 His texting doesn’t make you question his feelings. Usually, when you think someone likes you, you do not doubt the way they do things. Everything they do is consistent and gives you a sense of calmness. [Read: 15 no-fail signs to know for sure if a guy likes you through his texts]

If his texting style is making you feel unsure about his feelings, then that’s your intuition telling you something isn’t right. Listen to your gut instinct because if you can’t read how he feels about you, that’s a good sign you two aren’t on the same page.

[Read: Why do guys stop texting for a few days and leave us wondering?]

After reading this article and looking over his texts, what do you think? Is he into you? Or is this a ‘thank you, next’ situation? Either way, now you know where you stand.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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