Ladies enjoy cuddling with their lovers, but do guys like the close contact as much as we do? These answers to do guys like to cuddle might surprise you.
I don’t know about your boyfriend, but mine almost never admits to the fact that he LOVES cuddling. No matter what a guy says when you ask do guys like to cuddle, they all like cuddling when it’s with someone they care about and want to be around.
They can act as tough and manly as they want, but at the end of the day, they love nothing more than for you to curl up in their arms and rest your head on their shoulder. Contrary to what stereotypes would have you believe, guys like to cuddle.
The benefits of cuddling
There are actually a ton of benefits you gain from cuddling that many people don’t realize. But just because you don’t know about them doesn’t mean you haven’t experienced the benefits before.
Cuddling relaxes you, deepens the bond you have with your significant other, and even reduces stress and blood pressure. Talk about some good reasons to call in sick and spend your day snuggled up to your favorite person on earth. [Read: How to spoon right – 11 tips to make spooning more intimate]
The truths you never knew about why guys like to cuddle
We’ve established the fact that guys like to cuddle with someone they really like. But why is it they actually enjoy cuddling? It can’t be all fun for them since they put up with our heavy bodies against theirs and mouthfuls of hair, right?
So why do guys enjoy cuddling despite the parts that get uncomfortable? We’ve asked boyfriends and friends far and wide to help us out with this mystery. And these are the things we learned about why guys like to cuddle.
#1 It allows them to be vulnerable. Guys really like to appear like a solid piece of man handling anything life throws at them. But the truth is they experience just as much insecurity as you do. Cuddling with you allows them to be in a vulnerable state without being judged by you or society. They like the sense of peace they have during a good cuddle session. [Read: Wear your heart on your sleeve: 12 reasons to be open]
#2 They like making you feel safe. Most men feel a powerful instinctual duty to make you feel safe and protect you. This is in their DNA. Although there aren’t the same dangers in the world today, cuddling gives them the feeling of protecting you and keeping you safe anyway.
#3 It makes them feel important. Guys like to cuddle because it makes them feel important. They know they’re the only people providing you with the comfort you feel from cuddling. And this, to them, is an extremely important role in your life.
#4 They like the close contact. Guys like being close and touching you just as much as you do. There’s actually a scientific reason for this, too. Cuddling releases a chemical called oxytocin *the feel-good hormone* making them feel happy. Therefore, the close contact and cuddling helps them feel a lot happier. [Read: How to cuddle with a guy: Snuggle secrets you HAVE to know]
#5 Men even sleep better when they cuddle! You might think that it’s the girls who end up sleeping better falling asleep in the arms of the person they love, but it’s actually the opposite. Studies prove men sleep longer and deeper when they’re cuddling with a loved one.
#6 There’s no pressure involved with cuddling. Guys like to cuddle because there’s no pressure involved. They can’t do it wrong, they can’t be bad at it, and there’s no one to judge their cuddles like there can be in any other aspect in dating you.
#7 They like the level of intimacy it offers without sex. Not all guys are into you just so they can get you in bed. A lot of guys actually like cuddling because they can be intimate with their girlfriends in a way that doesn’t involve sex. They like the closeness they get without having to take each other’s clothes off. [Read: 12 easy ways to keep intimacy alive in a relationship]
#8 They like the comfort. Cuddling is comfortable. And as human beings, we crave physical contact with others of our kind. Cuddling relaxes guys. They find it really comfortable to be tangled up with you on the couch watching their favorite show.
#9 They feel manly. Not much makes a guy feel manlier than supporting the weight of their woman as she lies on top of them—other than her being naked, I suppose. The point is, by cuddling with their significant other, guys feel they’re truly embracing a man’s duty.
#10 They like that it makes you happy. Not all guys like the physical aspects of cuddling since it can be uncomfortable at times. However, they do like the fact it makes you happy. And since they care about you and are with you romantically, that’s their goal at the end of the day. So guys like cuddling because you like to cuddle. [Read: 15 what-if questions to ask your boyfriend to grow closer]
Reasons he might not like to cuddle
If you don’t think these reasons apply to the guy you’re currently seeing, there are a lot of reasons why guys don’t like to cuddle.
#1 He doesn’t actually like you that much. My current boyfriend—who I was really good friends with for years—never liked cuddling. He also never dated any girls that he cared much for. That being said, he loves to cuddle now and often pulls me to him and makes me cuddle him.
#2 He’s too hot. I actually hate cuddling when I’m hot too. Cuddling already warms you up by combining body heat, but when he’s already really hot, he’s not going to want your 98.6-degree body all over him. This could be temporary, and he might want to cuddle once he’s cooled off a bit.
#3 His limbs are falling asleep. This is the biggest reason my boyfriend usually wants to stop cuddling. Girls have the luxury of usually getting to lay on top of their boyfriend because they’re smaller. But this also means a guy’s limbs bear the brunt of the weight and end up falling asleep. An uncomfortable feeling for anyone.
#4 He’s guarding himself because of something that happened. Some guys have serious intimacy issues because of a past relationship or a traumatic life experience. This leads them to refusing to cuddle because they find it to be too much for them, or they’re keeping you at arms length because they’re afraid of getting hurt again. [Read: 13 weird, unique ways to build intimacy with your partner]
#5 He’s just not a fan of close contact. Some guys, actually, people in general, have issues with being in such close contact with people they’re touching. Some just really don’t enjoy being wrapped around someone else. There’s nothing wrong with them. It’s just a personal preference changing with time, but oftentimes it won’t.