Your man ain’t looking at you the way he used to? Here’s the lowdown on how to be sexy for your boyfriend and put the spark back in your relationship.
So you’re over courtship and now have settled into the routine of a serious relationship. Both you and your boyfriend are pretty secure with each other, so, a little bit of the sex—and romance—has died down a bit. No longer does he look at you with the longing, hungry eyes he once did when you were only dating. It’s time to remember how to be sexy for your boyfriend!
In the morning, when you wake up, gone is the quick wake-me-up-sex you used to do because you just can’t keep your hands off each other. And let’s be honest, you have stopped trying hard to become much of an eye-candy for your man.
How to be sexy for your boyfriend
Sure, you’re both secure in your relationship after all these years, and you have better things to do than to have sex. However, you still need to know how to be sexy for your boyfriend. This is important to keep the fire of love and romance alive—and of course, to be sure your guy won’t be straying. Being sexy for your man doesn’t have to be a lot of work though. You tweak things here and there in your own personal routine, and these little extra efforts are what your guy will appreciate.
So here’s some sassy tips on how to be sexy for your boyfriend and make him look at you like he wants to devour you in bed all the time.
#1 Look and taste the part. Instead of using regular lotion, try something with shimmer and scent on your body, especially your arms, legs, chest, and shoulders. Try a flavored formula, better yet something that you know your boyfriend really likes. This way, he’ll get a sweet, sexy surprise when he leans closer to you for a kiss. [Read: How to make your vagina smell good and taste even better]
#2 That sexy time scent. Studies show the brain processes scents in the same area responsible for emotion and memory. So when your guy smells cookies baking, this might remind him of his mom, and he’ll feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Choose a scent specially for sex, and he’ll think about you between the sheets every time he smells it.
#3 Gloss those lips. There’s nothing as sexy as smooth, supple, and kissable lips. You don’t want your guy kissing you and feel sandpaper, do you? So gloss up those puckers, and remember to use a sheer gloss, something looking natural and innocent. Try out those with subtle vanilla or cherry flavor, something that will give him some sweetness in every kiss.
#4 Mow your lawn—or not. It’s really up to you. However, the main idea here is to try something new down there. If you’ve been going bare, try having a landing strip. If you’ve been rocking the natural, grown out look, try a triangle shape, or why not try going totally hairless. [Read: Listen up, ladies! Here’s how to shave your pubic area]
#5 Wear something red. Red is the color of love and passion, so wearing red always gives him a sexy signal. Going on a date? Wear scarlet shoes to match that little black dress. Staying home with him? Wear red undies and play peekaboo while donning his oversized shirt. Better yet, slather something scarlet on your nails for that everyday sexy flair.
#6 Flaunt your humps. When it comes to clothes, wear something that accentuates your assets. If you have a great rack, show it off with some low-cut tops or blouses with a few buttons left undone to give your man a sexy peek into your cleavage. If your hips and butts are the bomb, wear form-fitting pants, shorts, or skirts bringing out those curves. [Read: How to give a guy a boner: 20 moves for instant erections]
#7 Smile seductively. Learn that secret art of seductively smiling to your man. While you got that goody-girl smile down pat, there’s nothing like a slow-moving, lopsided, mischievously sexy smile and hooded eyes making his heart go aflutter.
#8 Talk with your eyes. You know you can talk with your eyes during Thanksgiving dinner when your boyfriend started heaping stuffing on his plate even before your mom started her Thanksgiving prayer. So, you can do this eye-talking thing with no problem. You can practice this first in the mirror on your own, or look at how models and actresses project lust with their eyes. Toss in a sexy wink and a seductive smile and your man will immediately know what’s on your mind. [Read: 30 flirtatiously fun questions to ask your boyfriend]
#9 Stay flirty. Just because you’re over the courtship stage and have settled in a serious relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop being playful and flirty. Keep the spark alive by going out of your way with little things so your man always thinks “sex” when you’re around.
#10 Don’t be afraid of a little PDA. When you guys are out, don’t be shy about showing your man a little affection. Hold hands, rub his arm, wrap your arms around him, and give him a quick peck on the cheek or on the lips to let him know just how much you’re into him. Even if he’s busy looking at a restaurant menu, surprise him with a little sweetness by leaning on his shoulders, or better yet, caress his thigh under the table.
#11 Go to bed sexy. Throw away your baggy sweatpants. Stick to lush and sexy fabrics such as satin, lace, and silk when going to bed. Not only will your man find you sexy in them—you feel sexy too. Even if you prefer pajamas in bed, stick to comfort with soft fabrics, but remember to have sexy lingerie underneath, in case your man comes knocking in the middle of the night for some lovin’! [Read: Sexy strip tease 101: How to strip for your man like a pro]
#12 Wear makeup. And don’t make it wear you. Makeup should make your natural features shine through, instead of drowning out your real face behind all the contouring, pigments, and fake eyelashes.
#13 Stay healthy. Being healthy and having enough sleep and exercise is always glamorous. It makes you feel good about yourself. Therefore, you have a better chance of feeling sexy and exuding sex altogether. Being healthy is an important part of being and feeling beautiful. On top of that, being in good shape makes you feel less cranky, which is always a good thing for your guy.
#14 Maintain your good hygiene. Clean is always sexy, so don’t forget to shower and wash your hair regularly, so you always look and feel fresh for your man. Exfoliate your skin so it looks radiant and feels smooth also ups the ante in the sexy factor so your boyfriend always wants to touch you and be close to you. And don’t forget to maintain your pearly whites and fresh breath! [Read: 18 bad habits that’ll make your partner want to leave you]
#15 Be smart and witty. Wit is always sexy, that is if you’re with the right guy. Some guys prefer the twits, but only because they don’t expect their conversations to go beyond the bedroom. Show your guy you have more to offer than your booty by showing that you have brains too. Engage in relevant conversation and be well-versed in things you know your boyfriend loves to talk about too.
#16 Be confident. Confidence is sexy in itself. In fact, it doesn’t matter what you wear or how you look, but if you’re secure and self-assured about yourself, you can pull off anything. Having confidence allows you to better express yourself in new and exciting ways—which your boyfriend will always have the hots for!
Relationships progress, but it doesn’t mean the sex has to die down. By doing small things here and there, feeling good about your own self, and being attentive to your man, you can continue to be sexy for him.
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Tiffany Grace Reyes
Tiffany is a wordsmith who has played with words ever since her letter-to-the-editor was published nationally at the age of 9. Since then her writing has gone f...