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How to Tell If an Older Guy Likes You: 13 Signs to Read His Mind

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Maybe you’re used to younger men hitting on you, so when an older guy gives you the eye, what do you do? This is how to tell if an older guy likes you.

Although younger and older men are all men, they actually are different. Of course, you still have older men who act like they’re twenty-one. But, let’s not put all older men in a higher category. For the most part, older men are more experienced, not just in the bedroom but in life. If you want to know how to tell if an older guy likes you, here is how to get into his thoughts.

How to tell if an older guy likes you

They’ve already done the whole college routine, they’ve gone through their punk-rock phase, and had their first big relationship. So, they have more life knowledge under their belt.

Now, this may intimidate you if you’re younger than him, but don’t let that happen. Sure, he’s lived a couple years longer than you, but that doesn’t mean you haven’t experienced life as well. But, you may be wondering how it all works when it comes to dating.

Do older men act differently than younger men? If so, how do you know when an older guy likes you? Well, I’m going to get to the gist of it right now with these 13 signs. They’re a little easier to spot out.

#1 He’ll tell you. He’s older. He’s been on many dates, he’s seen the women out there. If he’s really into you, he knows a catch when he sees one, so he won’t hesitate when it comes to letting you know how he feels. He may not jump for it right away. He’ll wait for the right moment, but he’s not going to wait too long. Older men know if they don’t make a move, they lose the opportunity. [Read: How to stop playing relationship games]

#2 It’s not all sexual with him. You may be confused since younger men tend to be more sexually motivated when it comes to women. But for older men, it’s a little different. He’s been with women, sex isn’t the problem. If he’s into you, he appreciates your mind, your humor, who you are as a person. So, if you look for sexual signs, he may not show them right away. [Read: How to attract an older man and win him over]

#3 He compliments you. I don’t mean he says, “nice ass” or “I’d love to get a chance to squeeze those breasts.” Come on, ladies, if you think those are compliments, you need to redefine your standards. Older men know how to compliment a woman. Though their compliments may not be grandiose, that’s not the point. Their compliments will be genuine and heartfelt.

#4 He opens up to you. If he’s older, he’s probably had his fair share of heartbreak. With that being said, though he may be talkative, he’s also guarded. Can you blame him? If you notice he opens up to you about personal topics, then he’s letting his guard down. This is a sign that he trusts you and feels comfortable around you.

#5 He checks in with you but gives you space. An older man appreciates space. Sure, he’ll phone you after work or send you a text during the day to see how you’re doing, but he respects your space. Women tend to see space as a negative thing, especially when a man doesn’t text us after an hour of silence, but that’s not bad. He appreciates your time and his.

#6 He does things out of his comfort zone. If he’s an older guy, he has his own routine established. But if he really likes you, he’s willing to try things out of his daily routine/comfort zone. Why does he do this? Because he’s into you. If he wasn’t, he would never change his routine, he would make you adjust to his.

#7 He asks if you’re single. Listen, he’s older and not into playing games. He wants to get to the point: are you single or not. If he’s only interested in sex, he won’t care nor will he even ask you. But if he really likes you, he wants to know your situation and if he can somehow become a part of it. [Read: Is he playing hard to get or is just not that into you]

#8 He asks you out on a date. If you’re wondering how to tell if an older guy likes you, keep an eye on this one. Does he ask you on a date? I’m talking about an actual date not “Netflix and Chill.” An older guy learned how to treat a woman he likes. So, if he respects you and wants to get to know you as a person, he makes you feel like a queen. It doesn’t matter necessarily where you go, the point is, he put time and effort into planning it.

#9 He gives you his attention. He’s not glued to his phone during dinner or excusing himself to text his friends. He gives you his full attention. Okay, of course, there are exceptions to this rule. But, for the most part, he’s not concerned about what’s happening around him, he focuses on you.

#10 He makes time to see you. This is a huge factor when it comes to older men, or really, all men. If a guy takes the time out of his day to see you then he’s into you. I mean, why else would you waste your time with someone you don’t like? Anyone can send a text or talk on the phone, what actually counts is if he’s seeing you face-to-face. [Read: 25 signs he loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

#11 He feels protective of you. Now, this isn’t to be confused with obsession *that’s a completely different issue and really unhealthy*. What I mean by overprotective is that he wants to make sure you’re safe and taken care of. He makes sure you get home safely, he offers to pick you up if you’ve been drinking. These little things show he cares about you.

#12 He looks at you. When you’re having a conversation, he looks at you, not at your cleavage. That’s the thing, he’s seen cleavage and breasts before and he doesn’t have an issue getting that if he wanted to. But he’s not looking for only that. He’s looking for substance. He wants to see who you are, thus, he looks in your eyes when you talk. [Read: When does the age gap in a relationship start to matter?]

#13 He brings up family occasions in conversation. Of course, he’s testing you out, seeing if you’re interested in going. And if he’s into you, he’ll have no problem bringing that up into the conversation. He wants you to meet his friends and family as soon as possible because he’s proud of who stands beside him.

[Read: 5 “creepy” myths about older guys dating younger women]

So, you’ve seen the signs, now all you have to do is put the pieces of the puzzle together of how to tell if an older guy likes you. If you think he is, what are you going to do? Play it cool or go for it?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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