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How to Tell If a Guy Is Flirting with You: 14 Crystal Clear Signs

Can’t tell if he likes you back? Here are 14 tells for how to tell if a guy is flirting with you and know for certain if he wants you.

how to tell if a guy is flirting with you

Flirting is a pretty enigmatic game we play all the time with people we’re attracted to. It can be pretty obvious but also pretty confusing. Friendship is often easily mistaken for flirting, as some people *myself included* can be pretty bad at reading signals. So, learn how to tell if a guy is flirting with you.

But after a fair bit of practice, flirting can be easy to spot if you know what signs to look for. So many people spend ages trying desperately to figure out if their crush likes them back or if they’re just imagining it, but there are certain things that he does that reveals how he truly feels about you. [Read: 15 signs he’s crushing on you!]

How to tell if a guy is flirting with you

There are little gestures in the way he acts around you, the things he says, and how often he impresses you that give him away. There’s obviously the signs everyone knows: like trying to kiss you, offering to help you all the time, or suggesting a date. But what about the subtler hints?

Once you learn how to spot these little signals, it’s far easier to see if he is actually into you but just doesn’t know how to say it. If he does one or two of these things, he may just view you as a close friend or someone he likes spending time with. But If he does many, if not all, of these things, it’s very likely he’s crazy about you and desperately trying to show it.

These 14 dead giveaway clues are how to tell if a guy is flirting with you.

#1 His eyes don’t lie. Every time you turn away and look back at him, he’s staring at you. His eyes seemingly follow you around, as if you enchanted him, and whenever you walk in the room you see his eyes light up instantly. [Read: How guys flirt – 15 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]

#2 He makes any excuse to touch you. When he gets really touchy feely with you, it’s a sign he wants to be close to you at all times. This need to touch you, even if it’s just a gentle pat on the back or brushing something out of your hair, shows he can’t get enough of you. [Read: Is he flirting with me? 12 signs that’ll reveal the truth]

#3 He looks at your lips. One of the subtler ways when it comes to figuring how to tell if a guy is flirting with you is to watch where his eyes go when you talk. If he looks at your lips, it indicates extreme attraction. His body language suggests he thinks of kissing you or being intimate.

#4 He follows you around. He always seems to show up at events you said you’ll be at, or he always wants to talk to you at parties. He ends up being anywhere that he knows you’ll be. He always spends most of his time talking just to you. This means he makes an effort to be around you to spend more time flirting and getting to know you.

#5 He talks about you to your friends. You hear from other people, or mutual friends, that he’s spoken about you, or he mentions you all the time. Sometimes it’s silly things like conversations you had, and other times it’s detailed things like how your eyes crease when you smile. Talking about you means he can’t get you out of his mind. [Read: 25 surefire signs that reveal if a guy is really into you]

#6 He laughs at all your jokes. Even when you crack jokes that aren’t that funny, he still laughs along. You can tell the worst, lamest joke you can think of and he’ll be the only one cracking up. He laughs along because you’re incredibly entertaining to him. He simply wants to impress you.

#7 He teases you. Have you ever heard the concept that the boy who used to push you over in the schoolyard was the boy with a crush on you? This still applies as an adult. If he always teases you, or lightheartedly makes fun of you, it’s because he likes you.

#8 He drunk texts you at 3 a.m. If you find drunken messages at ridiculous times, it’s because he’s flirting with you. It’s not always just booty calls either. Sometimes he just drunk texts you to tell you he wants to see you, or he wants to know what you’ve done that day.

#9 He drops hints with compliments. If a guy spends a lot of his time saying really nice things to you, but not in an overly creepy or intense way, he’s probably trying to flirt with you but is too shy to be forward about it. He compliments your outfit or tells you that you smell nice. Then he just carries on as if he never said anything—hoping he isn’t coming across too obvious. [Read: 50 compliments and their true meanings]

#10 He thinks of any reason to ask you questions. Any chance to have a conversation with you, he takes. He spends a lot of his time talking to you or gets your opinion on something. At times, he even asks you obvious questions that he could easily find the answers to like “what time is it?”

#11 There’s always a smile on his face. Every time you speak, or every time you look in his direction, you get met with the same smile plastered on his face. He sees you and something inside of him just beams with happiness. Sometimes it’s just a sexy smirk he flashes you. But, it all means one painfully obvious thing. He wants you.

#12 He gets flustered around you easily. He forgets how to string sentences together even when you haven’t said anything. His nervousness shows that he’s afraid he won’t impress you, or that you’re out of his league. Sometimes you totally throw him off just with a look.

#13 He’s constantly making eye contact. His eyes never leave yours and pierce through you when you talk. It’s as if he can’t get enough, and he looks for little flickers of attraction in your pupils. If he holds your gaze for longer than 10 seconds, it’s because he’s totally into you. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting you just can’t ignore]

#14 He can’t stop fidgeting. You notice every time you’re around him, he gets restless. He’s constantly playing with his hair, shifting from foot to foot, or mirroring your movements. This constant messing around is a way of adjusting so he gets comfortable around you, while mirroring you to try and gauge a common ground. It’s a weird thing, but almost everyone does it when they feel flirty.

[Read: 18 signs to decode his body language and tell if he likes you or not]

Now that you know how to tell if a guy is flirting with you, you’ll be able to find out whether or not your crush has a thing for you. So, don’t be shy! Tell them how you feel. If they show you all these signs then they’ll reciprocate!

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