Want to know how to cheer up your man when he’s down? Follow these nine tips for how to motivate your man, and he will be back to normal in no time!
Your man looks tough on the outside, but remember there will be times when he’ll be down, traumatized by his thoughts, and overwhelmed by stress and pressure. When those times knock, you need to be prepared. Remember nothing is perfect, and that there are ups and downs in everyone’s life. Understanding how to motivate your man helps him without being nagging or pushy.
A man who has always been a go-getter and on top of things might barely want to communicate, let alone leave the comfort of his bed. During those times, nothing you do makes him happy, because he has a problem—which, unfortunately, quickly becomes your problem.
As a woman, you will be faced with several situations in your relationship where your man seeks your attention and your emotional support.
Why is he down?
Men get stressed simply because they have the tendency to compete or be aggressive. Apart from that, the way we lead our lives today is enough to stress anyone out. Now, there might be many reasons why he lost his spark. Perhaps he lost his job or recently heard some depressing news.
It could be due to something you don’t know, or maybe he’s just down without a reason. It happens. When you ask him why he’s down, he’ll simply say, “I don’t know. I’m just not in the mood today…” or something along those lines. [Read: Stress ruining your relationship? 10 signs and quickfixes]
Understanding how to motivate your man is more effective if the motivation is closely related to what brought him down in the first place.
Let’s assume he went for an interview and wasn’t selected. If he really looked forward to it, he would feel down. When you step in to help, try to tell him how hard he worked for the interview, and maybe he wasn’t selected because the job just wasn’t right for him. Not because he is a failure or not good enough.
How to motivate your man – How do I help?
Regardless of the situation, if your man is down, try and get him out of his funk. It’s unhealthy to live in a constant state of lethargy.
#1 Don’t be alarmed. Many women get scared or worried when they see their man in a bad mood. It’s okay to be worried, but that shouldn’t be your approach to calm him. If he’s down, support him by staying cool and composed. Also, your man might say things that hurt you. Don’t take it personally, because you only make the situation worse.
The last thing your man needs when he’s down is for you to fight with him. Guys like to pretend they can handle their own problems, but when they’re down, they always appreciate your emotional support.
Finally, don’t be upset when he tells you his problems, because if you do, it won’t be long before he stops sharing them with you. [Read: 10 ways to be a better listener in your relationship]
#2 Think of a solution together. Let’s assume he told you his problem—what next? Should you just sympathize, and tell him everything’s going to be fine? Well, yes and no. Yes, you should sympathize, but no, don’t just tell him everything’s going to be fine. Instead, think of a solution to help him make everything fine.
You don’t have to think out of the box to come up with an awesome foolproof solution. A little something you think would work is also fine *i.e. seeing a movie together*. There will be times when he finds your solution impractical, but let me assure you he appreciates your help and support. Two heads are better than one, right? [Read: 15 sweet wants to make your guy feel needed and wanted]
#3 Give him a head massage. This is going to work wonders! Seriously, if you can’t think of a solution to his problem, tell him that you’d like to give him a soothing head massage. Scientifically speaking, a head massage helps improve blood circulation to the head, which relaxes his mind.
Physical touch can be very soothing when your man is feeling low. It shows just how much you care for him and how you’ll always be there for him.
#4 Take him somewhere relaxing. Let’s assume you gave him a head massage, but he’s still feeling low. In that case, it’s time to take him somewhere naturally relaxing. You might want to take him to a beach, a hill-top, a garden, a lake, or an unconventional spot, like a pub or a bowling arena.
Your man appreciates your concern and help, even if you just sit with him while he tries to de-stress. [Read: How to be the perfect girlfriend: 50 little ways to get there]
#5 Let him know you’ll always be there for him. While you’re at a park or a beach or wherever he picks to de-stress, tell him how much you love him and how you will always be there for him. There’s nothing more comforting than unconditional love. Always be with your man through thick and thin, through sickness and health—and, may I add, through happiness and sadness.
Only then will you both be able to trust your love for each other. No matter what the situation, and the intensity of the problem, your man should know you will always be there with and for him. [Read: Why men pull away – Their reasoning and your response]
#6 Remind him of his positive qualities. After saying how much you love him and how you’ll always be there for him, you’ve already softened his heart. Now it’s time to build some hope and confidence.
Remind him how capable and talented he is by reflecting on his past accomplishments. Appreciate his positive qualities, and tell him how grateful you are for all that he has done for you.
While you’re at it, tell him some funny moments you shared together—moments that might make him laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. If you achieve this, you’ve won more than half the battle! [Read: Different ways to say I love you without saying a word]
#7 Sing his praises, but don’t flatter him. Once you’ve reminded him of his positive qualities, as well as some funny moments, it’s time to boost his ego by praising him.
Now, there’s a difference between praising him and flattering him. This only means you tell him what you mean and you mean what you’re about to tell him! Remember—sweet talk that sounds untrue makes him feel worse.
#8 Cook his favorite meal. Let’s assume you’re down with stress and pressure, and your partner comes over with your favorite meal. Wouldn’t that make you feel better? It could be literally anything, from meals to ice cream to drinks.
If you know what your partner likes to eat, cook it or buy it, and you’ll see an instant smile on his face. If you don’t see a smile, let me assure you that he feels better in his heart and appreciates your support. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for happy love]
#9 Give him some space to work things out. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try to cheer your man up when he’s down, you end up failing. It’s okay and that’s natural. After all, you’re not God or an illusionist, so it’s pretty impractical to assume you will always be able to cheer your man up.
Give it your best shot, but if you feel nothing works out, its best to give him some space to work things out on his own. Sometimes that’s the best cure.
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Let me reassure you true love exists, and there’s nothing more beautiful than being with your true love. And when you try to motivate your man, the physical touch and compassion that stems from love is so soothing, it literally has the power to cure the most troubled mind.
