Sex is a wonderful, joyful, and pleasurable thing. You may just be discovering the joys of sex, or you might have been having sex for years. You may have had many partners, or you may have only had a handful, or even just one. No matter what your sexual history, knowing how to make love to a man can be the difference between having vanilla sex, okay-sex, and having a mind-blowing romp in the sheets.
Yes, it definitely is!
let’s look at it this way. You could microwave Mac and Cheese, or you can have a fancy 9 course meal. They both satisfy your hunger, but an elaborate meal of several courses just hits different, doesn’t it?
You can always have sex if all that means is penetration, but making love to a man is about excitement, arousing all the senses, delaying gratification, enjoying every moment of it, and heightening and experiencing pleasure to the maximum.
If you want to know how to make love to a man, you need to understand that sexual pleasure is different for everyone. However, one thing does stay constant, and that is the need and desire to pleasure your partner.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your husband or a one-night stand, knowing how to make love to a man can bring a huge number of benefits. Not only will it make him seriously grateful and amazed by your sexual prowess, but it will also make sex way more enjoyable for you!
[Read: 34 passionate signs he’s making love to you and not just having sex]
The saying that goes “all the pressure is on the guy, the woman just needs to show up and get naked,” is pretty true. Any man would be happy with just that.
However, if that’s all you ever do, things are bound to get stale, like week-old bread. No one likes that.
To keep the fire burning hot, make sure you treat him right, just like he does you. Women can be passionate, too, and take charge.
Now, if you don’t know what you’re doing, or don’t know how to go about it, that’s OK. Confidence is sexy, and whatever you experiment with, chances are he will laugh mistakes off with you. Don’t be afraid to ruin the mood; we promise, you can recover from just about anything. [Read: Passionate lovemaking and all the secrets a woman should know]
So just how can you achieve the greatest sex you and your partner have ever had, and make him get teary-eyed just thinking of having sex with you? Follow these tips for the best, mind-blowing, earth-shattering sex!
Being a good lover is all about great communication. Without talking to your man about what he wants, what he likes, and what his ultimate fantasies are, how will you know what works for him? No two guys are the same. Your ex might have loved it when you nibbled his ears, but your new partner might just think it’s ticklish, weird or gross.
Keep in mind, too, that a conversation about sex doesn’t have to be a forced or critical one.
Open a bottle of wine, get cozy, and share things with one another. Or, the next time you’re in the bedroom, just ask him, “Do you like it when I do this?” “Should I go faster/slow down?” You’ll get the answers you need, and it will make the sex between you all the better. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]
Making love is about exploring and doing something intimate, with someone intimate. It’s not just about sex anymore; it’s about expressing your feelings with each other and receiving that same level of expression in return.
Being a prude during this time means you’re restricted, limited, and not on that same level of connection. This doesn’t mean you should do something you’re not comfortable doing, but that you should try to be open-minded. [Read: How to be kinky and explore sex beyond “normal” sex]
First and foremost, men make a big deal about their member. We all know this. Even if it’s not impressive, they’re pretty focused on it, one way or the other. Even if they think it’s small, it’s still their penis.
That being said, a man is not just his penis. It might be hard to believe this, so hold on to your hats, but there is a man all around that penis. And his balls, for that matter.
Don’t go straight for his dick, even though he wants you to. That’s the fun of it, the tease. You should wait to head down south, so he’s rock hard when you do. [Read: 18 unknown and fascinating facts about the penis women SHOULD know]
All men have erogenous zones, just like women. Explore his body and see what he likes – maybe he likes it when you kiss his Adam’s apple, or his chest, his neck, his ears, or even his fingers. Or if you want to explore deeper, perhaps he likes it when you teabag him, or stick a finger up his butt! When you have sex, nothing is sacred anymore, so just go wild and push the boundaries of making love!
Put on something sexy, set the mood lighting, and explore these areas slowly and tenderly with your hands, your lips, and your tongue. [Read: The secret erogenous zones to touch on your man and leave him weak]
Often, men are seen as the dominant party when it comes to sex. However, it’s nice to mix things up from time to time. So why not be brave and take control of the situation?
Coming onto him, telling him exactly what to do, pushing him up against the wall, tying him up, etc. can help to spice things up in the bedroom.
Let your imagination run wild, and he’ll surely realize what an awesome sex vixen you are. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]
On the other hand, being submissive and letting your man take control can also be seriously hot. Let him guide you into different positions, hold your hands above your head, and maybe even give you a gentle spanking every now and again.
Letting him have all the control will make him feel powerful and manly, and there’s not much more of a turn-on for a guy than that. [Read: Strap in and kink out – Your guide to having submissive sex]
Sex is one thing. Making love is another. To make love, you have to be connected to the person.
The key is to not just focus on just what you’re doing at any given time, but to focus on him as well. Look into each other’s eyes. Moan in his ear a little, to let him know how good he makes you feel. [Read: How to maon and look and sound way more sexier in bed]
Believe it or not, knowing how to make love to a man can involve a little romance, too. Women aren’t the only ones who enjoy good old-fashioned romance once in a while. He will really appreciate you making a romantic effort with him.
Wining and dining him for a change will help him feel loved and cherished, too, so make sure you let him know just how special he is. [Read: 25 really romantic ideas to make your lover melt]
Candles, flowers, music, mood lighting—these things are a cliché for a reason. They work. Only, people get caught up in what they think is stereotypical romance. The “right” romance. Think logically, though; you’re your own couple. No other couple is the same. Why stick to the rules? Why not create your own level of romance?
If you both think art is sexy, try to get a date at an artsy place, before heading back and making love. If you’re both into video games, perhaps plan a night of sex and gaming naked.
Do what you both enjoy, and see how romantic it is. It brings a level of mutual interest in that helps you connect on a deeper level. [Read: 10 relationship games for couples to feel loved and connected]
Guys can be just as insecure as girls, especially when it comes to sex, so make sure you compliment him. Tell him how good he feels and looks, how sexy you think he is, how much he turns you on, etc. This will boost his confidence in the sack and make him feel amazing.
Let’s face it, you really can’t go wrong with oral sex. It can be easy to get into a routine where you don’t bother with this, but oral can be one of the best ways to turn him on.
Oral sex can be so much fun, and the pleasure it will give your man is well worth it. Plus, if you do it often, he’ll surely return the favor, so it’s a win-win! [Read: How to give good head – The intimate blowjob guide and 50+ tips to perfect the blowjob]
God, even reading that is a turn on, isn’t it? Grind with your man! Embrace him and stuff his face into places you want his face in.
Touch his arms, touch his penis, and rub a hand on his chest as he slips into you! Get frisky! [Read: The best foreplay moves that work exceptionally well on men]
The techniques on how to make love to a man don’t have to be cut and dried. In fact, switching things up can help to ensure that your sex life doesn’t become stale. There are so many tips and techniques to try. It’s all about experimenting, learning, and being adventurous.
Not every man is the same. While some men think lingerie is decent but prefer the act of undressing, other men are all about the lace. Some aren’t fans of heels, but others are. Something as simple as a flowery scent can make all the difference.
For instance, say he’s really into the smell of cherry, but he loves see-through lingerie. Say he enjoys watching you masturbate. You know what you need to do.
Enjoy that process, and he will take notice of it, because he will know why you did it. Not only will it show him you aim to please, but that you’re listening when he’s talking.
Invest in a copy of the Kama Sutra sex playbook. Okay, so you might have to be astonishingly bendy for some of them, but there are hundreds of weird and wonderful sex positions to try.
Some are guaranteed to give him deep and powerful orgasms like he’s never had before! [Read: 13 spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps]
Don’t just confine your sex life to your house. There’s a whole big, bad world out there. Outdoor sex is spontaneous, a little bit naughty, and a whole lot of fun.
So the next time you’re out and about and the mood strikes you, find a secluded spot and just go for it! – just make sure you don’t get caught! [Read: The 20 sexiest and hottest places to enjoy outdoor sex with your man]
Your man will always appreciate you making an effort to look hot. So why not ditch those greying old granny panties and invest in some super sexy lingerie that’s bound to make his eyes pop out of his head?
A sexy striptease will turn him on like never before and build up sexual tension and anticipation. If you’re feeling a little shy, wear your sexiest lingerie to give you confidence, find the most flattering light, and imagine that you’re alone. You’ll be moving in the sexiest ways before you know it! [Read: Sexy strip tease 101 – How to strip for your man like a pro]
Give him a special treat with a seductive lapdance when he’s not expecting it. Sit him in a chair, choose some appropriate music, and begin. Part of knowing how to make love to a man is knowing just how sexy and seductive your own body can be.
You don’t have to dive into sex right away. Take time to build up the tension with foreplay and make the desire unbearable.
Try kissing him slowly, and if his hands start wandering, gently push them away. Touch him lightly and then stop. Repeat these steps until things get too hot to avoid the inevitable. [Read: 20 naughty ways to tease your man and leave him really horny]
If you want to drive him wild with desire, you should make him wait. This works particularly well if you have just started dating, but it’s still a technique that you can employ when you’re in a relationship.
Take a break from sex, and tell him that you won’t be putting out for a while. Let him wait in anticipation as the days go by until the two of you can hop into bed together again.
Find out what his sexual fantasies are and act them out. This could be anything from dressing up as a nurse to pretending you’re strangers in a bar. We promise you’ll make all his dreams come true! [Read: 12 arousing sex fantasies to try in real life]
Talking dirty can be a great way to get down and dirty under the covers. If you aren’t sure how to begin, start off slowly. “That feels so good,” “You’re making me so wet.” If he gets into it too, then you can let your imagination run wild!
Dirty talk isn’t just for knocking boots, it’s also a part of making love. Tell him how good something feels, using “naughty” words. Tell him you want him to screw you good, or tell him how good you’re going to make him cum. He will love it, and will actively try to make the experience even hotter for you in return. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy in bed]
Remember, you want to know how to make love to a man. Don’t just dirty talk for the sake of an orgasm. Communicate with him to connect.
Tell him you love feeling his hands on your breasts. Tell him you love it when he holds your waist and pulls you closer. Ask him to go nice and slow, and build up from there.
Some things you can just show. For instance, if you love it when he kisses your neck, direct him to the area. Don’t ask, just show, and he will get the message. [Read: 50 dirty, sexy things to say to your boyfriend in bed or via texts]
A lot of times, women are fairly shy while making love to a man, because it isn’t just about having sex anymore—it’s about connecting.
The trick is to get out of your head, and into the moment. Focus on what he’s doing, and give in. Focus on what you want to do, and do it. Enjoy the act, and enjoy it together. Make him feel like he’s everything you want in a man, and watch him treat you like you’re the only woman for him.
Most guys watch porn with or without their girl, so why not get involved in the action? Watching porn together can be a seriously big turn-on for you both. [Read: Why do men watch porn? The answer may not be what you think]
Sex is all about experimenting, so why not head down to your nearest sex shop and see what’s for sale? There are so many sex toys available that you’re sure to find something you both enjoy to add a little spice to your sex life.
If that seems a little intimidating, you can browse online and buy instead. [Read: The 15 most common types of sex toys all couples and singles must know about]
The more you have, it the more you’ll learn about one another. So do it as often as you can!
It may seem like a chore at first, but try to keep an hour aside everyday to spend time with each other in bed. You don’t always have to have sex, but just lying in bed and enjoying each other’s company would guide you both towards making love more often.
When it comes to making love to a man or anything else for that matter, confidence is key. If you try something and it doesn’t work, be confident!
If he does something and it turns out it’s not really getting you there, be confident!
Use your sexy smile, and the eyes that make him drool, and distract him with that as you slip into a different position. He won’t even notice—or care.
Life is too short to stay in the missionary sex position bandwagon all the time. We’re all human, and that means we all have naughty, deviant, sexual fantasies that we don’t like talking about or feel too awkward to try out in real life.
But how can you both enjoy making love if you’re not willing to push the boundaries just a little into the unknown? Take a look at this guide on the top 50 kinky things that are worth doing at least once in your lifetime and give a few of those a try. Your sex life will only get wilder and sexier from there!
Men want to know that they’re doing a good job too, so make sure you tell him what you like, what makes you tick, and let him see you enjoying yourself!
As long as you both learn to communicate well in bed, that’s all that matters, and you both will only get better at making love to each other over time.
Making love is hard to do, while having sex is easy. Making love implies there’s a level of intimacy there, a connection, between both of you. Love-making is an extension of that. It’s a method of showing what you both share.
Don’t be afraid to leave your inhibitions at the door, and give in.
[Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]
These tips will give you great ideas on how to make love to a man, whether you already know he’s “The One,” or even if he’s just a hottie you’ve snagged for the night. Just give these tips a try, and you’ll leave any man hooked and crying for more of you!
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