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How To Make Him Miss You And Call You More

Ever wondered how to make him miss you more often, or make him call you more? Here are all the tips and sneaky tricks you’d need to make your man miss you more, and desire you all the time.

Click here to read the first five tips on how to make him want you more and obsess about you all the time.

Knowing how to make him miss you or make him call you more is a tricky pursuit.

You can’t really whine and tell him that you miss him, and wish he’d call you more often.

But could there be a way to make him miss you more, just like that?

[Read: 30 super tips to keep a guy interested in you]

How to make him miss you

How many times have we sat by the phone wondering what the man in our life is up to, and when is he ever going to call us again!

Now I’m not saying men don’t think about their girlfriends.

But I am indeed saying that the novelty of a new relationship wears off faster for a man than for a woman.

Why does this happen? Well, it’s simple, because women give in too easily and reveal all even more easily.

Learn how to make him call you more and miss you more by understanding these simple tips.


#1 Surprise him

There’s no point in being an open book early in a relationship.

Keep him interested and into you by mentioning to him the summer you spent in Paris by yourself or your skills on the violin. Go out to a karaoke bar one night and floor him with your singing ability.

Never let him know who you really are, let him experience that by being with you. [Read: How to make a guy fall deeply in love with you]

#2 Be sincere

Make him feel like he’s found his soul mate in you. The idea is to be sincere.

Genuinely listen to what he has to say. Ask questions, and keep in mind what and who he talks about so that the next time he brings it up, you can show him that you actually do listen.

#3 Have no expectations

It’s a common mistake that every girl makes when she expect that a man is as hooked on you as you are on him, or that he is going to be exactly like your sappy man-child of an ex-boyfriend. Remind yourself why you ditched your ex.

If he doesn’t arrive at your doorstep with a dozen red roses every day, it does not mean that he is not into you. [Read: How to think like a man and impress your guy]


Read on for a few really sneaky ways to make him miss you and make him call you more.

#1 Hang up before he does

If you end the conversation before he does, it’ll keep him wanting more. Admit it, it happens to you all the time. Well, maybe in some cases, playing hard to get really does work.

#2 Do not accept any last minute dates

This is a sneakier variant of the first way to make him miss you more. Never, I repeat, never ever make it seem like you’re poised at the edge of your seat waiting for him to make time for you. Not only does this make you look like the ultimate loser, it will make him take you for granted. You should never accept the option of being Plan B.

#3 Great perfume

Pick the perfect perfume, and remember that the key word here is subtlety. You’ll know it has worked when he keeps leaning in. But remember to take it easy and not douse yourself in fragrances. You’d also want a leave a trace of it on him so that he remembers you after he drives you home. [Read: Tips to increase your sex appeal]


So what do you do if (god forbid) all your hard work doesn’t work and he still doesn’t call more or miss you more? First of all, don’t jump into conclusions. For all you know, there could have been an emergency.

You may call once or leave a message but do not overdo it and fill his inbox with “whr r u” and “y hvnt u cald” messages. Secondly do not obsess, immerse yourself in those hobbies you wowed him with. And finally if he calls you a month later without an excuse asking you out on a date, do not accept it. That would be an insult to your womanhood.

You have to accept rejection as a part of life and that it happens to everyone all the time. If things don’t work out, don’t sweat it.

[Read: Signs he’s definitely into you]

After all, you do know the best tips on how to make him miss you and make him call you more. If it’s not working, perhaps he’s just not that into you.

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43 thoughts on “How to Make Him Miss You and Call You More”

  1. sonika says:

    it is really helpful in knowing oneself and what other half wants

  2. i think its great what y’all say but still i havent gotten enough answers to how to make him miss me because like my boyfriend has never not even once paid my phone or helped me pay for anything i ever do or any event i need help with and this past birthday i didnt even get a present and i barely see him maybe once every 2 weeks and i dont like to seem pushy so i dont tell hm exactly everything and he tell me he loves me but never really shows it and he says that if i want to i can look for someone better than him or someone who has the time he doesnt i really dont know what to do and i always try to understand him and he can tell but with me he never does what do i do?? denise mendoza

  3. Kimberly Ford says:

    Hello Denise,

    You should be straight forward sometimes. Hard to get sometimes don’t work that’s why you have to balance it according to your BF’s attitude. If you think serious conversation to him won’t work do it in different tactics like ” I wonder what will be my gift from Santa this Xmas” it’s up to you. U knew him more than I do. Please please don’t compare your bf to other guy, it’s a big no no “turn off”. Since its already Xmas try to insert “thoughtful” topic while having a conversation.

  4. Kimberly Ford says:

    Another thing dear Dennis . Don’t be dependent on him. Your still young and you should show him that you could leave with out him. That will make him realize it’s not your lost its his lost. Try to regain your BFF, invitE them to have coffee, shopping, watch movie or go to the gym. Show him that you also have your life with full of friends who loves you, family who take cares of you, work that you love and this is the most effective way to make him realize he should not let you go. Develop your skills:) learn new hobbies like tennis or badminton will do, read more a lot like “why men love bitches” by Sheryl Argov, read news and love yourself:) do facial, gym and make yourself busy like buy new gadgets that interest you most. This will make yourself busy and won’t think about him too much. It’s very effective.
    I have a bf like yours and now hes trying his best to reach me:)
    Girl, there are a lot of guys who can cherish and love you more than he does. Always think that if it won’t work this time with him well maybe your soulmate is just waiting for you to become available. “entertaining the wrong guy will lessen your opportunity to meet the right one”
    Cheer up and be a strong woman. You can do it! Trust me. Don’t be too dependent on him. You were born alone. Always remember that 🙂

  5. Deana says:

    Not calling 24/7 is the best thing to do
    Being truly interested in his life (even if it’s just games) makes him happy and when you end the conversation first it will make him want lots more.
    So end it with a cute giggle or “Oh I’m sorry babe but I need to go do something”

    I’ve done this and I have him calling ME
    Not 24/7 but he’s calling more than he use to 🙂

  6. Maigin says:

    My boyfriend always hangs up all the time and when I call back, he doesn’t answer but when I dont call him he doesn’t call. And he always gets mad at me if I hang out with my friends. Everytime we make plans he always has an excuse about why he can’t make it. Its not every now and then, its all the time. I don’t know what to do to make him call me and miss me more and stop having excuses on why he cant make it all the time. what should I do??

  7. NOLY says:

    i really need help, we broke up with me boyfriend coz i cheated on him but it was deliberate i tried to explain that i was clean and its him i loved he refused so i let him go. now he came back saying he has realised that i was the right girl for him, that i was the only one he loved despite what i did to him, we had mature time together, i gave him good sex, he just misses everything about me. now the problem is he doesnt call me most of the time but sends messages once in awhile, but when i call he answers very sweet. i want him to fall for me, miss me and call me more. i really miss him when his quiet so ive told myself not to always call or sms not untill he does, but i cant help it. please help me……

  8. Ninie says:

    I met my boyfriend online last october of 2011. For the first three weeks, I felt so lucky that I finally found someone who treated me so special. He was nothing but sweet to me. He was the nicest guy I’ve ever met. He called and text me; I didn’t even have to bother texting him. Sometimes I couldn’t focus at work cause he would text too much just to say he loves me. Everything was great, I had never been so happy in my life. He usually came and pick me up from my house (I live with my family. He never wanted to come inside of the house because he haven’t met any of my family member.) to his, or to a place just so we could talk alone. My boyfriend is a businessman, He owns and operates several businesses from different city, so he is super busy. To me no matter how busy I am, I always try my best to create time for the most important people in my life. I am a family oriented person. I am not perfect, but I’m very patient and comprehensive. I know it’s been only six months, but for the last four months, he has been so distant I’m so confused and do not know what to do. Even though I don’t celebrate Christmas, but it a special day for everyone or family members to be together. I didn’t see him for Christmas; he didn’t show up for new years eve, new years day, my 30th birthday which was last January and Valentine’s day. He came to see me the weekend after my birthday and I was telling him how I feel about him acting that way, He told me he was busy working. When I persisted, he asked me what do I want from him.

    Despite everything, I kept my cool and went on thinking that things will get better. Now I started not hearing from him for weeks. Today is April 2nd, 2012. It’s been three weeks since I haven’t seen him, and I’ve only talked to him three times during those three weeks. I rarely see him and that only, makes me feel like he really doesn’t care about me. I try to be open and available to him but the more I do that, the more I don’t hear from him. So now I feel like I want to give up and move on, but I got involved so emotionally that it becomes hard for me to even tell him how I feel. I feel like I hate my self for letting him treat me in such way. I’m not the type that cheat; I would prefer to leave a person instead of cheating on him. I really don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to end it; I love him so much. I keep thinking that I don’t know how to be with a busy man. Please help! Any idea, anything would help please.

  9. Guy123 says:

    Can’t say i agree with “#1 Hang up before he does”, unless you want to use him as your dog. If you want a real man, you’ll let him dominate you to some degree, this will make him feel powerfull.

    – Guy123

  10. Jay says:

    @ Ninie. Hate to break it to you sweety, but your guy is obviously married!

  11. A Guy says:

    God, this is the most shallow thing I’ve ever read. “Make your man miss you”… Jesus. How to make your man call you more? How about get your own life, stop being so clingy and don’t try to manipulate him. This is creepy. NEVER ‘make’ someone do anything – things should come naurally.

  12. rosalinda says:

    i’ve been with my bf 3 months in da beginning he was so interested and he was calling me alll da time n if he didnt he txt me but after that i left my home coz i had a big fight with my mom i told him about every tng n my life n i started to live by my self we had sex n sometimes he sleeps over n my home suddenly that gentle man changed why !!1 i dnt knw less calls no txtng he goes to da university he dnt call when he is there he just disappear n after that he calls with a very lame excuses he always keep telling me im tired i really need to sleep plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me ..

  13. Sagggirl says:

    Rosalinda, um sorry to say this but 1. you gave up the sex too fast and 2. hes obviously lost interest in you and is interested in another girl. Time to just cut your losses and move on

  14. ilovecandles says:

    okay, yes i tried all these things, but my boyfriend wants me to talk to him otherwise he doesn’t miss me. i want him to have a need to see me but he doesn’t, and i don’t want to let him go because i love him, please help im trapped. our relationship is a bit weird, hes sweet and everything, but im still shy of him even though we’ve stayed together for long, i want to surprise him but i don’t know how to. he only reveals himself to me in the night, we just lye in bed and talk about his ambitions, hes so beautiful and im so in love with him, but he never has an urge to see me, i have to make the first move. i was staying with my childhood bestie (my boyfriends brother) and i said id stay with him for the day, and as soon as i texted my bf that. he came to me, and was like “baby , why i cant stay away from you” i ended up with my bf instead, again. i know right , i shouldn’t have but it just hurts too bad when were apart. please help.

  15. rimmy saini says:

    awosome tips..

  16. DDDMMM says:


  17. Mabel says:

    what do you do if your recent boyfriend gets confused of going back to his ex and asking you to give him a week to think straight? guys, i really need your advice….

  18. Chipego says:

    Hi, I’ve been trying this “not calling or texting him” thing, but just wanted to know, what could I say when he asks ” why have u been so quiet” ?
    Coz I always do the texting & calling. :/ ,now I want him to get to call me!


  19. Gill.B. says:

    Dear Mabel, dont become anybodie’s option: love and respect yourself!
    Ditch him and never look back!

  20. Butterfly says:

    @Ninie, all I can say is send him a text: “I just want to let you know it’s over. Have a great day.”
    Dot. This guy doesn’t care about you at all. Maybe you were interesting for him in the beginning (every new thing is interesting until you get to use to it), but not anymore. Who knows why…(maybe another woman). You didn’t do anything wrong, you thought it will be serious, he didn’t. Move on and believe me you will find a great guy who will treat you right.

    @Chipego, tell him because it’s always you who text and call and you don’t see that he puts any efforts to text you first.

  21. Antoinette says:

    I try my best to keep my boyfriend interested but, I have a different problem. I’m a 16 year old girl in a loving relationship. In the first two or three weeks, when everything was “fresh and new”, my boyfriend called me every day. He’d call me before school, after school, and after his chores. But now, he goes to sleep on me every single day and we’ve been together for 9 months. We only talk once, which is after chores, but we only talk for about 10-15 minutes before he falls asleep. Tonight, I called. He didn’t answer. I texted him a few minutes later asking what he was doing and he said playing call of duty. So I was like well why didn’t you answer your phone and he was like you called me? And I said yes and all he said was oh sorry. Like, no call back? Nothing. I decided to play his trick on him. I said goodnight and he said why. I told him I’m going to bed and he was like don’t you wanna talk on the phone? Nope, I said. And he called anyway but I didn’t answer. I told him to just go to sleep like he usually does or finish his game because I’m used to being disappointed by him. And he just said goodnight baby I love you. What should I do about EVERYTHING?

  22. Angelyn says:

    I like this guy, and he says he loves me back . He’s my senior in school, and he acts like a jerk when hes with his friends, but when we’re alone with a close friend of his, he’s damn chummy with me. He does all sort of sweet stuff, and all, but I feel like he doesn’t like me . Even if we walk past each other in school, we pretend not to know each other. I don’t even know if he flirts with other girls in his class, hes a player, comedic, awesome, and practically the best guy any girl can have . We are like friends with benefits, cause he tried initiating a relationship, but I broke it cause I felt that he didnt like me . Now we are awkward around each other in school, but at his house, we’re like inseparable lovers . What am I gonna do about it? :(( someone please tell me

  23. Maria says:

    I talked to this guy for about a month, and then when everything was going great, I started getting all crazy and super jealous. And one day he read my tweets and told me that it wasn’t what he wanted, so did I. But the next day I told thim that I had to explain myself, and we kinda started talking again. After a few days he told me that he was confused, that he had a lot of work, and school stuff, but he wanted to keep in touch and try later on. We’ve texted a couple times, but I want him back, and I don’t know what to do!

  24. fify says:

    I’ve been chatting regularly with this guy on a dating website.He seemed nice and enjoyed chatting with me via the website.And i feel that we have some chemistry. But he never ask for my number yet! but he ever mentioned that he does not really like to talk on the phone. When he did not text me first i began to miss him like crazy. How to find out if he’s really into me?

  25. briellah says:

    Yes girls everything they said do it! I have always been that type of hard to get person. I’ve shown my talent which is playing the guitar(they like it ask them what song they want to hear), the perfume(they will say you always smell good)(trust me), hanging up on him first(they will call you back and wonder why)lol, and say a joke about something that you’ve seen or done that would make him laugh so hard but not overdoing it because then they will find it annoying. But girl’s do not call him all the time just to ask them(what are you doing?)him:(nothing what are you doing) they will find that boring and annoying(he will most likely say he has something to do click hangs up). When he calls do not answer call him the next day or so(guy’s also do this to girls so why can’t we). Good luck

  26. chinita18 says:

    i feel so all alone.,. i am chatting and txting him for 3 months,., after 3 months we meet each other and start liking each other,.,we hang out in the club and suddenly he kissed me when i am talking.,, and really makes me turned on., im sorry if this is bad,., im not that drunk but i feel the alcohol in my veins., then he said he wants to be with me,.,after that we went to hotel and and we did something., and now were bf and gf for one month and i feel so weird now.,. he dont txt me like often as before.,., his message is not that interesting na.,., i love him so much but i dont know how to turn him on and make him miss me so much.,., i txt him many times but he replied me a short message.,.,kind a boring.,., i dont know what should i do.,., i think this is a mistake but i am trapped also.,. pls give me an advice how this guy missss me so much.,., PLS HELP!!!

  27. hannah says:

    Im always tellimg my bf to call me but he acts like he doesn’t hear what I say and like whenever he calls me he wants me to answer asap but when I wan talk he always maked up an excuss he barely talks to me and we always fight bcuz he doesn’t have time for me and idk how to keep myself accupied so plz help me I wan be stronger and make him want me more how can I resist not talking to him and trust me he could go days without talkin to me so plz help

  28. Deborah Stobie says:

    He asked me out twice i said no both time’s and seen him again and he asked me to my face so i said yes we went out on a date on that day he broken down on the motorway and didn’t get home till 9 at night i was all glamed up ready to hit the town but we only went to the local pub and takeaway but i didn’t mind cos it was a good night at the end, 3wks down the line of us being together his Dad was very ill he had to go and see him i lived in Ireland Paul was a way for 8days i was very upset cos i could not be there for him, it was to soon to meet his family and not the right time ever his Dad sadly passed away. i missed him so much wanted to talk to him every day i phoned him all the time cos i cared, when Paul came back home he finished our relationship it was to soon and all to much for him. It has been 1 mth and i still miss him so want to be with him but he don’t want me. So feel very sorry fir myself cos he is 1 cool guy. Just what do i do

  29. LonelyBarbie says:

    What do you do if you realize that the guy you talk to only wants you for sex, that the only time he calls you is when he wants some (And your longest conversation is right after sex when you lie in bed with him and he sweetly tries to catch up on whats going on with you)? What do you do, when you see him at work and he greets and interacts with you like a regular coworker (as if the night before meant nothing)? How do you show him that you’re worth more? How do you show yourself this when deep down you’re in so much hurt and humiliation? Because, to be honest, sometimes I just feel like a 26 yr old loser.

  30. BeautyBabe says:

    OK this is from an older woman who knows: Stop reading relationship advice NOW and just do your thing!!! Be honest be real, have high self respect and make RESPECT the number 1 thing in all relationships, especially in the romantic ones. Better single than in a situation that is making you worry or stress. Develop yourself as a woman instead of wasting time worrying. Own your life. Being alone is NOT the end of the world and it’s better than most people want you to believe. Love to you all and good luck!

  31. BeautyBabe says:

    Also, most of the time life is not like the movies. People do get busy working, etc. Just be honest about your ideas, thoughts, feelings and be LOVING. This means don’t be afraid to tell the guys what you are thinking. Don’t fight just take a step back and look at reality. Honestly I am a great catch and I do have men who want to give me everything, but there are always men who are more selfish or more busy. The world is a big place, take your pic. In the meantime, enjoy your life, build up yourself as a person. Give your energy and effort to yourself. Build your character, your personality, your ideas, your looks, your health, life goals, whatever. Don’t let your dreams depend too much on other people. You can’t control other people or make them do what you want them to do. You can create your own life the way you want it, though.

  32. karen says:

    Why is everyone so obsessed with getting there boyfriend to call you first
    you all have no idea what a hard relationship is… I have been with my boyfriend
    nearly 3 years we got together and It was great till things slipped a little. He has autism.he cant
    express his love to me unless he really misses me I dont talk or see him for days at a time
    I go over his house and stay the night but his kindness always runs short he will ask me to leave
    he never says I love you. He never says I misd you. When im sad he always says stop it. When we argue we argue he says the nastiest things to me that really hurt I was going to leave him once but he cried… he felt sad and thats how I know he loves me he gets shy but he doesnt know why and he gets excited easily as well he is lovely. I wouldnt do any of these tips to make him miss me. He will text me saying … what you doing… and that is a text that he misses me and I alwayd go over when he asks because no one knows what mood he is in untill he wakes up he could go to bed in a good mood but he could wake up and be horrible to everyone .. he doesnt leave his room but he came and met my parents soo. Dont dwell on those who treat you like crap just leave
    You will know who the one is 🙂

  33. Sweety says:

    My guy loves me lot but still he never calls me r txt me. He says he don like to use mobile. I want him to miss me and talk to me. He gives more importanc to his friends than me. If i ask that big fight wil come. Donot know how should i make him give importance to me than his friends. Please help.

  34. Tori says:

    The key to relationships is communication, not manipulation. this is why so many of your guys are pushing you away they like simplicity not complications, don’t be all up in his space but don’t try to alter his mindset. If you honestly think lying and hiding things is going to make him like you more you’ve been reading too many romance books. to love like a human being you have to be a human being not some warped interpretation of your own self image. its just like make up, some guys like you to put a face on but the right guy will see the beauty in you when you first wake up in the morning with dragon breath. bottom line Just be yourself.

  35. claire says:

    Hey girls, tell me one thing if a guy keeps on texting you all the time, always calling u as to where are you..what you are doing…giving u every information all the time…after sometime you would feel him as granted..thinking if none does talk to u he will talk to u, text u etc… The same is the scenarios with guys…just check the difference between guys who have hi n a bye relationship n the guy you are in relationship… Hi n bye guys are always curious to know about your updates…n on the other hand you give your updates to the guy you are in love with…if a person gets all the information in his hand without trying for it then why should he come to you…moreover girls please work on your insecurities… Every relationship needs space n spark…Every person is just like a fish…if u take it from water n hold it with u all the time, it will suffocate…rather if u leave it free in the ocean…then you’ll enjoy seeing his true feelings…Moreover he too have family n friends…in a matter of 24 hours he needs to give time n make time for all of them… He cant keep texting u all the time… Stop texting him or calling him over n over again. If he is missing u or curious about you he’ll definately call up…there is a saying if the baby cries only then you can feed milk….

  36. Richa says:

    hello sir,

    me and my boyfriend is in relationship from past 8 year..initially it was running great..then he started possessing me not to do this n that..on that we had lot fights..initially he use to cry not to leave me..i and he are totally different ..m very extrovert independent and modern…he has grown in a very orthodox family and very introvert..he doesnt lyk to share things..widout his sharing i am not able to understand what does he wants..and in my case i do share..thn he say not to argue..not to repeat things in front of me… thatsy our views doesn’t match…from past one n half year he is saying he dont want to b wid me…because we cant b together..but whenever he leaves me it is hard for me to survive i am not able to eat and not able to sleep..thn i do cry infront of him beg for being back…again we use to b back together it happened thrice in past one n half year..he has completely lost interest in me..he stopped valuing me always says i will do whatever i want u r nobody to ask..thn i try to slowly move on coz i know i cant force anybody to be wid me…whn i try to b away from him thn he usually do back nd again starts pampering me ..bt it remains for sometime..again he says i already told u i dont want to b wid u..if he suddenly says this thing after pampering showing love to me again it is hard for me to move on suddenly..i m in big dilemma..what to do?? i dont want to loose him..is their any way we can live happily together…i dont want to keep him forcefully wid me…will he start again valuing me……:(……can u please help …initially he told about me to his family that he want to marry me & his parents doesnot agreed over that but that time we were studying..then they just ignore.. now everytime when i ask him to talk to your parents..he always make some excuses…

  37. jade says:

    I met this guy online , who i knew from secondary school. He seemed really enthusiatic about going out on a date. I went on a date with him and it went really well, I found him really interesting and sexy. We have been on several dates since then and I am crazy about him! I dont send him too much messages but im worried i have scared him off as he doesnt seem as enthusiastic anymore and seems to not reply to my messages. He is a really lovely guy, I just want to know how to keep him keen and how not to scare him off.

  38. TeenyTinyQueen says:

    I’m sick and tired of these forums. I look through Google for advice on whether I should keep in touch with someone I cut off, and this pops up? People listen up because waiting on some fool to call is only a waste of time. Don’t you all see , this negative pattern will only keep on going. Who does it effect in the end? That’s right. YOU. Why pretend, that you’re okay with the situation of making him miss you. They are living their life, so go live yours, and if it’s meant to be you don’t have to worry about whether or not they’re missing you. YOU will already know in your heart if they do!

  39. Melissa says:

    Ugh, it’s a sad thought to have to “make” anyone do anything. For me, it kind of ruins it if I have to “make” anyone do anything.

  40. Hazel Kong says:

    Happened to me too, I dumped him in the end.

  41. Sarah says:

    Dont answer his messages. Dont respond till he calls u in the end. I’m sure he’s gonna call u to check on u n ask if your ok and why u aren’t replying to his msgs. If he calls you, maybe you would want to give a few missed calls. The more he’s unable to reach u, the more he feels panic.

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