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How to Make a Guy Miss You *And Want You* Even After Screwing Up

Is there anything worse than losing the guy you love? Quite arguably, no. If you want to get him back, here’s how to make a guy miss you and want you back.

how to make a guy miss you

Nothing is worse than a broken heart. At times, you feel as if you can’t breathe and as if  you can’t think. Like losing something critical to your being, losing the man you love is one of the most bottoming out feelings in the world. And learning how to make a guy miss you is important if you want to win him back.

How to make a guy miss you

If you are the one who blew it, it feels extra shitty. But, fret not, even if you were the one who put the last nail in the coffin, there is still a way to turn it all around and come out un-single. If you use these tricks for how to make a guy miss you, you can win his hand and heart back.

#1 Show up “unexpectedly.” In the new age of social media, you don’t have to be a total stalker to show up at the right place at the right time. Find out where he will be and show up without notice. Nonchalantly bump into him wearing his favorite outfit and perfume, and maybe, just maybe, old habits die young. [Read: 10 tips to look incredible and get anyone’s attention]

#2 Stop blowing up his phone. If you continue to send him messages of either apology or telling him how much you want him back, stop. If you don’t give him time to miss you, guess what? He isn’t going to miss you at all.

In fact, all those little messages that you leave probably make him pretty irritated, especially if he is still angry and can’t get past it. Whether you want to get him back or not, there is nothing appealing about begging or pleading. It just leaves you with less self-esteem and him feeling like you are stalking him. For the time being, cut him out of your head. [Read: How to ignore a guy the right way and leave him chasing you]

#3 Start dating someone new. I know, I do, that you want him back. But, you can’t sit around and pine over him forever. There comes the point where the pity party should end. It has to end with you deciding whether you can get him back or not. You can’t stay stuck.

Dating someone new is not only an excellent way to get his attention and make him miss you, but it is also a great way for you to find out if he is really worth all the effort to get back. Seeing you with a new guy definitely makes him think about all he lost.

#4 Post happy things to your social media. Now is the time to turn up the volume on your social media accounts. Send pictures of all the fun things you do, how much fun you have, and all the many ways that you are getting on without him.

If he sees you aren’t that same girl who begged him to stay, but you moved on to bigger and better things, he might wish he was joining you in your new endeavor and want you back. It may be obvious what you’re trying to do, but hey, it works so who cares! [Read: How to make your ex feel jealous]

#5 Work on your revenge body. Okay, so it wasn’t him who cheated on you. You were the one who messed up. It doesn’t mean you can’t work on your revenge body to get him back. Lose those extra ten pounds you put on while getting comfortable with him and tone things up a bit.

You would be surprised at how much a little effort put into your looks does for a guy who loved you before. He might just be capable of seeing you in a new light. [Read: How to get your ex-boyfriend back after a regretful parting]

#6 Find out what you did wrong and change it. If you did something that caused the relationship to deteriorate, acknowledge it and try to change. Don’t ever go changing for someone else. If it is something you did that you regretted and was the cause for you to lose the man you love, work to better yourself so that it doesn’t happen in your future relationships.

The sad reality is that if you can’t win him back, you must find someone else. And, only by recognizing what happened, can you prevent the same mistake from happening again. Once you create the change in yourself, tell him you aren’t the same person anymore and ask him for one more chance. He might grant it to you. He might not. But all you can do is give it your best try. [Read: 17 sweet ways you can genuinely say you’re sorry]

#7 Say you are sorry. Sometimes the best way to get a guy to miss you is by saying you are sorry. No one misses someone who messed up and never even showed concern for their actions or tried to make amends for it.

If you want to make him miss you, present something to him that shows you are a different person and remorseful for whatever you did to hurt him. Try to find a way to show you are sincerely sorry. If you could do it all over again, you certainly would not have done what you did.

#8 Be confident again. Sometimes when relationships decline, we form different habits contrary to who we are. Your behaviors and reactions might not have been solely from your own arsenal.

There might have been things he did to make you feel the way that you did, leaving you less than you. If you want to find a way to make him want you back, find the you inside that you were when you met. [Read: Should you text your ex? Your guide to helping make that decision]

Try to shed whatever it is that brought you down and find the woman he fell in love with. If she is still in there, the man that loved her might be too. It is worth a shot. In the end, you will end up restoring your own mental health and healing.

Losing the guy you love is the worst feeling in the world, especially if you feel to blame. The good news is that things don’t always last forever. Whether you make him want you again or not, the reality is you won’t be alone always. Sometimes when one door closes, another opens, but I digress…

Maybe instead of worrying about trying to get him back, you should focus on yourself and what you need to feel good and find the confidence that you lack right now. In the end, no matter what you try to do to get him back, he isn’t going to want you unless you are happy and secure with yourself.

[Read: 12 clear signs your ex still thinks about you often]

So, find that secure person lying within and bring her back to life. If you can do that, you have the key to understand how to make a guy miss you. And if he doesn’t come back, another guy will come running.

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Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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