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How to Hook Up With a Guy and Do It the Right Way

Want to make a guy want you and hook up with you? Find out how to hook up with a guy and make it appear like he’s the one trying to hook up with you.

how to hook up with a guy

A hook up is a sexy thing.

It’s fun and makes you feel liberated, at least when it comes to sex.

The best part is that hooking up with a guy is really easy.

Almost all the time, all you need to do is let the guy know what’s on your mind.

[Read: 20 things about girls that turn a guy on sexually]

But here’s where things get tricky.

Most girls aren’t too comfortable with the direct approach, especially if they want to avoid being called names by other girls, either in college or at their workplace.

How to hook up with a guy

If you want to hook up with a guy and be discreet about it, here are a few things you need to know and keep in mind.

Get these steps right, and you’d know how to hook up with a guy and yet, make it seem like it was always the guy who was making a move on you all along.

[Read: How to get any guy’s attention wherever you are]

Picking the right guy

For a perfect hook up, you need to pick the right guy for the job. There may be a lot of cute guys out there, but if you want your hook up to go well and end well, here are five things to keep in mind while choosing the guy.

#1 A guy who can keep a secret. Always hook up with a guy who knows how to keep his secrets close to his heart. You don’t want to sleep with a guy who’ll be eager to text all his friends about the new notch on his bedpost even as he’s dressing up after the shag.

#2 A fun guy. Hook up with a fun guy who won’t fall in love with you or pursue you. You want the guy to hook up with you and forget about it, not fall in love with you.

#3 A guy who’s worth your time. With no offence to men, guys who are ready to hook up with a sexy girl are a dime a dozen, pick the right one who’s worth your time.

#4 A good friend. Avoid good friends. It’s usually not worth it because the intimacy and the close bond you both share may find a way to complicate things.

#5 Your friend’s lover or ex. This is never good. Not only is this stabbing your friend in her back, but you’d be on fragile grounds if your friend ever found out about it. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]

How to hook up with a guy by arousing him

The guy you like has to be sexually attracted to you and has to crave for your lustful touch if you want him to do your bidding. Seduce him and make him desire you so he can pounce on you the very instant you give him a sign to take things into bed.

Here are nine tips you can use to make him want you bad.

#1 Wear revealing clothing around him. Wear a short skirt or flimsy revealing clothes at home and call him over for some help or a conversation. It’s even better if you can make it look like he caught you at the wrong time. Never let him know you’re trying to seduce him.

#2 Let him take a peek now and then. You know your attractive body parts better than anyone else. Flaunt it discreetly and make sure he gets an eyeful. [Polls: What do guys like in a girl’s body?]

#3 Give him a good hug. Guys can’t help but feel a girl’s breasts each time they hug unless she’s giving him an ass-out hug. When you’re hugging a guy you want to hook up with, give him the opportunity to feel you up accidentally. The lingering touch will be imprinted on his mind for a long time.

#4 Party often. If you want to hook up with a random hottie, party a lot and be seen in the right places. And when the cute guy you want to make out with is around, let your hands wander on the dance floor so he knows what you have in mind.

#5 Seduce a guy via text. Do you like a guy who’s a friend? If both of you have been getting chatty over text for a while, take it to the next sexy level in no time, with just 20 simple questions. [Read:20 sexy questions to ask a guy and seduce him]

#6 Talk about your “sexual secrets”. During one of your long late night conversations over phone, steer the conversation and get him to talk about a few sexy confessions. And when it’s your turn, innocently go into a few sexy details so you can turn him on and arouse him.

#7 Get drunk together. This is the easiest way to hook up with a guy. You just need to down a few glasses of booze, and cuddle up with him. And soon enough, both of you will end up in bed. [Read: Drunk girlfriends who kiss other guys]

#8 Touch him. When he starts flirting with you or sweet talking you, get touchy feely with him. Hold him by his arm or play with his fingers and he’ll involuntarily do more in return.

#9 Make him think of you in the nude. When you’ve having a conversation with him over the phone or in person *if you’re comfortable with that*, talk to him about your last body massage or the time you skinny dipped with a few guys. Or if he’s coming to your place, make sure he sees your sexy silk lingerie on the couch as you step out of the room for a while. [Read: How to look attractive in bed with a guy]

How to initiate the hook up with a guy at a party

Once you’ve aroused him and made him crave for you, all you need to do is find the right place to take the next step if you haven’t hooked up with him already with the earlier moves.

Here are ten steps you can use to hook up with a guy at a club or anywhere else.

#1 Pick the guy. It doesn’t matter if you meet the guy at a party or you’ve invited him to a friend’s place for a party. What matters is the fact that both of you have some time to share with each other in a crowded place.

#2 Spend time with him. If you’ve got all evening to be with each other, have a fun conversation and don’t talk about hooking up at all. Just be yourself and wait for the evening to bring both of you closer.

#3 Don’t make your intentions obvious. Make him work for you or you’ll look like an easy tramp. Don’t tell him you’re horny or that you’re interested in sleeping with him. Instead, just warm him up and let him make all the requests.

#4 Wait for him to flirt. Don’t flirt with him right away. Let him initiate a bit of flirting, you can carry it on. You’re eventually going to sleep with him, so don’t make it seem like you’re too easy to get. [Read: How to flirt with a guy without really flirting]

#5 Get touchy feely. Once he’s getting flirty and coming onto you, let him know you’re enjoying it by getting touchy and flirting with him.

#6 Toy with him. Pull away when he’s getting too frisky. Tease him when he gets too close. You’ll drive him crazy and at the same time, make him work hard to win your affection.

#7 Tell him you need some air. Try to find a quiet place where both of you can have some privacy. Ask him to walk you out for some fresh air or tell him you need to get to a quiet place to make a call.

#8 Get close to him. Sit close to him. If there’s some distance between both of you, discreetly find a way to sit close to him by either getting up to make a call or by pretending like you need to stretch your legs.

#9 Thank him for being around. Tell him you’re having a nice time and thank him for being such good company. Or if he isn’t getting the point, give him a hug or a kiss on the cheek while thanking him. It’ll set the ball in motion even though you’re not directly making a move on him.

#10 Stay close. Stay close, really close and wait for him to make the move. You’ve just held hands or kissed his cheek. Try to get as little distance as possible between your faces and wait for him to take the lead. [Read: How to get any guy to kiss you when you want him to]

And that’s all you need to do to hook up with a guy no matter where you are. And the best part here is that it’ll always seem like he’s the one pursuing you and not the other way around. [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

Three rules for a hook up

There aren’t really any rules here, but there are a few words of caution you need to remember to have a good hook up.

#1 Let him understand it’s a fling thing and nothing serious. You can even pretend like you regret the incident after it’s over just to let him think it wasn’t planned ahead.

#2 Don’t pick random guys to have sex with. Make sure you know this guy and his sexual history so you’re not picking up a bad case of STDs.

#3 Use the right precaution even if he says he’s clean. Better safe than sorry.

[Read: How to seduce any guy into making out with you]

Guys are always ready for a good hook up with an attractive girl. But just because you know how to hook up with a guy doesn’t mean you have to give in easily. Always make the guy work for your attention so he’ll respect you and treat you chivalrously.

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Jana Snow
A hippie at heart who loves exploring the world, Jana Snow always finds herself 15 minutes earlier than everyone else. And when she isn’t waiting for anyone, ...
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