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How to Hook Up with a Guy: 35 Tips to Do It Right & Make No Mistakes

You’re feeling horny, but you don’t have a boyfriend. What should you do? Find a guy to sleep with, of course. So, here’s how to hook up with a guy.

how to hook up with a guy

A hookup is a sexy thing. It’s fun and makes you feel liberated, at least when it comes to sex. The best part is that hooking up with a guy is really easy.

Almost all the time, all you need to do is let the guy know what’s on your mind.

But here’s where things get tricky.

Most girls aren’t too comfortable with the direct approach, especially if they want to avoid being called names by other girls, either in college or at their workplace.

[Read: Easy lay – 18 things a girl does that make guys think she’s easy to sleep with]

Before we go any further here, you need to know that there are two common ways you can hook up with a guy – Using a dating or a hookup app *the very easy way, but you can’t really predict the kind of guys you end up with*. And secondly, picking a guy you like and see in person, seducing him, and getting him to hook up with you.

Now if you plan on using a hookup app, just go right ahead to this list of the very best hookup apps you can use.

But considering you’re here and not on an app already, chances are, you have some specific guy in mind and want to hook up with him casually and in person. If that’s the case, read right on and just follow these steps!

How to hook up with a guy – The step-by-step guide to guide you every step of the way

If you want to hook up with a guy and be discreet about it, here are a few things you need to know and keep in mind.

Get these steps right, and you’d know how to hook up with a guy and yet, make it seem like it was always the guy who was making a move on you all along. [Read: How to get any guy’s attention wherever you are]

Picking the right guy to hook up with

For a perfect hook-up, you need to pick the right guy for the job. There may be a lot of cute guys out there, but if you want your hook-up to go well and end well, here are five things to keep in mind while choosing the guy.

1. A guy who can keep a secret

Always hook up with a guy who knows how to keep his secrets close to his heart. You don’t want to sleep with a guy who’ll be eager to text all his friends about the new notch on his bedpost even as he’s dressing up after the shag.

2. A fun guy

Hook up with a fun guy who won’t fall in love with you or pursue you. You want the guy to hook up with you and forget about it, not fall in love with you. [Read: How to ask a guy to be friends with benefits – 15 ways to do it right]

3. A guy who’s worth your time

With no offense to men, guys who are ready to hook up with a sexy girl are a dime a dozen, pick the right one who’s worth your time.

4. A good friend

Avoid good friends. It’s usually not worth it because the intimacy and the close bond you both share may find a way to complicate things.

5. Your friend’s lover or ex

This is never good. Not only is this stabbing your friend in her back, but you’d be on fragile grounds if your friend ever found out about it.

[Read: How to talk to a guy – 34 secrets to sweet talk and make any guy fall for you]

How to hook up with a guy by arousing him

The guy you like has to be sexually attracted to you and has to crave your lustful touch if you want him to do your bidding. Seduce him and make him desire you so he can pounce on you the very instant you give him a sign to take things into bed.

Here are nine tips you can use to make him want you bad.

1. Wear revealing clothing around him 

Wear a short skirt or flimsy revealing clothes at home and call him over for some help or a conversation. It’s even better if you can make it look like he caught you at the wrong time. Never let him know you’re trying to seduce him. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

2. Let him take a peek now and then

You know your attractive body parts better than anyone else. Flaunt it discreetly and make sure he gets an eyeful. [Read: 34 sexual and physical turns ons that arouse all guys within seconds

3. Give him a good hug

Guys can’t help but feel a girl’s breasts each time they hug unless she’s giving him an ass-out hug.

When you’re hugging a guy you want to hook up with, give him the opportunity to feel you up accidentally. The lingering touch will be imprinted on his mind for a long time.

4. Party often

If you want to hook up with a random hottie, party a lot and be seen in the right places. And when the cute guy you want to make out with is around, let your hands wander on the dance floor so he knows what you have in mind. [Read: 14 sexy, discreet secrets to grind with a guy “accidentally” and arouse him]

5. Seduce a guy via text

Do you like a guy who’s a friend? If both of you have been getting chatty over text for a while, take it to the next sexy level in no time, with just 20 simple questions to ask a guy over text and get him hard in under 20 minutes!

6. Talk about your “sexual secrets”

During one of your long late-night conversations over the phone, steer the conversation and get him to talk about a few sexy confessions. And when it’s your turn, innocently go into a few sexy details so you can turn him on and arouse him.

7. Get drunk together

This is the easiest way to hook up with a guy. You just need to down a few glasses of booze and cuddle up with him. And soon enough, both of you will end up in bed. [Read: How to cuddle with a guy and snuggle up to feel cozy or turn him on]

8. Touch him

When he starts flirting with you or sweet talking you, get touchy-feely with him. Hold him by his arm or play with his fingers and he’ll involuntarily do more in return.

9. Make him think of you in the nude

When you’re having a conversation with him over the phone or in-person *if you’re comfortable with that*, talk to him about your last body massage or the time you skinny-dipped with a few guys.

Or if he’s coming to your place, make sure he sees your sexy silk lingerie on the couch as you step out of the room for a while. [Read: 29 secrets to seduce a guy and make them horny just thinking of you]

How to initiate the hook up with a guy at a party

Once you’ve aroused him and made him crave for you, all you need to do is find the right place to take the next step if you haven’t hooked up with him already with the earlier moves.

Here are ten steps you can use to hook up with a guy at a club or anywhere else.

1. Pick the guy

It doesn’t matter if you meet the guy at a party or you’ve invited him to a friend’s place for a party. What matters is the fact that both of you have some time to share with each other in a crowded place.

2. Spend time with him

If you’ve got all evening to be with each other, have a fun conversation, and don’t talk about hooking up at all. Just be yourself and wait for the evening to bring both of you closer.

3. Don’t make your intentions obvious

Make him work for you or you’ll look like an easy tramp. Don’t tell him you’re horny or that you’re interested in sleeping with him. Instead, just warm him up and let him make all the requests.

4. Wait for him to flirt

Don’t flirt with him right away. Let him initiate a bit of flirting, you can carry it on. You’re eventually going to sleep with him, so don’t make it seem like you’re too easy to get. [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without really flirting]

5. Get touchy-feely

Once he’s getting flirty and coming onto you, let him know you’re enjoying it by getting touchy and flirting with him.

6. Toy with him

Pull away when he’s getting too frisky. Tease him when he gets too close. You’ll drive him crazy and at the same time, make him work hard to win your affection.

7. Tell him you need some air

Try to find a quiet place where both of you can have some privacy. Ask him to walk you out for some fresh air or tell him you need to get to a quiet place to make a call. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you whenever you want him to]

8. Get close to him

Sit close to him. If there’s some distance between both of you, discreetly find a way to sit close to him by either getting up to make a call or by pretending like you need to stretch your legs.

9. Thank him for being around

Tell him you’re having a nice time and thank him for being such good company. Or if he isn’t getting the point, give him a hug or a kiss on the cheek while thanking him.

It’ll set the ball in motion even though you’re not directly making a move on him.

10. Stay close

Stay close, really close, and wait for him to make the move. You’ve just held hands or kissed his cheek. Try to get as little distance as possible between your faces and wait for him to take the lead.

And that’s all you need to do to hook up with a guy no matter where you are. And the best part here is that it’ll always seem like he’s the one pursuing you and not the other way around. [Read: How to make out wth a guy and the subtle tricks to make him explode in his pants]

Three rules for a hookup with a guy

There aren’t really any rules here, but there are a few words of caution you need to remember to have a good hook up.

1. Let him understand it’s a fling thing and nothing serious

You can even pretend like you regret the incident after it’s over just to let him think it wasn’t planned ahead.

2. Don’t pick random guys to have sex with

For best results, try to make sure you know this guy and his sexual history so you’re not picking up a bad case of STDs. You might need to pick a stranger, but that’s not ideal.

3. Use the right precaution even if he says he’s clean

Better safe than sorry. [Read: Stealth sex – What it is, 19 ways to prevent stealthing and why do guys do this]

How to act after you hook up with a guy

So, now that you have found your successful hook-up with a guy, now what? How do you leave it? What kinds of things should you say or do?

Remember, when you hook up with a guy, it’s not about commitment or having a future with them. Here are some things to remember.

Immediately after the hook up with a guy

Here are some tips for right after you do the deed.

1. No cuddling

Girls always like to cuddle and act romantic after they sleep with a guy. That’s fine if he’s your boyfriend. But when you hook up with a guy, he is not.

He’s just someone you met and had sex with, so you need to stay away from relationship-y things like cuddling with him. [Read: How to make your hookup miss you – 26 pros, cons, and ways to hook them]

2. Start a light conversation and chit chat

It could be awkward right after you have sex. After all, you were probably strangers just a few hours ago! So, what should you say or do?

Well, don’t suffer in silence, because that makes it even weirder. Instead, just start some light small talk. If you’re at his place, ask about a picture or something else around that you can start chit-chatting about. Then leave. [Read: How to make small talk and talk to anyone without feeling awkward]

After you leave each other

Now that the hook-up is over, what should you do in the next days or weeks to come? 

3. Wait for him to text you

You probably exchanged numbers with him, but that doesn’t mean that you should text him. He might have just been being polite when he got your number.

It has nothing to do with you as a person, it’s just how hookups go. So, wait for him to text you.

You don’t want to seem like you are chasing him because that will scare him away. [Read: Why do guys only want to hook up with me? And all you want is a BF]

4. Don’t get into a deep conversation about the hookup

If he does text you, don’t get all weird by talking about the hookup. You don’t want to hint around about how great it was and how you want to do it again.

Maybe he does want to do it again, but let him take the lead. Instead, just talk and text about other things. Let him bring up getting together again.

5. Play hard to get

As we just said, not only do you not want to chase him, you should play hard to get. Guys want what they can’t have.

And if he hooked up with you without knowing you very well, he might think you are a sure thing – that he can get sex from you whenever he wants. But you need to play hard to get and not be too easily available for him. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy – 20 secrets to leave him smitten]

6. Don’t try to get serious

Maybe you think that he would make a great boyfriend and you could see yourself falling for him. Well, you should get that out of your mind.

A hookup is a hookup. Sure, it could get serious, but don’t expect it. And don’t try to lead him down that road to a real relationship. [Read: What does a casual relationship mean to a guy and your future]

7. Remember his mindset

You have to remember that he’s a guy. And guys like sex – whenever and wherever they can get it. So, you may want or be open to a real relationship, but he might not be.

He might have just had sex with you purely because he was horny and that was it. Guys have different mindsets than girls when it comes to sex and hookups.

8. Don’t pressure him

If he shows interest in seeing you again, and you want to as well, then great. But don’t pressure him into anything. Don’t keep asking when you can hang out.

That will just appear as if you are chasing him and then it will turn him off. Guys don’t like pressure when it comes to relationships.

9. Know when to move on

Even if you hooked up with a guy several times and thought it could go somewhere, keep in mind it might not. If it does, it should flow naturally.

And if it’s not, then it’s not going anywhere. So, you need to know when to stop hoping your hookup will turn into anything serious. There are other fish in the sea! 

[Read: The perfect tease – How to keep a guy really interested after you sleep with him]

Guys are always ready for a good hook-up with an attractive girl. But just because you know how to hook up with a guy doesn’t mean you have to give in easily. Always make the guy work for your attention so he’ll respect you and treat you chivalrously.

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