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How to Get Rid of Your Boyfriend’s Wandering Eye!

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There’s nothing more disrespectful for a girl than a boyfriend with a wandering eye. Use these tips to fix his ogling eye and your relationship too!

A relationship constantly changes and evolves all the time.

It starts with infatuation and several stages later, moves towards true love.

[Read: The 9 stages of love every relationship goes through]

And during the first stage of love, the infatuation stage, the relationship is all rosy and perfect.

You can’t stop thinking of your boyfriend when he isn’t around.

And your boyfriend can’t take his eyes off you when you’re around.

There are no cracks in love, and the world is a poetic place to live in!

But as the rose tinted glasses of infatuation start to fade away, both of you start to see each other’s truer selves.

And this is where understanding, compromise and communication start to play the big part.

And if you have a boyfriend with a wandering eye, this is probably when you’d start to see the signs too!

[Read: 16 real reasons why your boyfriend’s so mean and annoying]

Dealing with a boyfriend’s wandering eye

When a man starts to get past the infatuation stage in love, that’s when you’d start to see his real side, flaws and all. And sometimes, this transition may reveal his wandering eye too! [Read: How men fall in love – The 7 stages of love for men]

So what defines a man as a creepy ogler or a guy with a wandering eye?

Guys stare at girls discreetly all the time, and that’s acceptable, just as girls take sneaky glances at cute guys. But when a guy blatantly ogles at girls even when his own girl is with him, well, that definitely makes him the infamous guy with the wandering eye *who deserves a black eye!*

And one thing you need to remember about your boyfriend’s wandering eye is that the more you put up with it, the more he’ll take you for granted and continue to stare outrageously at other girls even when you’re around!

Why do his eyes wander so much?

In one simple line, your boyfriend’s eyes wander because he doesn’t respect you.

If your man truly respects you and values you, he’d avoid ogling at other women when you’re around because he’d care about your feelings and he’d be too scared to lose you. So if your boyfriend’s eyes wander often, it only means he doesn’t value you or he thinks you’ll never leave him no matter how he is or how he behaves around you. [Read: 23 must-know relationship tips for women that can change your love life forever!]

A boyfriend with a wandering eye will make you feel ugly

Boyfriends and husbands with wandering eyes who constantly get distracted each time a pretty girl walks by will kill your ego and your own self esteem. It’s the fastest way to make you feel ugly and helpless.

But you need to remember that a man with a wandering eye will ogle at other women constantly even if he’s dating the most physically attractive woman on earth. There’s just something wrong in their head or someone’s not taught them their manners.

You’re not a jealous freak!

If you dislike the fact that your boyfriend or husband gets distracted each time a pair of legs or boobs walk past him, don’t hate yourself. You are not jealous! [Read: The reason why men love breasts like crazy!]

It’s completely natural to feel angry or upset when your man loses his eyes in the middle of a conversation with you and starts staring at another woman.

But then again, how clingy are you really?

It’s never a girl’s fault if her boyfriend has an annoying wandering eye. But just to make sure you understand yourself clearly too, you need to ask yourself just how secure or insecure you are in the relationship.

Do you think you’re overreacting? Or does your man actually ogle at other women all the time? Sometimes, you may have a streak of clinginess in you and not even know it. [Read: 13 obvious clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid being one]

A man’s will to control himself

When a guy glances at a girl discreetly, it’s gentlemanly and even flattering for the girl. But there are a few guys who stare so hard it’s almost scary and creepy.

If a man can’t control his eyes enough to avoid ogling at women, it could mean two things. He’s been raised badly, or worse, he’s unable to control his own mind!

There’s no excuse for a guy to blatantly stare at other girls when he’s with his own girlfriend. Even if a really attractive girl or a girl wearing very revealing clothes was sitting at the next table, the most any boyfriend would do is take a quick glance and look away immediately. He’d take a peek at the girl because he’s naturally inquisitive. And he’d look away from that girl in a flash because he respects you!

And if you do catch your man taking a quick look at the girl in the next table, he may smile sheepishly and avoid looking in that direction completely because he’s realized he just got caught glancing at someone else when you’re with him. And that’s what any man does when he’s with the woman he claims to be in love with. [Read: The 10 types of creepy guys you need to avoid talking to]

Look at your relationship from the outside

Don’t be a doormat or a silly accommodating girlfriend who puts up with a man’s wandering eye. Ogling boyfriends won’t suddenly grow a conscience one morning and realize just how inconsiderate and rude they’ve been.

Are you dating a guy who constantly stares at other girls when both of you are on a date together? Just so you can see the situation clearly, look at yourself from outside the picture.

If you were sitting at a coffee shop, and a guy who’s on a date with a girl was staring at you or trying to catch your attention constantly, how would you feel? Creeped out? Would you feel sorry for the girl? Would you wonder why the girl is even dating a prick like that? What would you wish the girl would do, break up with the guy?

Sometimes, you may be clouded by the emotions you feel for your boyfriend. Think clearly, and ask yourself if your boyfriend’s behavior is even remotely acceptable. [Read: The dating girl code all girls definitely need to know!]

Nip his wandering eyes in the bud

The best time to catch a man’s wandering eyes is at the beginning of a relationship when the guy is just getting past the infatuation stage in love.

On a date together, if the guy stares at another girl now and then, that’s acceptable. But if he often stares at girls or seems unfocused on you because he’s so busy burning his imprint on her bra with his super laser vision, this guy definitely needs an ultimatum! [Read: Ultimatums in a relationship and how to make them work in your favor!]

If his behavior bothers you, speak to him about it. And tell him that you can’t stay in a relationship where you don’t feel respected in a social setting.

Help him with his social skills

All guys have the will power to control their wandering eyes, just as long as they choose to *unless the guy is suffering from an awkward health condition*. But perhaps, in the case of your boyfriend, no one’s ever told him or helped him see the bad side of ogling at other random girls when he’s already with a girl. Maybe he’s just completely unaware of social skills or basic etiquette.

How to stop your boyfriend’s eyes from wandering

The first time you point out his wandering eyes to him, don’t yell at him or force him to screw his eye balls inwards. Sit down with him and explain exactly how you feel when he stares at other girls when he’s with you. Don’t get angry, don’t raise your voice, but be firm and clear about your feelings.

A guy would always understand ideas better if it can be compared to a real world scenario. So calmly explain how other guys stare at girls if he can’t understand the concept of taking sneaky quick glances. And tell him how he needs to behave when he’s around you if he wants the relationship to work out. Sometimes, just talking about it can help a guy become a better boyfriend.

Give him a few chances *if you love him*

Don’t be harsh on him if you catch him sneaking a glance at another girl for a fraction of a second occasionally. It’s natural to be curious now and then when someone walks into a room, but if he stares at other girls like he’s stripping them naked in his mind even when as you’re trying to get his attention, you definitely need to give him a nudge or kick his shin from under the table!

But unfortunately though, talking to him or giving him the silent treatment may not always work. Sometimes, that may only make him stare at other women with more enthusiasm. [Read: 7 circumstances when your boyfriend’s interested in you for all the wrong reasons]

Turn the tables on him

If you can’t make him change for the better, then get even with him. Ogle at other men when he’s around. But don’t let him know you’re doing this only to get back at him. Make it seem genuine if you really want him to understand how you feel when he stares at other women. [Read: A few sneaky tricks to stop your man from ogling at other women!]

If you want to make it appear more natural, invite your boyfriend over when you’re sitting with a couple of your girlfriends at a restaurant and talk about all the cute guys in the room. Sometimes, getting a taste of his own medicine may be the best remedy in a situation like this.

People-watch together to him feel less restricted

Sometimes, the fact that he’s dating you exclusively may make him a serial ogler. A guy may feel like he’s too restricted in the relationship because he can’t stare at other girls. The easiest way to deal with this is by encouraging him to casually people-watch with you.

While hanging out with him, point out different guys and girls walking past the both of you and gossip about them or their attire. When there are no restrictions on staring at other girls, the novelty of staring at them may wear off eventually too! [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually when he sees a girl]

Is it too late already?

Some guys are creeps.

Sometimes, no matter what you say or how hard you try to convince your boyfriend that staring at other girls is disrespectful, hurts you, shatters your self esteem, and makes you feel unattractive, he may not change. If you’re in this situation, it’s probably too late to do anything about it.

If your man gets distracted from you every time an attractive woman or two passes by him, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you or value you. And when you reach this crossroad, you need to decide what matters more to you, your own happiness or your ogling boyfriend who’s damaging your life with each new date. [Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend]

You can give him a final ultimatum and tell him that you can’t put up with this behavior anymore. But it may be too little too late.

You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change for you. And if he thinks you’re not reason enough for him to change this behavior, there’s nothing you can do but leave him. And even if he promises to change for you after you’ve given him so many chances already, can he really change?

That’s a chance you definitely don’t need to take, not after you’ve given him so many chances already!

[Read: 3 big reasons why men want to cheat and 27 reasons why they actually cheat!]

So how are you dealing with your boyfriend’s wandering eyes? Remember, soft words and ultimatums definitely help. But beyond a point, it all boils down to how much your man values and respects you, and how much you value and respect yourself!

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17 thoughts on “How to Get Rid of Your Boyfriend’s Wandering Eye!”

  1. Ben_1982 says:


  2. Grace says:

    @Ben_1982, you’re joking, right?!! Of course, it’s never a girl’s fault if her boyfriend has a wandering eye. Your comparison is like saying, you’re so fat because your partner eats too much!! Are you out of your mind?

    In the situation you gave, if a guy can’t be with his girlfriend because she humiliates him in front of his friends, he should either talk to her and communicate about it, or he should break up with her. Using a wandering eye to get back at his girlfriend is unhealthy and just moronic!

    If a boyfriend or a husband can’t respect his woman enough to stop staring and drooling at other girls in front of his own woman, he doesn’t deserve her or her respect. And he’s probably a creepy loser.

    About the article, it was written very well, unbiased and truthful. And for a major part of the article, it even tells the girl to introspect and ask herself if she’s being too clingy before making assumptions about a guy’s wandering eye. I guess some guys just don’t see logic even if its served on a platter in front of their eyes!

  3. Not This Guy says:

    I disagree Grace. Many times it can be at least partially their own fault. Let’s say when the couple met they were both in good shape, but for whatever reason the woman let herself go in the following 6 months. And during that time, despite the man’s gentle hints at taking care of themselves, physically, the woman ignored him and may have thought she should be physically attractive to him unconditionally. You can’t blame him for looking at physically fit women with superior physiques when you’ve gotten lazy and soft. For all you know, he’s just trying to remember what you used to look like. He’s got to fill up his car somewhere, you know? With that being said, I’m shocked that none of the suggestions included going to the gym together and exercising.

    This is a terrible website.

  4. Aaj says:

    The not this guys is the most selfish and retarted thing I have ever heard.. He truly does deserve an award.This guy is obviously some poor excuse of a man, if he really believes what he says is true..I sure the hope you don’t have a spouse and hell I’m a man and I want to knock your ass out ..I would never talk that way about my wife and although I admit years have gone by and we have both gone soft it gives neither of us justification to be complete asses.

  5. Stan says:

    I agree completely with this article. Some people are truly pos that can not handle the truth.i have dealt with this In a prior relationship. I a, not a super model but I am better then that I left that bastard and found me another one with decent manners. If any woman os dealing with this I highly suggest leave his ass because if he did not have enough morality to respect you in the first place then he NEVER will! Great article true form start to finish

  6. Memomo says:

    @not this guy. You are utterly retarted and deserve an award in the but hole department. Really grow up . I’d bet this guy is single and if not now will be very soon. With an attitude like that prepare to die alone because no woman especially a hot woman will ever take that kind of crap! Seriously get help!

  7. Tony Sharkey says:

    Hi there, I just wanted to enlighten you on something, while you may be right about the guy have wandering eyes because he was raised bad, you are wrong in a sense that he can’t change over night. Although it’s too late for me (hind sight is a hinder for a relationship) a man can change when he gets to the point of realizing exactly what the girl in his life truly means to him. For the girl that just broke up with me I was willing to do anything to stop this behaviour. I do respect her (even more than I respect myself), and I love her with every single ounce of energy I have, but I had a bad wandering eye, and sure she could over react about a lot of things, this being one of them, cause even though I may look at other girls, my heart and home are only big enough for me and one other. So guys if you found this sight by googling how to stop looking at other girls than there is still hope for you yet. Look deep into your past to find out why it’s happening… For me it was because of a lack of affection and discipline for my mother. To solve the problem for myself i must get in contact with my mother and sort it out. But for other guys it may be something easier.. Good luck guys!!!

  8. Krystal says:

    Ladies, don’t put up with your man ogling. It is a huge sign of disrespect. It diminishes your self esteem. And some men who ogle obviously do so to gain the upper hand – they want to make you feel bad about yourself. But whatever his intention is, invariably, a man who ogles other women in front of his partner is very self centered.

    And when the woman he is ogling notices (fact – they always do!), she will feel one of two things:

    #1. If she’s a kind person, she’ll think he’s a pig and you’re a fool for putting up with him doing this.

    #2. If she’s a b*tch, she’ll feel smug from his attention which confirms he considers her “superior” to you. That he would leave you for her – all she has to do is respond and he is hers for the taking. Nasty women on the prowl will follow through and do this just for the enjoyment of taking another girl’s boyfriend – not due to genuine interest in the man.

    The truth is that he does consider her superior to you. He does want her more than you. You can be sure of that. Why else would he 1. signaling his interest in her in such an obvious way that she see’s him and 2, not care that you notice?

    I was with a man who stared at other women everywhere we went. I became so miserable that eventually, I left him with my self esteem in tatters. I built myself back up and soon enough, I met a man who isn’t interested in other women. He’s so disinterested, I even asked him about it. He said he is delighted to be with me and doesn’t notice or want others. He ascribed the habit to porn use,saying the men at his work who are always staring at women are the sames one who are always looking at porn.

    Take heart, there are many decent, genuine, loving men out there! 🙂

  9. Sirena says:

    When I catch my boyfriend looking at a woman, I tell him ‘Did you lose something?’ or ‘Did you see anyone we know?’ or ‘What are you looking at’. He says ‘no’ or ‘nothing’ but he knows I know, stops it and actually looks ashamed.

    Sometimes, I say ‘Stop it if you don’t want me to look at some boys too’. Then if he continues, I say ‘Oh I don’t mind, look if you want to, but it’s my turn now’, and I look at some boys. Then he’s the one telling me to stop, so I tell him ‘I ‘ll stop if you stop’.

    To be honest, I was the one who had a wondering eye first, but it was involuntary, and I think it was mostly because I had some problems. I tried too hard to stop, and I had some epic quarrels with my boyfriend for this. That’s partly the reason he started looking at other girls. Understand that sometimes your boyfriend loves you, but can’t stop this. i ‘m not telling anyone to put up with it, but give your man some time to adjust, give him some chances to try.

  10. marcia oldham says:

    I sat with my partner at a designated table on a cruise with to other women .one women exploited her life and flirted with my partner of 7 years to gain his attention this bothered me.as I spoke to him about not sitting at the table and changing the arrangements he became angry and said do what you want… so I did … when it became time to go to diner he told me im not going ! I waited patiently saying nothing last minute he got dressed . He was unhappy

  11. Jim says:

    Sometimes it’s not easy to avoid snagging a piece of eye candy. A lot of women put it out there and it can be like a magnet for the eyes.

    But guys, remember this, when that chick is laying it out for you and even giving you flirty little looks in the presence of your girlfriend/wife it is not about you, at all. The protagonist of the episode is really telling your wife that “I can make your husband pay more attention to me than to you”. Maybe she’s even conveying more than that to her.

    It’s really between the two women. You are just the pawn on the chessboard. So, let your eyes go where you want them to but don’t be fooled.

  12. Brian says:

    I’m a guy and I disagree with most of this article. It’s not the girls fault if guy has a wandering eye I agree with that, but it’s NOT the guy’s fault either. and he shouldn’t be given ultimatums or games to stop that behaviour. It’s human nature. Every guy should do it and every girl should do it. Can we control it? Yes. Should we? I don’t think so. Not as a way of disrespect to girls or to hurt their feelings and make them insecure. But because it’s more disrespectufl to suppress the ogling then it is to do it. I suggest guys to look at other girls and tell their girlfriends what they find attractive about them and I suggest girls to express if they are offended rather than playing games and I suggest girls say “fuck you” and show their anger rather than looking at other guys as revenge. Passive aggressive behaviour stems from insecurities and weak minded people. Sorry but all I see in this article is “I’m a sensitive girl how do I control my man’s natural desires instead of learning to unconditionally love him and accept him as he is”

  13. NyMami says:

    I want to start by saying that I love my husband. He is usually very loving and affectionate, but every time we go out and I mean every time, he stares at other women! To top it off these girls usually have nothing on me! Oh! And its so noticeable that most of the the girls are looking at me like they feel bad for me! I’ve tried telling him that they’re not looking at him because they think he’s hot but more to feel like they could get over on me and he claims he understands that he’ll stop but he just won’t stop! I’m so sick of this I’m not sure what to do. I’d hate for our daughters to have to grow up without their father but I just don’t think I can take it anymore. Just last night we went out and he’s staring at a chick that knows me and doesn’t like me but he doesn’t know her so all he sees is another girl. At the same time i counted at least 15 men some his boys staring at me and he’so so busy trying to get the girls attention that he failed to see it! It soooo emberasing! Now she feels like she’s better than me and she’s not! Im beautiful Latina woman! Tall nice body hair like kim k! I even have a little beauty mark right above my lip that other chick’s wish they had! Are you serious! Im the type of woman other men and women stare at! I have never cheated I make most of the money and I stay trying to better myself! So it pisses me off and it makes me feel like shit every time he does it! I have spoken to him about it and he either blows me off or acts like I’m crazy. I’ve even caught him looking at my friends and because of him I stopped hanging out with them. We’ve been married for 3 years but have been together for 12. It’s hard to walk away but I’m still young and I still got it goin on if I do say so myself. I would really like to save our marriage but I’m not sure If I’m ready to spend my entire life feeling this way. I’d rather be alone!

  14. tahjah says:


    My husband was the same way and I’d describe myself as you. It wasn’t long until he cheated and I’m divorcing him. Sometimes men and women are so insecure with themselves they feel the need to do this. Either to compensate for their shortcomings and to feed their ego or and to make your confidence low because you’re so hot. Maybe they feel they don’t deserve you, being good to them and beautiful, knowing any man would see you in public and want you. So, the ogle at other women. Sometimes its innocent, but most times its downright disrespectful! Turns out my husband is an insecure little boy who was afraid of losing me, too late divorce papers were filed today!! Am I happy yea! I’ve never got so much attention since before saying I do!

  15. Paul says:

    My girlfriend lets me stare.

  16. Jesus says:

    You should Always give him a few chances and and then turn the table on him, it’s your best bet! It’s unnatural for anyone to feel attraction based on appearearence towards another, especially of another gender (that would be gay)! That is most certainly not what thousands of years of biology have taught us! Go wreck them feminist, by doing so you’ll most definitively show youre on the right side and deserve equal pay and compensation! This is the way to do it! Not that things arnt increasing for you naturally and progressively over the decades, but by you claiming there is a glass ceiling you are only supporting it with your backbone! Lift up the patriarchy! Arbeit macht frei! Lol, really?

  17. Ashley says:

    He won’t even admit he sees them. When he’s clearly looking…just almost hit an old lady in the parking lot as he was staring at a set of legs in the opposite direction. Help me please, this is my husband and these pointless lies won’t stop. Why?!

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