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21 Flirty Ways to Get Out of the Friend Zone with a Guy & Make Him Yours

When you are crushing on a guy, you need to know how to get out of the friend. Here are some guidelines you can follow to become his next girlfriend.

how to get out of the friend zone with a guy

The most frustrating thing about being with someone new is that dreaded friend zone. You think you do everything right only to be referred to as his “friend.” Well, not anymore. Knowing how to get out of the friend zone with a guy may even help prevent you from ever being there in the first place.

Sometimes it takes a while for a guy to realize he’s into a girl romantically. This is typically true if the girl is very much like “one of the guys.” He’ll friend zone her immediately and then she has to figure out how to get out.

Romantic feelings take time to develop

Romantic attraction and sexual tension usually spark when you first meet, other times, it takes a long time. When it comes to knowing how to get out of the friend zone with a guy, you first have to understand why he put you there.

Many guys think that if there isn’t an initial “spark” then they shouldn’t think of a girl in a romantic way. They put her aside in their mind as a friend and then have a hard time seeing her in a different light.

A guy will also friend zone a girl if he’s known her for a very long time. Those feelings are just hidden. Your job is to bring them out. [Read: Mutual sexual tension – 44 signs, causes and secrets to make him desire you]

How to get out of the friend zone with a guy

Getting out of the friend zone with anyone is difficult. A guy’s friend zone is no exception. And that means you’ll have to put in a little work if you really want to make him yours.

Don’t worry, though. We have everything you’ll need to get out of the friend zone with a guy in no time. As long as you follow these tips and are sure he’s the one for you, you’ll get out.

1. Stop talking to him about other girls

Don’t be the person he goes to in order to get advice about other girls he likes. He’ll never see you as one of those girls otherwise. That’s why you have to stop discussing his love life with him.

When he goes to you in order to talk about other girls, you know for sure he isn’t thinking of you in that way. So just ignore him when he tries to talk about those things. [Read: How to talk to a guy – 34 secrets to sweet talk him and make him think of you as more than a friend]

2. Look incredible

This may seem shallow, but it’s only because men are very visual creatures. While women tend to connect emotionally with people, men connect physically first.

That means if you look amazing and sexy to him, he’ll start thinking of you in that way. Many women just dress comfortably and wonder why their friends won’t see them as more. Look good and you’ll notice a shift in his behavior.

3. Increase your flirtatious comments

You can’t expect someone to think of you as anything more than a friend if you don’t flirt with them. Flirting is basically the one thing that can make a guy see you as more than a friend.

So, flirt with him! It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends. If you get flirty with him, it’ll get the wheel spinning in his head.

He’ll realize that you’re someone he could flirt with and be intimate with. You’ll know it’s working when he flirts back. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and really sexy flirting tips for girls]

4. Spend time alone with him

When you’re always in a group, it can be hard to get his attention. In order to get out of the friend zone with a guy, you need to be alone with him. That will make it a lot easier for him to feel the sexual tension and the connection.

It’ll also make it much easier for him to loosen up and accept your advances. So plan some time with just the two of you or even trick him into it if you have to. Make him realize that being alone with you is great.

5. Ooze confidence

Confidence is sexy. Anyone who has a lot of it automatically becomes more desirable. If you’re not someone who’s naturally confident, fake it until you make it. It’s definitely possible!

Walk into his place like you’re the best thing in there – because you are. Make him realize what a catch you are and he’ll be all over you. If you have confidence in yourself, he’ll have confidence in the idea of being with you. [Read: How to look and feel sexy without ever trying too hard]

6. Talk about how “if” you had a boyfriend

This is a great way to make a guy visualize you as a girlfriend. When you talk about the things you would do if you had a boyfriend, it’ll make him visualize if you were his.

Saying things like, “Man, if I had a boyfriend I would totally make him breakfast in the morning,” will go a long way in making him think of you in that way. He’ll want to be that boyfriend. He’ll want that breakfast in the morning. [Read: 15 sneaky and creative ways to make a guy want to ask you out]

7. Initiate physical contact

Physical contact is something that bonds people. If you’ve never so much as touched his arm, there won’t be a connection.

So the next time he says something funny, just lightly shove him. You can even just touch his back while you’re moving past him. Little touches can ignite something big in him. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious]

8. Date other people

This may sound counterproductive but think of it as showing him what could be his. Date other guys and you might just see him get jealous.

While jealousy usually isn’t the best way to go about things, it is effective. When he sees you with someone else, it may awaken his feeling for you.

So don’t only have eyes for him and forget about everyone else. Show him that you’re not going to be around him forever. He’ll find you more desirable if someone else has you. [Read: How to make a guy jealous – 30 wicked ways to win his attention]

9. Be sexual

This doesn’t mean you have to drop your panties for him. Really, all this means is that you have to start making him think of you as someone he could have sex with.

Make funny sex jokes. Say something when you think a certain phrase sounds dirty. Be sexy and build sexual tension.

If he starts thinking in a sexual way around you, those thoughts will start to become of you. And that’s a great way for a guy not to think of you as just a friend. So don’t hold back! Let your sexy side out. Don’t be afraid of your sexuality. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a guy who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

10. Tell him how you feel

When all else fails, just open up and tell him how you feel. Don’t be shy or embarrassed. He’s a great guy – that’s why you like him! Just tell him that and say that you’re into him.

Some guys are clueless and just won’t pick up on other clues. It’s also known that many men like girls who like them. People are like this in general.

So if he knows you like him in a romantic way, it could get you out of the friend zone. Knowing that you see him romantically can help him see you in the same light.

11. Learn his standards

If you know the kind of girl he typically likes, study them and try to be more like that. Now, we’re not suggesting turning yourself into a completely different person just to please him. That’s not healthy for you.

But if he likes girls who read books or work out, then those would be positive changes even for yourself. [Read: What do guys like about girls – 30 things men love and absolutely hate]

12. Don’t be too available

Of course, you want to be free to hang out with him as much as you can. But when you do that, it shows that you are doing that. Do you understand?

If he knows you’re always free to see him, then that makes you less desirable. But if you tell him that you have other things going on and can’t hang out all the time, you will become more attractive to him. [Read: How to make a guy chase you – 20 subtle ways to make him fall hard]

13. Have options

Sure, you really like the guy a lot. And it’s normal for girls to even get obsessed with him to the point that you rule out all other options.

And options can be a lot of different things – from other guys to hanging out with your friends or spending time with your family. Have a full life so there are other options for you, not just him.

14. Try to bring out his hero instinct

Guys like to be the hero to girls. It plays into their male instinct. So, if you need something heavy moved or tell him that someone is picking on you, he will probably step up to help you.

When he does that, he might see you as more of a romantic partner instead of just a friend. [Read: Damsel in distress – why men find women who ask for help irresistible]

15. Be the best version of yourself

This is something you should be doing already. But if you really want to know how to get out of the friend zone with a guy, then you will have to be the best you possible. Get healthy, lose weight if you need to, read books, and focus on self-improvement.

When you are doing that, not only do you increase your chances of a romantic relationship with him, you are doing good things for yourself, which is even more important.

16. Love yourself

As you are working on being the best version of yourself, you will also love yourself more. You see, when you love yourself, it will show. It says that you are special, and he will notice that himself.

Guys like girls who are confident – not stuck up – just someone who genuinely likes herself and her own company.

17. Have patience

Getting out of the friend zone won’t happen overnight. It is a process, so don’t try to rush things. Instead, have patience and know that everything works out the way it’s supposed to.

It will happen if it’s meant to happen. If it doesn’t, then know that it just means that there is someone better for you out there. [Read: How to get out of the friend zone through texts one text at a time]

18. Body language

Body language is so important. For every message someone sends, the nonverbal part of it is responsible for 90% of its meaning.

So, have a lot of eye contact, and sit close to him. Touch his arm or leg once in a while. Those types of body language signs will definitely give him the hint that you are flirting with him and interested in getting out of the friend zone.

19. Don’t be needy

Some girls think that in order to get a guy’s attention, then they need to be at the forefront of their minds all the time. But when you appear like you are chasing him with your needy behavior, that will turn him off.

Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. So, sometimes less is better than more. [Read: How to stop being needy why people become clingy and how to fix it]

20. Compliment him

Everyone likes it when they get compliments from other people. But there’s a difference between saying “I like your new shoes” and “Your eyes are so beautiful and your arms are so muscular.” The latter lets him know that you’re noticing his body.

You can even say things like, “If I had a boyfriend, I would want him to have the same kind of sense of humor as you do.” He will get the hint eventually.

21. Cook for him

As the saying goes, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” All guys like a good meal. You don’t even have to be a good cook because it’s the gesture that counts.

And having dinner together makes it seem more like a date than just two friends going through a fast-food drive-thru.

 [Read: How to get a guy t hang out and make him want you even if you’re a shy girl]

When you really like someone, being in the friend zone can be painful. That’s why knowing how to get out of the friend zone with a guy is essential for your love life.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...