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45 Secrets to Get a Boyfriend & Tips to Find the Perfect Man of Your Dreams

If you want to know how to get a boyfriend, look no further. It’s not easy finding a great boyfriend, but with these tips, you’ll learn what you need to find the perfect match for you!

how to get a boyfriend you want

If you’re wondering how to get a boyfriend, well, it’s easy as pie. You can find any half-decent guy on the street and start dating him. But that’s not what you want. You want your own prince charming, your perfect match, your soulmate.

But getting that perfect guy you desire, the one you’ve been envisioning your whole life, now that’s the hard part. But it’s not impossible.

Good boyfriends are a rare breed these days. With social media, dating apps, and a million other ways to meet new guys, you’d assume things should be way easier. But surprisingly, it really isn’t anymore.

A couple of decades ago, the only people who went looking for boyfriends were kids and preteens. 

But now, you could be a teenager, a hottie in your 20s, 30, or 40s, or even later, and you could be contemplating the same question – how to get a boyfriend! [Read: How to attract men in a way they just won’t be able to resist!]

Why do you want a boyfriend?

Before we help you start the journey out of your single girl rut, let’s take a little detour. Before getting a boyfriend, you should know why you want a boyfriend. 

This may seem obvious. Duh, so you’re not alone. But, honestly, that isn’t a good reason. Not wanting to be alone doesn’t mean you’re ready for a relationship. It means you are willing to settle.

You may want to beat the loneliness, but it is much better to be single than to be with the wrong person. That intense fear or even dislike of being alone can push you right into the arms of the exact wrong person. [Read: Why am I single? The honest truth, and 36 excuses and reasons we use]

Wanting a boyfriend should come from a place of confidence. You know what you’re worth and what you deserve. You’re happy and fulfilled for the most part but want to share your life with someone that feels right. 

Not knowing what you deserve leads you to date someone just for the sake of dating them, and that never turns out well. 

Why is it so hard to find a great guy these days?

As with anything else in life, you really need to understand why you’re experiencing this problem before you go looking to solve it. [Read: Unlucky in love? How to turn things around and get lucky instead]

Now hold on, before we go any further, we don’t mean YOU are the problem! 

But we do need to understand what’s wrong with the world of men, and why YOU aren’t finding the guy who’s right for you.

For a long time, making a move on the opposite gender has been the domain of men. Gentlemen have asked ladies out to dance, men have asked women out on dates, and guys have approached girls at bars to hit them. [Read: 64 best places to meet men and ways to find your perfect, attractive, eligible guy]

But slowly and gradually, and thankfully, the playing field has finally opened up to both genders.

So now, it isn’t just about waiting for the perfect guy to find you and approach you while you sit bored in a corner of a ballroom. You need to get out there and make your own moves too! 

And if you don’t send out the right signals by making a move, another girl will do that, and in all probability, snag a great guy away from you before you bat your eyelashes at him. [Read: Chivalry is dead – what it means, the types of men, and why chivalry matters]

First, believe this – you don’t need a man to complete you

It’s the honest truth, a man cannot complete you. He cannot give you the life you’re dreaming of. He can’t answer your prayers. 

Nor can he bring all your fantasies to life – be it exotic vacations, or designer bags to flaunt on Instagram. 

Finding a boyfriend is about finding a partner to share your life with, not someone who’ll bring the world to your feet. [Read: Why do I crave male attention? The need to be desired and your mind]

If you’re looking for someone like that, you’re better off looking for a lamp to rub and a genie to pop. Of course, there are many girls who look specifically for guys who’ll make their lives easier. 

But unless you’re a gold digger with a single agenda in mind, look for a guy who’ll treat you with respect, not someone who pays you to have sex with him. [Read: How guys spot gold diggers and avoid them like the plague]

Are you truly ready to commit?

Dating multiple guys is very different from looking for a serious boyfriend. So, before you go looking for one, make sure you’re actually ready to commit and prepared to “settle down” with one guy. 

Do you have what it takes to commit to a serious relationship? [Read: 16 signs you’re not ready for a serious relationship with a guy]

If you’re not ready yet, enjoy dating multiple guys, swipe left and right, and just enjoy the game of dating and casual sex for a while. 

Jumping into love when you’re not ready will just hurt you and the guy you date, and leave you with a bitter taste in your mouth. [Read: How to enjoy being single and live the life you really want]

What are you looking for in an ideal boyfriend?

Let’s be honest. What do you expect an ideal boyfriend to be? You could have a long checklist of requirements, and that’s a great way forward!

But now you need to ask yourself what you bring to the table yourself. Of course, you don’t need the exact same traits you’re looking for. [Read: 25 signs and qualities that make a really good boyfriend]

You’re looking for a partner, not a twin. But you need to remember that the guy you’re looking for also has his own set of checklists he’d like to tick off too. 

So, if you want a great guy, be prepared to be a really great girl yourself. [Read: 19 easy ways to be a great girlfriend for a guy]

How to be the irresistible girl all guys desire

You may have found the perfect guy in the world, and you may be wondering how to tell him you like him. Or perhaps, you may be completely clueless and waiting for a really nice guy to approach you and ask you out.

Either way, if you’re interested in knowing how to get a boyfriend, you need to know how to become irresistible to guys in the first place. Be the girl who’s irreplaceable by other girls, and you’ll be the girl all guys would dream of dating.

So what catches a guy’s eye and makes a girl stand apart from all other girls? We have lots of features to help you there, but you could start with this one – 13 things about a girl that always catches every guy’s eye!

Here are a few other things that can change the way guys see you, and make you irresistible:

1. A great personality

You wouldn’t like a guy who doesn’t have a great personality. So why would a great guy like you if you don’t have one either? 

Now if you really want to know how to get a boyfriend who’s fancied by all girls and admired by all guys, you need to build yourself a personality. [Read: 26 social mind-tricks to be more outgoing, friendly, and talkative instantly]

You need to be cheerful and nice, but at the same time, you need to create an aura of confidence around yourself. 

Don’t be the best friend who’s slaving over other girls, don’t be the clown, and don’t be someone who can be pushed around easily by everyone.

You need to be confident and carry yourself with grace and panache. Be likable and friendly, and yet, be someone who’s taken seriously. [Read: How to get guys to notice you and fall for you instantly]

2. Appear unavailable even if you’re single

Honestly, single doesn’t ever have to mean available! You could be single and living your life.

A little secret you need to remember; no guy desires a girl who’s easily available. Play hard to get. Talk to guys but keep them at a distance. Don’t be a pushover and don’t let anyone take you for granted.

Never run errands for guys. Learn to be unpredictable and, at times, even fussy and moody, when you’re talking to guys. [Read: The ultimate guide to being more feminine and girly]

As much as guys say they want a girl who can get along “like one of the guys,” they still want a fussy princess. Honest! 

There’s something about a girl’s feminine moodiness and unpredictability that makes a guy want to pull his hair out, and yet, fall harder for her!

You know the rules of playing hard to get, so play them and play them well. Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and make it work for you]

But remember, playing hard to get should completely stop the minute you go from flirting to dating a guy with serious potential.

3. Look your best! 

Now good looks are an added advantage if you want to know how to get a boyfriend. 

But the real key to getting a great boyfriend is not good looks, but knowing how to look good. [Read: How to look fabulous and appealing when you’re trying to get attention]

Most glamorous celebrities and models don’t really have the prettiest faces or bodies, but it’s the way they carry themselves and groom themselves that makes them look so stunning and desirable.

Stop focusing on your flaws and pay attention to what’s good about you. And accentuate that. 

And before you know it, you can dazzle any guy with your poise, confidence, and the way you carry yourself. [Read: How to look pretty and sweet and catch any guy’s eye]

4. Try to get active on social media

Look, we live in a digital age. We’re constantly bombarded with other people’s photos and videos. And, unfortunately, we’ve reached the point where being out of sight is being out of mind. It sucks, but it’s true!

To avoid falling behind, get active on social media, and post updates regularly. However, this tip will help you in more than one way. Not only will cute potential boyfriends see your social media profiles and drool, but staying active on social media forces you to have more fun in life and get out there. It’s a double win!

Remember, with all of these changes we’re talking about, you need to do it for yourself so you can become a better, more fun, and more adventurous version of yourself. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention on Instagram without using your body]

Not with the sole intention of winning guys over!

5. Be positive and optimistic

The world is bad enough already, without having to date some sad and gloomy person who walks around with rain clouds hanging over their head.

To attract good men, enjoy every moment and try to look at the world with optimism instead of mild boredom. Of course, that’s if you are interested in dating a guy who comes into the relationship with a ball of energy, fire, and optimism himself.

After all, you get what you give. [Read: How to be more positive and increase the quality of your life]

And if you want a great guy who’s always happy and charming, and optimism shines out of his rear end, you’ve got to bring something to the relationship as well.

You want a boyfriend – Here’s how to go about it the right way

Feeling lonely without someone to love is natural. After all, we’re humans. We like to belong to someone as someone also belongs to us. We long to love and be loved in return. 

But that doesn’t mean you should just want a boyfriend. You should want the right boyfriend. So, if you feel like it’s now time to snag yourself your Mr. Right, here’s a list of tips on how to do it. [Read: How to get a boyfriend in college without losing your mind and freedom]

1. Be sure

We already talked about this, but your reason for wanting a boyfriend is important. 

Are you sick of being the only single girl in your friend group? Are you lonely? 

Wanting a relationship is all fine and well, but putting in all that effort only to realize you’re not ready truly sucks. [Read: Is it better to be single or in a relationship?]

Are you ready to let go of some of your free time? And are you willing to compromise? Are you ready to trust someone with your heart? If not, don’t waste some poor guy’s time by leading him on.

2. Enjoy being single

Sometimes, the loneliness of being single can be enough to make you want a boyfriend. But, if you can enjoy being single, you’re actually more likely to get a boyfriend. 

That doesn’t mean that you should fake a smile just to seem like you enjoy being single. Instead, you should really take the time to enjoy your alone time or time with friends and family. [Read: 42 secrets to being happy with being single and lessons singledom can teach]

Cherish that time. Sure, when you find the right guy, you will love being with him, but being single has its upsides too. 

3. Know your worth

When you want a boyfriend simply to fill a void you feel, you will be desperate. You will focus more on if a guy likes you than if you like him. You will worry so much about this that you won’t even take the time to get to know him. 

When you do this, you lead yourself into a bad situation. You let yourself be defined by his feelings for you when you may not even like him very much. [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]

Don’t let having a boyfriend or not having one be your measure of confidence. 

Know that you are worth someone’s time and effort. Realize you deserve a guy who likes you just as much as you like him.

You should never be someone’s second choice. If you’re talking to a guy who never calls, barely texts, and refuses to label things, stop. You deserve more. [Read: Ways you can learn to respect yourself]

4. Know what you want

Think about what you want in a boyfriend. You may be thinking tall, dark, and handsome, but that is not what we mean.

Do you want to date someone who is down to travel spontaneously with you? Or are you looking for someone who is a homebody and loves board games and Netflix?

Do you like outgoing guys? Shy guys? Tall guys? Intellectual guys? [Read: 47 good and bad types of guys in the dating world and secrets to read them]

Do you want a guy who shares your religious beliefs, your political views, or values? 

This shouldn’t be a checklist but a rough outline so you know your dealbreakers. [Read: Avoid them like the plague: 16 types of guys not to date]

5. Meet people

Get out there. If you want a boyfriend, you will not find him while sitting on your couch. You have to be willing to widen your horizons. Try a dating app. Ask your friends to set you up or invite you to hang out with a new crowd. [Read: How to make new friends as an adult – 15 ways to do it right]

You’ll never meet a boyfriend if you don’t take some chances. You don’t need to do anything crazy, you just have to be willing to socialize.

6. Try new things

Yes, you could meet someone at a bar. But odds are you’ll meet your future partner at work, through friends, or online. [Read: Fun things to do with your best friend to create lasting memories]

These are certain places where you have a higher likelihood of meeting someone you will really connect with, not drunkenly make out with. 

For instance, you might meet your partner in an Italian or dance class. You need to be willing to take some chances and try new things, even if you might not meet the one. 

Doing this introduces you to tons of people that could introduce you to your future boyfriend. It is also just great to get out there. [Read: 18 things you do that make guys think you’re an easy lay]

7. Be open

You cannot go into every date or dating app conversation with “I want a boyfriend” on the brain. This will mess with your head and make dating feel impossible. You need to be open to new experiences, no matter where they lead. 

So you went on a date, and you didn’t click, so what? You went on a few dates but didn’t see him as more than a friend? 

Big deal. You might go on 5 dates before you are confident in your feelings. And you might date for months before you talk about being a couple. [Read: Teeny-tiny changes that will improve your love life]

Yes, you want a boyfriend eventually, but if you push the subject or worry too much about when that time might come, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy the time you share with someone. 

You will be more focused on him asking you out officially than you are on getting to know him. Being open to all the possibilities will lead you to a happy relationship.

8. Be confident

Now, if you want someone to notice you, go out there with confidence. Sure, this doesn’t come easily to shy or introverted people, but you can do it. You don’t need to force yourself to be outgoing or loud. [Read: How to build self-esteem and love life with these simple life changes]

Being confident doesn’t mean changing who you are. It means knowing who you are and owning it. Don’t be ashamed of being shy or quiet. Own that and let it guide you. 

9. Slow down

Don’t just approach anyone thinking they could be your boyfriend right away. Whether he’s a complete stranger or an acquaintance, you have to be open to getting to know them before pressuring them and yourself with a label.

You might crave the day someone will officially ask you to be their girlfriend. In your mind, once that question was asked and answered, you think that you will finally be able to breathe. [Read: Why you should slow down even if you’re falling in love fast]

You won’t be so nervous around them anymore. And then you think that you finally have what you want. 

But the thing is, the ride is half the fun. Getting to that point, getting to know someone, and having them get to know you, is what makes you comfortable, not the label.

10. Have fun

Be yourself and enjoy it. Dating should not be a mission. You shouldn’t go on a date with an end goal. You can have hope that things will be great, but just try to enjoy it. [Read: 18 ways to have high self-esteem and start winning at life]

Even if you don’t meet Mr. Right, you could make a great friend. And, if your date is a disaster, you now have a great story to tell. 

Try to enjoy the process of getting a boyfriend, not just the result.

11. Be kind

Don’t discriminate against the people that you meet. Even if you go on a date and find the person to have an overwhelming odor, be polite. [Read: How to be kind to yourself and others and love life instead of hating it]

Being warm and friendly to everyone will help you emit an understanding persona. You never know where you’ll meet your potential boyfriend, so being respectful to everyone, even the wrong guys, is important.

Don’t ghost people. If you have to reject someone, be kind. People are more drawn to genuinely nice and approachable people.

12. Learn to flirt

Whether you’ve had a boyfriend or not, flirting is a necessity when it comes to finding one. Everyone’s flirting style is different, but being able to show your interest without being overtly obvious is key. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious, and overly sexy flirting tips for girls]

Maybe you go in with a little teasing. Perhaps sarcasm is more your style. Or maybe you just offer some compliments. 

If you really don’t know how to flirt, you can’t go wrong with just smiling, laughing, making eye contact, and maybe touching the guy playfully once in a while.

Guys are not that great at picking up on signals that a girl likes them, so you might have to flirt so that they can get the hint. [Read: How to flirt with your eyes and grab anyone’s attention in the room]

13. Make sure you like him

So, you’re chatting with someone and hoping it works out. That’s great, but actually get to know him. [Read: Do I like him? Easy questions to reveal the answer in a minute]

Just because he gets you excited now doesn’t mean he’s right for you. There are many guys who will seem to like you when, in reality, they might be pretty awful.

When you want a boyfriend, you can overlook a lot. Instead of worrying about if he likes you or if you’ll be official in a month, take your time getting to know him. 

Find out if his actions match his words. Does he leave you on read? Does he take over 24 hours to text back? Is he sketchy about his past? [Read: 15 signs of disrespect in a relationship that reveal a lack of love]

Pay attention and keep your eyes open.

14. Be patient

So, you know you want a boyfriend, but don’t expect it to happen overnight. If it does, it won’t last. Knowing you want a boyfriend, going for it, and it actually happening is a process. 

You don’t need to rush it or date 6 guys in one week hoping to meet one that likes you enough to ask you out. Only one guy needs to be the right one. [Read: Do you have the patience for dating?]

You don’t need each person you meet to be the one. Get to know people. Learn that anything worth having takes both time and effort.

15. Watch out for red flags

The number of red flags that a lot of single women don’t see when they are on the hunt for a boyfriend is astonishing. You might overlook misogynistic language or love-bombing behavior. There might be so many things that make you feel weird, but you ignore them because you so badly want him to put a label on things.

You might even have a guy say that he’s ready to meet your family and settle down after three dates. You might not be able to pinpoint why it feels wrong, but it does. [Read: The first date red flags that reveal a lot more than your date says]

Try not to twist those red flags into light pink ones that seem like little things you can overlook. Be honest. 

Talk to your friends about the guy you’re talking to and take their advice. Sometimes, they can see things more clearly than you.

16. Learn something

Try to learn something from every experience. If you went on a date and you never heard from him again, instead of feeling awful and rejected, reflect. [Read: 51 warning signs of a bad first date and BIG red flags in the first few dates]

Did you really enjoy the date that much, or was it mediocre? Were you convincing yourself things went great because you wanted them to?

17. Be comfortable

Always put your safety and comfort first. If a guy is making you feel uneasy, don’t worry about turning him off or being rude. 

Your comfort is the priority. If a guy insists on picking you up at your house, insist on meeting in public. If he won’t meet you in public, don’t meet him. [Read: Why women want to meet in public]

You deserve to feel safe at every stage of dating. If at any point you don’t, do not push it. 

Yes, you can go outside your comfort zone, but not if you feel like outside of your comfort zone is dangerous.

18. Let go of expectations

This is a big issue for a lot of women when they want a boyfriend desperately. You might not even go on a date with someone unless he meets all of your criteria. [Read: Lower your expectations – best way to find love or complete BS?]

It might be because you don’t want to go through the nerves of a first date unless you can 100% see someone being your boyfriend. 

That will really mess with your head. You might even get so nervous that you cancel the dates. And you might let your need for a boyfriend prevent you from meeting some pretty decent guys. 

Sure, you might end up letting that go and then meet the right guy. But cutting yourself off from people just because your expectations stop you is so limiting. [Read: High expectations – why aiming high always leads to great results]

19. Take breaks

You do not need to keep dating. As fun as it can be, it is also exhausting both physically and emotionally. You do not need to keep going when you feel burnt out. 

Turn off dating app notifications for a while and recharge. This doesn’t mean you’re a failure or that you’re giving up. It means you are putting your mental health first. [Read: Reasons why taking a break from dating can help you find the one]

20. Keep your standards

Stay true to your standards. You don’t need to have a must-have list for your future boyfriend but stick to the things you feel strongly about. 

Let go of him having to be 6’4. He doesn’t have to make six figures either. Just look at your past and what you want in the future to help you decide these things. 

Compromise is important, but so are your standards. If you know you want to be with someone who shares your religious beliefs because it is important that you raise your children a certain way, hold onto that. [Read: Higher standards – why going low only leads to lousy relationships]

For example, you might need someone who has a similar lifestyle to yours. If you don’t drink, you don’t want to date someone who goes out to bars every night because that would never work. 

21. Prioritize yourself

You are not in a relationship yet. Try to remember that you come first. 

If someone wants to go on a date during your favorite show you look forward to all week, ask if they can do another night. Don’t cancel plans with friends to meet a guy. [Read: Why you should love yourself first]

Keep making yourself a priority. Not only will this lead to a healthier relationship, but it will remind you to love yourself. 

You deserve to put effort into yourself for yourself. You don’t need to have a partner to be worthy of self-love.

22. Stay busy

Try not to sit around swiping through dating apps. If you are talking to a guy you like, great, just don’t wait around to hear from him. [Read: 24 ways to be a strong independent woman all men love and desire]

Stay busy. Keep making plans with friends. Follow up on household projects. Go on that trip. 

Do not put your life on hold so you can find a boyfriend. If you do find one, he will become your everything and that isn’t healthy for anyone. Keeping your life as full as always means that your boyfriend will add to it, not become it.

23. Be honest

Be honest with yourself and anyone you’re dating. If you don’t like someone, don’t force it. If you do like them, you don’t need to smother them, but let them know you’re interested. [Read: 16 honest ways to respond when a guy says he likes you and not hurt him]

Relationships won’t work if you hold back your feelings or force them. When you’re honest with yourself and others, they’re more likely to do the same.

24. Send out the right signals

Are you ready to date someone? Don’t hide that thought. If a friend wants to set you up on a date? Go for it *if you trust your friend, that is!*.

You don’t have to shout out your single status from the rooftops, but be open to meeting people. And let people around you know that you’re open to meeting great guys too. [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without even flirting at all]

25. Be approachable

It’s easy to sit down at a coffee shop with your face hidden behind your phone screen. But make yourself more approachable to the right kind of guys by putting your phone away and observing your surroundings.

Keep your body language open and inviting, not closed and crossed over yourself, to tell the right guy in the room that it’s okay to approach you. [Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable to guys]

26. Don’t be an attention whore

There’s a thin line between being approachable, and being too needy. Don’t cross that line. 

While an occasional thirst trap on social media is interesting, a girl who’s constantly fishing for compliments, batting her eyelids at every guy on the street, flailing her hair about like she’s possessed, or behaving like a full-blown diva is a huge turn off to almost every guy. [Read: Wily traits of an attention seeking woman you need to avoid]

27. Don’t run after men who aren’t showing interest

Yes, you want the perfect boyfriend. And you’re sending out all the right signals. But if a guy you like isn’t reciprocating, don’t pursue him. If he likes you, he’ll make a move.

Maybe he likes someone else, maybe he’s already in a relationship, or maybe he thinks you’re not his “type” of girl. It doesn’t matter. 

Just don’t pursue someone who isn’t showing any signs of interest in you. It’s a total waste of your precious time, and not to mention, it makes you look pathetic. [Read: 20 reasons why a guy loses interest in a girl when she’s too eager]

28. Don’t tolerate men who flake or expect you to just go with the flow

You know your worth, so respect yourself. Don’t go on several dates with a guy hoping he’ll fall for you soon when he makes it clear that he has no intention of having a serious relationship with you.

If you want to know how to find a boyfriend who’s perfect for you, only date guys who respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

29. Get online

Aren’t you on dating sites already? Joining a dating site may have been awkward and desperate a couple of decades ago. But now everyone’s online! Just dip your feet into it and see how it goes. Really, what have you got to lose? [Read: 15 online dating tips for women to super-boost your dating game]

30. Travel alone

Not everyone likes traveling alone, but if you’re the kind of person who thinks it would be fun, then you should try it. When you travel, you can meet all kinds of different people from all over the world. [Read: The biggest myths of traveling alone – my personal experiences]

While it might be fun to find a boyfriend in a different country, you might want to stick closer to home. That is unless both of you are wealthy or don’t mind a long-distance relationship.

But seriously, when you’re on the road alone, it forces you to get out of your comfort zone and talk to people. Plus, it will be a good story to tell, even if you don’t find a boyfriend.

31. Try blind dates

Sure, this is so old-fashioned. But how do you think people met their significant others before the internet and dating apps? They actually met people in person, in real life. [Read: Blind dating tips for a happy blind date]

And one of the more popular ways to do it was to go on blind dates. Why leave it to fate and hope that you meet someone somewhere random when you can have friends and family set you up?

The good thing about the technological age is that you can snoop around and see what they look like before the “blind” date. You couldn’t do that decades ago! 

Your family and friends know you well, so they might be able to find you a great match. [Read: 42 flirty first date tips to leave a guy smitten and wanting more]

32. Join groups

If you don’t like dating apps or the idea of a blind date, then you can also meet people in a more organic way by joining groups. You can try Meetup.com and search for any kind of group under the sun.

For example, if you like running, then join a running group. If you like partying, then join a single’s group that goes to nightclubs. 

Try joining a few different groups that cater to your own interests. That way, you are more likely to find a like-minded boyfriend who is a good match for you. [Read: Have no social life – 15 ways to get yourself the friends you want]

33. Break free from the limits of your comfort zone

Many people are creatures of habit. They get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch some Netflix, and go to bed. Then repeat the same thing the next day. [Read: How to broaden your horizons and get out of your comfort zone for good]

And they might have the same places that they frequent and friends they hang out with. While there’s nothing wrong with this, it does kind of put you into a rut.

So, try to get out of your comfort zone. Try things that you wouldn’t normally do. Go places that you’ve never been to. You never know who you might meet.

34. Don’t date out of desperation

There are plenty of women who stay in bad relationships simply because they fear being single. But that is a terrible reason to be with someone. And it’s a terrible reason to want to find a boyfriend too. [Read: 21 signs you’re tired of being single and getting desperate for love]

You should want a boyfriend so he can complement your already full, satisfying life. He should add to your life, not “complete you.”

Plus, guys can smell desperation a mile away. And it’s definitely a turn-off for them. They want a confident girl who loves herself, not one who will take any guy who shows her attention.

35. Consult reliable dating and relationship advice

Everyone can benefit from dating and relationship advice, and you’re off to a good start because you are reading this feature.

We have tons of other features that will give you endless advice about how to find a boyfriend. [Read: 40 rules and dating advice for women tired of bad dates and shitty men]

You can also try listening to podcasts, watching YouTube videos, or even hiring a dating coach or matchmaker. Professional advice will help guide you in the right direction to finding your dream boyfriend.

How to make the perfect boyfriend-potential pursue you

Now that you know what you need to do, what you shouldn’t put up with, and where to meet the perfect boyfriend for you, here are a few things you should never forget in your pursuit of the perfect boyfriend. [Read: How to let a guy know you’re interested without appearing overeager]

1. Let him know you’re interested

Do you like a guy? Then send out the right signals only to him. Look at him now and then, and let him notice that. Smile a bit, flutter your eyelashes, or tuck your hair behind your ears coyly.

But never overdo it and make yourself seem like you’re completely smitten by him already. Stare at the guy you like for a few seconds and ignore him for a while. 

Make him want you, make him work for you, but drop subtle hints that the chase would be worth it. [Read: Tired of chasing? How to make a guy want you instead]

2. Make him crave your attention

Let him crave your attention and make him come to you. The secret behind knowing how to get a boyfriend all girls desire is to draw him and confuse him, and never let him know he’s got the upper hand in the flirty game.

Never make it obvious by telling all your friends and giggling like he’s your school crush! Stare at him deeply now and then, then ignore him for a few days. 

You hold the reins in this game, and he’ll come running to you in no time. [Read: How to make a guy fall in love with you – 21 ways to charm him completely]

3. Learn to be sweet where it matters

Once you have his attention, make him come to you. Smile at him when you’re at the other end of the room, but ignore him when he’s close by. That would confuse him, and yet, make him crazy about you.

Don’t flirt with too many guys, assuming it would make him jealous. It could make him think you’re just seeking attention. 

You can be rude to any guy though, who tries misbehaving around you or tries to hit on you when the guy you like is around. [Read: 15 classy ways to make any guy go crazy over you]

Ignoring other guys who hit on you makes the guy you like want you even more!

And when he finally works up the courage to ask you out, be sweet with him. Make him feel special, and let him understand that he’s being treated nicely.

Don’t overdo it, but make him feel warm and fuzzy for having a conversation with you. And if he ever talks about you staring at him or smiling at him from across the hall, deny it outright and get fussy. [Read: Sneaky but powerful ways to get any guy to ask you out even if you liked him first]

Never let him know that you accept making the first move, at least until you guys start dating seriously. 

Always make it look like it was him and him alone who made all the moves to talk to you. That’s how you play fussy, sweet, and hard to get all at once!

4. Don’t put out too soon

Yes, this sounds sexist here. If a guy can sleep with a girl on the first date and it’s considered okay, why can’t a girl do that? [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]

Of course, you can! But here’s the catch – it’s not that you shouldn’t sleep with guys on first dates if you want to. But if you really want to find a potential long-term boyfriend, waiting for a few dates to pass before you decide to sleep with a man will help you to weed out the guys who only want you for sex from the guys who are genuinely looking for a life partner.

Just avoid sleeping with guys on the first few dates if you genuinely intend to date them and see them as boyfriend potentials.

5. Don’t ignore your own life in search of the right guy

This is important. Everything that you are, and all the reasons why the guy you like finds you interesting, is because of the life you’re leading. [Read: 34 VERY desirable traits men want, like, and find attractive in women]

In your pursuit of the perfect boyfriend, don’t throw everything aside so you can spend time with a guy. Lead your own life, and let a guy only be an addition to your already bustling life.

Where do you meet great guys?

The big question on a single girl’s mind! Where are all the good guys? Where is your dreamy future boyfriend hiding? Well, honestly, the odds of you meeting the perfect guy at a club are pretty slim.

Guys and girls go to clubs to have fun for the night, not to look for a partner for life. 

If you want to know the full list of perfect places where great guys are almost always available, use this list: The 33 best places to meet attractive, fun, and eligible men who would be perfect for you

Seriously, there are so many places full of really nice men, you just have to go there!

[Read: 20 signs you’re mentally prepared and ready for a relationship]

If you just follow these simple moves, not only will you know how to get a boyfriend, but you’ll also know how to attract the attention of any guy you like and make him fall really hard for you!

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...