When we think of flirting, often we imagine it between two people who haven’t coupled off yet. At the very least flirting only takes place at the beginning of a relationship, right? You flirt with someone to say you’re available and interested in them. That little hint of what’s to come, that gleam in your eye, those suggestive comments—they all stop when you actually bagged your man. But knowing how to flirt with your boyfriend is a way to keep the fun alive after the initial spark fades.
Often when we get comfortable with someone in a relationship, it’s easy to let it all hang out and let them see us warts and all! While it’s great to feel comfortable with your other half, and also important for your partner to really get to know you. But if you stop flirting altogether and expose too much, your relationship quickly takes a turn for the worse.
Think about it, what’s the main difference between being in a relationship and being just good friends? A relationship is attraction to someone, about great sex, as well as getting to know one another on a deep and intimate level.
Keeping things flirty instead of letting that side of things die means you always have this sense of attraction and playfulness between you, which keeps the spark alive, and, dare we say it, the sex more interesting *and frequent too*! [Read: Easy ways to be a good girlfriend to your boyfriend]
How to flirt with your boyfriend
If you succeed in keeping things flirtatious you likely have more fun, go on more dates, feel more connected, and generally experience a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.
Of course, this is all well and good, but if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it might be difficult to regain that flirtatious side back. At first, you might feel silly and awkward, but it is worth pursuing as the benefits of flirting with your boyfriend far outweigh feeling a little silly for the first few minutes that you try it.
If you look to inject some flirtatiousness back into your relationship, look no further! Here is a fantastic list of tips and advice on how to flirt with your boyfriend. So, next time you want to give it a try, use these 20 tips.
#1 Retain some mystery. It’s great when you get to that point where you can feel totally comfortable and yourself around a guy—we all want that. But there is a difference between feeling as though you can be yourself, and leaving the bathroom door open and continuing to talk to your boyfriend when on the toilet.
Try to retain a sense of mystery and dignity. Keep some things just for you. This helps keep that spark alive, and that flirtatiousness comes a lot easier to you too. [Read: 12 easy ways to keep intimacy alive in a relationship]
#2 Create a surprise for him. We are often told that only women love surprises, but men like them too. Plan an awesome surprise that you know he will just love, and this is sure to make him know how much you care and bring a little romance back into your lives.
#3 Try a suggestive text message. If you aren’t sure how to flirt with your boyfriend face to face why not give a flirty text message a go? Start off this way and see how he responds. You never know, it could build into full on sexting, and you’ll want to rip one another’s clothes off when you see each other again. [Read: A naughty guide for learning how to sext your boyfriend]
#4 Make him laugh. Flirting doesn’t always need to be suggestive, sexy, and demure. Flirting should be fun too. Making one another laugh really brings a flirty element back into a relationship, so make sure you do lots of fun, silly things together.
#5 Compliment him. Remember, guys like compliments too. Tell him he looks nice and let him know how attractive you find him. This boosts his confidence. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never ever forget]
#6 Linger when you give him a hug. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Next time you hug, stay a little longer than necessary. Press your body up against his, and he’ll soon get the message.
#7 Open a bottle. Going out for a couple of drinks or sharing a bottle of wine helps loosen both of you up. Soon you’ll find that flirting comes more naturally to you anyway.
#8 Go on proper dates. Make sure you make proper time for one another. It’s hard to flirt if you just spend your evenings together staring mindlessly at the TV. Going on an interesting date helps make flirting feel more natural.
#9 Give him your full attention. Make sure you pay attention to him and listen to what he is saying. [Read: 10 ways to be a better listener in your relationship]
#10 Subtly touch him. Sometimes the brush of your hand or pressing your legs up against one another in the movie theatre is all it takes to get the flirtation and sexual tension going.
#11 Whisper in his ear. Move in close and whisper something in his ear—an age old and simple flirting technique. It works every time.
#12 Be his biggest supporter. Remember flirting is about more than just batting your eyelashes. Show you support him and that you are his biggest cheerleader. Go to his gigs, come to his work do’s, talk about his passions—all this counts as flirting too.
#13 Maintain eye contact. Remember the lingering eye contact you used to give one another when you first started going out? Bring it back! [Read: 10 ways to build sexual tension through flirting]
#14 Have confidence. Confidence is sexy. If you want to flirt with your boyfriend do it with confidence and you are sure to pull it off.
#15 Pretend you are strangers. If you want to try something a little different why not meet up in a bar, but pretend you don’t know one another? Then, even if you haven’t flirted in a while, it won’t matter as you have never met before anyway!
#16 Do something new together. Sometimes, in order to bring the flirtatiousness back into your relationship you need to get out of the same tired old routine. Take up a new hobby, go on a city break—just get out there and liven things up. You’ll find the flirting soon follows.
#17 Seduce him. Of course, if you want to skip mild flirting and go straight in for the kill then why not put on a whole seduction routine? Go on, we dare you! [Read: 15 ways to seduce a man with your lips and leave him bewitched]
#18 Buy new lingerie. Make it obvious by buying some sexy new lingerie to take the flirting to a whole new level.
#19 Show him you appreciate him. Flirting is also about showing your partner how much they mean to you. So, make sure he knows he is appreciated. [Read: 16 ways to show your appreciation for someone you love]
#20 Play up to his masculinity. Let’s face it, most guys like to feel strong and powerful. Let him know what a sexy, strong man he is. He’s sure to love how it feels!
[Read: Sweet and easy ways to tell your boyfriend you love him]
There you have it, 20 simple, yet effective ways on how to flirt with your boyfriend. So, if you feel as though your relationship could do with being a bit more flirtatious, why not try the tips above?!
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