I used to be a firm believer in the fact that guys hated to cuddle. There was so much evidence to support that these rough and tough guys just didn’t like snuggling up under a blanket, even if it was with a girl.
After I went through my first couple of boyfriends, this belief completely disappeared. I actually learned that guys really do like to cuddle. They enjoy so many different things about it, and us girls certainly aren’t the only ones who love the feeling of being wrapped in someone else’s arms.
The benefits of cuddling
There are actually a lot of physical and psychological benefits that arise from cuddling with someone you care about. Your heart rate and blood pressure reduce, it helps you bond with your partner via the release of the “cuddle hormone” oxytocin, and it also helps to foster better communication between you and your significant other. Talk about the reasons to convince your man to cuddle up with you at night! [Read: How to increase intimacy in your relationship]
How to cuddle with a guy
A lot of guys are too caught up in their self-pride and the idea that they have to be “manly” that they’re afraid to show their soft sides. So trying to cuddle a guy with a mindset like this can be more than a little difficult.
Luckily for you, we have a solution for this very problem. We’ve uncovered what it takes to get a guy to cuddle with you and actually enjoy it. Here is your complete guide on how to cuddle with a guy.
#1 Don’t ever call it cuddling. Or snuggling, for that matter. The second you start talking about cuddling or getting all snuggled up with him is the same moment he will get a little freaked out. Some guys don’t mind the word “cuddling,” but others get really nervous when hearing it.
I suggest leaving these words out completely when talking about snuggling up with a guy. Instead, you can ask him to come relax with you, sit with you, or really anything else that alludes to sitting closely together.
#2 Never pressure him into it. Pressuring a guy into cuddling with you is a huge mistake for a lot of reasons. By pressuring him into it, you’re basically forcing him to do something that he doesn’t want to. Even if he ends up liking cuddling, if you pressure him into it, he won’t be into it, purely for the fact that it was forced upon him.
You have to let a guy cuddle you on his own terms. So never get angry if he doesn’t immediately want to be cuddly and affectionate. Just be patient. [Read: 14 signs you’re ruining your first date unknowingly]
#3 Start by positioning yourself next to him. The first step of how to cuddle with a guy is to be somewhat sneaky in your approach. First, just start out by sitting next to him. This doesn’t create any suspicion, and if you feel good about your chances of cuddling with him, then you might even be able to inch in a little closer.
I suggest waiting for a time when he’s really relaxed and might be slightly distracted with a movie or even video games. This is a great time to slowly sit down as if you’re just relaxing next to him.
#4 Slowly move closer to him. In order to get close enough for him to reach over and pull you in, you have to scoot on over closer to him. You should preferably close enough so your thighs brush against each other when you’re sitting by him.
You have to do this slowly so he doesn’t really notice that you’ve gotten so close. You can do this by fidgeting a little bit and pretending that you’re trying to get more comfortable. This will land you right next to him without drawing suspicion.
#5 Find an excuse to initiate contact. This is a whole lot easier when you have something to be talking about. Engaging in a conversation that is light and fun and also gives you an excuse to give him a little punch in the shoulder to push him over a little bit.
Another way to initiate contact is if you two are watching a scary movie and something frightening happens that causes you to grab his arm. Look around you and discover different ways you can use your surroundings to initiate contact of any kind. [Read: Movie date guide to building sexual chemistry in no time]
#6 Make him want to hold you close. My favorite go-to hint to a guy to cuddle me is to say something about how I’m cold. When you hint to a guy that you’re cold, this usually prompts him to wrap an arm around you or give you his jacket or sweatshirt.
There are a lot of different ways you can do this. Overall, you really just have to use your surroundings and get creative. This can sometimes be the hardest part of how to cuddle a guy, but if you make him want to hold you close, it’s likely that he’ll do so for a long time.
#7 Lean into his embrace. Once you’re finally in his arms for a hug, lean into him and relax in that position. Make sure your body language lets him know that it’s okay that he’s holding onto you so tightly. You want to appear happy and comfortable. Otherwise, he might think that his embrace isn’t wanted. So lean into him and even rest your head on his chest or shoulder. [Read: How to hug a man in 7 easy steps]
#8 Gauge his reaction. If a guy reaches for you and pulls you into his embrace, you have to watch his reaction. Some guys will be relieved that they finally have you in their grasp, and other guys will get nervous and maybe a little insecure in themselves because they think you might not want it.
If he reacts in a nervous way, snuggle up to him so he knows that you’re enjoying being wrapped in his arms. And if he seems like he’s enjoying himself, you can relax into him even further.
#9 Let him further the cuddle. We all know that there are tons of different cuddling positions. Usually, when you’re first starting out, you’ll begin by just leaning against him as his arm wraps around your shoulder. That’s the most common beginner cuddle, and that’s because it’s easy to undo if one party isn’t quite feeling it.
Don’t try to lie on him or further the cuddle in any way, because it might make him a little nervous. Let him make the next move when cuddling to ensure that both of you are comfortable where you are. [Read: How to cuddle a guy: Cuddling positions to be a loving cuddler]
#10 Do this every time you see him. Guys have to get used to cuddling, as it’s not something that usually comes naturally to them. If you want to make cuddling with a guy a regular occurrence each time you see him, you have to go through these steps each time. That way, you can work up to a point where you can just walk in and he’ll be there to pull you into his arms right away. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved]
Cuddling with a guy can seem like a really easy and natural thing to do, but it’s actually a lot more complicated. This complete guide on how to cuddle with a guy will have you in the arms of every guy you want.
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