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25 Subtle Secrets to Charm a Guy & Make Him Think Fondly of You 24/7

Charming a man really isn’t as hard as you think. You just need to know the basics and build from there. He’ll fall under your spell in no time! 

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Guys aren’t as complicated as we make them out to be. Truthfully, they’re pretty simple beings. But knowing how to charm a man can get a little tricky if you overthink it and just don’t know what to do in general.

Luckily, it’s not very hard to learn. There isn’t a lot that goes into charming the pants off a guy. If you do enough things that he likes, the job is pretty much done itself. That being said, you may not know what a guy likes or how to proceed when you first meet someone.

The importance of knowing how to charm a man

Charming a man isn’t necessarily an art form; you just need to know the best ways to go about it. Once you know these tricks, you’ll be charming every guy you see!

The truth is, when you can charm a guy, you show him your savvy side. He’ll understand that you’re not someone to be messed around with and that you’re someone special because you’re the one girl out of many that had the courage to be the one to charm him for a change.

Plus, you’ll also be making him feel good about himself, which boosts his confidence and makes him want to work harder to chase you. All in all, learning how to chase a man is never a bad thing! [Read: Flirting: What it is, 5 different types & how to pick a style that works for you]

Getting to know a guy will increase your chances of charming him

Before you can learn how to charm a man, you first have to learn all about him. You can’t immediately get on a guy’s good side if you don’t know anything about him. Sure, he might find you attractive, but that isn’t the same as actually making an impression.

For that, you need to learn a few things about him first. Knowing what he likes and does for a living can help you tailor your actions and conversations to better suit him. Basically, you’ll be able to charm him better if you can relate to him on a personal level. [Read: 18 ways to get to know a guy better before you decide to date him]

How to charm a man and leave him craving you

There are a few things you have to know when it comes to charming a man and leaving a great impression. If you want to get his number and potentially start something with him, you first have to charm him.

Here’s how you can do just that:

1. Relax

If you’re uptight and uncomfortable, he’ll notice. And that stuff is also very contagious. So if you’re nervous and acting very unsure of yourself, he’ll feel that and it’ll put him off. Nerves and discomfort are not charming. [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without really flirting at all]

2. Be confident and show your sexy side

We know this one seems pretty obvious, but you’d be surprised how many girls try to charm guys without having a hint of confidence or sex appeal. You need confidence.

Not only should you feel amazing about yourself all the time, but if you feel that way, other people are more likely to feel that way too. [Read: 55 secrets & self-love habits to build confidence and realize your worth]

3. Act like you know something embarrassing about him

This may not make sense at first, but hear us out. Guys like girls who have an air of mystery about them. That’s not something that’s easy to accomplish but there is one way to make it happen.

If you want to know how to charm a man, pretend you know something embarrassing about him when you’re talking. That little smirk you’ll have during the conversation will make him want to talk to you more and figure out what’s so funny. It’ll be very charming and alluring.

4. Make the conversation about him

There are far too many times when girls are the center of conversation when talking with a guy. You know what’s really charming? Turning the conversation around and talking about them.

Ask him questions and show him you’re engaged. It’s really charming when someone is always asking you about yourself. It’ll also help you get to know him. [Read: 50 cute questions to ask a guy you like and catch his eye]

5. Talk about his interests

If you haven’t noticed by now, guys love to talk about the things they’re most interested in. So make sure to talk about them. Don’t just ask and then not pay attention, though. That’s not charming.

Make sure you actually care about the things you’re asking him. That level of attention is the key to charming a man.

6. Smile a lot

We all need to smile more when talking to guys. In order to learn how to charm a guy, you need to learn how to talk to them like you’re the happiest you’ve ever been. Happy people are contagious and if he feels great around you, it’ll be really charming. [Read: 17 life secrets to smile more often, feel great & laugh your stress away]

7. Say his name when you talk

This is something that’s very charming when it comes from anyone. Have you ever noticed that people who say your name immediately seem more attractive? That’s because they are.

So make sure you’re saying their name while talking—but not too much!

8. Lean in close during the conversation

Your body language can also help when charming a man. When you’re talking, lower your voice and lean in closer. The proximity will get his mind moving in a very good direction.

9. Laugh a lot

There’s really nothing more charming than someone who thinks you’re really funny. And believe us, if a guy notices you laughing at his jokes, he’ll become attracted to you quickly. [Read: 10 ways to make a guy laugh without dumbing down]

10. Tell a few jokes

Guys also find funny girls extremely charming. If you can, crack a few jokes and have a sense of humor while chatting. He’ll not only be impressed, but he’ll take a liking to you quickly.

11. Make eye contact

Eye contact is very important when talking to someone in general, but if you want to know all about charming a man, it’s all in the eyes. Look into his when talking but not so much that you’re staring.

This will make him feel like you’re paying close attention and that’s very charming. [Read: 13 subtle eye contact flirting tips to catch someone’s eye from afar]

12. Compliment him on his personality

Chances are, if you tell a guy he’s funny, he’ll start liking you a lot more. Guys love to think they’re hilarious and have a great sense of humor.

If you tell him as much, you’ll be charming the pants right off of him.

13. Get flirty

Flirting is essential in being charming. Don’t be afraid to bring out that flirty side and show him how well you can flirt. He’ll find this side of you very charming and will be addicted to flirting with you. [Read: The 30 best subtle, obviously & really sexy flirting tips for girls]

14. Remember the things he says

A girl who actually pays attention is one of the most charming people out there. If you want to impress a guy and leave him craving more of you, then you have to remember the little things.

Bring up something he talked about earlier and expand on that conversation. He’ll love it.

15. Have fun

Those who are having fun easily charm guys. If you’re talking with him and actually enjoying yourself, it’ll come across as much more charming than if you act bored or “play hard to get.” [Read: How to flirt with a friend: 18 ways to tease without being weird]

16. Show a little sass and attitude

There is a very fine line between showing the sass too much and showing just enough. Basically, you need an edge, a little extra something which no one else has.

How can you do it? Speak your mind, but be kind to others. Be comfortable in your own skin, and show your confidence. Whether you fake it or not! [Read: Feisty girl: 35 personality traits that make her so scarily sexy

17. Be yourself, and nobody else

There is nothing more obvious than someone who tries to be something they’re not. Even if you don’t know that person well, you can tell when they’re putting on an act.

Why would you want to try and be someone else? Why emulate another person’s look or personality? You have your own! [Read: Why don’t guys hit on me? 21 secrets to be way more approachable]

18. Keep an eye on your body language

If you want to charm the socks off your crush, speak to him nonverbally as well as verbally.

So, avoid standing with your arms crossed over your body. Don’t sit with your legs crossed, and don’t put any barrier between you when you’re talking or interacting.

In addition, make eye contact, smile, and if you’re brave enough *go on, do it*, give him cheeky and subtle touches every now and again, perhaps on the arm. [Read: Male body language: 48 subtle signs to instantly read a man’s thoughts]

19. Don’t gossip or backstab

There is nothing less attractive than someone who backstabs or gossips behind the backs of others. It’s not nice, alluring, or charming! So, if you want to charm a man? Avoid low-level behavior.

Treat everyone how you would want to be treated, and be kind, always. That’s how you charm a man. [Read: How to be witty: 25 ways to win over everyone with your charm]

20. Make real conversation

When learning how to charm a man, you need to hold an intelligent and interesting conversation. It’s not charming to pretend to be ditzy when you’re really not.

Don’t be afraid to talk about subjects you feel passionate about, but remember not to talk down to anyone. Simply have a flowing conversation. [Read: 8 easy ways to avoid awkward silences during a date]

21. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks

Don’t be pigeonholed or peer pressured into being something you’re not, or doing something you don’t want to. You don’t have to care about what other people think of you, provided you’re comfortable in your own skin.

There is nothing more attractive and charming than someone who is totally comfortable with who they are, and who doesn’t need validation from anyone else.

22. Dress in a way that makes you comfortable

You might think that showing skin is the way to get a guy’s attention, but that’s really not the case. Yes, flashing the flesh will turn heads, but is it turning heads in the right way? Probably not.

When learning how to charm a man, dress smartly, but in a way that makes you comfortable. If you’re comfortable with what you’re wearing, you’ll feel great on the inside, which shows on the outside. [Read: How to dress sexy: 29 subtle & classy ways to make them lust for you]

23. Have beliefs that you’re passionate about

Everyone has a certain number of things in their lives that they feel passionate about. It can be a religious following, a genre of music, a political view, or an opinion on something. Whatever it is, own that belief. Don’t be afraid to show it.

Of course, remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that doesn’t mean that they have to agree with you. But a conversation with someone who really believes in what they’re talking about is super-charming!

24. Be okay with laughing at yourself

Is there anything more charming than someone who is totally fine with making a fool of themselves and laughing at it? Of course not! It shows you’re easygoing and not taking life too seriously. Therefore, you’re not taking yourself too seriously.

This doesn’t mean you have permission to turn your life into a comedy routine. If you trip up or say something silly, just laugh at it and make light of the situation. This is a big point when it comes to charming a man.

25. Put down your phone

These days, everyone is super attached to their phones and they don’t pay attention to those around them. If you want to know how to charm a man, give him your undivided attention.

That means you need to put your phone down! [Read: 18 tempting ways to get a guy’s attention wherever you are and wow him]

Now you know how to charm a man, it’s time to practice!

You know how the saying goes, “practice makes perfect,” and in this case, it’s very true! You might not find it easy to charm the pants off a guy straightaway, but once you start to use these tips, your confidence will rise and you’ll charm any man without even knowing it.

Then all that’s left to do is find the perfect guy to charm to infinity and back again!

[Read: How to ask a guy out like a real classy girl & leave him wanting more]

Learning how to charm a man is something that’ll take time and practice. But once you get the hang of it, you’ll be charming the pants off every guy you meet.

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...