So you’re married and happy, but what about sexy? There’s no reason for those sexy undies to go to waste just ’cause you’ve got a ring on your finger. It’s time you learned how to be the sexy wife, and seduce your man just by being yourself!
Somehow, everything just changes for many women once they get married. The husband and the wife start taking things easy. And soon, taking things easy turns into taking things for granted.
But it doesn’t have to go down that path. Just because you’re married, or have a baby, doesn’t mean you still can’t be desirable, sexy, or learn how to be the sexy wife and keep things hot and naughty.
[Read: How to be sexy, feel sexy and look sexy all the time without even trying]
This is a misconception many people have, that marriage makes your sex life boring. But that’s not true at all. Tying the knot doesn’t somehow suddenly suppress your sex hormones or make both of you boring in bed.
Couples grow together, and sometimes that means there’s little left to the imagination. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Women are fabulous whether they have a rock on their finger or not. So why is it that these fabulous, confident, sensual women suddenly feel like old news after they’ve gotten hitched? [Read: 17 of the best naughty ideas to spice up married sex]
Just because you’re a wife, doesn’t mean you should have lost that “je ne sais quoi” that had your husband hooked from date number one.
What really plays a part in making you *and your relationship and your man* boring, is repetitiveness. The monotony of life. [Read: 15 common reasons why you’re getting bored with your relationship]
This monotony is experienced by everyone in a long term relationship, whether you’re married or have been together for several years.
It’s all hot and sexy for the first few months, and you have sex in every room and every floor you can think of. Your man is still excited to see you in various states of undress, and everything about this stage is exciting.
And then, it all goes downhill because you start taking things for granted. Instead of seeing each other in sexy outfits, you start seeing each other on toilet seats playing games on your cell phone.
If your relationship is new, it’s sexy. And if it’s sexy, you’d assume it stays sexy forever. And that’s the biggest mistake we make, an assumption that all good things stay good even if we don’t nurture it or explore it.
[Read: How often do married couples have sex – The real life confessions of real life partners]
You think that just because you’re in a loving, committed relationship that the sex should become stale, and your conversations routine? Think again. Here’s looking at all the ways you can be a sexy wife and still light the fires of passion in your husband.
[Read: The one year itch – 25 easy ways to avoid marriage problems early on and fix them ASAP]
So you’re the wife. You’re the soft place for your man to fall after a hard day, the one who makes him fabulous dinners and charms him with fabulous conversations… But you also do the dishes, help pay the bills, and clean his dirty underwear.
Instead of begrudging your wifely role – embrace the fantasy that comes along with it, if you’re a stay-at-home gal.
Show him exactly how sexy a wife can be: let him come home to you cooking an amazing meal in nothing but 6″ heels and your most tantalizing lingerie. This is sure to be a wifely-image he’ll never forget. [Read: 30 ways to spice up your married sex life in no time]
You’re married, and yes, two becomes one. But that doesn’t mean you should start getting codependent or clingy. You’re still YOU, and nothing’s changed other than the fact that you’re legally a couple.
Stay the same, lead your own life as well, have your own friends, and continue to do things you would do before.
Of course, if you have a baby, you may lose a significant part of your freedom for a year or two. But that doesn’t mean you should depend on others for your own happiness. Remember, clingy or codependent is not sexy. [Read: Am I codependent? 14 signs you’re clingy and overstepping boundaries]
Baggy pajamas and old tees with holes in them are so comfortable. But get rid of them!
You obviously don’t have to wear sexy negligees and walk around home all day like you’re starring in some MILF porn. But you can make the effort to dress in flattering, form fitting clothes that accentuate your sexy bits.
You’d feel sexy wearing them, your husband will think you’re a sexy wife for wearing them. The way we see it, that’s a bonus however you see it!
This is important. Of course, as long as your husband thinks you’re sexy, that’s all that matters. But how do you feel when you step out of your house with your man? Do you feel sexy and desirable?
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you should let yourself go, because, hey, why do you need more male attention, right?
But you’re not doing this for other men. You’re doing this for yourself. When you feel sexy from within, your husband can’t help but notice it as well. And when he sees you looking like a sexy stunner in public, it’ll only make him realize how lucky he is to have a wife who’s as sexy as you! [Read: 18 physical turn ons for guys that arouse all men in seconds]
A sexy wife isn’t a wily temptress, trying to seduce every other man she comes across. As much as you may want to make your man jealous to catch his eye, avoid making him insecure just to get him to chase you. It may backfire, because he’d assume you’re not happy in the marriage with him.
Instead of trying to bring sexy back into the relationship, he may give up altogether and just look elsewhere for comfort.
A woman that smells sexy… is sexy! Perfume and scented moisturizers are so under-rated, it’s shocking! If you want to seduce your husband and be the sexy wife, use a complex perfume with a good silage. Every time he gets a waft of your fragrance, he can’t help but feel seduced by it. [Read: How to smell good and attract almost anyone you desire]
Want to make your husband feel like a beast and a sex machine, all rolled into one? And incredibly attracted and devoted to you? Then, help him feel like a man, and bring out the alpha in him. Boost him, be his rock and support.
Let him know that you’re his wife and lover, and will stand by him. When he trusts you, he’ll respect you and your opinions.
And soon enough, he’d feel incomplete without you by his side. Beyond the superficial, that’s how to be the real sexy wife! [Read: How to stroke your man’s ego when he’s feeling down]
It’s easy to go a few days without sex, to a week, and before you know it, it’s been several weeks or a month since you two have had sex! Don’t let that happen, because this weird dry spell will turn into the norm even before either of your realize it.
The best part about sex is that the more often you have it, the more you want it! So even if you feel extra dry and bored to initiate sex with your husband, give it a try. Once you have sex a couple times and increase the frequency of sex, you and your partner will start to feel hornier and naughtier! [Read: How to get over a dry spell when you just don’t feel sexy]
This might seem like a lame “mom” thing to do, but don’t be fooled. This strategy is great for newlyweds and veteran marriages alike. Life is hectic and between jobs, family, friends and possibly children, there’s sometimes little time to connect with your partner and just “be” together.
Some couples, like having a monthly sex vacation or an exciting event to go to or even a road trip where they can leave it all behind. They’re not your run of the mill go-to-dinner dates, but they’re exciting adventure type dates.
Date night is about spending time together as a couple. Instead of worrying about which naughty lingerie to put on for the night, try something a bit more sentimental, like recreating your first romantic date together. [Read: 50 date night ideas married couples should try]
You know how sex gets boring, but a night out on the dance floor and a few drinks makes both of you horny? It works the same way with naughty games as well. You’re spending every evening at home together, and it just doesn’t feel sexy anymore.
So spice it up by playing a few dirty games in the comfort of your own home. What have you got to lose? Try one of these sexy foreplay games to get horny and get the night rolling.
He may see you naked every morning and every night, but there’s something very naughty and arousing about receiving a sexy nude photo of your sexy wife when you least expect it!
This works, and it works so well it’s almost surprising! If you want to know how to be a naughty sexy wife of your husband’s dreams, get naughty and sext him a dirty pic now and then. He’ll always want more! [Read: 36 tips to take the sexiest nude selfies and look like a stunning sex goddess in each of them]
And not just any kind of questions. Ask him the naughty kind. One of the problems with long term relationships and marriage is just how easily we stop talking about the little stuff.
So you remember your husband’s favorite color was blue five years ago. But what about now? Should you really take for granted that you know the version of your partner 5 or 10 years ago, so they’re still going to stay the same? Haven’t you changed in all this time?
If you want to be the sexy wife, ask him a few dirty and naughty questions. You can just slip the right kind of naughty question in the middle of a conversation while lying on his lap, and you’d instantly feel a hard on in seconds!
For starters, try these 30 naughty and dirty questions for couples to keep the sexy spark alive. You’ll be surprised just how well it works, and gets your man to open up too!
When you live together, it’s important to create a private space for both of you to explore each other sexually. Of course, if you have kids, you may think this is impossible. But you’ll be surprised just how easy it can be to transform a boring bedroom into a sex bedroom, with a few basic changes.
If you want your husband to feel horny around you, focus on creating a space where sex is the highlight. [Read: 24 sexy bedroom ideas to make any boring room feel sexy!]
One of the most important ways to remain a sexual goddess to your husband, is to be a sexual goddess. A lifetime of love, understanding, laughter, and comfort that can be found in a marriage is wonderful – but a lifetime of monogamy can be a challenge.
Even if your husband was the best sex of your life, 20 years with someone – even 5 years – can start to be a toughie in the bedroom.
You and your partner are used to each other, and you know all the tips and tricks to making the other one come, but after what feels like a lifetime together, it’s usually the sex that starts to become stale.
Be a sexy wife and keep things interesting in the bedroom. Yes, he knows all your dirty secrets and nooks and crannies that must be touched for you to get there – but why not skip the mundane and spice things up. Use a list of sexual positions *30 positions for 30 days* and try a new one every day.
Take a trip to the sex shop alone and have him come home to a collection of goodies sprawled out across the bed. He’ll appreciate the gesture.
Another way to spice up your sex life is with monthly sex boxes. You know how women can order subscription boxes every month filled with high end makeup samples?
Now you can have a monthly sex box delivered just the same way, only instead of makeup goodies, you’ll get lingerie, a sex toy, lotion, lube and deep-throat sample sprays, and naughty games to play. Have a look online and find a box that works for you.
Couples who have sexual subscriptions sent to them monthly have said they feel their partner is less likely to cheat, and that having a fantasy to look forward to each month has livened up both their sex-lives, and their communication.
Missionary is fun for a while. But you can always try something new to spice it up and be the sexy wife of your man’s dreams. Sometimes, spicing up your sex life doesn’t only have to revolve around the bed.
It could be trying something wild like skinny dipping in an ocean or a pool, having sex in your balcony, or asking him to slip his hands in between your thighs at a car parking. [Read: 15 naughty, sexual things to do with your man to blow his mind]
You do you, but if you surprise your man with your naughty side, he’ll always have something naughty and sexy to look forward to.
All of us have sexual fantasies, but we don’t discuss them with our lovers unless we’re really secure and comfortable in the relationship. But do you want to be the sexy wife who can handle her man’s fantasies? Can he handle yours? Why don’t you talk about it?
If you’re feeling awkward, try talking about your fantasy during foreplay. When you’re both horny, it makes you shed your inhibitions and talking becomes easier and naughtier too! [Read: 14 sexy ways to get your partner to open up about sex and their fantasies]
Talking about each other’s fantasies is hot. But what’s hotter is talking dirty and describing what you’re doing to him, and all the naughty things you want to do to him. You can moan or use words, and your man would only love you more for it! [Read: 60 dirty and sexy things to say to your man + the art of dirty talk]
Years of being with the same person can sometimes stifle that spark you feel. Role-playing is a great way to not only live out your fantasies, but to be and be with someone new for a night.
Role-play you’re on a first date, you’re sexy strangers or that you’re a high-powered businesswoman who’s hot for your hard-ass business rival. Let your imagination run wild! [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]
If you are parents and you have situated a weekly date night for yourselves, do yourselves a sexy little favor and leave the kids with the babysitter for that one night each week.
No matter what you’re doing: cooking, cuddling, ice-skating, make sure it’s about the two of you – not your kids. Yes, you love them. Yes, you like to talk about them. But you’re on date night. Leave your “mom” stuff at home. [Read: 25 romantic little things to show your husband you care]
Married rules specify that when you get married, you move in together – and when you move in together, suddenly all of those secret girly behaviors you used to do when you were alone to keep primp and pretty are all out there for your husband to see.
Men like a mystery. It’s what keeps them hooked when they’re trying to get you. One of the best ways to stay a sexy wife, is to stay a sexy mystery. For example, keep your private primping’s… private. If you have hairs suddenly cropping up where there once were none, your fellah certainly doesn’t need to know about it. [Read: Hairy nipples – Why women get them and the quick fixes to banish them]
When you’re married, or if you have babies, sex can start to feel like a chore. It’s not like you don’t want to have sex, but finding time for sex can become the biggest hindrance. Your husband and you decide you’ll have sex once or twice a week after the kids have fallen asleep but that never happens.
So instead of waiting for the perfect time, just do it whenever you can get a few minutes to spare! Have a quickie if you must, but just do it. There’s really no point in putting off something that’s so much fun for later. [Read: 15 sexy ways to have the best and hottest quickie every single time]
There’s no point trying to have the same kind of sex every single time. You guys are married and have done it many times the same way already. So mix it up, and keep things fresh and exciting. Quickies, sensual sex, massage sex, shower sex, nooners, oral sex, whatever it takes to keep things fun, do it!
If you want to be the sexy wife who keeps the relationship exciting, perhaps it’s time to incorporate a few of your deeper desires and bring them to reality. What’s the kinkiest thing you and your husband have done recently?
Maybe it’s time to try something, you never know, it may just arouse both of you and keep you both wet and horny for a long time to come! [Read: The top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you should focus all your caring attention onto your spouse, kids and your home. With married mothers especially, juggling your children, your job and your husband can be quite the balancing act – one that leaves little room for showering.
It’s a fact, mothers spend more time on their children than they do on themselves. While it’s important to get the little ones dressed and ready, don’t forgo taking care of yourself. Keep up with your skin and hair care routines, and don’t be afraid to dress up once in a while and go all out.
Your husband coming home to his sexy wife with her winged liner, teased hair, and her little black dress will have you saying: “Hey hot-stuff, remember me?”
It’s important that as a married couple you spend time together, but as an individual with your own wants and needs, it’s just as important to maintain your social life away from your mate.
This creates not only that important feeling of independence, but also conversation topics with your partner.
If all you’re doing is spending time together, you won’t have many new things to report on. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be independent. And independence? Very sexy. [Read: How to be independent even when you’re in a long term relationship]
Don’t be a giver if your partner isn’t one as well. You’d end up turning into a martyr instead of the sexy wife your man desires. If you’re making so much effort in keeping the relationship exciting, your man has to play the same part in his own ways as well.
If he’s taking you for granted, or taking a backseat in the relationship, it’s time you call him out on that. Never put up with someone, especially if all the effort is one-sided. If your man loves you, he should not only appreciate every single thing you’re doing for him, but he should reciprocate as well. [Read: 15 strong ways to stop being taken for granted in a relationship]
All of this seems like a lot of hard work to be a sexy wife for your man. And it is, after all, being the sexy wife and keeping the relationship exciting and alive, several years after being with each other and exploring every inch of each other’s bodies takes a whole new level of effort and naughtiness.
As long as you use these tips and learn how to be desirable in each other’s eyes way after the honeymoon phase is over, you’ll always be the sexiest thing your man has ever set his eyes on.
But here’s a word of caution, always make sure all the effort you make is mutual. A martyr is convenient to have around, but so not sexy!
Don’t just give in a relationship, especially if your husband takes a backseat and never makes any effort. Talk to him, so he can understand just how a little effort can transform your relationship and your sex life into something way more better and ever lasting.
[Read: How to keep your husband sexually satisfied and horny for more]
Your mate fell in love with you for you. Cliché as it is. Just because you’ve become a wife doesn’t mean you should let yourself go. Continue showing your man what a ferocious, sexy kitten you are by asserting your independence, showing him you care, and continuing to rock his world as a sexy wife in all areas of life.
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