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20 Sweet Ways to Apologize to Your Boyfriend & Make Up for Hurting Him

What to do after you unintentionally hurt your boyfriend? Well, here are the sweetest ways to apologize to your boyfriend and resolve the fight.

how to apologize to your boyfriend

There have been numerous studies regarding couples determining whether it is more important to be right or to be happy, and guess what? It is more important for most to be right! That poses a huge problem and creates a power play, push, and pull in any relationship.

And the worst part about a fight is wanting to end it, but not knowing how to apologize to your boyfriend.

Surprise, surprise, ladies. Men can be right, too. There are times when you may know you’re wrong, but you don’t want to admit it. Then there are other times when you know you are absolutely right, but it doesn’t make him entirely wrong.

[Read: 28 heartfelt ways to say you’re sorry & apologize to someone you love]

How to apologize to your boyfriend

Some men are very stubborn, and sometimes even when you say the actual words “I am sorry,” they hold a grudge and act passive-aggressively for an eternity.

So, if you want to wave the truce flag but aren’t entirely sure how, there are ways to apologize to your boyfriend and lighten the mood.

Try these heartfelt apologies to smooth things over and get him to let things go without holding it over your head forever.

[Read: People always leave you? 20 ways to stop sabotaging a relationship]

1. Be sincere

Don’t just apologize to get it over with. If you keep doing that every time you’re in the wrong, you’ll keep facing the same problem again until your relationship goes down the drain. Acknowledge that you’re wrong. Do not point the finger or invalidate his feelings.

Remember that you don’t get to decide if you’ve hurt someone. If they say you hurt them, then you hurt them. End of story.

Just apologize to your boyfriend and be sincere about it. If he’s also wrong in a way, he’ll realize it on his own. And if he gloats over the fact that you admitted you were wrong, he’s not worth it. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend you need to leave ASAP]

It’s not about who wins a fight at the end of the day. It’s about you two understanding and accepting each other. [Read: Kissed your ex or made out with them? What it means & what to do next]

2. Send him a sexy text

So you’ve apologized and tried to be as sincere as you can, but he’s still giving you the silent treatment. Well, there is nothing that makes your guy get past whatever he is mad about quicker than a text message with a promise for a sexy evening.

No guy holds onto anger when he is aroused. If you send him a sexy text, he is going to have to trade one thing for the next.

Give him time to cool off after the argument, though. Don’t just do this right after. It’ll only make him think you don’t respect and take his feelings seriously. [Read: 20 sexy text messages to start a sexy conversation]

3. Send a hot picture of yourself

Guys are much more visual creatures than you think. If he’s still giving you the cold shoulder days after, why not pull out the big guns *literally,* and send a hot picture of yourself? Perhaps even one that is a little slutty. He won’t be able to stay mad at you very long.

Regardless of what it is you did *as long as it wasn’t too serious,* he is likely to start thinking with the wrong head again. [Read: How to take nude pictures of your lover]

4. Text him a joke or something funny to make him laugh

A reason he loves you is that you make him laugh and feel better about himself. If you see a hilarious meme or TikTok that you know will make him laugh, send it to him in a message.

Laughter is not only the best medicine but also the best way to get him past madness and onto forgiveness. So, apologize to your boyfriend by sending him something funny.

However, a genuine apology is best given in person or a video call if you can’t be with him in person, and preferably not over text. So if you can, it’s still better to do it in person. [Read: 40 cute texts to make him smile and miss you more]

5. Show up at his place with nothing on but your jacket

If you and your boyfriend don’t live together, why not apologize by surprising him naked? How can he resist your womanly charm?

If you can get him to answer the door, and you are wearing nothing underneath your jacket but skin, there isn’t anything he can stay mad at. Give him a little peek-a-boo if he resists your charm at first. It will surely gain you entrance. [Read: 30 sexy ways to tease your man & make him want to F you right there]

6. Just smile

This may sound silly, but showing your boyfriend your cutest smile is another good way to apologize. There are muscles in your face that literally trigger endorphin release. When you smile, it is contagious, and then he will smile.

Before you know it, you will both wonder what you were so mad at, to begin with. A smile is a great way to reassure him everything is okay and things aren’t even that serious. [Read: 30 weird facts about guys, their deviant minds, crushes & love life]

7. Say something funny

Humor is a great way to apologize to your boyfriend. He can’t keep a grumpy face around you if you catch him off-guard with your best jokes. It works with angry little kids, so it must work with men, too.

Just kidding. But try it. The next time he watches TV in silence while ignoring you, make a funny comment and watch him try to suppress his laughter.

8. Promise to fix it/not do it again and actually mean it

The best way to apologize to your boyfriend is to apologize and actually mean it. He can’t know for sure that you actually feel bad unless you prove it through actions.

Don’t say “I am sorry” because you got caught, and “I will change” if you can’t change. Show him that you have a plan that you intend to follow to make things right.

Not only will doing this bring you a sense of relief, but it’ll also allow him to see how much you care about him and your relationship. Then, he’ll start to forgive you for whatever you have done. [Read: How to be the best girlfriend – 25 ways to leave him addicted]

9. Make dinner for him

The way to a man’s heart is truly through his stomach. If you have done something to make your boyfriend mad and don’t quite know how to apologize to him, cook him dinner or show up at his place with his favorite food and just leave it.

While he is enjoying your fabulous meal, he will realize how much effort you put out to make it up to him. You will be back in his arms in no time. [Read: Foodie dates – 15 trendy dinner ideas for new couples]

10. Send him lunch at the office

If you know your boyfriend is stuck in his horrible cubicle and can’t sneak away for more than a store-bought sandwich, apologize to him by sending him lunch.

Deliver or have it delivered by his favorite restaurant to say “I’m sorry.” It allows him a break from the everyday stress and shows him you think of him all the time. [Read: Are relationship fights normal? 15 signs you’re fighting too often]

11. Get his car cleaned

Men love their cars. If you notice his car has been littered with every soda bottle that he drank over the past year, borrow his keys and take his car to get detailed.

How can he stay mad at you when you did something so nice as to clean his ride? It is a very thoughtful way to apologize, definitely a bit more than just saying “I am sorry.”

12. Clean his apartment

Cleaning his place may take all day, but it is something he will really appreciate. Do his laundry, clean his nasty toilet, and put all his favorite things in his pantry and refrigerator. When he returns, there is no way that he can stay mad at you.

Making your boyfriend’s home more comfortable is one of the best ways to say “I apologize and I love you.”

Just make sure if there is something that you shouldn’t be looking through, you don’t touch it. You don’t want to open up another whole can of worms trying to do something nice. If it is off-limits, keep it off-limits. [Read: 25 awesome ways to keep a guy hooked and happy in love]

13. Buy him tickets to something he enjoys

It could be a football game, a musical, a play, or whatever he enjoys. It doesn’t hurt to spoil your boyfriend a little. If you’re willing, get tickets for him and his friends, too.

He’ll probably be too busy getting excited over it to actually stay angry at you.

14. Buy him flowers

Many men like to receive flowers, too, but they never get them because it’s not “socially” normalized. But you know your boyfriend would appreciate this sort of thing, so why not get him flowers?

Don’t forget to include a sweet little note to say how sorry you are and how much you love him. Your boyfriend will be grinning so hard that his jaw hurts.

15. Surprise him with a blowjob

Most men are easy, though. Give them a blowjob and they’ll forget what you did to upset them. So if you’ve said everything you could but it’s not working, try seducing him and giving him the best blowjob of his life.

If you make it mind-blowing enough, it’ll jump-start his brain and make him wonder why he was ever mad at you to begin with.

You can only do this if he gives you consent, though. If he acts like he’s uncomfortable or annoyed, it’s best to leave him alone. [Read: Lick, suck, swallow! 20 sizzling blow job tips you gotta know]

16. Buy him a sex toy, just for him

Sex toys go both ways. Get on the internet and find something that heightens his sexual pleasure. Nothing makes him forget his anger more quickly than a toe-curling orgasm.

Look into a prostate massager for some additional forgiveness in your makeup sex. [Read: Homemade sex toys for men – a horny guy’s guide to jerk off at home]

17. Plan a surprise getaway weekend

Sometimes we start to get angry with one another because of the day-to-day stresses of life.

So, pick him up from work on a Friday with two tickets to a weekend getaway. What better way to say you are sorry and start over than to plan a weekend getaway for just the two of you?

Pack his and your bags and head for the airport. You can say you are sorry on the way, or not. [Read: Ways you can make your relationship more fun]

18. Give him his freedom for the weekend

Other times, the problem isn’t stress, it is too much together time. If you are arguing a lot for seemingly no reason, it may just be that you need a break from one another.

If you want him to forgive you and have a way to start over, tell him he can have his freedom for the weekend. Tell him to take some time off, and you do the same. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. [Read: Clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid it]

19. Write him a card

Sometimes, writing down your feelings is easier than expressing them verbally. When you write, you’re allowed more time to think about what words to use and how to use them. So, why not write your boyfriend a lovely apology card and explain your side of the story?

Spoken words come and go, but words on paper stay. He can contemplate it and think for as long and hard as he wants. When he’s ready, he’ll forgive you and let you in again. [Read: Relationship stages – phases couples go through by months & years]

20. For the inexcusable, just let him be

If you have done something inexcusable, and you have tried to apologize, the best way to handle yourself is to let him be. If you continue to badger and beg for forgiveness, you conjure up his anger over and over.

He will not forgive you until he is ready if he is going to at all. Stop pushing him and just give him some space.

The text messages need to stop, the showing up at his door needs to stop, and contacting friends and family to plead your case doesn’t do any good either.

Just back off and let him be. If, and when, he is ready to accept your apology, he knows where to find you.
[Read: 17 aww-so-sweet ways to genuinely say you’re sorry]

If you want him to forgive you, try doing something nice, try distracting him, or try leaving him alone. Those are really the only options you have. If all else fails, and you have done everything possible, walk away. If he truly cares about you, he’ll get you back.

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Preeti Tewari Serai
Preeti Serai
Preeti, the founder of LovePanky, is an eternal optimist and believer in the beauty of love and life. With an exhaustive experience in love, relationships, and ...