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10 Signs Your Guy BFF Is Secretly Trying to Seduce You

your guy bff is seducing you

You may have planted him firmly into the friend zone, but he might be desperately trying to flirt his way out. How can you tell for sure?

As much as girls like hanging out with their girl friends and talking about boys, make-up, fashion, and whatever else they want to talk about, there are girls that prefer the company of males. It does not necessarily mean that hanging out with a boy will make you tomboy-ish.

In fact, having a guy BFF is actually almost similar to having girl BFFs, with the benefits of having a strong male physique that you can use to your advantage, like lifting heavy objects, assisting you in crossing the street, opening doors for you and other gentlemanly things. He is also always around to give an unbiased opinion of you and your make-up or what you are wearing.

Having a guy BFF around sure is handy and will make you feel cared for, but how will you know if he has the hots for you? The only complication with having a guy BFF is that the two of you, had you not become good friends first, may have had a chance at some romance. Sure, there are friendships that overcome this, but what if you’re pretty sure you don’t want a relationship with your guy BFF and you need to know ASAP if he is secretly seducing you?

How to know if your guy friend is being too flirty

Under the guise of friendship, one of your guy friends may be fighting tooth and nail to get into your pants. Here are the signs that he’s got ulterior motives.

#1 His text messages. There are people who reply reasonably quickly when you send them messages, but there are also people who will take the entire day before they reply to you. Your guy BFF is neither. Your guy BFF, who is secretly seducing you, is like The Flash. He will respond within a nanosecond after you have sent your message.

How does he do it? He probably has a special alert tone just for you, so he would know that you’re the one who just sent a text. There is a huge difference between replying after a while and consistently replying within seconds, no matter what time of the day. [Read: 20 unmistakable signs he’s crushing on you]

#2 Sharing pics? You know how you and your girlfriends send photos to each other so they can see what you have been eating or what you have bought on your latest shopping spree? Well, your guy BFF wants you to see more than that. He will not only send you selfies of himself where the angle of his face is the best one, showing off how handsome he is, but he likes to send you photos of his topless, chiseled body too. Especially after a gym workout or when he is out getting tanned.

And he will usually give an excuse such as saying he just finished his workout or tan session and would love to hang out with you ASAP. He’s trying to get you to see just how hot and attractive he is, in the hope of possibly seducing you.

#3 A guy BFF is sometimes pretty stoic. You barely hear them dish out their emotional pains and baggage to you. They are the best listeners. They may talk to you about some of their problems, but they do so in a slightly detached manner, without letting you in on how they truly feel, for fear that they might be boring you.

But a guy BFF who is secretly seducing you will let you in on his emotional and sensitive world. He isn’t afraid to share every single detail with you, especially the kinds of emotions you make him feel when he is with you. [Read: 18 body language signs that he’s into you]

#4 You always hear a guy BFF tell you how pretty you are, particularly when you’ve made the effort. But a typical guy BFF will also tell you that you look like hell when you haven’t had enough sleep or when you probably tried to put on makeup in the dark.

The guy BFF that is secretly seducing you, on the other hand, does not care if you look like you have gone through hell or not. He will still say how beautiful you are. A guy who’s falling in love with you will find something about you that’s beautiful, and he won’t hold back on telling you this, almost every time you spend time with him! [Read: How to take a compliment without being awkward]

#5 Affection is one of the things that guy BFFs are not really known for. You might have a fist bump with your closest buddies every now and then, but a parting hug or a kiss might be a little bit different. You may hug or kiss each other on the cheek from time to time, but you both know that this is done in a strictly friendly manner.

The guy BFF who is secretly seducing you gives you a tighter, longer hug, and you may feel like he’s hesitant to let go. The sneakier ones may even kiss your cheek at the spot that’s dangerously close to your lips. If you feel these things but you don’t want to give any meaning to it, then you might be too late. Your guy BFF is already subtly making a move. [Read: Sneaky ways to accidentally kiss a friend and get away with it]

#6 The thing with guy BFFs is that they barely give you gifts unless it’s your birthday or it’s Christmas or a special occasion. He’s probably thinking that he doesn’t need to try and impress you, because you’re already good friends anyway.

A guy friend who’s trying to make a move on you, however, will give you gifts for no apparent reason. He might get you something expensive or something cute and touching, like a unique trinket or something that would remind you of something you did together.

#7 Your guy BFF is a man of few words. He is a great listener, but like all men, he may not be the type to openly display his emotions. But if your guy BFF starts to emphasize every single time how much he cares for you, even though you already heard that a hundred times, then there is something more in there.

Try to tell him about you getting hurt, whether physically or emotionally. A guy BFF may try to comfort you a bit, and maybe inject a bit of humor into the situation. A guy BFF who’s into you, however, is more likely to have a stronger reaction. He may start to act like it’s his personal duty to protect you. [Read: How to get the shy guy to ask you out]

#8 The guy BFF who likes you doesn’t mention any other girls around you. A guy BFF who isn’t trying to be with you may mention the scores of women he’s trying to sleep with or all those girls that he’s into. He might even ask you for some advice on how he’ll have better luck with them.

A guy BFF who’s into you will never mention any other girls he likes. This is because, if he does mention liking another girl, he might completely lose his chance with you. However, be wary of times when he does mention liking another girl, but also tries to subtly make you jealous. That’s his way of trying to get you to show interest in him.

#9 The guy BFF who’s into you seems to always have you as his highest priority. Aside from you always needing him, and him showing up whenever you want him to be there all the time, your guy BFF also always makes sure that you are picked up from your house and dropped off safely.

And he also makes sure he is the only one to do this. There are no ifs, there are no buts, and if he cannot seem to make it, he will clear his schedule just so you are safely brought home. This is his personal time with you, where he can actually start to let you know his feelings. These little private moments that you have together are the highlights of his day. [Read: 17 honest reasons why he hasn’t asked you out yet]

#10 You always wonder why he is asking you to hang out, when you have other friends that you can hang out with. He will always come up with excuses to spend time with you and only you.  He will tell you that he organized a weekly movie night, and he will pay for everything. After which, he will say he also invited the others, but they are not available. He will also come up with morning runs, and schedule it only when he knows you are available but the rest are not.

[Read: 7 reasons guy friends are nothing but trouble]

The guy BFF who likes you will use the bond you share to foster something more than just friendship. He’s doing all these sweet things to make you fall for him, so that when the time comes for him to express his feelings, you will have already fallen for him, too!

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Geninna Ariton
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2 thoughts on “10 Signs Your Guy BFF Is Secretly Trying to Seduce You”

  1. annie says:

    I have a BFF that’s secretly in love with me. Oh my God. I never realized this until now. This article saved my life. That guy means a lot to me and I always thought that I would just be a sister to him and he was friend zoning me. This made so much sense to my life right now and I can’t thank you enough to whoever wrote this. I’m going to tell my BFF right now how much I love him. I really hope he loves me too because if he doesn’t, I’m in a world of trouble. I might lose him if he doesn’t feel the same way.

  2. Princess says:

    Well, my best friend is a guy who I really have known really well over for 3 years and we are really close friends. We share everything meaning he even knows when my monthly cycle starts. I got to know him first day of school and after couple of days I started having a crush on him but I did not make any move since he had a girlfriend at the time. I was really upset to find out about that he was avoiding me for several days because he did not want me to get attached to him anymore but he kept on coming and talking with me and he was really nice. This made me feel that he could be a very nice friend and I was’t wrong at all. For the last three years he had been a great friend to me. Two months ago he broke up with his girl friend whom he had for 4 years. This has affected our friendship as well but in a positive way. Ever since he broke up with her he calls me more often and we are always together at school. When he had his girl friend he used be on the phone most of the time whenever he doesn’t have anything to do and sometimes it really pissed me off. Now that he is single again I’m finding it really hard to keep it in the friend zone with him and I’m scared that if I make a move on him I might lose a great friend. I want to get real close him emotionally and physically too. I have fantasized about him and it really turns me on. When we go clubbing sometimes I let him grind with me and touch me when both of us were tipsy which I loved doing but every following day he asks me whether it was appropriate or not and I told him we are best friends and it’s totally fine if we enjoy it and he has said that he enjoyed it. We have done all sorts of crazy things, gone shopping mocking at other people, sharing each other’s deepest secrets, letting him guess whether I have a pantie on or not and the color of it if I wore one (I know he gets turned on) and personal stuff as well. All of this means I know him very well but I would love to move to another level with him. But sometimes I wonder if I only want him physically because i have started to fantasize about him more than usual recently. Believe me I really really want to have sex with him. Last week we had a party and he said he’ll be coming to my apartment to get changed because it’s not that far from the school, I thought this would be my shot with him because normally when he comes to my place he doesn’t stay for long. I didn’t know what to do to make it work, so the day arrived and I made no plans. We both got to my place. We both had coffee and a small chat and I told him it’s time to get ready. So he asked me to get ready first because ladies take a long time get ready. I asked him to stay in my room until I take a shower. It suddenly hit me that I could try seducing him. So I had a shower and returned to the room only with a towel on. I realized he was a little surprised to see me in the towel but I started to act it all cool. I started chatting with him and doing my hair. After that I wanted to do my nails so I kept my leg on the bed to paint them. My towel was short enough for him have a look at my vagina. I confirmed that he was looking and made me smile a little. After a while he asked me for a towel so that he could go and take a wash. He went to the bathroom to take a wash. Once he went I took my towel off and put on my panties. He took a shower and changed inside the bathroom and came out and suddenly realized that I was only wearing panties. He said sorry and went quickly back in. I said it was okay. You can see me naked and I don’t mind it at all. So he came out and I saw him staring at my boobs which got me wet a little. I really wanted to seduce him so I asked how my panties looked. He said it was okay and it’s not like anybody’s gonna see it. I took it as it’s not good enough and said okay, I’ll change it, which gave me a chance to show my small bush to him. So I put on another one and showed it to him and he liked it. After that I put my dress on and he said that I looked so beautiful. And it soon came into my mind that he could be grinding with me today, so it’s okay to not wear any panties. So, I took it off. I wasn’t wearing anything underneath the dress. I then saw a bump in his pants which I assumed was his erect penis. After a couple of minutes, we left the house and I was really disappointed that I could’t do anything with him. But, at the party I grinded on him and this time I felt his penis because I didn’t have any panties. Later that night he dropped me home and went back and I was really sad that he didn’t pursue me. It has been two weeks, now we still talk and hang out like before but he still hasn’t got a clue that I really liked him. Is it because I’m too friendly? I haven’t had sex in more than two years and I only want to do it with a person I know and respects me. That person is him.

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