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The Alpha Female: 15 Alpha Qualities You Need to Unleash It!

An alpha female is the epitome of class. Knowing who she is and what she wants, we all have her living inside. We simply need to choose to let her out.

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You would be hard-pressed to find an adult who doesn’t know what an alpha male is, but not many people know that there is also an alpha female. Since women are not expected to be assertive, or to command things from those around them, it may sound slightly intimidating.
But being the alpha female is a good thing. When you are the alpha female, people admire you. Even better, they want to be you. What is it about an alpha female that makes her so elusive, desired, and just plain outstanding?
Alpha females possess the very best qualities of her species. Being able to turn on her wily charm at will, she usually has people falling around her to just get a glimpse, be her friend, or to date her. Seemingly something you are born with, anyone with the desire, can become an alpha female. It is about how you feel about yourself and the person you choose to be to those around you.
15 characteristics of the alpha female
If you are looking to unleash your inner roar, here are the 15 characteristics that an alpha female possesses.
#1 They are self-assured. An alpha female is someone who knows who she is and isn’t afraid to be herself. Most of us have two faces, one we show to the world, and one we keep hidden. The key to being an alpha female is to meld those two beings into one.
Although sounding difficult, it is really about seeing those things which you may consider weaknesses about you and consider the fact that they are really positives. For instance, you may be a highly sensitive individual and try hard to hide your feelings. Instead of keeping them hidden, use those sensitive qualities to be empathetic and treat people with respect. [Read: 18 ways to have high self-esteem and start winning at life]
#2 They accept who they are. Along the same lines, don’t make excuses for who you are, be proud of your personality and the things you offer to people. If you are constantly thinking you aren’t good enough, it shows to the people around you.
It is hard to convince people to like you when you don’t quite like yourself. Similar to being a salesman who doesn’t believe in the product they sell, success is going to be difficult.
#3 They know what they want. The key to being an alpha female is that there are no mincing words. She says what she wants, and she wants what she says. Very few people in life both know what they want and the road that they need to take to get there. Being put together, an alpha female has a plan, is ready to execute it, and continues to grow with each new day.
#4 They don’t sweat the small stuff. Women are creatures of habit. We spend a whole lot of time worrying about one thing or another. An alpha female prioritizes what is important in life and what is not. Unlike most of us, she doesn’t waste time worrying about things that may or may not happen. Instead she focuses on those things well within her control.
We all know worrying is a useless waste of our mind power, gaining control over it is something that not everyone can do. [Read: How to stop overthinking: 11 strategies for more peace]
#5 They are attractive to others. An alpha female doesn’t have to be a 10. Although probably not a two, it isn’t really about her looks as much as it is about the way she carries herself and presents herself to the world.
There is nothing more attractive than someone who exudes self-confidence and strength. Not the type of strength where you wouldn’t want to meet her in a dark alley, but she is the woman who isn’t going to let anyone tell her what to do, who she is, or make her feel less.
#6 They don’t believe in limitations. The biggest problem most of us have are the limiting beliefs we place on ourselves. A limiting belief is something we fabricate in our minds that rarely has any basis in truth. If you believe you are bad at math, then you will never give it a try, or have the confidence to put your mind and effort into excelling at it.
Limiting beliefs hold us back from our dreams, from trying to get the things that we want, or from believing ourselves capable. The alpha female is void of limitations when it comes to believing in herself. [Read: 12 little steps to change your life and find true happiness]
#7 They know how to charm people. We all know that girl who walks into a room and all the guys turn their heads. It isn’t always the prettiest woman in the room. It is the one who knows how to make a presence. The alpha female uses her charm to make people stand up and pay attention.
Happy with herself, she is fun to be around, rallies the crowd, picks someone up, and just makes you feel like a million bucks. Knowing how to read people, an alpha female knows exactly the right things to say to bring out the best in everyone and make them believe in the possibility of everything around. [Read: How to be a lady who awes her man and everyone else]
#8 They stand tall. Yes, this may seem like a simple trait, but rarely do we have it. Our posture is a huge indication of the person that we are. If you are slumped over, shoulders rolled in and head down, what you project to the world is that you are unapproachable, perhaps insecure, and definitely not outgoing.
The alpha female has a posture that is picture perfect. Standing up straight with shoulders back, she knows how to carry herself to tell onlookers she is putting herself out there, is approachable, and engages with strangers and friends alike.
#9 They are sexy. Sexy is in the eye of the beholder, but not for the alpha female. She not only appreciates her curves, she knows how to use them. Not beholden to stereotypes, or worried about “being judged for her looks,” she is okay to have guys want and desire her. Being sexy is about an attitude of using your womanly features to attract people around you. It is okay to use your assets to your advantage.
There is no shame in being a woman. The problem is most women believe that to get ahead in a man’s world, they have to become a man. That is exactly the opposite of what an alpha female is all about. [Read: The guy’s view on what’s cute vs. sexy about a girl]
#10 They say it like it is. An alpha female is not going to say one thing and mean another. Rarely monitoring what she says, she tells you what she thinks whether you want to hear it or not. Not brash, however, she takes into consideration that she may hurt your feelings and has a way of saying things that don’t come across as critical.
Being able to read people, she knows how to tell you what you need to know, not what you want to hear, which makes her a valuable friend and confidant.
#11 They have a high sense of empathy. An alpha female doesn’t consider herself better than anyone else and has a high sense of empathy. Being able to understand what someone is going through and what they need, they make excellent friends and are kind to everyone around. Even though you would love to hate someone who is so awesome out of sheer envy; you just can’t.
#12 They are loyal. If you tell an alpha female something, it stays with them. They aren’t into gossip or talking badly about others. The reason most people talk behind other’s backs is that they either want to ignore their own problems, or make themselves feel better by putting someone else down.
The alpha female is content with her own life and who she is. So she doesn’t jeopardize your friendship by not being loyal and keeping what is between you, between you. [Read: Partners in crime: 25 reasons why you need this friend]
#13 They are persistent. When someone tells you “no” you have two choices, continue to challenge the no and find a compromise or give up. The alpha female does not give up. That doesn’t mean she stands around irritating someone, or won’t let up. It means if she hears no, she finds out what she needs to do to get you to say yes. Never a quitter, attaining her goals is her primary focus, but in a positive and honest way.
#14 They are honest. There is a lot of game playing and backstabbing that goes along with being a girl. I hate to say it, but we can be quite manipulative, and we don’t always play fair.
An alpha female doesn’t feel the need to use dishonest tactics. Rather she always plays with integrity and self-respect. You don’t have to question what she says because she proves herself to be trustworthy and does not use deception to get what she wants. [Read: 15 ways to be someone who always says, I love my life!]
#15 Everyone wants to be their friend. All of the qualities listed above make the alpha female the one to know. Not like the “popular” girl in school, or the “queen bee,” they are the ones you feel lucky to be friends with.
Always there to lend support, hold your hand, be honest, and to pick you up out of a rut, they look on the bright side of things and don’t wallow in misfortune or allow you to either. An easygoing style, the alpha female is someone whom you cherish, want to return her kindness, and who you want to be around as much as possible.
[Read: Boss bitch: 22 quick-fixes to transform yourself into one]
We can all be an alpha female if we choose, stop worrying about other people, like ourselves, choose to be true not only to those around us, but to ourselves, and conduct our lives with integrity, empathy, and kindness.

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Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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