20 Signs He Thinks About You a Lot Even if He’s Playing It Cool

He’s cute, and you like him. But what are the signs he thinks about you a lot? You just need to read the situation.

signs he thinks about you a lot

You’ve probably wondered if you’re on your crush’s mind as much as they’re on yours. You probably want to know the signs he thinks about you a lot. We all want to know how much someone really feels about us – we’re only human. It’s a natural thing to ask yourself, but you don’t have to wait for him to tell you to find out the answer.

A person’s thoughts are reflected in their body language, behavior, and actions, so it’s essential to spot the signs when you see them. Just like you probably have difficulty hiding your feelings from your crush, the same concept applies to guys too! [Read: Does he like me? 41 subtle signs and body language cues guys can’t hide]

How to read the signs he thinks about you a lot

Even when things are going really well with a guy, you want to be able to tell if a guy likes you and enjoys spending time with you. You need assurance that everything is going well and that he’s thinking of you even when you aren’t around. By looking for these signs, you already have a clear idea of how he feels.

Not every guy will tell you how they feel, but every guy will show you the subtle signs. So, stop hoping and praying, or paying attention to what your friends are telling you. Instead, pay attention to the right signals.

He probably won’t even realize he’s giving them off, but it’ll show he thinks about you a lot. Isn’t it time you knew? [Read: 17 signs you’re being benched and strung along by a guy you like]

1. You are always talking via text

The only time you aren’t talking to each other is when you’re sleeping. Other than that, you’re always texting each other. He always has some funny meme to show you or a link to a YouTube clip he wants you to see.

It’s a classic sign that he clearly loves texting you and talking to you and even if he doesn’t say it, he makes it evident through his actions. [Read: 30 definite signs a guy is totally into you]

2. He likes all your social media posts

Whatever you post, whether it’s funny or not, he’s one of the first people to like your posts or drop a comment.

Stalker? Nope, just one of the classic signs he thinks about you a lot. He will only like all your social media posts if he keeps thinking about you all the time, and wants you to know that he’s interested in you.

He may even comment on your photos as well, making sure everyone knows there’s something going on between you. He thinks it’s subtle, but it’s not, and is definitely one of the clearest signs he thinks about you a lot.

3. He follows you on social media

He not only has you on Facebook, but also Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter. He wants to make sure he stays in the loop, seeing what you’re up to and how he can make himself a part of your daily plans.

If a guy can’t stop thinking about you, why else would he want to be in the loop on all your social media accounts? Only a guy who likes you would do this kind of thing! [Read: 26 ways to get a guy’s attention on Instagram without using your body]

4. When he sees you, he always gives you a hug

Don’t underestimate the power of a hug as they’re not always as friendly as you think! With some male friends, when they see you, they’ll give you a one-arm hug. That’s lame.

When this guy hugs you, he gives you a real hug. You feel warm, safe, and loved when he wraps his arms around you. 

If the latter is what you feel, it’s the kind of hug that says he missed you, and he didn’t stop thinking of you!

5. He’s always happy when he’s around you

When you see him, he lights up. He just can’t stop smiling when he’s around you. The fact that he always seems to be in such a good mood around you subtly reveals just how much he he thinks about you when you aren’t around.

As we said, his intentions are eventually going to reveal themselves. So if he’s happier around you, it’s primarily because of you! [Read: The best cute texts for him to make him smile and miss you more]

6. He asks you a lot of questions

You know why, right? It’s because he wants to actually get to know you. He wants to know what’s going on in your brain, what you think about, and whether you think about him. 

If he constantly asks you a lot of questions, it’s either that he’s a talker who loves talking, or he wants to get to know you. So, he’s going to poke around and get as much information about you as he can. [Read: Conversational narcissists and people who love talking and hate listening]

7. He’s not checking his phone around you

Guys are addicted to their phones *aren’t we all?*. This is why when a guy likes you, one of the signs he thinks about you a lot is when he barely checks his phone.

He focuses his attention and time on you rather than the notifications on his phone, which show just how important you are to him!

8. He remembers the small stuff

You may have told him things months and months ago, yet, he still remembers the small details. Maybe it’s how yellow is your favorite color, your current show obsession, or how much you enjoyed a particular dessert in a random restaurant.

It might not be a big deal to you, but he remembers these details because he cares – simple as that. This is what truly shows you if he thinks about you a lot. [Read: 15 effortless small gestures girls always notice and appreciate]

9. He doesn’t make a decision without you

Your opinions matter to him, and he doesn’t want to make any big decisions without talking to you. Are you dating or something? It sure sounds like it!

He clearly cares about your opinion way too much to be making a decision alone. It might be as simple as choosing a place to eat or taking a day off work or something big like planning a vacation, or deciding on his future goals, but it matters to him what you think.

If he waits to hear your opinion before deciding on something, clearly, it’s a huge sign he thinks about you and values your opinions a lot as well.[Read: 27 signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to date you]

10. He laughs at your jokes

He laughs wholeheartedly at your jokes and has no problem goofing around with you. If he finds you funny, you’re already special to him.

This is especially true if you’re around your group of friends and he’s the only one who genuinely notices and laughs at your joke.

11. He tries to squeeze out extra time with you

When you hang out, even though he knows you have to go to work or be home for dinner, he tries to squeeze out an extra five minutes with you. He just loves spending time with you – can you blame him?

Just admit it – he likes you and can’t stop thinking about you! [Read: 33 awesome date ideas every couple should try]

12. You feel like you’re the only one around

When you’re around him, he makes you feel like you’re the only one around. He puts all his focus and attention on you. It’s like you two are lost in a bubble and no one else matters.

Sounds dreamy and romantic, doesn’t it? Whenever you’re together, he makes you feel like you’re the only girl that matters to him in the room. *and you probably are!* [Read: 22 subtle signs to know if a guy desires you a lot]

13. He keeps eye contact going

When he looks at you, it’s not like all the other guys. No, he’s not staring at your boobs or eyeing you like a piece of meat. He really looks into your eyes as if he’s trying to look into your soul and lose himself in your eyes.

You’ve never felt any other eye contact that felt this real before. He’s genuinely looking into your eyes and filing away every single expression and word of yours. And if you’re on his mind, he’ll be staring at you just a little bit longer than normal.

14. He’s curious about you

He’s not only asking you questions, but he has this sense of curiosity about you. It’s like you’re this rare creature he’s trying to understand. 

Wouldn’t you be curious about the person you like? If his curiosity deepens the more he gets to know you, this is one of the signs he thinks about you a lot. *and clearly can’t get enough!* [Read: 15 sneaky ways to get a guy to ask you out]

15. He tells you

If he tells you he’s been thinking about you a lot, it’s because he has been thinking about you a lot. It’s not easy for men to express their emotions, and he’s taking a huge step forward by telling you how he feels.

Even if actions speak louder than words, there’s no denying the truth if it comes straight from his heart. No games, no manipulation; just the truth. [Read: 45 signs a guy is already in love with you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

16. He’s playful with you

If he attempts to annoy you, plays around, or teases you in a non-sexual way, this can be an indicator that he likes you.

When a guy teases a girl, it’s often to hide his crush on her. So the next time you see him being playful and he tries to annoy you, don’t be irritated, just take it as a possibility that he’s flirting with you. [Read: 18 ways to tease and flirt with a friend without being weird]

17. He finds excuses to be around you

Maybe it starts as an accidental touch, and then it becomes these simple excuses to be around you. Your friend needs help, he dropped something, or perhaps he got lost.

These are all just excuses to be around your presence. If you like him back, you should be flattered by this – he can’t get enough of you!

18. He’s vulnerable around you

If there’s one thing a guy won’t do around a woman unless he likes her, it’s being vulnerable around her and opening up. If he opens up about his personal life, he likes you and has a deeper connection with you.

Every time you talk, it feels like you’re constantly unraveling something new about his life because of his vulnerability. [Read: 35 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get closer]

19. His body language and behavior changes

A guy’s behavior and actions profoundly change around the woman he likes. One of the signs he thinks about you a lot is when his body language changes in your presence. Do you notice his body always leaning toward you when he’s talking/listening to you? Or maybe he’s blushing?

These are all prime examples of when a guy likes you! He might be trying to play it cool, but his body is showing the signs. [Read: Male body language – 48 subtle cues to instantly read his thoughts]

20. He goes out of his way

Does he bring you coffee, run little errands with you, or do things to make you happy? He likely won’t do this just for any girl so if you find that he does, take it as a sign he thinks about you and looks for ways to make you happy even when you aren’t around!

It’s human nature to be focused on ourselves, so if his focus shifts toward you more often than usual, his thoughts are probably consumed by you. [Read: Does he have a crush on me? 20 signs he just can’t hide]

Is he thinking about you right now?

Watch for body language and behavior when trying to decipher the signs a guy can’t stop thinking about you. If he indulges in sweet gestures, remembers you when you aren’t around, and constantly stays in touch, he definitely has a crush on you!

Maybe he’s thinking about you right now. Maybe he’s struggling to get you out of his mind. Such fun and exciting times!

[Read: How to show a guy you like him and charm him while still being a real tease]

So, what do you think? Do you see the signs he thinks about you a lot? If you resonate with these signs, he likes you more than he’s letting on. The question is, what are you going to do about it? 

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...