How to Attract an Older Man: 9 Crucial Steps to Win Them Over

Have your eye on a smoldering older man, but can’t seem to get his attention? Here are nine simple, fool-proof ways to attract an older man.

how to attract an older man

There is just something about the appeal of older men that makes them irresistible to women. Many young women tend to be drawn to the older man’s allure, and, likewise, older men tend to fall in love with younger women. But how can you attract an older man to you?

Women often want to form relationships with older men for many reasons. For one, women tend to feel more secure in a relationship with an older man, as opposed to younger men or men within their age group. Many of these women believe age brings maturity, and, like the finest wines, these men definitely age well.

Dissecting the appeal of an older man

While dating older men was originally considered taboo, it has become more of a norm these days. As people age, they want different things in relationships. When women grow older, they desire partners who offer them not only financial stability, but emotional maturity, as well.

Many women believe age brings wisdom. Perhaps they learned that dating men within their age group leads to bumps in the road. Studies show a great number of men mature emotionally in their early forties, which makes them less likely to commit early on.

How to attract an older man – The essentials you need

Finding someone who is right for you is never easy. For many people, it is a case of trial and error, and of losing and finding.

Some people search their whole lives, wanting to find that missing piece. How does one find and attract that ideal mate? Do you want to attract an older man? Here are some tips to attract an older man and help reel him in.

#1 Have an air of confidence. Confidence is infectious. There is just something about it that brings positive energy into the room. Men admit to being attracted to confident women, or those who have a commanding air about them. When trying to attract an older man, show him you are confident and comfortable in your own skin. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]

#2 Be mature. If you want to attract older men, it is important you learn to project an air of maturity. Older men are attracted to women who have an air of independence about them and make mature decisions.

Get rid of childish habits like whining and learn to be financially mature. Older men want their partners to be level-headed women, who don’t make rash decisions or rely on their emotions to make decisions.

#3 Make a change in your appearance. Sure, older men are going to be attracted to your physical attributes at first. But there is something about elegance that makes older men stay with women. Older men are usually done with their partying days and are most likely willing to settle down with the right woman.

Chances are, older men don’t want to settle down and start a family with someone who always winds up drunk at the local bar, with one shoe missing. Be a classy woman and conduct yourself with elegance and charm. While good looks do attract a lot of people, remember charm and elegance last far longer. [Read: 10 easy steps to develop poise and feel like a princess]

#4 Do not act insecure. Older men don’t want to be tied down to women who are insecure and clingy. Men rarely want to be with a woman prone to drama all of the time, as many men don’t want the extra baggage. Low self-esteem isn’t attractive, and it is advised you work on boosting your self-esteem before you decide to pursue a relationship.

#5 Don’t act like you love his money. Having a relationship with an older man might raise questions about your intentions. When you start dating an older man, avoid iffy topics like how much he makes in a year, or what kind of car he drives. It is always best to stay away from sensitive and money-centric topics.

You don’t want him to think you are some sort of gold digger only interested in his money. Instead, be an independent woman who accepts responsibility for her own wants and needs. [Read: 10 clear traits that make a girl a 24K gold digger]

#6 Don’t make him feel old. The reason many older men tend to date younger women is because younger women make them feel young again, and they feel like they have someone to protect.

When dating an older man, don’t make him feel old. While you act flirty with him and tease him about your age gap, don’t rub it in his face. Keep your jokes tasteful and conduct yourself with tact.

#7 Spend time with him. Really spend time with him. Don’t only jump on opportune moments to have sex. Get to know him. Engage in conversation with him. While you might think you have nothing in common because of your huge age gap, you might be surprised to find you do have a lot in common.

Show a genuine interest in getting to know him—listen to his opinions on things, and his views of the world. You learn a lot and broaden your horizons. [Read: Dating an older man – 10 reasons why it’s worth doing at least once]

#8 Be appreciative. Men love women who appreciate them. When the two of you are together, take time to genuinely thank him for the time you spend together. Do more than just say, “thank you.” Take time and put in effort to really make him feel appreciated.

#9 Be ready to deal with his emotional baggage. When you date an older man, chances are he will have had his share of women. Chances are, he will have children and a string of past relationships. Know he has had his share of disastrous relationships and be prepared to deal with that. Ask yourself if you are still willing to pursue the relationship, despite his baggage.

[Read: 5 “creepy” myths about older guys dating younger women]

There are many advantages to dating older men; using the tips above, you can experience the advantages for yourself, and open yourself up to a whole new type of mature relationship.

Liked what you just read? Follow us on Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life.

Colleen Anne Javellana
I'm a quirky and passionate individual who believes in True Love. I live for deep conversations and a good novel to read. I am in love with Life, and I want to ...
Follow Colleen on