What Men Find Attractive in Women: 18 Secrets Most Women Overlook

Ah yes, the ancient question. Almost all women wonder what men find attractive at some point in their lives. Well, fear not, here’s the answer.

what men find attractive in women

I’ve spent way too many hours analyzing the acts of men I’ve been interested in. I know that I’m not the only one – can I get an amen, ladies?

Maybe I was looking at the wrong information. I clearly was because I was getting as much action as a wall. But, you don’t have to walk down my path. Please, I beg you, don’t do it. Times have changed, and with a little help from science *thank you, Bill Nye*, we can actually figure out what men find attractive. It’s about time!

What men find attractive in women

Believe it or not, there is no magic formula. You don’t have to look like a super model, be the next Martha Stewart, or a near-porn star. Nope, it doesn’t work that way. But get this – sometimes, it’s so obvious that we women overlook it. If you’ve always been wondering what men find attractive, here are 18 things to clue you in.

#1 Yourself. Listen, first and foremost, if a guy finds you attractive, it’s because of you. Sure, what you wear may help, but what comes out of your mouth is even more important. You want him to like you – and not only just your face and body. Because at the end of the day, that’s all gonna fade – I know, scary.

#2 Positive personality traits. Think about it for a second. When you’re talking to a guy, if he’s constantly negative and selfish, you don’t really want to be around him, right? So, it’s the same thing for men. They want to be around positive women. Women who are kind and uplifting. Not a Debbie Downer. [Read: How to attract men in a way they can’t resist]

#3 Easy on the melodrama. We all like watching The Jersey Shore, however, very few of us want to live it. Let’s take it easy on the melodrama. It’s okay to be dramatic, however, if some girl pushes you when you’re walking down the street, grabbing her head and slamming it into a wall is a little much. Men don’t want unnecessary drama.

#4 Can hang with the boys. All guys want a girl who will be able to chill with their friends and feel like she’s just one of the boys. There’s nothing worse than hanging with a girl who’s judging what he and his friends are doing. So, you need to learn to be one of the guys. [Read: How to keep a guy interested – 30 easy and super sexy ways]

#5 Honesty. Men find women who are honest to be the most attractive, specifically when it comes to finding a partner. One night stands are a different story… you don’t even have to know the person’s name.

However, if a guy’s looking to be with someone, they want someone who’s going to be truthful and trustworthy.

#6 Your smile. Men love women who smile. It makes sense, though. I mean, it shows that you’re positive, and smiling also gives you a glow that seems to attract people. By “attract people,” I mean men. Which is what you want, so, have fun and show off those pearly whites.

#7 A woman who stands her ground. Believe it or not, this is actually what men find attractive. Men like women who can hold their own ground. No one, man or woman, wants to be with someone who’s a pushover. That being said, we don’t want someone who’s equivalent to stone, but someone who will know where their boundaries are. [Read: 15 subtle traits that make a man fall in love with a woman]

#8 Feminine side. People always assume that showing your feminine side indicates that you’re fragile and weak – which is completely wrong. Everyone has a feminine side, and honestly, people do appreciate those who are able to confidently show it without shame.

If you want to wear heels, wear them. If you want to wear a sundress, wear it. If you want to wear bright pink lipstick, smack it on those lips. [Read: 20 hot tips – The ultimate guide to being more feminine]

#9 High-pitched voice. Interestingly, men find women with higher pitched voices to be more attractive. This is because it shows that those women are fertile, feminine, and youthful. Now, I have a deeper voice, so I’d like to think that science is wrong.

#10 Communication. Men can’t read your mind. I know, you want your life to be The Notebook, we all do. But Noah built that house because she told him to. So, the point is, you need to communicate. And if you do, he’ll find you that much more attractive.

#11 You have your own life. If you want to know one of the most important things about what men find attractive in a woman, it’s this. No one finds needy and clingy attractive traits. Not one person – unless you’re a control freak – then you’ve hit the jackpot.

But really, if you have your own life, men find the independence sexy, and also slightly relieving. [Read: 13 clear signs of a clingy girlfriend and ways to avoid being one]

#12 The color red. This seems to be the color that turns everyone on. Instinctively, red is the color that really gets men going. It shows sexuality and power… not a bad combination, right?

#13 Stroke the ego. This doesn’t mean you have to ooh and ahh at everything he does. However, men do love women who know when to stroke his ego. It could just be that you let him open the pickle jar – see, you needed him and he just loves it.

#14 Confidence. Confidence is sexy as hell. If you walk into a room with your head high, you’ll have every guy staring at you. Why? Because it looks like you don’t need them, and men love to chase what they can’t have. [Read: Why do men like a chase – And how to use this in your favor]

#15 Hip to waist ratio. This is science talking, not me. Apparently, men prefer a smaller waist and larger hips. This is because it’s connected to childbearing, thus, he’s more attracted to the hip to waist ratio. Now, this isn’t conscious, but it’s there in the back of their minds.

#16 Sexually expressive. When you’re sexually involved with a guy, they love it when you’re into it. No one wants to be with someone who’s dead silent, just laying there. They want you to interact, to be sexually expressive, and free. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yet yours]

#17 Ovulation. Who would have known? The pheromones that women release during ovulation are to blame for this attraction. When women ovulate, men become aroused. All those tampons and pads are apparently not a waste, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

#18 It’s all in the face. When men are looking for a long-term partner, they’re more concerned with a woman’s face than her body. This is because during sex men are more likely to stare at their partner’s face.

Now you get why women put more effort into their makeup than anything else. The pieces of the puzzle are coming together… finally.

[Read: Tired of chasing? How to make any guy want you instead]

Now that you know what men find attractive, well, the ball is in your court. Have fun playing this match, ladies! You’re going to love it.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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