What Guys Look For In Girls: 13 Things Men Like More than Appearances

When you like a guy, all you want is for them to notice you, but you’re not sure how. What guys look for in girls is pretty simple—and subtle.

what guys look for in girls

It’s very stressful when you’re trying to get a guy to like you. While all guys are different, what guys look for in girls is universal. It isn’t really the flashy stuff like many people think. It is the small and subtle characteristics that charm a guy.

What guys look for in girls – 13 subtle things you may ignore 

If you can’t imagine anything guys look for in girls, we have you covered with some of the things guys love most about girls.

#1 Someone who smiles. If you check Instagram right now, every girl is posing with either a duck face or some with some serious squinting action going on. Sure, you look good, but men love a girl with bright eyes and a beautiful smile.

When you smile, your eyes pop, and you’re full of positive energy. Men love this! In fact, everyone loves this. Men want to feel positive and full of energy when around you, so they choose a girl whose energy captivates them.

Now, this doesn’t mean you should be all creepy and constantly have a grin on your face. In fact, that probably works in the opposite way for you, so we recommend not to do that. All you need is your natural and genuine smile. It attracts any guy to you. [Read: 25 tips to look cute and melt any guy’s heart effortlessly]

#2 A girl who laughs. Who wants to hang out with someone who never laughs? It’s a draining experience being with someone who can’t relax and crack a joke. This doesn’t mean you have to laugh at every joke a guy makes, but you can relax and not force a serious face.

Laughing is the best way to connect with someone. If you’re relaxed, the guy will also be relaxed and comfortable around you. This is extremely important for any guy to feel when with a girl. [Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable to guys]

#3 Intelligence. Beauty may attract people to you, but if you can’t hold a conversation, they’ll just keep passing you by. You don’t have to be Einstein or talk quantum physics. However, when a guy looks for a girlfriend, they want somebody who they’ll be able to talk to. This is natural for anyone!

Looks fade, but at the end of the day, you want someone you mentally connect with. Men want a partner who they can discuss a variety of topics with and won’t have them staring at a girl who’s just nodding her head, pretending to care.

If you’re interested in a guy, find out what he likes and do some research on the topic. Maybe you’ll end up becoming interested in it, and together you’ll have something in common. [Read: 14 really easy ways to show a guy you like him, and still be a tease]

#4 Natural beauty. Makeup is great for highlighting your features. But men are also interested in a girl comfortable in her own skin, makeup free. If you wear makeup on a daily basis, that’s okay. However, what is important is you don’t rely on makeup to make you beautiful. Be comfortable in your own skin, and you will attract men who see your natural beauty.

#5 Honesty. Men look for a partner they can share themselves with. They’re looking for a girl who will be honest with them. You don’t have to share all the details about everything. However, men respect and appreciate a woman who tells them how they really feel.

Men are not mind readers, so honesty not only helps them understand you, but it develops a stronger relationship between you both. [Read: How to get a guy to like you effortlessly… in no time]

#6 Confidence. Confidence is key! You could be wearing a paper bag as a dress, but if you wear it with confidence, you’ll look amazing. Keep your head high and your shoulders back when you walk.

Men love a woman who knows herself and is confident in her own skin. Regardless of the flaws she has. No one is perfect, but if you accept yourself, men will be drawn to you. [Read: What men want in a woman to be drawn to her]

#7 Having your own voice. If a guy asks you, “What do you want to eat?” and your reply is, “Whatever you want to eat,” you can do better than that. If you’re naturally shy, that’s one thing. However, not voicing your opinion because you don’t want to offend or disagree with him is completely different.

If he didn’t want your opinion on a subject, he wouldn’t ask you. A man doesn’t want to go out with a girl who just follows whatever he does.

When this occurs, it stops being an intimate relationship and starts looking like a father-daughter relationship. That’s definitely not what you want to happen. Speak your mind, ladies. We’re well into the 21st century, and the fellas want to hear what you have to say. [Read: How to impress a guy in 13 oh-so-awesome ways]

#8 Self-reliant. We know men like serving the role as protector since this role has been established since the caveman era. They feel needed and valued when able to take care of their girl. It’s essential that they feel wanted. However, there is also a line where you become too clingy and dependent on them. Then they start to distance themselves from you.

Men want to know you’re able to take care of yourself. When the guy isn’t around, knowing you handle yourself and live an independent life also shows you don’t need him. Which, lucky for you, is even more attractive to him and make him want you more. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]

#9 Your attitude. Confidence is a great thing to have. There is a difference between having confidence and being arrogant. In that case, adjust your attitude and become a little more humble.

Men look for women who are kind, positive, and considerate. If you just read that and didn’t see yourself with any of those qualities, then it’s time to look within. Men stay far away from you until you let your kinder side show. [Read: 12 things guys like in a girl besides her appearance]

#10 Your scent. Guys love a woman that smells amazing. Your scent stimulates many emotions inside them—calmness, arousal, etc. Don’t overdo it with the perfume though! Just a little dab on the wrists and neck—there you go. When you walk by him, he’ll get a waft of your fragrance and the rest is history! [Read: How to attract men in a way they just can’t resist]

#11 Self-driven. What could be sexier than a girl that goes after what she wants? Exactly. Men love a woman motivated and goal-driven. If she see’s a job opening she wants, she goes and gets it. It’s very attractive for men to see a woman that pushes herself to her highest potential.

This ties in with self-confidence as it shows your self-respect and mindset. So, don’t be scared to go for what you want!

#12 Femininity. Guys like a girl who can get her hands dirty, play sports, and watch sports. But they also like a girl who dresses up and looks sexy and feminine. This doesn’t mean looking like a Barbie doll, it just means playing up your assets in a feminine manner.

Many girls think by looking feminine, they’re seen as weaker or unintelligent, but that’s not correct. You can look as feminine as you want and still have a brain. [Read: 20 hot tips: The ultimate guide to being more feminine]

#13 Manners. This may seem like an obvious one. However, many people don’t use manners when in public. Men love women who are confident, opinionated, and independent. But they also like a woman who knows how to behave in public.

For example, when meeting his parents for dinner, you don’t burp at the table or make faces about the food. This not only shows your self-respect but respect for him as well.

[Read: Just being me: 15 unexpected things guys like about girls]

Don’t worry if you don’t have all these qualities. There is always time to work on yourself. By seeing what characteristics men are interested in, you’ll be able to let yours shine and have the guys chasing after you.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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