Men get bored very easily. The fact of the matter is, their attention spans wander greatly from time to time, and it can be difficult to keep them interested in you or anything you have to say. Men seem to think women want to talk about shopping and nothing else, and fail to realize that we want to keep them interested.
The biggest fear many people face when in a relationship is losing their significant other’s interest. While they probably will remain interested, purely because they like who you are as a person, it can feel like they grow distant—especially when it comes to communication.
They might not feel like talking too often because they’re simply not interested in the conversation. Let’s be honest, girls: they really don’t care what shoes were on sale this week, nor do they find shopping interesting.
How to keep a guy interested
You’ll need to think about what he might like to talk about in order to keep him interested. He’s not your girlfriend. You can’t gossip about those train wreck mean girls from work, or divulge your newest celebrity crush to him.
He just won’t be interested in any of that. In order to really keep your guy interested, here are 13 things to talk about with him. These are some surefire ways to pique his interest and keep his eyes on you for the long haul.
#1 His interests. Men don’t find a lot of women’s interests to be all that… well, interesting—unless they’re also something they like. By bringing up and discussing his interests, you will show him that not only are you willing to learn more about him, you find his life interesting, as well.
Men don’t actually have a lot of time to talk about their interests; they don’t usually sit around with a group of guys and discuss these things—unless it’s a shared interest. So, when they have the opportunity and know they can go to you to talk about it, it will keep them coming back. [Read: 20 conversation topics your boyfriend would love to discuss with you]
#2 His work. People spend about 70% of their day at work. Men are overly proud of their work, too. So ask him how his job is going. Make sure to talk about his new goals at work, any projects he’s got going on that he really likes, and whatever else you can. By showing you care about other aspects of his life that are important to him, you’ll keep him interested.
#3 Any of his new hobbies—no matter how boring. You might cringe at the thought of spending time discussing his latest golf outing with his work friends, but if it’s something that he finds important, make a point to discuss it. Ask how it went, what he learned, if he’s getting better, etc.
If you want to take it a step further, ask if you could join him in his new hobby. He’ll be both surprised and intrigued that you not only brought it up to talk about, but that you want to be included. [Read: How to be a good girlfriend – 10 things you HAVE to do]
#4 Sex. If there’s one word that can make a man perk up and pay extra close attention, it’s sex. Now, this can be a touchy subject for men, if you approach talking about sex like there’s something wrong. But when you’re reaching for a great conversation that’ll keep him around, talk about the bedroom!
Discuss things you really like, what you’d like to try, and even ask him if there’s anything he would be interested in doing. This is a great way to keep him interested, because it opens a gap that can sometimes burden a relationship, and shows him that you’re open to discussing these topics with him. [Read: 14 naughty ways to discuss sex and get your lover to open up]
#5 Anything that has to do with him. Let’s be honest, men love to talk about themselves. As much as they shame us women for talking about our hair, nails, etc., they are just itching for you to ask about their new workout regimen because their body is looking great.
If you’ve noticed he’s spending more time in the gym or experimenting with his haircut, say something! Ask him what new workouts he’s been doing, or what inspired his sudden transformation. This will definitely keep him interested, because you are showing him that you pay attention.
#6 Food. I’m pretty sure food is a universally loved thing by men. When you start babbling about it, he’s certain to keep his interest on you. Bonus points if you talk about making him food. Even more bonus points if you talk about making him food half-naked.
#7 Talk about commonalities between the two of you. Show him how good you guys are together and he’ll be sure to stay interested. If you have shared interests, talk about them—and often! Make sure to discuss new things about your interest that he might not know about. It’s a great way to show him that you two make a great pair. If you are doing this, he won’t be looking anywhere else! [Read: 13 things you do that’ll really impress your guy]
#8 Talk about his passions. Just straight up ask him what he’s passionate about and watch him talk on and on. Men really don’t talk about these things with their friends all that often, and he is probably just waiting to get it off his chest. If you’re someone he knows he can divulge these things to, he’ll keep coming around.
#9 Ask him about his goals. I think every guy out there has a specific goal of some kind, just sitting in the back of his mind. Ask him if he has any at the moment and talk to him about them. He’ll be grateful to be able to open up to you, and he might even find that you motivate him—something men will not want to lose.
#10 Talk about your passions. One thing that may surprise most of you out there is that men love when a woman talks about what she’s passionate about. When they can see our passion and how it drives us, they can picture that same passion applied elsewhere.
Take kids, for example. If you show that you can be ridiculously passionate about something, your man will start imagining just how passionate and caring you may be to any future children that may be involved. Or maybe he would just love for you to be that passionate about him someday, too. [Read: 40 cute texts that’ll make him smile and miss you more]
#11 Talk about humorous things. Stay away from the serious conversations *unless they are important, of course* and stick with light-hearted humor. If you know he finds certain things funny, show him! It might strike up a fun conversation that’ll make him crave more time with you.
#12 Anything that will surprise him. Be surprising. Bring up a topic he knows a lot about and ask him to explain it to you. Talk about his favorite sports team and how they’re doing, or just find anything that will make him look at you in wonder.
Surprising men is a great way to keep them around, because they will just be sitting around, waiting to see what you’ll talk to them about next. Remember to always have a surprise tucked away, ready to pull out at a moment’s notice. [Read: 30 super-sexy things you can do to keep a guy really interested in you]
#13 Play 20 questions—he goes first—and anything is fair game. There are probably hundreds of questions he wants to ask you, but has never had the opportunity. Well, now you can give it to him on a silver platter!
If you’re looking for a conversation starter, tell him you want to play 20 questions with anything as fair game. You’ll not only keep him interested, but the two of you will get to know each other better and better, and he’ll probably find things out about you he didn’t even know—which may keep him around to find out more! [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility instantly]
[Read: 20 naughty and really sexy questions to ask your boyfriend]
Keeping a guy interested through conversation can be pretty tough sometimes. With their attention drifting to the newest thing out there 24/7, you can face some pretty big obstacles. These 13 things to talk about will be sure to pique his interest and keep him around for a while!
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