Learning how to be a naughty girl is a lot easier than it sounds. You don’t have to change who you are, just tweak a few details when the moment arrives.
Being a naughty girl isn’t something that women can do easily if it’s not part of who they are naturally. Sure, you’ve seen the character on television and you think you know how to be a bad girl. But then you actually try and end up looking like a fool. It happens.
You’re not naturally a naughty person and therefore, it comes across as awkward. Which is definitely not sexy.
The truth is that, if you’re a particularly sweet and kind person, becoming this naughty bad girl in the bedroom isn’t totally easy, but it’s not impossible! You’ll just need to know how to do it if you want to please your man the way he likes. [Read: How to be sexier – 15 ways to unleash the sex goddess hiding within]
Sacrifices in the bedroom are essential for a healthy relationship
You’re not always going to like every single thing your partner does. They might like certain positions that don’t do anything for you. On the flip side, you may want them to do something to you that doesn’t do much for them.
Compromise is essential. That means sometimes doing things that aren’t immediately attractive to you, to please each other. But of course, that doesn’t mean you should ever do something you’re not comfortable with.
There is a very big difference between compromise and going against everything that feels right to you.
Willingness to please one another in bed is important in order to have a healthy, happy relationship. And sometimes that means making sacrifices. So even if you aren’t really thrilled with the idea of being a naughty girl, you probably still have to put on a show for your partner if it’s what they really like. Who knows, maybe you’ll enjoy it?
[Read: How to please your man in and out of the bedroom – 20 sexy ways to arouse him 24/7]
Both partners play a part in coaxing the naughty side out
This is something you need to know, irrespective of your gender. If you’re a girl, we have a great list of ways to be the naughty girl and seduce your man.
On the other hand, if you’re the guy in the relationship, you need to know that your response and behavior around your girl plays a huge part in making her feel comfortable and excited enough to explore her naughty side.
So let’s take a look from both points of view, men and women, to bring out the naughty girl from within!
For the girls – How to be a naughty girl when you’ve never tried before
Role-playing can be really fun if you do it right. And yes, if you’re pretending to be a naughty girl when you’re definitely not, you’re role-playing. Being able to transform into something your partner has fantasized about can make your sex life so much better.
It’s not always easy to do, however. This is especially true if you’re not really the bad girl type.
Here’s how you can ditch the sweet girl inside of you and become the naughty woman your partner desires. [Read: How to be sexy, look sexy, and feel sexy without ever trying too hard]
1. Find out exactly what he likes about naughty girls
Why does your partner desire these types of women so much? What makes him horny for a naughty girl? Just ask him! If you’re at the point where you’re getting frisky in the bedroom, you should be able to ask this question.
Not only will it help you understand his mind and desires, but it’ll give you more specific details as to what you should be acting like. Is it the look he likes most or is it the no-nonsense attitude? Find out and then become it. [Read: 12 bad girl traits every guy secretly desires and craves for in his girl]
2. Do a little research
Aka, watch some porn. There are plenty of naughty girl pornos out there. All you have to go is a quick search and you’ll have all the material you need.
Study them and remember what they’re saying and doing that makes them a bad girl. Then try to emulate that.
3. Get a new outfit
Being a naughty girl isn’t just about your attitude, it’s about what you wear, too. This means you’ll need to go shopping and buy a few things that scream bad girl.
A lot of black lace and leather is perfect for this. You can even pick up a whip and some handcuffs if you really want to take it to the next level. [Read: How to take a naughty lingerie selfie and blow his mind]
4. Practice what to say
A huge part of the naughty girl vibe is being able to use your words. Which means you’ll have to learn how to dirty talk. This is a perfect way to bring out your naughty side while also adding something new to the bedroom.
You can even use some of this dirty talk to increase anticipation while your partner is away. Who knows? You may even like taking dirty and it could be something that gets you all riled up for sex, too. [Read: How to dirty talk to a guy and arouse him with all the right words]
5. Learn some new positions
There aren’t many positions that are labeled as being for “naughty girls.” But that doesn’t mean you can’t find new positions you’ve never tried before.
Showing your man that you can try new things and even taking the lead by telling him what you want can show him just how naughty you are. [Read: 10 best sex positions for girls to instantly make you feel like a pro]
6. Start with some surprise sexting
If you’re on the shy side and you’re a good girl, you can start showing your man your naughty side by texting. It’s a lot less personal and since you’re not in person, you’ll be a little braver.
This can be done by sending some really flirty texts that’ll lead to some seriously naughty texting. Up your dirty talk game through text and he’ll start to see that bad girl side. [Read: How to sext – 16 flirty tips to text naughty, dirty and flirty in no time]
7. Learn to let go of your good girl attitude when the mood arises
You’re a good girl and he knows that. You’re sweet and kind and all things good but that doesn’t mean you can’t let go and be naughty from time to time.
He may love your sweet nature in real life but in the bedroom, he wants that bad girl. Learn to let go of that person when you get intimate and he’ll be all over you. [Read: 10 seductive bad girl sex tricks to try in bed]
8. Start slowly
Don’t try to go all out right away. You’ll need to learn what sounds the best and what your partner likes. If you get into a super naughty outfit and start dropping a ton of dirty talk on him, he’ll be a little shocked. He’ll also find it difficult to take seriously.
So start slowly. Ease into becoming a naughty girl and it’ll be a lot more believable. If he believes it, it’ll turn him on like nothing else. [Read: 30 subtle, naughty and overly sexual flirting moves for girls]
9. Remember to relax
It can be a little intimidating putting your good girl attitude aside and adopting this naughty girl persona. Just relax. You’re doing it for your partner and he’ll love it. There’s nothing to worry about.
10. Have a little confidence in yourself
If you’re not confident, you’ll never be able to pull off being a naughty girl. Bad girls know they’re bad and they’re hot.
They are fully aware of their power and that makes them all the sexier. Gain the confidence you need to blow your man away. You can do this! [Read: 14 sexy secrets to be incredibly good in bed with your man]
11. Take control
Being assertive and dominant in the bedroom is not only really sexy, but it’s also very badass. When you tell your man exactly what you want and what he needs to do, you’re showing him who’s boss. And when you’re the boss, it’ll bring out your bad girl side.
12. Only do what you’re comfortable with
Of course, you need to sacrifice in bed sometimes for your partner, but within reason.
If something they’re asking you to do makes you super uncomfortable, don’t do it. Sometimes there are lines you can’t cross and that’s okay. There are plenty of ways to be a bad, naughty girl that you’ll be comfortable with. [Read: Top 60 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
13. Let loose and have some fun
Being intimate is about letting go and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone. So do that! Holding on to insecurity and fear will only make things super awkward.
Just enjoy the time you’re spending with your man. Enjoy the fact that you can pretend to be someone else and that your partner loves it. Focus on having fun and your whole naughty girl act will be even more effective. [Read: 10 fun sex games to play with your boyfriend in bed and out of it]
For the guys – How to coax the naughty girl out of your girlfriend
We hear guys complaining about their women not being adventurous enough or naughty enough. However, with terms like slut and whore floating around, you can see why women have a problem releasing their sexuality.
What you need to do is learn how to help your woman discover her naughty side.
That way, she’ll grow into herself and you’ll reap the benefits, a true win-win. Who said practice is boring? So guys, if you want the woman in your life to embrace her naughty girl side, these tips will allow you to help her do exactly that.
1. Know that every woman has a naughty side
Every woman has that inner naughty side. For some, they’ve already discovered it, while others don’t know they have it.
But, the point is, it exists. There’s no difference between “naughty” and “good” women, there are just women. If she’s shy to explore herself or claims she doesn’t have a naughty side, go nice and easy with trying to bring it out. [Read: 14 powerful tips to get your girl to talk about sex and open up in one conversation]
2. Don’t knock women down for being naughty
You’re trying to get your girl to bring out her naughty side. So, if you see a girl at the bar or out at the supermarket who looks more sexual, don’t turn to your girl and point out the other women in a degrading manner.
Not only is it pointless, but it’ll get her thinking negatively about sexuality. See how that works? Your shit attitude will come back and kick you in the ass, well, actually the dick… it’ll kick you in the dick. [Read: 14 ways to get your partner to open up about sex]
3. Understand that women are just as sexual as men
This whole time you were probably thinking you guys were the highest form of sexual beings, ha! Well, that is completely wrong. Actually, women are very sexual and the argument can be made that women are even more sexual than men.
Think about it, you guys can have sex once, maybe twice in a row? Women can keep it going till dawn or until they can’t walk. Impressive, no? Understand this and you’ll help her realize her true sexual potential.
4. Find out her fantasies
You need to find out what her deepest fantasies are to coax the naughty girl in her out. Now, once you find them out, that doesn’t mean you organize a threesome the next day. The worst thing you can do is throw one of her fantasies in her face. They’re her deepest secret sexual fantasies for a reason.
You’ll need some time to work your way up to those fantasies so that she’s comfortable with performing them. So, find out the fantasies and make them a goal that you build slowly up to. [Read: Female fantasies – The top 17 sexual fantasies that arouse almost every single girl]
5. Don’t pressure her
Listen, yelling at her and telling her she’s boring in bed or pressuring her to try anal sex isn’t going to bring out her naughtiness. It’ll not only make her feel like she isn’t good enough, but it’ll also reduce her trust in you.
The best thing to do is talk to her, outside of the bedroom, about the things you’d like to try out. See where she stands and what she feels comfortable or uncomfortable with. That way, you guys can hash it out and when it comes time for sexy time, you’ll both be ready for it. [Read: Turn offs for women – 25 things guys do that girls absolutely hate]
6. Make her feel desired
Women want to feel wanted, we want men to ache for us, that’s what turns us on. So, make her feel like you want to eat her up like you can’t get enough of her.
It’ll turn on that horny and naughty switch for her, and she’ll be pouncing on you like you’re a piece of steak. So, if you want her, show her. [Read: How to make a woman feel sexy and desirable – 11 moves that really work]
7. Get a little rough
Romantic sex is beautiful and sweet, but it’s boring after a while. It’s nice to throw it in there, every now and then, but can you imagine having that sex every day? Oh god. Get a little rough. Don’t start spanking and choking her aggressively on the first try – or ever, if it’s not something she’s keen on.
Test out a little roughness and see how she responds. Try a little light spanking first and she’ll let you know if she likes it. From there, you can increase the intensity and get a little wild. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]
8. Ask her what she wants
Don’t just assume she likes anal sex or giving you a blowjob. Actually, ask her what she’s into. If she hasn’t tried something, such as anal sex, ask her if she’d be interested in giving it a try.
If you don’t know what she wants, then how do you know what will unlock her naughty girl side? Exactly, don’t be the guy who doesn’t ask for directions when lost. Just ask and get on the right road.
9. Make sure she feels connected
So, women do like it rough, but we also want to feel connected. You may not like cuddling or hugging but get over it. Women want to feel emotionally and mentally connected to their partners. This makes the sex even better.
So, before sex or throughout the day, send her a cute “I’m thinking of you text” or give her a long genuine hug. Sex is the best when there’s a connection. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved]
10. Start the foreplay before the bedroom
You don’t have to wait until your feet enter the bedroom in order to get the sexual energy going. Work on that way ahead of time.
Guys always forget the importance of foreplay.
It’s important, very important. It’s like warming your car up during winter. Send naughty texts, subtly grab her ass in public, whisper something risky in her ear at the checkout. Get those juices flowing way ahead of time. [Read: What is foreplay? 17 sexy moves to get any girl hot and horny]
11. Never judge her
If she’s into something that you’ve never done before or something that surprises you, don’t judge her. Be open-minded because everyone has different levels of naughtiness.
Maybe she’s more naughty than you thought, which is great, so don’t try to repress it. You tried to open up her naughtiness, so now that she’s open, you can’t go back. You’ve opened Pandora’s naughty box.
12. Let her do something forbidden
Remember when your mom said you couldn’t eat a cookie from the cookie jar? Would you say ‘okay’ and walk away? Hell no! You would wait for her to leave and then you’d swipe one.
So, letting her do something forbidden is actually highly arousing.
Maybe the forbidden thing is her playing with your anus, or flashing in public. The more it’s restricted, it’ll make her want to do it even more.
But of course, that doesn’t mean she can do anything you’re not comfortable with – you both need to be comfortable and happy with everything that’s happening. [Read: 41 wild and naughty places to have sex that are beyond the bed]
13. Women want raw sex
Women want raw, emotional, messy sex. We want to lick you, we want you to grab us, flip us over, we want your sweat all over our bodies. We want it all.
So, don’t reserve yourself and keep it clean. If you want to bring out her naughtiness, just go full animal. Not only will it open her up, but it’ll probably be the best sex you’ve ever had.
14. Be vulnerable
If she’s shy about her sexuality and you’re shy about being open, it’s not going to work. You need to be vulnerable. Tell her your deepest fantasies, tell her the things that really turn you on.
They may surprise her in the beginning, but once you take that step and open yourself up, she’ll feel safe and will do the same. It can’t be only her being the one to open up. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]
15. Remember to give her amazing oral sex
Another great way to turn that naughty switch on is to give her orgasmic oral sex. So, brush up on your skills because if you do this right, you’ll unleash a beast of sexual energy.
These feelings build up inside of her while you’re going down on her, and of course, she’ll have to release them somehow. [Read: How to eat a girl out – 16 secrets to make her scream and squirt]
Now it’s time to get naughty!
Now we’ve covered all angles. Ladies, you know how to embrace your naughty girl side and rock his world. And guys, you know how to help your partner embrace her naughty side and bring new energy to the bedroom. What’s left to do? Practice!
[Read: 18 sex tips for men that’ll leave any woman craving for more]
If you really want to show your man that you can be a naughty girl, try these tips. He’ll be turned on, blown away, and he’ll be all over you. And guys, if you want your girl to be naughty, now you know how to coax it out of her!