Wondering how the hell people survive the dating world? It’s not as scary as you think. You need to know how to text a guy to keep him interested in you.
You like a guy, I mean, you like him a lot. And if anything is certain, you’re terrified that he’ll get bored soon, and you’re wondering how to text a guy to keep him interested in you.
Firstly, stop it! By worrying about losing him, it’ll only get you more paranoid and nervous when talking to him. And that’s what will make him lose interest in you. So, take a deep breath and chill out.
Secondly, if he loses interest in you, so what? Do you think he’s the only guy out there? He’s not. By keeping this in mind, it’ll help you reduce your anxiety the next time you talk to him. If he likes you, you won’t have to do much to keep him interested because he’s attracted to you.
I get it, saying all of this is easy. The hard part comes when you’re texting him, and you can feel the sweat forming and dripping down your back. So, I’m going to help you out and give you some pointers you can use the next time you’re texting him.
How to text a guy to keep him interested in you and hooked
Once you two become comfortable with each other, these tips probably won’t be needed anymore because you’ll be past this awkward point. So, it’s time you learned the little tips and tricks you can use the next time you’re texting him to have him hooked.
#1 Less is more. I know you want to explain to him in detail about your day, but remember, less is more. You don’t need to send him an essay; he’s not going to read it. I mean, would you read it? Of course, not. Keep your messages short, sweet, and to the point. Save the in-depth conversation for a date.
#2 If it sounds boring, don’t send it. The worst texts are the, “oh my god, my dog just licked my face – he’s so sweet,” or “I’m so full from dinner.” Who wants to read that? Better question, how is a guy supposed to respond to a message like that? You’re not giving him anything to work with, and with a text like that, I don’t think he’d want to reply. [Read: How to not be a boring texter and keep your crush interested]
#3 Don’t double text. If you texted him, then let him reply. I know there’s this urge to text him again, just in case he didn’t see it. But you know he eventually will see your text message. And if he’s into you, he’ll reply when he has the time. A double text isn’t showing anything but clinginess and desperation. And that’s not a good look. [Read: Double texting and second text rules to play it cool]
#4 Ask him questions. Women usually have guys asking them every question in the book, but you also have to be asking him questions. Do you want to get to know him? Then ask him questions. No, it doesn’t have to sound like a job interview but ask questions that’ll give you a better idea of who he is. Who knows, maybe he’s not really your type after all.
#5 Have a life outside of your phone. I know you like him, and you’re excited to text him, but you also have a life outside of him. Nothing’s worse than showing him all you have going in your life is him. You don’t need to reply to all his messages right away – go hang out with friends, work, or study. Show him you’re independent of him.
#6 Give open-ended answers and questions. Have you ever asked someone a question and they texted you back ‘yes’ or ‘no’? There’s not much you can do with a response like that. To keep the conversation going, give open-ended answers and questions. Allow the question to tell a story or give a deeper answer. [Read: 13 texting tweaks to make any guy want more of your texts]
#7 Let him text you first. There’s no problem with sending him the first text; in fact, I encourage it. But you don’t always have to be the first one to initiate conversation. By seeing if he initiates conversations, you’ll be able to gauge his feelings for you. If you’re always the person starting conversations, he may not be that into you.
#8 Respect time. If he has a full-time job, he probably won’t have time to text you every three minutes. This is something you need to understand and respect when you’re trying to figure out how to text a guy to keep him interested. Not everyone has the time to text you back right away, and if you want to keep him interested, then give him space.
#9 Write properly. Abbreviating everything may seem more convenient, but it also makes you look like a twelve-year-old. Whatever language you’re texting in, use proper spelling and grammar. You’re an educated woman; you know how to spell – so use this skill. [Read: 25 texting examples to get a guy’s attention and work your magic]
#10 Show off your personality. Don’t pretend to be someone else to keep his attention. He’s eventually going to see your true colors. So, be yourself from the get-go. Show off your personality, and let him see all you have to offer. If you have a great sense of humor, use it! If you’re addicted to pug memes, send him some!
#11 Send a (non-dirty) photo. Not that there’s anything wrong with dirty photos, but sending him a nude photo isn’t the way to keep him interested. Send him a cute selfie, a photo of where you are, don’t rush into sending him naughty photos. Let him get interested in who you are first, once you two have a more trusting relationship; then you can send more explicit photos.
#12 Don’t just text ‘hi.’ Girls don’t like it when a guy texts them ‘hi,’ and it’s not much different for men. It’s a dull text and doesn’t get you excited to start a conversation. If you’re wondering how to text a guy to keep him interested, remember to start the conversation with a catchy opener. Mention something that happened today or a funny meme. Texting ‘hi’ will never get someone excited to text you back. [Read: How guys text when they like you – 15 things they do differently]
#13 Go easy with emojis. He shouldn’t have to decrypt your text message. Sure, you can throw a couple of emojis here and there, but your text doesn’t have to be flooded with them. Too many emojis give off an immature vibe, and no one really is looking for that.
Learning how to text a guy to keep him interested isn’t hard when you two share a connection. Remember, don’t force something that isn’t meant to happen. If you follow these steps, and the connection is there, there’s no reason for it to not work out.
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A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...