How to Get a Guy to Sleep with You: Woo Him without Being Slutty

You may drool every time that one guy walks by. You’re unsure how to get a guy to sleep with you, especially that guy. You just need to know what to do.

how to get a guy to sleep with you

In high school, I was a complete fail when it came to knowing how to get a guy to sleep with you. Literally, I couldn’t get a guy to like me, no matter what I did. I think that was probably part of the problem—I tried too hard. I wanted one guy so badly, I lied and told him my mom was at a bakery by his house just so I could walk home with him. You have to admit, it’s not a bad idea, right?

That was the fittest I’ve ever been in my life. I walked my ass off, yet it got me nowhere. I finally realized while my tactic was giving me a firm ass, it wasn’t getting me any further with guys. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

How to get a guy to sleep with you

That’s when I knew I had to change things up. When university rolled around, I changed the way I approached men. Don’t worry, this isn’t some giant mathematical equation you need to solve. It’s actually pretty easy, you just need the confidence in yourself if you want it to work.

So, if you don’t want to waste years of pushing and pulling, trying to get a guy into you—don’t do what I did. Instead, follow these tips on how to get a guy to sleep with you, and they’ll put you on the right track. If you thought this was some complex algorithm, you’re wrong.

#1 Don’t be too eager. There’s a time and place to look at him, but this is clearly not the time. See, here the thing, no one wants to be with someone who’s too into them—at least in the beginning. They want the chase. They want you to play a little hard to get. They don’t want you drooling after them. Sure it boosts their ego, but not in the way that gets you laid. [Read: How to ignore a guy just right and leave him chasing you]

#2 Feel sexy. Sexiness can be felt miles away. You don’t have to look like Megan Fox in order to be sexy. Hell, I’m far from it. But, I think I’m really sexy. I love my hair, I love my smile. Sure, I could lose some weight on my tummy, but I don’t think about that when I walk into a room. I only think about how great I look and feel. If you feel sexy, every guy wants a piece of it. [Read: How to feel sexy and desirable all the time]

#3 Be flirty. Be flirty with him, yet tease him a bit. Show him you don’t think he’s the hottest guy in the room, and, if you want, you could get someone else. If he feels he has you in his pocket, it doesn’t mean he’s going to sleep with you. Instead, he keeps you as an option. No, no, no! You don’t want that, flip that around.

#4 Focus on building the tension. You can do this through flirting and body language. Stand closer to him, touch his arm when you laugh, brush your hair to one side exposing your neck. These very small acts reveal a lot. Remember we communicate 90% through body language. So, use your body to make him want you. [Read: How to create sexual tension with a guy so he’ll make a move]

#5 Don’t hang around. If you’re at a club or bar and he approaches you, definitely have a conversation. But, don’t hang around him for the entire night. I know you don’t want him to find someone else, but by hanging out with him for the entire night it shows that he’s the only one you want. Go to the bathroom. Dance with your friends for a bit. Show him that you don’t need him. [Read: How to get your crush to notice you and like you back]

#6 Make him compete. Now, don’t make him feel like he’s running a 10k race, but you want him to see other men interested in you. Men like competition. It continues off of the idea of them chasing the woman.

If a guy approaches, have a conversation, smile, be friendly. But wake him up and show him other men are interested. That way, when you’re alone, he approaches you.

#7 Create an opportunity for him to approach you. If you’re always with your friends, he may not approach you. I mean, it can be slightly intimidating walking up to a group of women. But, on occasion, go to the bar by yourself or dance just a little bit away from your friends. Give him space to come up to you.

#8 Make eye contact. You don’t need to do this throughout the night, but, do make eye contact a couple of times. When men look at women, they look at their faces first since the face reveals whether or not a woman is interested in them. So, eye contact gives him the hint that you’re into him. [Read: How to master the art of eye fucking]

#9 Don’t give him everything right away. I know you want to jump on him and rip off his clothes. But don’t, at least not yet. If you two kiss, sure, make out with him but at some point, pull back. This builds up the intensity and makes him want you even more—you know why? Because you’re not giving him what he wants.

#10 Use texting to your advantage. If he asks for your number or you have texted, make the content a little naughtier. If you want to know how to get a guy to sleep with you, tell him what you’re wearing right now or what you wish you were doing. This makes him visualize what he would do to you sexually. What’s even better is that he’s not next to you, and it increases the sexual tension. [Read: 20 sexy questions to ask a guy and seduce him in a night!]

#11 But don’t over text. You want him to chase you. So, though you can text him, let him make the first move. I know you want to sleep with him, but he needs to want to sleep with you. And if you sext already, he’ll have no problem texting you and vice versa. If you still talk on a friendly level, play it cool and let him put in some effort.

#12 You don’t have to say yes when he says yes. If he’s decided he wants to sleep with you—great! But this doesn’t mean you must say yes. Remember, he’s chasing you, so now you have the power. You control when you sleep with him. So, you can play hard to get a little bit and not give him what he wants right away. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and leave him smitten]

#13 If you just met him, don’t text him. I mean it. If you just met this guy, you exchanged numbers—don’t text him. Come on, if he wants you, he can text you. Remember, it’s about the chase. He may think you’ll text him but add a little plot twist and surprise him with your nonchalant behavior.

[Read: 30 subtle, obvious and overly sexual flirting tips all girls must know]

Now that you know how to get a guy to sleep with you, it’s about time you went along and gave these tips a try. The worst thing that happens is nothing.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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