You’re in bed with a sexy woman who wants nothing more than to pounce on you. And while you want nothing more than to have sex with her, you have one little problem: stressing over how to not cum fast.
Now, this isn’t necessarily a problem, but you want to spend more time with your partner having passionate sex. There’s nothing wrong with that. If you think premature ejaculation is uncommon, you’re very wrong. Most men experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. So, you’re not alone in this.
More importantly, it is something you can overcome, which is exactly why you’re here. You want to learn how to not cum fast, right? So, if sexual intercourse lasts less than two minutes, it’s considered premature ejaculation.
[Read: How to last longer in bed: A man’s guide to go from zero to hero]
How to not cum fast: 13 effective ways to stay hard for way longer
There are tons of ways you can work on yourself to last longer and keep your partner satisfied. It’s time we got started. But before we do, it’s important you know it’ll take some time for you to overcome it. It’s not going to happen overnight or by masturbating once. So, keep your chin up.
#1 Communicate with your partner. When it comes to sex, communication is key. You should let your partner know how you feel, and if they’re doing something too intense for you. Your partner wants to have a good time with you, meaning they want to make the sex last. So, don’t be afraid to communicate with them on how you’re feeling. [Read: Average time for sex: How long we want vs. how long we last]
#2 How are you feeling overall? Are you always ejaculating prematurely? Or is this something that’s started to happen recently? If so, what’s going on in your life outside of the bedroom? Did you get a new job? Are you stressed out with school? How are you feeling overall?
#3 Look at the root problem. What’s the root problem of your premature ejaculation? Once your figure out why you ejaculate prematurely, it’ll help you deal with it. Do you have performance anxiety? Are you on medication? Reflect on what goes on in your body and mind when you’re having sex. [Read: Weird penis? 10 freaky behaviors that are actually normal]
#4 Change up the positions, tempo, and angle. There are certain positions, tempos, and angles that are easier for you to keep things together and reduce the climax. But you’ll need to experiment on what positions work best for you. Everyone is different when it comes to what they sexually enjoy.
#5 Do male Kegels. Women aren’t the only ones who have pelvic floor muscles. As a man, you also have them. So, to strengthen them, practice male Kegels. The pelvic floor muscles are what you use to stop your pee in mid-stream. These are the muscles that can help you control yourself from ejaculating. [Read: 15 technical hacks to push harder and last way longer]
#6 Take the attention off of you. If you keep thinking about how you’re close to ejaculating, chances are you’re going to ejaculate soon. So, take your mind off of yourself. Focus your attention on your partner. This will help you forget about your ejaculation and give you some time to calm down.
#7 Female-focused foreplay. If you’re feeling anxious or thinking you’re about to ejaculate, switch to female-focused foreplay. Spend some time focusing on performing oral sex and other intimate activities, removing the need to have penetrative sex at that time. When you’ve calmed down, then have penetrative sex. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to try on their ladies]
#8 Practice orgasm denial. When you’re having sex or while you’re masturbating, practice orgasm denial. This means when you’re just about to orgasm, stop what you’re doing completely. Then, begin having sex or masturbating again to the point of climax and stop again. If you want to learn how to not cum fast, keep doing it until you can’t do it anymore.
#9 Experiment with toys. Toys have really come a long way, and there’s literally something out there for everyone. You can experiment with different toys, such as love rings that are worn around the penis during sex. The love ring restricts blood flow and allows the man to last longer. [Read: The most common sex toys all couples and singles must know about]
#10 Masturbate. If you want to overcome premature ejaculation, then practice. You don’t need to be with your partner to overcome this. Instead, practice while you’re masturbating. While you’re masturbating, practice orgasm denial. It’ll help you improve your endurance and help you out when it comes to having sex. [Read: How to “edge” yourself and extend sexual pleasure]
#11 Are you taking any medications? If you’re not having any sexual anxiety *at least, from what you know*, then you should ask yourself whether the medication you’re taking can affect your sex life. If you’re taking any medications, some of the side effects can affect your performance.
#12 Wear a condom. Some men find wearing a thicker condom helps them last longer. Well, not some men, most men. This is because it acts as a barrier and prevents the man from really feeling the inside of the vagina. Of course, you should be wearing protection anyways, but try wearing a thicker condom next time. [Read: Condom types and how they can improve your sex life]
#13 Practice, practice, practice. If there’s one thing you’re going to need to do, it’s to practice. You’re not going to overcome premature ejaculation overnight, as much as you’d wish that would happen. You’ll need to experiment with what works for you and then stick to it. You will see a difference.
[Read: The best ways to overcome premature ejaculation]
Now that you know how not to cum fast, you’ll need to practice. It won’t happen right away, but you’ll notice yourself getting better and better with each try as you use these different ways.
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