Everyone needs to let loose once in a while and indulge in a bit of freaky sex, while still being careful not to go overboard and scare people away.
I am all for having freaky sex. Getting crazy and letting your wild side out is what sex is for after all. We’re primal beings! We need to acknowledge that side of our human nature from time to time and experience all the kinky sex we can.
Now, that being said, there are many people who take freaky sex to a crazy level tending to go overboard a bit. These are usually the ones who end up scaring people off and even getting a reputation for being a freak in the sheets.
But there are also people out there intimidated by the idea of wild and freaky sex. And they just don’t know how to do it at all. They think they’ll scare off any hookup with their kinkiness and so they hold back. Another no-no in my book. [Read: The kink list: 20 freaky fetishes that aren’t weird at all]
Make it freaky, but keep it classy
Sex is meant to be fun, wild, crazy, and unleash your inner freak. You should never have to hold back just because you’re not sure how to be a freak without going overboard. That’s why I’m here to help. Here’s exactly how you can have freaky sex without going overboard and scaring away every person you sleep with.
Tips for not going overboard while having freaky sex
Before we dive into all the different ways you can kick up your freak-o-meter during sex, we should first lay out the ground work for this kind of sex. You can’t just jump right in and expect everything to work out in your favor. Follow these guidelines before skipping to freaky sex. [Read: 14 tips to get your partner to open up about sex]
#1 Start slower. You never want to launch yourself onto someone in full-on freak mode. While there may be certain people who find this appealing, overall you’ll probably just scare someone away and make them think you’re the bad kind of freak.
Ease into your freakiness slowly, so they have a chance to brace themselves.
#2 Listen to their body language. Body language indicates if someone enjoys your freakishness or not. Pay attention to their sounds, where their hips go, and even if they tense up when you touch them somewhere. Always watch for signs that they’re not having fun.
#3 Be confident in your moves. People who successfully have freaky sexy without going overboard are the confident ones. They make you believe you love the freakiness–which they will be if you remain confident. Being shy might just add a layer of awkward on top of freak. [Read: 14 sexy secrets to be incredibly good in bed every time]
#4 Discuss your limits. If you can sneak in a sexy way to discuss your limits with your partner, then you should always try to do that if you don’t want to go overboard. They may not like certain things during sex and your freak ego might do them in if you’re unaware of their distaste in those acts.
Now that you understand the way freaky sex should operate and know what you should be doing first, we can get to the good stuff. Here are all the different ways to have freaky sex without going overboard.
#1 Ask them what they want–in a sexy way. You can’t be shy and insecure when you do this. You might just kill the mood. Instead, get really close to them and whisper in their ear, “What do you want me to do to you?”
This way, you’ll be able to know what they really like without making the mistake of guessing and going a little bit too freaky for their taste. A bonus? Doing it this way increases their desire for what they want too. [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk and say the sexiest words]
#2 Try some outrageous positions. Nothing says freak quite like bending yourself into a position even a contortionist wouldn’t dare try. The key is to make sure it’s a position where the sex feels good, and it’s easy for entry. You also want to be sure these positions aren’t too tiring to stay in. [Read: 30 days sex challenge – 30 naughty sex positions for 30 days]
#3 Follow your instincts. Human beings are not supposed to be shy and tentative creatures. We have urges and tendencies we often ignore because they’re not what society considers proper.
Well, you know what? To hell with society! When you’re getting naked and having fun, forget about what is considered a social norm and go with your gut. Do what you want, but make sure to read their body language so you know it’s not too far.
#4 Try public, inconspicuous sex. I’ve never had sex in public, but that’s almost the first thing to come to mind when I think about freaky sexy. If you can sneak off to a public restroom–with a lock on it–and you can have sex there, it’s perfect! Just make sure you’re not too obvious because some places have laws against public sex. [Read: Real life dirty sexy public flashing confessions]
#5 Use your teeth every now and then. The when and the where you use your teeth can make all the difference when it comes to crossing that overboard line. You can’t just outright bite down with full force on a guy’s manly bits.
When using your teeth, play, tease, and gently nibble on different parts of their body. You create the freakiness from the slight fear the other person may have with biting, Plus, you’ll make some really amazing sensations.
#6 Pull some hair! Nothing says freak like grabbing a handful of hair and pulling it–not too hard though. There should never be any hair actually coming off of the person’s head; just enough to cause them a tiny pit of pain. Hair pulling is primal and raw and sexy as hell.
#7 Use some out-of-the-box toys. You may have some typical sex toys lying around that you like using from time to time, but what about sex toys that are wild and crazy? Using some toys your partner may have never seen before might intimidate them, but it might also drive them wild. [Read: 13 must-have couple’s sex toys for naughty newcomers]
#8 Get some food involved. We’ve all heard of the old licking whip cream off someone’s nipples tidbit before. But what about using other foods? There is edible underwear, candy necklaces *that you don’t have to use around JUST your neck*. You can even use sour candies to run along your body and make the other person find the sour spots.
#9 Play sexy games. Make them use ONLY their mouths to undress you. Tell them they can’t touch you with their hands for the entirety of having sex. Playing different games adds a level of freak they may not get elsewhere. The key is to stick with these rules. [Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel horny again]
#10 50 Shades of Grey it. You know what I mean. Tie them up. Whip them with functional–yet not too painful–whips. Blindfold them and leave them waiting. If you want more ideas about this one, you’ll have to read 50 Shades of Grey. You’ll learn exactly how to have freaky sex without going overboard.
#11 Play to their fetishes. Does your person have a fetish you know about or even discovered during your freaky sex rampage? Then use it! Feet fetishes are super common so if they have this fetish, then use your feet to pleasure them everywhere. Playing up someone’s fetish creates some really freaky and fun sex. [Read: Sexual bucket list – 17 fun, sexy ideas you have to try]