Many people like having freaky sex. Getting crazy and letting your wild side out in the sheets is what sex is for after all. We’re primal beings! We need to acknowledge that side of our human nature from time to time and experience all the kinky sex we can.
Now, that being said, there are many people who take freaky sex to a crazy level, tending to go overboard a bit. These are usually the ones who end up scaring people off and even getting a reputation for being a freak in bed, and not in a good way.
But there are also people out there intimidated by the idea of wild and freaky sex, and they just don’t know how to do it.
Luckily, we have all the information you need to know about freaky sex so that you can not only lose your fear of it but also feel empowered to embrace it during your next romp! [Read: Couples kink list – 52 freaky and weird sexual fetishes many people indulge in]
When most people hear the term ‘freaky sex,’ they think of leather, whips, corsets, spanking, and other kinky things—BDSM, basically. They also might believe that the desire for freaky sex is born from some sort of past or childhood trauma, or some other psychological myth.
In short, there’s a lot of misunderstanding surrounding the topic. So, we need to understand how kink and freaky tendencies in sex develop, and what the people who like it get out of it.
Kink—or freaky sex—is a consensual, non-traditional sexual and intimate behavior. It can include things like sadomasochism, domination and submission, erotic roleplaying, fetishism, and erotic forms of discipline. [Read: 49 naughty and freaky sex questions for couples to keep the spark alive]
It might sound strange, but research done by Samual Hughes suggests that a preference for kink begins much earlier in life, way before someone is sexually active.
He postulates that the initial engagement in kinky behaviors begins in childhood, with the playing of games such as cops and robbers.
Then, in teenage years, this desire for kink grows but also isolates a person, as they feel “different” or that something is wrong with them. And then, past the age of 18, a person goes out into the world, exploring the freaky sex and kinky interests that have been accumulating all this time!
But regardless of anyone’s motivation, or the psychology behind the development of kinky preferences, people who are into freaky sex have an inherent need for excitement and adventure.
Think of it this way. Some people love skydiving because it gives them a rush of exhilaration, while other people wouldn’t do it if you paid them all the money in the world.
Some people love the sensation of physical extremes and excitement, and others prefer to play it safe. [Read: The top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
If your partner has told you that they want to explore freakier sex with you, you might have a lot of questions.
Does this mean that they’re bored with your sex life? Have they been hiding their sexually deviant side from you this whole time? [Read: How to be kinky – 42 steamy tips to explore sex outside of normal]
Well, no and no. It doesn’t mean that they’re dissatisfied with your current sex life. And it also doesn’t mean that they’ve been hiding some perverted part of them from you.
Being a freak in the sheets doesn’t mean you always opt for kinky sex—just when the mood takes you.
Actually, bringing freaky sex into the bed can be a great thing for your relationship! Engaging in freaky sex requires good communication between partners about desires and limits so that both people enjoy it. It can also increase your feelings of intimacy within the relationship. [Read: 42 secrets to communicate better in a relationship and ways to fix a lack of it]
As we’ve already suggested, there is a lot of misunderstanding around kinks and freaky sex. Well, we’re here to crush those misconceptions once and for all and start spreading the truth!
Obviously, that’s not true—you can say no in any situation. Even if you agreed to it ahead of time, you can change your mind. Freaky sex and kink are actually very concerned with consent.
In fact, you’ll find that the freakiest people in bed care about consistently getting their partner’s consent more than anyone else. [Read: Weird sex – the strangest and wildest sex acts you may want to try]
Freaky sex can involve whips, spanks, and other forms of mixing pleasure and pain. But it is only done with mutual consent. It is not an excuse to be abusive towards your partner, and it isn’t a requirement within freaky sex. [Read: 22 signs to see a troubled relationship and the best ways to fix it ASAP]
If you don’t want pain to be involved at any point, it doesn’t have to be. And if you and your partner want to explore with pain and pleasure, both people have to keep checking in with each other to make sure they are enjoying it.
There are a lot of ways you can have freaky sex. It can be complex with a lot of sexual accessories, or it can be very simple.
You can do it with just one partner, multiple partners, or even by yourself. It’s often defined as sexual practices that are non-traditional. [Read: How to be a freak in bed and enjoy sex in every way possible]
Contrary to what a lot of people think, freaky sex is normal. It’s healthy to explore your fantasies as long as you both consent to them.
Many people enjoy these kinds of sexual experiences and the only people’s opinions that matter are the people who are involved.
So, if you want to be a freak in bed, go for it!
Before we dive into all the different ways you can kick up your freak-o-meter during sex, we should first lay out the groundwork for this kind of sex.
Freaky sex is subjective. Some people may say having sex while wearing a diaper is freaky, but someone else may think they’re mad! So, remember, when you push your boundaries of what you consider to be “normal” sex, you’re already taking a step into freaky sex.
That’s all it is! You need to explore what you enjoy and try to find a way to push the boundaries comfortably while enhancing the sexual pleasure you and your partner/s experience.
So you can’t just jump right in and expect everything to work out in your favor. Follow these guidelines before skipping to freaky sex. [Read: How to open up about sex and get your partner to share their desires]
You never want to launch yourself onto someone in full-on freak-in-bed mode. While there may be certain people who find this appealing, you’re more likely to just scare someone away and make them think you’re the bad kind of freak.
Ease into your freakiness slowly, so they have a chance to brace themselves. If you do it right, then they will probably enjoy the freaky sex just as much as you do.
Body language indicates if someone enjoys your freaky sex or not. Pay attention to their sounds, where their hips go, and even if they tense up when you touch them somewhere.
Always watch for signs that they’re not having fun while being a freak in bed. [Read: Body language attraction – 58 male and female signs and how to read & use them]
People who successfully have freaky sex without going overboard are the confident ones. Being shy might just add a layer of awkwardness on top of freakiness. [Read: 18 sexy secrets to be incredibly good in bed and leave anyone wanting more]
It’s a good idea to discuss your limits with your partner.
They may not like certain things during sex and your freak ego might upset them if you’re unaware of their distaste for those acts. And vice versa, so make sure that you’re always knowledgeable about each other’s boundaries and limits.
Here’s the thing, if you’ve never had anal sex before, you may consider this to be extreme. So, you need to look at where your comfort zone ends, and what you think is wild behavior.
Not everyone has the same idea as you when they think of freaky. [Read: How to have anal sex and 51 must-knows to prepare for your first time]
The best way to learn how to be a freak in bed is to explore your sexuality. Whether it’s through porn or experimenting with a partner, try things out that you usually don’t do while having sex.
For example, if spanking videos turn you on, try spanking your partner and see how you feel.
Once you start to explore sexual acts outside of your comfort zone, you’ll get to understand yourself better. [Read: 26 sexy, dirty, freaky things to say and do in bed and try something new]
A freak in bed isn’t someone who does things they don’t want to do. The reason why someone’s a freak is that they let go and fully enjoy every moment in bed. They’re receiving pure pleasure from the sex they’re having, which is what makes them a freak.
Once you’re completely in the moment, you’re free. [Read: 46 sizzling sex life secrets to spice up your bedroom and leave you horny 24/7]
If the sex isn’t hitting the spot, don’t fake it. We know there are many people who fake their orgasms just to be polite or to get it “over with.”
If it’s because of the latter, ask yourself why you’re having sex with this person. If you’re doing it out of politeness, don’t. [Read: 57 signs, why, and ways to tell if she;s faking an orgasm or really coming]
People think that treating their partner like a ragdoll is what makes someone a freak in bed. It’s not.
Treating your partner without consideration just makes you a jerk, and doesn’t make for an enjoyable experience. Always respect your partner’s body.
[Read: How to respect women – 18 must-know rules all men should learn and follow
Sex isn’t just a physical activity—it’s highly emotional. If you’re not getting turned on, you don’t feel good. Sex is more than just your penis or vagina being stimulated. It’s a full-body experience.
If you want to be a freak in the sheets, allow your body and mind to work together.
Now that you understand the way freaky sex should operate and know what you should be doing first, we can get to the good stuff.
Here are all the different ways to have freaky sex, so get your pen and notepad out and start taking notes!
You can’t be shy and insecure when you try to be a freak in the sheets. You might just kill the mood. Instead, get really close to them and whisper in their ear, “What do you want me to do to you?”
This way, you’ll be able to know what they really like without making the mistake of guessing and going a little bit too freaky for their taste.
A bonus? Doing it this way increases their desire for what they want too. [Read: How to dirty talk – 36 sexy tips and 55 examples to turn anyone on with words]
Nothing says freak quite like bending yourself into a position even a contortionist wouldn’t dare try. The key is to make sure it’s a position where the sex feels good, and it’s easy for entry.
You also want to be sure these positions aren’t too tiring to stay in. [Read: Easy sex positions that look expert-level sexy and feel really good too]
Human beings are not supposed to be shy and tentative creatures. We have urges and tendencies, but we often ignore them because they’re not what society considers proper.
Well, you know what? To hell with society! When you’re getting naked and having fun, forget about what is considered a social norm and go with your gut.
Do what you want, but make sure to read their body language so you know it’s not too far.
The first thing to comes to mind for a lot of people when they think about freaky sex is having sex in public.
If you can sneak off to a public restroom—with a lock on it—and you can have sex there, it’s perfect! Just make sure you’re not too obvious because some places have laws against public sex. [Read: Feisty girl – 35 personality traits that make her so scarily sexy!]
The when and where you use your teeth can make all the difference when it comes to crossing that overboard line. You can’t just outright bite down with full force on a guy’s manly bits!
When using your teeth, play, tease and gently nibble on different parts of their body. You create the freakiness from the slight fear the other person may have with biting. Plus, you’ll make some really amazing sensations.
Nothing says freak like grabbing a handful of hair and pulling it—not too hard though. There should never be any hair actually coming off of the person’s head, just enough to cause them a tiny bit of pain. Hair pulling is primal and raw and sexy as hell. [Read: Aggressive sex – what it is, why people like it, and 23 secrets to give it a try]
You may have some typical sex toys lying around that you like using from time to time, but what about sex toys that are wild and crazy?
Using some toys your partner may have never seen before might intimidate them, but it might also drive them wild. This is a great way to try being a freak in the sheets for the first time. [Read: Must-have couple’s sex toys for naughty newcomers]
We’ve all heard of the old licking whip cream off someone’s nipples tidbit before. But what about using other foods?
There is edible underwear, and candy necklaces *that you don’t have to use around JUST your neck*. You can even use sour candies to run along your body and make the other person find the sour spots.
Just be careful with food around openings. There are just some places where food isn’t meant to be… [Read: Painful sex – health reasons why sex might be painful for men]
Make them use ONLY their mouths to undress you. Tell them they can’t touch you with their hands for the entirety of having sex.
Playing different games adds a level of freak they may not get elsewhere. The key is to stick with these rules. [Read: 19 naughty foreplay sex games for couples to feel horny again]
You know what we mean: tie them up, hip them with functional—yet not too painful—whips, blindfold them and leave them waiting.
When learning how to be a freak in the sheets, take BDSM slowly and build up as you both explore your limits.
Does your partner have a fetish you know about or even discovered during your freaky sex rampage? Then use it! Feet fetishes are super common so if they have this fetish, then use your feet to pleasure them everywhere.
Playing up someone’s fetish creates some really freaky and fun sex.
You have specific desires and wishes; everyone does when it comes to sex. And you shouldn’t feel ashamed of asking for them during sex. Of course, your partner has the right to say no, and it must be respected. [Read: 15 really gross sex acts you probably didn’t know existed]
Learning how to be a freak in bed isn’t only about sex. Yes, sex is a major part of intimacy, but flirting and teasing your partner will heighten the experience. Don’t be afraid to be kinky and naughty before sex.
Send them texts of what you want to do to them earlier in the day—it’ll get the chemistry flowing and build up the tension.
Being a freak in bed isn’t going to happen in the missionary position. It can be one position you use during sex, but you need to switch things up. Have you ever heard of a freak in bed who only used one position? Not at all.
People who are freaks in bed understand their bodies and what positions work best. Explore different positions, and see which ones work best. [Read: The best sex positions for beginners to instantly feel like a pro]
Sex isn’t only about you. People who are considered freaks in bed spend a lot of time focusing on and pleasing their partners. If not, they would just be labeled as a crazy, one-sided sex machine. But that’s not what you want.
You need to think about your partner and their desires as well. If you two don’t match sexually, then find a partner who enjoys similar desires as you. And if you don’t know what they want, just ask!
Everyone has sexual fantasies. Some of them are deeply hidden within us, while other fantasies are on the surface.
It may take a long time until you accept your fantasies and openly indulge in them—and that’s okay. This will happen once you start to build confidence in yourself and your ability to be a freak in the sheets.
When you reach that point, start to indulge in those fantasies with partners who are willing and able. [Read: Arousing sex fantasies to try in real life]
The tingling cold of ice can be used to your advantage! Mix up hot breaths on your partner’s skin with the stinging cold of an ice cube. It will drive them crazy!
You can rub an ice cube down their body or you can put some ice into your mouth to make it cold and then give them oral.
Choose some sexy lingerie that makes you feel a million dollars. Don’t wear anything you feel uncomfortable in as it’s going to affect how you act and feel inside. Instead, go for items that flatter your body and make you feel like a goddess. [Read: Lingerie selfie – how to perfect the art of foreplay from afar]
A slow and sexy striptease dance will drive your partner crazy and make them desperate for you to get to the end so they can ravish you! But don’t rush—slow and steady means they’ll be crazy with lust by the end.
Don’t do this too hard, but play around with pressure to see what your partner is comfortable with. Dig your nails in and scrape them down their back. The mixture of pain with pleasure is a heady combination that will drive them wild in seconds. [Read: Masochist vs sadist – does giving pain give you pleasure?]
Now you know how to be a freak in the sheets, you can take it a step further by learning some new positions to try too. Here are some ideas you can take into your next romp with you:
For this position, the couple gets into a missionary position. The receiver then lifts their legs and rests them on their partner’s shoulders. When they’re positioned and everyone’s comfortable, the giver can then start penetrating.
This freak-in-the-sheets position is similar to the 69. The giver climbs on top in a missionary position but faces the other way. Then, as they thrust, they rotate in a circle. [Read: 10 kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]
This is the freaky person’s version of cowgirl. The receiver starts by straddling the giver’s hips, then lowering themselves down *this is a good workout for the legs*.
Then, the receiver bounces up and down like they’re riding a horse. Tip—holding on to your partner’s triceps can allow for deeper penetration.
For this one, you’re going to need some flexibility. Both of you start in a sitting position, facing one another, and mirroring each other’s pose. Then, the receiver mounts the giver and leans back, with their feet on the other’s shoulder. [Read: 45 minxy sex moves and positions to impress a guy and blow his mind in bed]
We hope you’ve done your stretches! For the deep dive, the receiver lies on their side and then lifts one of their legs up as high as they can.
Keep one hand stretched in front for support and use the other to guide your partner to your sweet spot.
The giver sits on the floor facing their partner and then interlocks their legs up over the other’s triceps. Their partner does the same. From there, just slide in and go!
The giver in this one needs to grab the receiver’s ankles and slowly lift them onto you. They then rest the receiver’s thighs on their legs and start thrusting.
You’ll need upper body strength for this one to work. [Read: Most common sex positions and sexy ways to spice them up to expert level]
Receivers, start by facing your partner and stretch one of your legs up and over their head. Hold onto their neck for support as they thrust into you.
This position starts with the giver lying down on the ground and putting a pillow under their head for support.
The receiver then climbs on top and slides down onto them. It’s then up to the giver to pick the receiver up, hold their butt, and start turning them in circles as they bounce up and down.
This is a reverse version of the missionary position. The giver lies down on their back and the receiver gets on top to recreate the famous missionary position with a role-reversal twist. [Read: 30 day sex challenge – 30 sex positions for 30 days]
The receiver lies with their legs wide open and the giver gets a top with one arm stretched out for support. Then they both slide their legs to one side and head to the opposite side, forming an x shape with both bodies.
In this one, the receiver lies down with their back flat on the bed and looking up. Then, they lift their glutes and lower back. From there, they just maintain this pose until their partner enters them.
Both partners sit facing each other, with their hands stretched out behind. Bend your legs while keeping your feet flat on the surface, mirroring each other. Inch your body close, enter, and move back and forth in opposite directions. [Read: Different sex positions to spice it up and add a bang in bed]
The receiver is on the bottom and lies down on a couch or bed. They start by lifting one leg off the floor and stretching as far back as they can, resting their head back.
The giver lies down on their side and enters from there. The receiver can then place their leg over their partner’s shoulders.
In the end, you can’t enjoy freaky sex if you’re not confident about it. Being a little nervous the first couple of times is normal, but don’t let that affect how you feel about yourself.
If you don’t own your freaky side, your partner will be confused as to whether you’re doing this because you truly want to or not. When you’re both sure and in the moment, your freakiness will take sex to another level.
[Read: Top 50 kinky ideas that are worth trying at least once in your lifetime]
These techniques for having freaky sex keep things exciting, steamy, and racy, but they’ll also stop you from crossing that line and going overboard. Let your freak flag fly and get kinky in bed!
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