If you’re in a long-distance relationship or not feeling like leaving your room, then it’s time to learn some FaceTime sex moves for a steamy night.
I’ve been in my fair share of long-distance relationships. When times get rough, they get rough. But I’m not into cheating, so I find alternative methods to cope with the dry spells—because they can be super dry. Then, there are also times where I am just too lazy to get out of bed. So, what happens? You bring FaceTime sex into the mix.
Whether you’re lazy or miles apart from your partner, you’ll be able to still get “laid.” Not a bad deal, right?
15 tips to having the best FaceTime sex of your lives
I’m going to help you out before you randomly start dialing people. See, FaceTime sex is something of an art. Since you’re not close to the person you’re calling, you need to shine on camera. Really show them what you have. [Read: High-tech sex toys that change the way we do sex]
Now, I’m not calling myself the Kim Kardashian of the FaceTime sex world, but I know a couple of tips to step up your FaceTime sex game. So, let’s not waste any more sexy time. Instead, learn how to have FaceTime sex *the right way*. It’s time to update yourself with modern ways of having sex.
#1 Don’t do it if you don’t want to. Unless you really want to give it a try, you don’t have to do it. Not everyone has to have FaceTime sex to connect with someone. If you’re not feeling comfortable with the idea, tell your partner. They should understand. [Read: Taboo sex topics we should be talking about]
#2 Make it date night. No, you don’t need to have flowers and candles on camera. This doesn’t need to be a “date” date, but it should be a time where you both aren’t distracted. You don’t need your parents to walk in on you. [Read: How to have a successful long distance relationship]
#3 Lock your door. With that being said, lock the door of the room you’re going to have FaceTime sex in. Trust me, having someone walk in on you can be very awkward. Extremely awkward. Take the extra 30 seconds and lock your door. You and your partner will be happy you did.
#4 Check your Wi-Fi. If you are spending all this time getting ready to FaceTime sex with each other, make sure your internet is at top speed. Check that your phone has a full battery as well, or else you’ll have to cut your date short.
#5 Set the mood. First off, if you’re not in the mood, don’t do it. There’s nothing worse than having sex when you’re not into it. Put yourself in the mood. Take down pictures of your parents and put your dog out of your room. You want to create some soft lighting and an atmosphere that turns you on. [Read: Sexy bedroom essentials – 16 ways to get your room to scream sex]
#6 Get sexy. Yes, you heard me. Get sexy! You want your partner to get turned on the minute they answer your call. You also want to feel sexy and confident. Your partner is going to love it. So, go pick up something revealing from the mall or hunt through your closet. You probably have one item that makes you feel incredibly sexy.
#7 Talk dirty. When it comes to phone sex, you can’t use touch, it’s all about your words. Use words that’ll rouse your partner. Though the “vagina” is formal, it’s not much of a turn on when you hear it. Use a naughtier version of the word like “pussy.” Don’t be shy to loosen up. [Read: How to talk dirty and turn on your lover]
#8 Know your angles. This isn’t for them, this is for you. When you see yourself looking sexy on camera, you feel more comfortable, thus looking more confident. When you’re loving yourself, there’s nothing sexier then that.
#9 But actually talk. After a while, it can get boring telling your partner what you want to do to them and vice versa. Phone sex needs to be a continuous conversation. Tease each other and keep the energy going. If it’s only visual, it can get very dull, very fast. Put your personality and sense of humor into it.
#10 Use the camera. The big difference between phone and FaceTime sex is the camera. So, use it! Touch yourself on camera while telling them what you’re doing and ask them if they like it. You need to feel good and sexy about yourself, and nothing is sexier than seeing yourself on camera. But, do test your angles like I said before. [Read: How to use lingerie selfies and perfect the art of seducing from afar]
#11 Communicate. Make sure you and your partner are communicating. Do they like what you’re doing? Do you like what they’re doing? If not, change it up. But you won’t know unless you ask. In addition, maybe they’re not comfortable with FaceTime sex but do it to please you. Be open with them.
#12 Have an orgasm! If you’re on the verge of having an orgasm, don’t hold yourself back. Embrace it! Show it off! There’s nothing wrong with showing it off. Your partner is going to be so proud that you had an orgasm.
#13 Start slow. You don’t need to rush into it. You can start off with texts, phone calls, and then work your way up to the act. There should be no pressure going into this. Just take your time and enjoy every second of it.
#14 Do it again. Practice makes perfect. The first time is going to be a little awkward until your nerves relax. So, make sure you schedule a couple more of the FaceTime sex dates. With time, you’ll be a phone sex pro–and your partner is certainly going to reap the benefits. [Read: A comprehensive guide to long-distance sex]
#15 Laugh. Listen, you’re only human so don’t treat this so seriously! It’s only sex! So, if you fart or your camera falls, just shake it off because you’re supposed to have fun. If you’re not having fun, rethink if this is really for you.