After being with your partner for years, it’s safe to say that your intimacy may not be where it used to be. Of course, the honeymoon phase is intense and passionate, and we all hope to keep that going years into the relationship. But things happen in life. We fall into a routine, and the passion slows down. You’re left wondering how to keep yourself interested in sex, and also how to keep your husband sexually satisfied too.
To bring that passion back where you want it to be, you need to put in the work. You don’t need to wait for your husband to spice things up in the bedroom. Instead, take control of your relationship and lead by example.
Intimacy is crucial in a relationship, and something you both should work on constantly. Blaming your husband won’t help. Rather, being proactive is the best way to make it work. Your husband will be thanking his lucky stars that his wife is one sexy vixen who knows exactly how to keep him satisfied! [Read: Why intimacy in marriage is the key to making it last]
Firstly, you might be wondering why you need to learn how to keep your husband sexually satisfied in the first place. The truth is that sex is key in a marriage. Without intimacy, the bond between you will weaken and eventually the marriage will feel monotonous and boring.
Of course, it’s normal to go through phases where things aren’t quite as spicy as they used to be. Life gets in the way sometimes, but you have to work through those phases if you want to make sure that your marriage lasts. It doesn’t mean that if you don’t keep your husband satisfied he’s going to stray, but there is a risk. It sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. If a guy wants sex with his partner and it’s not forthcoming, he’s going to start feeling like his ego is bruised and he’s wondering what he’s done wrong. If someone shows him attention in that situation, there could be a chance of straying. [Read: Why do men cheat? The 3 biggest reasons & 27 convincing excuses]
Yet, that doesn’t mean it’s always going to happen, so don’t panic just yet!
The main reason why sex is so important in a marriage is because it boosts the emotional connection and commitment that you share. Aside from anything else, it’s fun to have a sexy marriage that other people look at and wish was theirs!
Before we get on to talking about how to keep your husband sexually satisfied and be the sexy wife of his dreams, there’s one important thing to point out. Sex is a two-way deal. He has to try too. It shouldn’t be all you. You don’t have to constantly be initiating things, surprising him, trying on sexy lingerie and talking dirty when it makes you feel awkward. [Read: Why is sex important in a relationship?]
You shouldn’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with and you shouldn’t be the one doing it all either.
For a marriage to work, there has to be equal workload on all counts. That includes sex.
If your husband is just sitting back and expecting you to keep him satisfied, he’s lazy and needs a reminder of what a sexy wife he has!
He’s bored, you’re bored, but you know what, bringing sexy back into your marriage and learning how to keep your husband sexually satisfied and eager for more just takes a bit of effort.
Try these tips to seduce your husband and see what happens. If you don’t feel they work, you should sit down with your partner and talk about the lack of intimacy in your marriage. As before, it’s a two-way street, and he needs to be on-board and willing to put in the work as well.
Let’s get things spicy again.
We can get stuck with the notion that men need to make the first move; it’s always easier to let someone else make the first move. But if you want to spice things up, be the one to step outside of your comfort zone and make the move. Odds are he’s going to be pleasantly surprised. [Read: How to be seductive with the secrets for successful seduction]
When we get married, much of the spontaneity of dating dies down. We get into a routine and sadly become a little lazy when it comes to the relationship. But this isn’t the time to take a back seat. If you want to know how to keep your husband sexually satisfied and wanting more, you’ll need to be spontaneous. Take your partner out on a surprise date or show up naked in front of the TV. When he comes home from work, greet him cooking a meal in nothing but sexy heels and an apron (nothing underneath of course)!
Think back to the start of your dating adventure with your now-husband. Things were exciting, sexy, and a little daring, right? That’s what you need to recreate to bring a little sexy back. Suggest a little role play, or simply drop it on him and surprise him.
Pretend you’ve never met before and you’re about to hook up in a bar. Pretend that you’re the submissive Ana Steele and he’s your Mr Grey. Play the dominatrix. Dress up like a naughty nurse. Whatever gets him off, give it a try. The reason role play is so sexy is because it pushes you out of your comfort zone but lets you hide behind a mask. It’ll probably make you laugh, and that’s even better. Laughing together is sexy. [Read: If your relationship feels like a friendship, here are some tips to spice it up again]
After being married for some time, it’s easy to stop flirting and teasing your partner. But this is one of the best ways to amp up the sexual tension between you. Send your husband a dirty text or photo, tell him you can’t wait until he comes home. Tie him to a chair and give him a sexy lap dance, not letting him touch you at all. Perhaps leave sexy notes around the house that he finds and follows, leading to you naked on the bed.
The anticipation of the tease is nothing short of mind-blowing and it’s sure to be one of the best moves you have when learning how to keep your husband sexually satisfied.
You have a comfortable routine going, but sometimes it’s a good idea to disrupt the flow. I mean, that’s basically how you’re going to seduce your husband. Surprise your partner with a weekend getaway; it doesn’t have to be overseas, it can even be at a hotel in your city. When you’re away from all the boring household tasks you normally have to do and the stresses of work, amazing things can happen. This is also the ideal time to bring in a spot of that role play we were talking about. [Read: All the reasons why you should have a fun, dirty sex marathon all weekend long]
A wife who looks after herself, wears things that make her feel sexy, and dresses up just for the sheer hell of feeling great, is a sexy wife indeed! Your husband will appreciate the effort you’re putting in but it’s even more sexy that you’re not doing it for him, you’re doing it for you. That translates to making you far more confident and pushes you to want to try new things in bed. It might also get a little of his jealous streak going, because he’s not going to want anyone else looking at his hot wife.
I have never met anyone who didn’t enjoy a back massage, especially from their partner. After he comes home from a long day at work, get him to lay on the bed and take out the massage oil. You don’t have to do this all the time, but it’s a great way to surprise him with something physical and sensual. Let your hands wander and make it far more x-rated than the massages you see in a spa! It’s the single best way to help him unwind after a stressful day at work and as far as being sexually satisfied goes? It’s bang on point! [Read: How to give a sensual massage and work your magic]
If your husband is usually the one who’s in charge in the bedroom, well, it’s time to switch things up if you want to learn how to keep your husband sexually satisfied and happy in bed. Lead the way to the bedroom and make the decisions. He may be a bit surprised in the beginning, but we’re pretty sure he’ll relax and enjoy it pretty quickly.
Most men enjoy it when their partner takes the reins for a change and mixes things up a little. He’ll adore this rather domineering side of you and it means he doesn’t have the pressure of trying to think of what to do next. This is also ideal for helping you both get out of a sex rut – when one person is always following a specific routine, it tends to get a little boring, right?
If you’re not sure of what to do or you’re lacking in confidence, check out a few videos first. There are some female friendly porn film you can watch, or you can simply check out some burlesque videos if that’s a little too extreme for you. The idea is to feel confident and in control. [Read: Master-slave relationship: How to set the rules and follow them]
When was the last time you spoke to your partner about sex? Probably not too recently. But if you want to seduce your husband and satisfy him in bed, start bringing up the idea of sex – especially if you have been going through a dry spell. Talk about what turns you on and the things you’d like to try with him. See where the conversation takes you.
Talk about your fantasies and encourage him to share his. If it’s a little too awkward for you to actually say them, write them down and let him read them. That’ll be a sexy note he won’t forget! You could also try dirty talk. For sure, it’s something you’ll need to feel confident about but he’ll be begging for release by the time you’ve whispered some dirty nothings in his ear. Give it a try! [Read: How to use sexy talk and make your partner melt with desire]
This one may take some confidence, but you can do it! Guys can’t help but wonder what you do when you’re alone. How do you touch yourself? What do you enjoy? How do you look when you’re on your own, mouth open in ecstasy and nobody to please but yourself? Show him. Lay down on the bed and just get to it. Close your eyes and forget he’s there. It’s a move he will never forget and he’ll be thanking his lucky starts, for sure!
Learning how to keep your husband sexually satisfied is just about effort. He already loves you and you probably had a pretty hot sex life while you were dating. That doesn’t have to change now you’re married.
Push yourself out of your comfort zone, as far you feel able to do, and just give new things a try. He’ll see that you’re making and effort and exploring your own sexuality at the same time. What is sexier than that?
By returning the favor, both of you can put in the same amount of effort and keep surprising each other in the bedroom, or out of it – whatever floats your boat!
[Read: What works and what doesn’t when you live with someone]
No long term relationship is easy. It all takes work from both partners. If you want to know how to keep your husband sexually satisfied and spice up your love life, try out these helpful tips.
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