I think everyone struggles with this reality from time to time. Sometimes, you’re just really shy getting naked in front of someone new. However, there are others where their shyness threatens to take over their sex life.
Why you’re shy
First address the problem of getting naked in front of someone. You have to understand why you’re shy in the first place. Is it a personality trait you were born with? Or did something happen that scarred you in such a way that you’re cursed with perpetual shyness?
According to Live Science, your brain may actually be chemically different than someone who is outgoing or just not shy. In short, they explain shyness as a personality trait and the way your brain functions in comparison to someone else’s.
But is that the only reason you’re shy?
No. You could be an extroverted, outgoing, and even a loud-mouthed person when talking to someone. Then the second you two are about to get naked, you freeze in complete shyness. If this sounds like you, it could have more to do with your self-esteem or past than your personality.
If you were ever in a situation where someone laughed or ridiculed your naked body, you’re more likely to be shy when getting naked in front of other people. If you feel bad about the way your body looks, it could also prevent you from being forthcoming when stripping down.
The shy’s guide for getting naked
Ready for some good news? There is a way for the shy getting naked to get past their struggles. By following these tips, you’ll be on your way to being the most confident person while removing every last article of clothing in front of someone new.
#1 Realize there may be a bigger problem at hand. If you are increasingly shy while getting naked in front of someone every single time, even if it’s a longer term partner, it could be a bigger issue at hand. First, realize you could have more than just a case of the shy’s. You could have deeper problems that you might need to seek expert help to fix. [Read: 9 big signs you need sex therapy and how to fix it]
#2 Attempt to solve the problem before moving on. If you’ve discovered you might have even bigger problems than just getting naked in front of someone, you should try to correct those issues before you can really fix anything else.
If you have narrowed down your exact problem, that makes it much easier to solve. Focus on relieving yourself of that issue. Then if the problem with your shyness is still there, try some of these other tips.
#3 Get to know the person first. This is to say, one night stands may not be the best decision for you. Unless you want to lead them back to your place only to end up drunkenly cuddling the whole night. By really getting to know someone first, you’ll feel more comfortable around them as a whole.
This means you’ll be able to feel better about getting naked because they know you so well already that any part of your nakedness won’t really matter to them in the long run. [Read: 8 ways to love your body, no matter its size]
#4 Move slowly. Not only should you move slowly in progressing to anything that involves getting naked, but you should also move slowly in getting undressed when you do decide to get naked, too.
By slowing down the relationship, you’re allowing yourself to get more comfortable with the other person before being vulnerable in that way. If you slow down when getting undressed, you’re letting yourself grow accustomed to being less and less clothed.
#5 Visualize yourself being confident when getting naked. Visualization is a technique that really works when it comes to healing your mental self. If you sit and picture yourself not being shy when you get naked you’ll find that it’ll be easier and easier to do so without fear or shyness. [Read: 8 steps to get your body confidence back in the bedroom]
#6 Be naked more often. If you consistently are naked, it’ll become a norm to you and you’ll get rid of those feelings of shyness that are associated with stripping down into nothing. Walk around naked, linger in the bathroom naked after a shower, and just be naked whenever the weather permits.
If you want to get rid of shyness around a long term significant other, practice being naked around them for longer periods of time each time you get naked. Try to remain naked for a few more seconds every time, and you’ll soon find you can walk around naked with no issues. [Read: 14 sexy benefits of sleeping naked you had no idea about]
#7 Focus on something else. Like the other person, for example. Focus on them getting naked, and you’ll forget all about not wearing any clothes yourself. Focus on how they smell, the curves of their body, and how they’re making you feel. All of these senses drowns out the sense of you feeling shy.
#8 Work on getting in shape. If your shyness is related to your self-esteem, start working out more! Getting in shape is a hugely popular way to make yourself feel better when getting naked. Not only will you look better and therefore feel better, you’ll also WANT to get naked just to show your body off. [Read: How to look better naked by using 15 real life tips]
#9 Have a drink… or two… or three. There’s nothing wrong with occasionally indulging in an adult beverage to take the edge off. It’ll get rid of nervousness and shyness that both inhibit your ability to feel confident when getting naked. Although you should never rely on this method for long-term relief.
#10 Try some more extreme tactics… Use some blindfolds—on your date. Take out some fun toys and blindfold your date before getting naked. Cutting off their ability to see makes you feel better about being naked around them since they can’t see you.
#11 Talk to your partner. If you really just want to get down to the bottom of it, talk to your partner about what’s going on with you. Let them know that you suffer from extreme shyness when it comes you getting naked around them.
Not only will you give them a sense of relief because they may have thought you didn’t want to get naked because of them, but you’re also bringing yourself closer to your partner and that will also help with any shyness. [Read: 10 awkward conversations you need to have with your partner]
#12 Make sure the mood is set. If you really want to get rid of being shy getting naked, then find ways to be SO turned on you can’t stand the thought of your clothes being on for another minute. Light some candles, put on some slow music, and get the foreplay started. You’ll be tearing off your clothes before you know it. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay moves you can ever use in bed]
#13 Turn the lights off. Another way to get rid of your shyness is to turn the lights off so they can’t see you. Just like with blindfolding them, cutting off their vision of you naked basically erases your reason to be shy getting naked.
[Read: Sexy strip tease 101 – How to undress like a pro!]
There are so many people out there who have difficulty getting naked because they’re shy. This guide helps alleviate those issues so you can get to the fun part!
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