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Sex as Plus Size Women: Myths, Sex Positions & Your Insecurities

Many plus size women to have insecurities about sex, but there’s no need! These plus size sex positions prove that sex is amazing at any size.

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Ladies, it’s time to get real. Whether you’re curvy, athletic, or anything else, you can have sex and you can enjoy every second of it! It might surprise you to know this, but plus size women have sex. Pause for shock and awe. That’s right, curvy girls have sex, and they’re damn good at it.

There are a few taboos that still seem to be floating around the internet that we’re looking to nip in the bud. These plus size sex positions show just how amazing your bedroom antics could be.

Is having sex with a plus size woman different than a so-called “regular” size? Are certain positions better when you have more booty? Are pillows really going to be your best best friend?

We’re cracking the code on all subjects about getting down and dirty as plus sized women. [Read: The small steps to get your body confidence back in the bedroom]

Get those negative thoughts out of your head – Plus size women are beautiful!

We all have insecurities, regardless of our size, but don’t forget sex is supposed to be fun. Before we get into chatting talk about the best plus size sex positions, we want to do away with some plus size women myths. Read them and believe them!

1. No, your vagina does not smell

Vaginas have a scent. There’s basically nothing you can do about this unless you magically warp yourself into a different species, and let’s be honest, aliens probably have their own vagina scents, too.

So basically, you need to get over the fact that your body has a scent, no matter what your size.

And let’s get real, men love the smell of vagina! It’s part of the thing that makes your vagina so hot. Being a bigger girl isn’t going to magically make you smell more.

So long as you bathe regularly and are free of infections down south, you’re going to smell exactly how you should smell. [Read: How to make your vagina smell good and taste even better]

2. Yes, he knows your size

Your body is gorgeous. Your man thinks so and you should too! Don’t ruin sex for yourself by being self-conscious about your stomach, stretch marks, breasts, or what your chin looks like while you’re riding him.

Because guess what? If your man’s seen you in your birthday suit, then rest assured he knows every roll and every bit of cellulite on your body, and you turn him on. If he doesn’t care, why should you? [Read: Tips to flaunt your plus size body confidence this summer]

3. No, you’re not going to crush his face

Alright so, you want to sit on his face, but you’re worried you’re going to crush and suffocate him. Not very sexy, right? Fear not. There are ways around this. Squat or perch over him, don’t sit!

Keep communication open and take physical cues from him to whether you should back off a bit or move right in. One thing that helps is having your man grip your legs or hips with his hands so he guides you.

If you’re still nervous about this position, opt for 69’ing instead. This gives you more control over how far away you can be from his face. [Read: Want to sit on my face? 6 reasons she might say no]

4. Yes, lingerie is super sexy on you as a curvy girl

Some plus size women feel uncomfortable wearing lingerie. This is understandable, but it’s honestly the most ridiculous thing ever. If your man loves sex, he’s going to love you in lingerie—rolls and all!

Your curves are going to look amazing in your sexy lingerie, and it’s honestly going to make you feel like a sex-kitten once you get into it.

If you’re truly self-conscious, ease into it with some flattering, but figure-friendly, baby doll or teddy lingerie. Don’t be afraid to bust out the garters, crotchless panties, corsets, and role play outfits and get totally naughty!

Dress it up and get yourself into confidence mode: curled hair, eyebrows on fleek, and setting a fabulous sexy music playlist. Get into it and start enjoying your body in the bedroom. [Read: How to seduce your boyfriend and leave him wanting more]

These are just a few things you need to know about sex as a plus sized women. Now it’s time to get practical and explore a few plus size sex positions you can try tonight!

Best plus size sex positions

When it comes down to it, sex with plus size women is no different than sex with any other woman! Fun, sexy, and hot.

Many people wonder if there are certain positions that are going to work better for bigger sizes, and the truth is a yes/no answer. Don’t you just love those?

With a little communication, you’re going to be able to do any position under the sun. It’s about experimentation, but it really comes down to the positions that make you feel the most comfortable and allow you to throw caution to the wind and just go for it. [Read: 10 Kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

Here are some favorite plus size sex positions to try.

1. Fetal position lovin’

This may not *sound* like the sexiest sex position around, but hear us out. Get into the fetal position laying down and have your man penetrate you from behind or while kneeling at your side. [Read: 12 easy sex positions that won’t break your neck – or worse]

You can prop a pillow under your hip if it makes you more comfortable. Spice this up by lifting your legs or having him make variations of his entering position *kneeling with his body upright, leaning forward as if laying over top your body, etc.*

This position gives him a great view of your bum and allows his hands all the freedom to wander to your breasts, hair, and legs. The position also spices up the angle at which his penis is going to enter you. [Read: Sex positions men love: How to make a steamy night for your man]

2. Doggy style – ideal for plus size women!

Despite the less than dignified name, doggy style sex is great for plus size women. All women, really. This position gives focus to your fabulous ass. Men are visual creatures, so odds are he’s going to enjoy the view.

Bonus? If you’re self-conscious of your stomach, doggy is a great way to hide areas you may not want him to see.

Kneel on all fours and let him enter you from behind. Vary your position by laying with your arms and face down on the mattress.

Don’t be afraid to use pillows to help support yourself. Adding a vibrator into the mix is also a fantastic way to get your rocks off in style. [Read: How to spice up the bedroom: 22 tips to set the bed on fire]

3. Missionary with a twist

Missionary is most couples go-to sex position, and for good reason. Face to face contact makes this position feel more intimate.

The man on top makes it feel like he’s dominating you in all the right ways, and with a little tweaking clit action, is definitely a go-to.

Some plus size women may feel like missionary is off the table due to their size, but don’t give up yet! If you’re worried your man can’t get to your naughty bits, simply prop an inflatable sex pillow *or just steal a regular pillow from the bed!* under your bum and pull your legs back.

This raises your pelvis and allows him easy access. [Read: Who’s on top? 8 ways to make missionary magical]

4. Cowgirl for plus size women

Hop on top and prepare for the ride of your life. No, you’re not going to crush him. In fact, the more pressure between your hot spots, the better!

Modify the cowgirl position to make it easier by leaning back on your man’s legs and supporting yourself with your hands on the bed.

Use your feet to move up and down on his penis, or simply grind to your heart’s delight for a mind blowing orgasm.

If you’re finding it hard to get the length of him into your vagina, have your man prop some pillows underneath him so that his penis and pelvis are elevated for the taking! See? We told you pillows were going to be your best friend. [Read: 19 Ways to own the cowgirl position and make it hotter]

5. Sitting on the kitchen counter/seated position

Yes, you can get down and dirty in the kitchen and the change of scenery adds to the fun! By sitting on the countertop, you can balance yourself on the edge and move your hands backwards for balance. This gives you control and your man has access to all your best parts.

If he needs to, he can stand on a stool or or pull you further towards him. The countertop gives you all the support and balance you need. To take it a step further, lift your leg up and hook it over his elbow for extra sizzle.

6. Float like a butterfly

The butterfly position is a one of the go-to plus size sex positions and you have to try it! Simply lay down with your legs up against your partner’s chest and then slide down to the bottom of the bed so that your butt is hanging over the edge. [Read: How to hit the G-spot and make her squirm with pleasure]

If you’re uncomfortable laying flat, put a pillow under your lower back. Then, your partner stands between your legs and goes for it. For extra G-spot potential, put your legs over your partner’s shoulders.

7. Go reverse cowgirl

We’ve already talked about the cowgirl position as one of the best plus size sex positions to try, but the reverse cowgirl is definitely one for plus size women to try.

It’s exactly the same as the cowgirl, except you face the other way. Your guy gets a stunning shot of your butt whilst you’re grinding away and the curve of your body as you lean back to take the length of him will truly give him a show.

This is also a great position for plus size women who might be a little self-conscious of their belly. It means you can let go and enjoy without worrying about any wobbles – not that you should worry at all! [Read: Hips don’t lie, girl: 19 real secrets about women with wide hips]

8. Chest down, ass up!

Yes, you heard right! This is a twist on the doggy position but some women prefer this slight modification for access to the G-spot and the fact that you can reach underneath and touch yourself whilst he’s going for it – extra potential for the big O!

Simply get into the doggy position, with your chest down flat on the bed and your ass high in the air. You can put your legs down on the floor, or you can kneel – whichever is more comfortable for you. Your guy will also adore the glorious sight of your ass too! [Read: Women with curves: 20 ways you changed all women for the better]

9. Girl on top with a difference

Some plus size women find that regular girl on top positions put too much pressure on their knees. That means you’re not enjoying the moment because you’re too focused on the burning in your thighs and painful joints.

Take that problem away by trying girl on top with your guy sitting on a regular kitchen chair. That way, you can keep your feet on the ground and hold onto the back of the chair for support.

10. The leg glider for plus size women

The name sounds like you need to be flexible to pull it off but it’s actually one of the best great plus size sex positions to try.

To pull off the leg glider you simply lay down and lean over to your side, you can lay flat or you can prop yourself up on your elbow. [Read: 13 Extraordinary sex positions saved for the very bendy]

Then, you extend the top leg up to the ceiling and your guy straddles the leg that’s flag on the bed and penetrates you from there. You can keep your leg extended or bend it and hold onto it for momentum when moving. Give it a try!

There are plenty of plus size sex positions to try there, the only decision you need to make is which one you’ll try first!

[Read: How to be the sexy girlfriend your boyfriend always wanted]

No matter what your size, sex should be comfortable, fun, and hopefully end with a big O! We hope this sex talk session cleared up some myths and rumors about having sex as plus size women.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer, and the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degr...
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