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How to Make Yourself Wet: 19 Ways to Get Yourself All Lubed Up

Of course, we think of sex as being about two (or more) people. But, you need to know what works for you. Learn how to make yourself wet and find out! 

how to make yourself wet

Unless you’re asexual, most people have the need to have sex with another person. This isn’t something crazy we just discovered, it’s a fact. When you’re horny, you want to have sex, it’s normal. But you don’t actually have to have sex with someone in order to ease your sexual frustration. Sometimes, learning how to make yourself wet is essential knowledge in life.

Of course, everyone enjoys sex with another person, but there are moments where you just want to be alone or you’re going through a dry spell. What are you going to do then? [Read: 13 signs it’s time to get laid and break the dry spell]

The importance of “self discovery”

Far too often we tend to think that masturbation is something we shouldn’t talk about, or even worse, something we shouldn’t do. But, if you want to have an enjoyable and healthy sex life, masturbation is vital. Why? Because it helps you understand what you like. You get to know what works for you and how to get yourself closer to the big O.

Then, you can share that information with your partner and hit the high notes every single time. Of course, it also means that you know what to do when you’re alone and enjoying yourself too. [Read: 10 Female masturbation tips for guaranteed orgasmic bliss]

We tend to assume that sex is only about the times you’re with a partner. But sex is a huge subject that covers several sub-areas. Sex is about discovery. It doesn’t have to be serious all the time, it can be fun!

So, set some time aside to get to know what you like. That means learning how to make yourself wet and how to get yourself closer to orgasm. [Read: How to masturbate – 14 sexy self-pleasure tips for women]

How to make yourself wet

Well, this is when you learn how to make yourself wet. Now, there are a various ways to do this because everyone is different. But the point is, you learn and take the time to make yourself wet. Can you imagine having to wait for someone to do it for you? Come on, you’re an independent woman, so you need to know your body and how it reacts. It’s not as hard as you think it is. [Read: How to get a girl horny & make her wet just by sitting next to her]

1. Understand why you need to be wet

It’s true, you need to be wet. The vagina purposely secretes arousal fluid when a woman is physically or mentally stimulated. Essentially, the vagina prepares itself for vaginal intercourse.

If the vagina doesn’t become wet, it can be very painful when having sex. Think of trying to push a hot dog into a bun without any ketchup or mustard. Ouch. [Read: Female masturbation – 17 naughty facts about the naughty secret]

2. Forget any shame or embarrassment you feel

Of course, we shouldn’t have to mention this one, but it’s important to do so. Some people still struggle with embarrassment, or even worse, shame when it comes to masturbation and self-exploration. Shrug this off and focus on yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. In truth, everyone does it, we just don’t talk about it enough! [Read: Going solo – The 15 sexy benefits of masturbation]

3. It’s all in your head

When it comes to knowing how to make yourself wet, you need to remember that everything connected to the vagina is mental. Sometimes, we may like the guy, but we don’t feel like having sex, thus, you’re not able to become wet. Or maybe you had a bad day at work, see what we mean?

Everything is mental when it comes to sex and becoming sexually aroused. So, if you had a bad day and wonder why you can’t get wet, well, it’s because you’re not in the mood. [Read: 15 ways to get hot and wet without porn]

4. Timing is everything

Don’t attempt to learn how to make yourself wet and explore what you like at the wrong time. If you’re due to go and meet a friend or go to work in a hour, that’s not the time to get down with yourself! You need to have no time constraints and a totally relaxing atmosphere. If you have one eye on the clock, how are you supposed to relax and focus on what feels good?

Also, you don’t want to worry about someone walking in on you either, so choose the right time. Of course, a lock on the door also helps! [Read: Mutual masturbation: 14 Intimate ways to connect without touching]

5. Figure out what you like

No matter if you have a partner or not, you need to know what you like. Everyone is different, so you cannot rely on your partner to know what you enjoy or don’t.

If anything, they’re just as lost as you are. Spend some time seeing what stimulates you. Watch porn, read an erotic novel—try to cover all scopes in order to see which one stimulates you the most. Just explore and see what works and what doesn’t. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to do it again!

6. Focus on going solo

We know your partner wants to help you, and that’s really sweet. But there’s some added pressure when they watch you. So, instead, take some time on your own and try to make yourself wet. Go into the bath or your bedroom, but ask your partner if you can just have some alone time. They’ll be fine, just put a movie on for them to watch. [Read: 11 sexy solo sex positions that are guaranteed to pleasure you]

7. Be in a comfortable space

Remember when we said that arousal is mental? So, if you try to make yourself wet in your office, it’s probably going to be a challenge. You can’t fully relax knowing someone may walk into your office. So, choose a space which is safe and comfortable for you, that way, you reduce your distractions and anxiety. Also, add some cushions, throws, candles, anything that makes you feel totally in the moment, comfortable, and able to enjoy what you’re doing.

8. Be in the moment

So, you’re lying on your bed, starting to touch yourself and then all of a sudden, you remember the laundry—NO! You’re not supposed to be in your head, you’re supposed to be connected to your body. So, you want to move your thoughts and direct them to your body. Think about your breathing, touch yourself slowly, feel your skin. [Read: 15 ways to finger yourself and actually enjoy it]

9. Don’t just focus on your vagina

This is a classic mistake women make. We tend to focus solely on our vaginas, which, we’re not saying is a bad thing. However, you need to make sure you’re not forgetting other erogenous zones such as your breasts, neck, ass, and torso. You need to stimulate your entire body, not just your vagina.

10. Get in some clitoral action

Now, we said to not forget your erogenous zones but that doesn’t mean you should leave your clitoris out of the action. You can masturbate by stroking your finger across your clitoris, but, you can also mix up the speed and pressure of your fingers. Play around with the pressure and speeds, finding a pattern which suits you. [Read: The 15 sexy benefits of going solo and masturbating]

11. Don’t rule out anal play

You may be crinkling your nose, wondering if anal play is really necessary, and it is! Well, it’s not that you have to do it, but you should give it a try. In reality, your anus is extremely sensitive with nerve endings easily stimulated. You can rub your finger around and on your anus, playing with pressure, or you can use a sex toy—just make sure you use lube.

12. Give orgasm denial a try

If you are able to get to the point of orgasming, don’t rush to finish it. When you’re about to climax, stop, denying yourself the orgasm. Then work yourself up again and do this two or three more times before orgasming. It makes your orgasm stronger and more intense. [Read: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms and make them better than ever]

13. Don’t forget a towel

Okay, for sure, you may need the towel to clean up the wonderful mess you made, but that’s not exactly what the towel is for. But, instead, use the towel to place over your vagina while masturbating. The texture makes it more arousing when you rub against it.

14. Mix things up a little

You don’t have to do the same technique when masturbating. Instead, mix things up. Rub your clitoris while you play with your anus, use a sex toy in your bathtub. Mix up the techniques and stimulate your different body parts.

15. Try making yourself wet with a toy

Sure, you can use your hands and we recommend you do become comfortable with using them, but at some point, try to masturbate with a sex toy.  You may have to buy a couple different toys, seeing which one works for you, but that’s the fun part, right? [Read: 13 homemade sex toys to try out today]

16. Bring out the lube

Maybe you’re not becoming as wet as you thought, or if you’re using a sex toy, you’ll need some lube. You don’t have to use lube, but, it’s not going to be fun, trust us. Lubricant helps you significantly and it just helps you feel more sexy with that slip and slide. We recommend water-based.

17. Give female-friendly porn a go

Porn always used to be aimed towards men and the women were so disconnected to how we see sex, as women. However, these days there are countless female-friendly titles out there, even produced by females too. Check some out and see if they help you get wet. They more than likely will! [Read: The best 15 female-friendly porn sites that are tinglingly perfect]

18. Erotic fiction is a great option

If porn isn’t for you, or you want to try something a little different, how about erotic fiction? Reading about two people (or more) getting down and dirty could be all it takes to get your juices flowing! Then, you can get to work and really see what works for you.

19. Remember to share your findings!

Once you’ve found out what works for you, remember to share what you’ve discovered with your partner! We know that one of the main reasons we masturbate is to know what works during sex. So, tell your partner what you want and if that doesn’t work, show them! [Read: 20 Sexy things guys like in bed but won’t ask for & why they don’t]

Remember, it’s about having fun!

Learning how to make yourself wet is supposed to be fun too! Forget the serious side and just go with the flow. Close your eyes and turn your attention inwards. Really feel every touch and every sensation. This is your time and there is no better way to focus on self-care than to really get down with your own hand, or toy – whatever works for you!

[Read: Pillow humping 101 – How to give your pillow a real sexy workout]

You know how to make yourself wet, so, what are you waiting for? Get off the computer and start focusing on what matters – making yourself wet.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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