In the heat of the moment, the sudden thought that you need to try and find a condom can really derail the passion. One of you then needs to scurry around trying to find one, unless you were organized enough to grab one before you started making out. The thing is, all of this is necessary to avoid pregnancy and STIs. It’s at this point that he might tell you his pull out game is the best, but by agreeing, you’re playing with fire!
Birth control has been around since people realized what it was that made a woman pregnant. Pulling out is not a birth control method and it’s certainly not going to protect you against any form of STI either. [Read: Pulling out is completely safe and other bad sex advice]
For those of you who don’t know what this method means, it’s when a guy quickly pulls out of a girl right before he finishes. This way, he doesn’t get any of his fertile fluids in her. Therefore, he prevents pregnancy. Or so he thinks.
Of course, it’s also super messy and if you thought trying to find a condom dampens the passion, trying to clean up that little mess afterwards won’t leave you feeling very sexy either. [Read: Pull out method: Everything you need to know to make up your mind]
Now, you don’t see girls walking around bragging about how they take their birth control pill at the same time every single day and how fantastic they are at doing so, do you? No. Because we don’t find it necessary to brag about our birth control methods.
Guys, on the other hand, gloat about their ability to pull out. There’s a reason this method has been coined as a “game.” They brag about it because they like to boast about their ability to control themselves. Apparently, that’s something brag worthy. It’s something to do with timing and control and they think that by practicing, they know the exact moment they need to pull out, to prevent anything disastrous from happening. [Read: Withdrawal method: How reliable is this birth control method?]
Of course, there are reasons why people think this is a good option, such as:
This is true for many reasons. You don’t have to remember anything, you don’t have to prepare for it, and you just get right to it whenever you want. If you’re familiar with the struggles of a condom when you just want to get to it, you understand how much easier it is to just do it. [Read: Sex tutorial 101: 15 things they don’t teach you in sex ed]
You don’t have to pay for a damn thing this way. You just take off your clothes and get to it. Of course, if you do wind up pregnant, that’s definitely not free. But otherwise, it’s cheaper than any other form—except abstinence.
The main reason people forgo condom usage when they want to get it on. Condoms make sex feel not nearly as good as it does when there’s nothing there.
Some people say having sex without a condom feels like they connect more with their partner, that they’re much more intimate. So many couples who want to feel closer *though I’m not sure how much more close you need to feel other than having sex* ditch the condom and go bare. [Read: Beautiful sex – 17 blissful ways to connect sexually in no time]
You can’t just randomly have sexy anytime anywhere if you use condoms. Why? Because you don’t always have a condom on you. If you decide to use pulling out, you can be much more spontaneous with your sexcapades.
You should definitely trust the person you sleep with. However, if your man claims to have a “strong pull out game,” think twice about accepting that statement as true. He’s not really showing you must respect either, is he? He’s playing Russian roulette with your sexual health in so many ways, because let’s face it, do you really trust him to time it correctly?
You may think pulling out is an excellent method of birth control, but there are definitely reasons to avoid it. If you want to know just why you can never trust a guy’s pull out game, here’s why. [Read: Get down and off: How to pull off that one-night stand]
Sure, this method keeps a lot of couples from having babies when they don’t have them. But it also causes a LOT of unplanned pregnancies because it’s really not all that effective. Within one year, couples using this and no other form of birth control have a 23% chance of getting pregnant. That’s rather high.
This is probably the biggest reason you should definitely NOT trust a guy’s pull out game. It won’t protect you if he has STDs or STIs. And to be honest, some guys show no symptoms of even carrying them. So, unless you have documented proof he’s not ripe with diseases, don’t trust it. [Read: Surviving an STD scare in a relationship]
Guys like to think they have all the control in the world when it comes to their manly bits. The truth is, sometimes they won’t be able to stop the flow and get out in time. Even if they think they can.
Let’s talk about this stuff for a minute. Many people think there’s no sperm in it when, in fact, some studies claim that 30% of precum is made up of live sperm. Whenever you use pulling out, you definitely get some sperm all up in there. [Read: Can you get pregnant from precum? And other answers you must know]
If a guy automatically suggests pulling out because his pull out game is strong, avoid sex with him. Why? Because it’s a rather irresponsible method. If he chooses to use that the first time with you, he probably has right away with others and may have contracted STDs and such.
There’s always stress involved when you use a method that’s not very effective. You’re nervous about getting pregnant. Hell, you’re even nervous about him being able to get out in time. Which makes the sex worse. [Read: How to make sex better: 15 ways to take it up a notch in bed]
If you decide to take a short break, wait for him to get all excited again, then go right back into it, your chances of getting pregnant increases. Sperm gets trapped in his urethra. So even if he pulls out, some sperm escaped during the act anyway.
If a guy really wanted, he wouldn’t have to pull out at all. Obviously, you’d probably be pretty pissed, but that won’t undo what he already did. You relinquish a lot of control over your body by trusting his pull out game.
Guys all want to sound like they’re experienced and great at all things to do with sex—including pulling out. He may not be completely honest with you, and he just doesn’t want to use a condom. [Read: The newbie’s complete guide to using condoms]
This isn’t so much a reason not to trust his pull out game as it is a reason to avoid it. It’s just messy. Where does he go when he pulls out? Not far, since they do it right before busting. So who’s the one who ends up messy? You, most likely.
You’ll enjoy sex far more if you have a reliable method of birth control in place. No stress, no worries, and no need to question whether or not he’s going to remember to pull out right at the exact moment he needs to.
The only issue is that only condoms can protect against both pregnancy and STIs. Every other method of birth control only protects against pregnancy. So, if you’re with someone new or someone you’ve not been with very long, stick to condoms or go get tested for STIs before ditching them and using another form of birth control. However, if you’ve been with someone for a long time and you’re both free of STIs, you can find the right type of birth control for you and enjoy your sex life without stress. [Read: The step by step guide to calmly handling a pregnancy scare]
There are countless different things you can try but unfortunately, they do all fall down to the girl’s responsibility. Until they finally develop a male birth control pill, it’s all in your hands but that’s not such a bad thing. At least you have control.
You can opt for the birth control pill (there are countless different types so you simply need to talk to your doctor about the right one for you), injections which are taken every few months, the implant, a coil, the contraceptive patch, or of course, you could just abstain but I guess that’s not much fun!
Take your time finding a method that suits you and one which you’re happy with. It’s a far better idea to take control of your sexual health than to trust a guy who tells you that his pull out game is strong. The truth is, it probably isn’t at all.
[Read: Pulling out is completely safe and other bad sex advice]
While the pull out method has been used for many people, and it’s pretty effective when used with a back up method of birth control. It’s still dangerous just to trust a guy’s pull out game—no matter how strong they claim it is.
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