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How to Have Sex In a Car: A Steamy Guide on What to Do & Not to Do

Are you wondering how to have sex in a car without being caught or injuring yourself on the gear stick? Here’s everything you need to know!

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Having sex is a car is a fantasy almost all of us have, or have tried already! Let’s be honest here, one of the most common questions people ask their new partners is, “What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done, sexually?”

Some people struggle to come up with anything, but that’s fine! We can’t all be daredevils when it comes to sex. And truthfully, any type of sex is good, no matter how vanilla it is.

But, if you’re keen to spice things up and try something a little adventurous, why not learn how to have sex in a car? That way, you can make your next road trip memorable for very different reasons than simply being stuck in heavy traffic!

Now, we have to admit that car sex is anything but comfortable. Most people end up getting so nervous that they can’t even enjoy it. There’s also the issue of compact cars and positioning, as well as the worry of getting caught.

That’s why you have to prepare for the event, even if it’s a spontaneous urge in the middle of a long drive home.

It can be difficult to convince your partner, especially if neither of you has done it before, but that’s what we’re here for. If you’re keen to avoid the potential pitfalls of car sex and enjoy the fun, you’ve come to the right place.

[Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex – It’s time to go al fresco!]

Sidestep the issues and learn how to have car sex in the steamiest way possible

Before anything else, you have to think about how you want to go about this. Is it something that you want to do as soon as possible? Or are you just making the necessary preparations, in case the opportunity presents itself someday?

If it’s something that you and your partner want to try, you should discuss it thoroughly. Having sex in a car is risky because you can get caught.

It’s technically legal in some parts of the world, but taking your clothes off inside a car parked in a public place can be grounds for arrest – indecent exposure and whatnot. [Read: Spontaneous sex – 15 reasons why you need it and how to do it right]

If you’re about to try this with someone you just met, make sure that you know what to do. How are you going to propose the idea? Where do you plan on doing it? Is your car sex-friendly?

All of these should be factored in so that you and your date can have an awesome round of steamy car sex. That way, you won’t have to worry about the dangers we’ve just talked about. They might sound rather funny when you read them, but they won’t be funny if they happen to you!

Also, you have to be very careful about when and where you do this, as well. You need to scope out a location that’s both safe and isolated. You don’t want to get mugged just because you wanted to get naughty in your car. That’s not the type of memory you want from this. [Read: Confessions of an Anonymous Kitty who likes to give head on the road]

How to have car sex – Preparation is key!

Before anything else, let’s discuss how you can prep for the main event.

1. Get a car

Obvious, right? The best type of car to use is one that has adjustable seats and lots of legroom. SUVs are perfect because you can do it in almost any part of the car. If you own something smaller, check your car to see which position would be convenient for both you and your partner.

Maybe there’s enough room for your partner to straddle you on the driver’s seat, and if so, then go for it. If not, you should opt to start the show in the backseat. Some people might be willing to try it on the hood or the trunk of the car, but that’s way riskier, not to mention chilly. [Read: Hot, hot sex – How to turn up your sexual thermostat]

If you’re positive that you’re in a relatively secure and isolated area, you can go all out and even turn on the headlights for that music video effect. We’re kidding, but wouldn’t that be so cool?!

Basically, your best bet is to maximize the space your car offers. Whether it’s a pickup truck or a tiny car, make sure that it has enough room for you to move in. Also, we don’t recommend buying a car for the sole purpose of having sex in it – that would be ridiculous. So, borrow one if it’s that important to you.

2. Prep the car

Before you invite someone to get in your car, let alone have sex in it, you better clean it up, or else you won’t be getting anything more than a handshake and a good night. People don’t want to have sex in a dirty car. People don’t want to have sex in a dirty anything.

If your trash is all over the place, the mood will disappear quicker than you can say, “automotive.” [Read: 50 shades of dangerous sex – The right way to get risque

Have a bunch of necessary items in the car as well, such as tissues or wet wipes for the mess you might end up making. If you’re worried about the upholstery, you can also stock a blanket in the car, so any fluids won’t get on your precious seats.

Lastly, if you plan on playing something from the stereo system, make sure that your playlist is ready to go. Prepping the car isn’t just about appearances, you have to set the mood as well.

3. Talk to your partner

Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page. Some men and women are iffy about car sex for various reasons. Don’t surprise them with a sudden invitation if you feel that they’re not the type who is open to it.

Ease them in by talking about it in a nonthreatening setting like a cozy night in or a casual date outside. [Read: A guide on effective communication in a relationship]

If they’re not sure about it, give them an idea of what you’re expecting. Tell them how fun it would be, and that you made sure to prepare for it. Tell them about the risks as well, like getting caught, pulling a muscle, and being too nervous to finish the job. Hey, full disclosure, right?

Don’t force them into it or guilt them into doing it. Let it rest, and maybe one day, they’ll finally be open to the idea.

4. Choose your location wisely

Even if you’re doing it in a car, sex is still intimate and should be as private as possible. If you get a kick out of people watching, fine, but don’t say we didn’t warn you about the legalities.

Barring strange and inappropriate fetishes, the location of your car has to be as isolated as possible. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once n your lifetime]

You don’t want to flash someone passing through or risk being caught by anybody. It’s going to be pretty embarrassing if that ever happens. So, where are you supposed to go? Here are some suggestions:

a. A private parking lot

Preferably ones in a garage. Public parking lots are full of people. Most of them won’t hesitate to Snapchat the heck out of you.

b. An out-of-the-way location outside of town

You know those locations overlooking peaks in movies? Find one, and make sure it’s near a place where you can get help immediately, in case anything happens. There’s isolated, and there’s too isolated. [Read: 12 ways to take your sex life from vanilla to OMFG!]

c. Your garage

Your goal is to have sex in a car. No need to be picky.

d. A dark spot in a safe neighborhood

Don’t try this in a busy city where criminals are known to run rampant. You want privacy in a dark area, not an excuse for people to rob you.

e. The woods

It’s a very convenient location since no one goes there, unless it’s during the day. Just make sure that your doors are locked, you’re near an emergency station, and that you’re parked near the edge of the woods. Don’t drive all the way in just because you think it’s more secluded. [Read: Real-life dirty public flashing confessions to get you thinking!]

5. Remember to put the handbrake on

Seriously, don’t make this rookie mistake!

When you’re getting down and dirty, you’re not going to realize that your car is moving. Not only could you end up with damage but it’s definitely going to attract unwanted attention. Remember, the goal here is to NOT attract attention!

How to make car sex even hotter

Once your car is finally in place, we can finally get to the steamy part. Don’t just jump your partner’s bones once you’ve cranked the handbrake. You have to set the mood, do a little bit of foreplay and set yourself up for the last leg of your evening.

[Read: Hottest sex ever – 14 flirty, dirty moves to make him beg for more]

1. Make sure you’re both comfortable

Move the seats back, roll down the windows *just a little* or turn the AC on *with the engine running in idle and the handbrakes on*. Just enjoy the moment before the fun begins.

Put some music on, and don’t be in a hurry to start. Also, don’t blast the music to the point where everyone can hear, you’re just going to draw attention to yourselves. It’s also probably best to turn off the headlights at this point if you’re in the dark.

2. Talk about what’s about to happen

There’s something sexy about elaborating on what you’re about to do before sex. It’s hotter when you’re about to have sex in a really exciting place.

Build some anticipation and verbal arousal before you get into it. That way, you won’t be able to hold yourselves back once you start. [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk and say the sexiest words]

3. Start slowly

Make out. Make it last. Enjoy this moment, because you won’t be able to do this on a daily basis. It’s best not to push your luck, anyway.

4. Invest in foreplay

It’s going to be difficult to do this in a car, especially if you’re both in the front seats. You’re better off focusing on your partner’s neck, chest, and thighs. This will require a lot of hands-on work, if you know what we mean.

Of course, if you’re particularly bendy this will be a lot easier, so perhaps start practicing yoga now! [Read: What is foreplay? 17 sexy foreplay moves to get anyone hot & horny]

5. Position yourselves

Tell your partner how you want this to happen. Don’t forget to ask them if they agree or if they have another suggestion in mind.

It’s not going to be easy to transition from your seats to a straddling position or lying down in the back seat. Just get there, and continue what you started.

6. Don’t forget protection

Don’t get so caught up in the excitement that you forget protection. Always be safe! [Read: Condom types and how they improve your sex life]

7. Don’t rush

If you’re pretty sure that no one’s going to catch you, try not to hurry. Treat it like regular bedroom sex. Make it last, and make sure both you and your partner are satisfied before you drive home.

8. Make it quick if you’re worried

Your adrenalin is pumping, both of you are nervous and horny, we get it. So if you’re feeling quite stressed and not the most comfortable, try to have a quickie instead of a slow shagathon.

If you’re planning on having spontaneous car sex, chances are, both of you are wildly horny already. So use that to your advantage and get a quickie on and get back on the road soon.

How to have sex in a car – The best positions to try

There’s limited space, things in the way, and not much ability to lay down, so what sex positions are best for steamy car romps? Here are a few suggestions to try. [Read: 10 kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

1. The car seat hug

You really need to park somewhere secluded for this one because there’ll be no hiding! The guy sits in his seat and the girl straddles, facing him. Sit down and gently rock back and forth. If things heat up, you can lean back against the dashboard a little for extra space and momentum!

2. Reverse cowgirl car-style

This position is literally the opposite of the one we just mentioned. Instead of facing the guy, the girl has her back towards him and sits on his lap, opening her legs to rest on either side of his – if there’s space of course! [Read: The reverse cowgirl sex position – How to master it and ride a man in style]

3. Doggy style on the backseat

If you have a bigger car, this is an ideal position. You know what doggy is, right? Basically, the girl gets on all fours on the backseat and the guy enters her from behind, being careful not to bang his head on the roof!

4. Not-much-space missionary

This is missionary sex with a very snug difference. Here, the girl lays down on the backseat of the car with her legs bent at the knees and slightly open. The guy straddles her and slides in through the very small gap between her legs. It may take practice but the tightness will feel amazing. [Read: Who’s on top? 8 ways to make missionary sex magical]

5. Folded up fun

This one requires a bit of flexibility but it’s ideal for spots where there is less space. The girl lays down on the back seat and lifts her legs up towards her ears, as close as she can get. The guy lays almost in missionary style over her, and then bends up onto his knees for momentum to thrust.

The potential dangers of car sex

Now that you know how to have sex in a car and make it super-memorable, we need to cover the potential pitfalls. That’s because there are a few and they’re pretty major!

1. Getting caught

For sure, the biggest danger of learning how to have sex in a car and actually going through with it is getting caught. You really don’t want to be arrested for public indecency and even if it’s not the police that’s knocking on your window, it’s downright embarrassing to be caught, right?

Well, unless you’re into voyeurism but that’s a whole other story… [Read: 15 risky places to have sex and get your adrenalin racing]

2. The risk of injury

Cars are not made for being horizontal. They’re especially not made for sexual antics.

There are all manner of machinery parts and even if your car is automatic, there’s still a stick between the driver and passenger seats that could turn out to be pretty hazardous if it ends up in the wrong place. That made your eyes water, didn’t it?

3. Damaging the car

Don’t laugh! It’s possible! Your car might have pretty good suspension but it’s really not designed to be put to the test by vigorous sex and clawing fingernails. You might struggle to explain to the mechanic why your suspension or your interiors are totally ruined, without blushing at least. [Read: Best places to have sex – 41 wild and naughty ideas beyond the bed]

4. Cramp is very likely

You can’t stretch out in a car and even if you lay down on the backseat, you’re not going to extend your legs very far. Basically, it’s not going to be comfortable so prepare to ache the following day. Or worse, you may have to jump up from the act midway and stretch your muscles in the nude!

5. Ruined interiors

Let’s be honest, sex can be messy. Even if you’re having a quickie in the back of your car, there’s a likelihood of bodily fluids ending upon your expensive car seats.

If it’s leather, it could be wiped away *it may leave a stain if it’s suede*. But if it’s the typical nylon or polyester that most cars seats are made of, you’re going to be left with stains that can’t be washed away. And yes, the absorbed odor, that’s going to linger for months as well!

You really don’t need to explain that to anyone who gets in your car afterward, do you? [Read: 12 amazing facts you didn’t know about semen]

6. A dead battery… the worst!

When you decide to have sex in the car, here’s something you should never forget, especially if you’re planning to keep the air conditioning running while getting frisky. If you’re driving an old car *or if you’re aware your car’s battery is old*, either keep the car’s engine on and running to fuel the AC, or turn the AC off completely.

If you turn off the car’s engine and leave the air conditioning on because it’s getting all hot and sweaty inside the car for an extended period of time, there’s a very good chance the fan that circulates the air inside your car could drain your car’s battery.

What happens next? You won’t be able to start the car, and you’d be left with a dead battery. It’s all fine if you’re parked somewhere around your place, but if you’re far away from human civilization in an eerie forest, that’s asking for trouble!

Now you know all there is to know about how to have sex in a car, and the things to keep an eye on, just remember to stay safe, pay attention to all these details, and try not to get caught!

[Read: Sexual bucket list – 17 fun sex ideas you have to try]

Learning how to have sex in a car is undoubtedly one of the easiest ways to get a sexual adrenalin rush. And, you’ll never be able to look at your car the same way again!

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