Sure, learning how to make yourself squirt or actually experience a squirting orgasm can seem confusing.
Yes, it can be a little messy too. But the feeling of an extremely wet pussy is every man’s wet dream!
If your man can see you squirting, you can bet his jaws will hit the floor with awe. And chances are, so would yours!
Is it a rarity in the sex world? Yes. Is it hard to do? No, not with a bit of practice.
You’ve obviously heard of squirting, but you probably don’t know many women that can actually squirt.
Well, it’s no myth. In fact, the art of squirting is very real. And if you’re one of those people who want to know how to make yourself squirt, then you can definitely teach yourself to read the sensations and experience it time and again!
In the feature, we’ll discuss every single thing you need to know to make yourself squirt and the step-by-step guide to take you there. Sit back, get your fingers busy and prepare to blow your own mind with a huge squirting load of pleasure the next time you orgasm!
[Read: 12 amazing types of orgasms all women can experience in bed]
Squirting is the release, or discharge, of a noticeable amount of fluid from a woman’s urethra when she is sexually stimulated or having an orgasm.
But there’s more to it than that. Is it the same as female ejaculate? Because this story of female squirting actually begins from the female ejaculate.
Just like men have their own ejaculate, so do women. It’s just that most women aren’t aware of this. When a woman ejaculates during a state of arousal or when she has an orgasm, we call it a female ejaculation *duh?* and sometimes, in specific circumstances, it’s also called squirting or a squirting orgasm.
What are those circumstances that make a girl squirt? We’ll get there, and you WILL be a know-it-all about squirting in a few minutes. [Read: Debunking the myths on female ejaculation and everything else you need to know]
The female ejaculate is a spurt of liquid that is expelled from a woman’s urethra *yup, that’s your pee pipe* when someone *or you do it yourself* stimulates you and tries to bring you to orgasm. But just to be clear, this female ejaculate is not pee.
Usually, when a woman ejaculates, it’s less than 5ml of fluid. To get a fair idea of how much fluid that is, that’s almost exactly the same as a man’s cum when he ejaculates.
So the women on TV who seem to be squirting an entire pint of beer? Ah, well, maybe it is the beer they drank before the camera started rolling! [Read: 25 common porn myths that people still believe]
You know what pee smells like *and ahem, tastes like… right?*
When a girl squirts, the female ejaculate looks like watered-down milk, tastes sweet, and smells nothing like urine. It doesn’t always squirt out though, sometimes it just trickles down, so it’s easy to confuse it with pee.
And hence, the taste test, which is usually a great way to know for sure if it’s pee or ejaculate. If your man’s going down on you as you ejaculate or squirt on his face, chances are, he’ll immediately be able to tell the difference. [Read: 16 most important secrets to eat a girl out and make her scream]
Squirting, on the other hand, is a bit of a controversy in itself, because only some women seem to have mastered it, while most others have no idea if it’s even real. You’ve watched porn. Is that girl really squirting a jet of fluid all the way to the foot of the bed? Or is she really peeing? Can you even tell the difference?
You’ve probably heard about this already, that the female ejaculate comes from a place called the Skene’s glands. Everyone’s heard of that. But what is the Skene’s gland really?
Let’s talk about your pee pipe, the urethra, for a second here. Along the left and right inner sides of your pee pipe are two little openings on either side, and these openings are called the Skene’s glands. You can use a mirror, part your labia with your fingers, and if you really take a good look, you’d be able to see two tiny holes in the front wall or the entrance to the “hole”.
If you want to know way more about the actual parts of a vagina, try this guide on what makes a pussy pretty and 22 ways to make your vagina way more attractive looking!
The Skene’s glands are also called the female prostate glands, but it’s not very similar to the prostate glands found in men. So what do they do?
There are two primary jobs of the Skene’s glands – to produce antimicrobial fluids to prevent UTIs down there. And secondly, to lubricate you when you get wet.
So if you’re wondering how you actually get “wet” when you’re horny, you have the Skene’s glands to thank for that. Oh, along with the Bartholin’s glands too, in case you want to be right in your next argument with someone about how you get wet! The Bartholin’s glands produce a slick, transparent fluid, while the Skene’s glands produce a milky fluid, and together, they let you or anyone else know you’re wet or cumming. [Read: The physical signs of female arousal and 20 ways to recognize a girl who’s horny]
Before you get to the steps to make yourself squirt, we need to clear this confusion up. Here’s the part where you need to know the difference between squirting, and the female ejaculate.
As we now know, the female ejaculate is just about a teaspoon of fluid. But every time we talk about squirting, we talk about a force that’s strong enough to batter the walls. So what’s that about?
Honestly, your Skene’s glands CANNOT produce a glassful *or even a cupful* of ejaculate in one go. It’s just not possible, just like a man can’t produce a bucketful of cum from his tiny balls in one go, no matter how hard he tries. [Read: A man’s guide to increasing semen volume the natural way]
The funny part about the sexy squirt is that no one really knows for sure where it comes from or how it even happens. Nope, not even science can give this fluid the right name.
Here’s how the scientific conversation would go:
Is it pee? *Umm… don’t think so*
Is it female ejaculate? *can’t be, women can’t ejaculate more than a spoonful*
So what is it then?
A group of doctors, including Dr. Samuel Salama MD and several other doctors, set out to find out what exactly is the squirting fluid. They used pelvic ultrasound scans on many women who knew how to make themselves squirt, and were able to squirt regularly and frequently at will.
To spare you the technical details, the women were asked to pee before sexual stimulation and completely empty their bladder, and tested using an ultrasound scan to prove their bladders were completely empty and held no pee. The scans were repeated again while the women were being stimulated, and just after they squirted during orgasm.
So what did they find out? Surprisingly, even though all the women had peed already, their bladders started getting filled again immediately as they started getting aroused! And as soon as they climaxed and had an orgasm after making themselves squirt, their bladders were empty again!
On testing the substances in the squirted fluid, they found that it was an involuntary expulsion of pee, along with the female ejaculate in it.
So what makes up the fluid you squirt out when you orgasm? Lots of “pee” and a tiny bit of female ejaculate! Yup, that’s what it is. Lots of fresh, watered-down pee, which thankfully doesn’t smell musty like stale pee, and a wee bit of ejaculate from your Skene’s glands. [Read: Peeing after sex and other confusing myths about the vagina]
Honestly, the squirted liquid is clear, and unlike murky pee, it doesn’t smell like pee, and it looks like water. But tests on the substances in the squirted fluid had all the ingredients of pee in it. Along with the female ejaculate from the Skene’s glands, of course.
So if it doesn’t look like pee, doesn’t smell like pee, is it pee if it comes out of your pee hole all the way from your bladder? That’s the tricky part of squirting. The bladder did fill up pretty fast during sexual stimulation, even though it was emptied just before stimulation. So it IS some kind of “pee” because it did come from your bladder, even if it isn’t really pee.
Instead of worrying that it’s all just pee, try to have a good time trying to learn how to make yourself squirt instead!
Now that you’re completely aware of what squirting is, and what causes it, let’s talk about the fun part – how to make yourself squirt!
Learning how to make yourself squirt during sex or by yourself sometimes feels like the proverbial unicorn.
Those women who are fortunate to have achieved this kind of pleasure would sing you praises about the experience.
But for the other women who tried and failed to reach such orgasmic pleasure, they are often curious about how to make themselves squirt, and make the metaphorical floodgates open or even suspicious whether you can make it happen at all.
Due to its complicated nature, squirting has been a subject of so much discussion, making it some sort of a mythical creature in the realm of female orgasms. However, the fact that some women have been there and back to tell us their experience proves that it is achievable. The only question that remains is how does one achieve it? Let’s take a look.
[Read: How to finger yourself – A full guide and the moves to bring yourself to cum to ecstasy]
Women are the only creatures gifted with the ability to experience orgasms at different levels. The most familiar of these is the clitoral orgasm. This type of orgasm is easily achievable since the clitoris is located outside the woman’s body and is easily accessible.
Now, the other type of orgasm is more difficult to achieve and is the one tied to squirting. This is the vaginal orgasm. This can be achieved by stimulating the G-spot located along the upper wall of the vagina. It can be stimulated through intercourse by contact with the penis or manually by using the fingers.
Vaginal orgasms are described as more powerful and longer-lasting compared to a clitoral orgasm. However, achieving this kind of orgasm requires more patience and careful application of technique. [Read: Why do orgasms feel so good? 21 ways and the best ways to make it better]
Okay, now that you’re ready to give squirting a try and experience your first time squirt, here are a few steps that can help you along the way. Give them a try the next time you’ve got some time on your hands.
If you worry that you’re going to pee instead of squirt on your first try, then pee before squirting.
Empty your bladder completely, so that way, when you feel that “I need to pee” feeling, you know that it’s not because you actually have to pee. Usually, this is the feeling we have when close to an orgasm.
Sex is completely mental for women. Men don’t necessarily have to be in the mood to have an erection, but women have to be relaxed to get wet. You need to mentally relax before trying to squirt.
Don’t pressure yourself. Rather, see it as an experiment. If you find yourself becoming frustrated, stop. You won’t be able to do it if you become upset. [Read: How to relax during sex: Free your mind and enjoy your orgasms]
If your partner stands next to you while you try, but you can’t relax when they’re there, get them to leave. You need to be completely comfortable because you need an environment that allows you to relax and give you time to explore yourself. So, whatever you need to make yourself comfortable, do it.
Well, this one is an obvious point, but you need to remember this. You need to be highly sexually aroused in order to squirt. There is no way you’ll be able to do it if you’re dry.
So, get yourself in the mood. Watch porn, read something erotic, use a sex toy, fantasize, touch yourself—whatever turns you on, do it. [Read: How to make yourself horny and wet – The 25 best ways to get there fast]
There are so many different ways to touch yourself and make yourself squirt.
The way that works for one person may not work for you. Try various techniques until you find the one that works. Then again, you may not be able to squirt that moment, but you never know until you try.
If you want to try to make yourself squirt, you have to know where your G-Spot is, as it’s very important when squirting. To find your G-Spot, look for it when aroused, as it swells during that time so it’s easier to find.
You’ll feel a spongy area that’s ribbed when you touch it as you slip your finger into your vagina. That’s the G-Spot. Think of the roof of your mouth. It feels like that, only much softer and squishier. [Read: How to find your G-spot without using a flashlight]
Try to prolong your heightened state of arousal for as long as possible. Each time you come close to climaxing, stop moving your fingers and control *slow and controlled* your breathing, so the building orgasm starts simmering down again. Every time you do this and build up your orgasm only to stop yourself just before you cum, you’re setting yourself up for a more powerful orgasm the next time.
Keep edging until you just can’t hold on anymore, so the orgasm you feel is literally the most powerful one you could experience at that moment! The biggest the orgasm, the better the chances of you squirting! Use this guide on the step of edging and learn how to orgasm harder and better than ever.
Here’s where most girls get confused while trying to squirt. Can you remember your very first orgasm? Did you feel a sudden but very powerful urge to pee?
You probably held your sphincters tight to stop yourself from peeing.
Now that’s the one thing you shouldn’t do. When you build your orgasm up by edging, and take it nice and slow, you’d feel a strong urge to let go and orgasm. The more powerful your orgasm, the stronger the urge to “pee.”
But what you need to understand is that what you’re feeling is not an urge to pee, but an urge to squirt. You need to remember that you’ve emptied your bladder completely already before beginning your foreplay.
So this time around, just as you’re about to orgasm, let everything go and don’t tighten your urethral *pee pipe* sphincters. If you feel the urge to pee as you orgasm, just let it happen. And before you know it, you’ll be squirting exactly like the way girls do it in porn movies!
Note: Just a word of caution here, don’t try peeing before you orgasm. Then you’d just be peeing! You need to wait until you feel the quiver of orgasm *the muscle spasms* before pushing your pee out.
Once you get this right, you’d feel the best kind of orgasm ever! It’s a release you probably haven’t ever felt yet, and squirting for the first time is the kind of pleasure you didn’t know you could experience! [Read: How to experience the full body orgasm and the highest levels of sexual ecstasy]
Now that you know how to make yourself squirt, are there any techniques you can use to squirt better? Yes, there are. And we’ll talk about all of them here.
What you need to remember is to stimulate yourself well. You know what works best for you, so if these squirting techniques just don’t cut it, you do you. Just remember to edge yourself and build the orgasm up. Once you get the hang of it, it’ll only get easier with each new try.
Learning how to make yourself squirt is the same as learning to bring yourself to orgasm.
You didn’t know how to do it the first time around. But over time, you know the exact pleasure spots in your body, and all the right things to do. Here are a few squirting techniques you can try, and all of them focus on your G-spot. [Read: How to hump your pillow and give yourself a head start to squirting]
If you’re alone, this is a great technique to try out with your hands. You need to lie down on your back and have the palm of your hand facing your stomach with two fingers in your vagina. Try using the middle and ring finger.
Your pinky and index finger will be on both sides of the vagina, pointing towards your ass. Then you simply find your G-Spot and massage it, and your fingers will have a hook-like position. [Read: 10 female masturbation tips for guaranteed orgasmic bliss]
This is one of the best techniques to use for squirting. With your middle finger, you run your finger back and forth across your G-Spot. Test out the amount of pressure that works for you as everyone’s different.
This one is a bit complex, and you need some arm strength. Keep your fingers pressed on your G-Spot *make sure you find the right amount of pressure that stimulates it*. Then, you’re going to use your entire arm, and this is when working out comes in handy. Keep your arm stiff, and then shake it up and down very quickly. Do it right, and this one should definitely help you squirt a stream out!
If you’d rather try to squirt with a sex toy, that also works. You can use a dildo or a vibrator to do the same techniques that you would with your hand. There’s no actual set way to make yourself squirt, so test out all your options. [Read: How to use a dildo correctly and give yourself the perfect happy ending]
Sometimes, two hands are better than one. If you don’t enjoy self-pleasuring, lie back in bed with your legs spread and let your man get to work.
There’s no tried and tested method here. What works for someone else may not work for you. If your partner really wants to help you, then let them give it a try. [Read: How to finger a girl to orgasms – 10 easy techniques that work]
Is one better than the other? It depends.
When you’re being penetrated by your man, you have less control on the moments, but you can be more rested and relaxed to actually enjoy the sensation, especially if you’re lying down and he’s on top in the missionary position. So this works if you’re not a regular masturbator, and prefer sex over masturbation.
If you’re someone who’s sexually self-aware and know how to make yourself orgasm using your fingers, the fingering squirt may be your best option. You can control the movement, the pressure, and the buildup and do everything exactly as you want – it’s all in your control. You may be more tired, but you’ll definitely have more fun!
If you want to squirt while having sex, you definitely can! It’s easier if you’re having regular sexual intercourse, and indulge in edging together as a couple.
When you orgasm, there is a chance that you may not realize you’ve ejaculated because it’s only a teaspoon of female ejaculate. But if you see that you’re wet and it’s not just slick and transparent, but it’s slightly thicker and milky, chances are, that’s your female ejaculate from your Skene’s glands. You’re ejaculating already, and that’s good news for more to flow!
If you want to make yourself squirt during sex, or want to see a stream of ejaculate flowing out, just ask your partner to pull out as you orgasm, and follow the same steps we’ve given here. If you do everything right, chances are, you’ll see a stream of fluid gushing out or at least trickling out of you when you orgasm.
Some girls may be confused by this, but by now, you probably know it is. If you’re squirting without an orgasm, chances are, you’re just peeing.
Of course, some girls can squirt even before they climax. But for a first time squirting experience, delay the squirt by squeezing your urethral sphincters until you’re ready to orgasm. [Read: 14 embarrassing questions about sex most of us are too shy to ask]
You really can’t. No one can. But there’s one way that can help here. You have a certain amount of control over pee. But when you squirt, you just can’t stop yourself!
It just happens, and it’s almost involuntary when you’re relaxed.
If you want to know how to make yourself squirt and have a squirting orgasm, you need to relax your sphincters as you orgasm. That sudden urge to pee you get when you orgasm? That’s literally your body waiting to squirt it out!
So if you don’t hold yourself back and just let go as you orgasm, it will transform itself into a squirting orgasm.
You should definitely give it a solid try, but you may not be able to get it right the first few times. Sure, you may be totally relaxed and have everything ready to go, but your body simply doesn’t work like that.
No evidence proves all women squirt, or can squirt. But all women have a pelvic floor and the Skene’s glands, so by logic, all women should be able to squirt with a bit of practice.
Some of you may be able to do it on the first try, others after months of practice, and for some not at all. But that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It’s simply that our bodies are all designed differently. [Read: Geisha balls and how they can be used to strengthen your pelvic floor]
Several scientific studies have found that the stronger your pelvic floor *do your Kegels!*, the higher the chance of you squirting like a fireman’s hose! So if you do want to up your chances of making yourself squirt and experience a real squirting orgasm, flex those pelvic floor muscles until they’re as strong as they can get. [Read: Kegel exercises: Why both men and women should do it]
Okay, finally, here’s the part where we tell you to relax. Squirting is fun, but that doesn’t mean having an orgasm isn’t good enough!!
You should never force yourself to squirt because the whole process is almost involuntary and largely dependent on how aroused you are, and how easily you can relax your urethral sphincters. Perhaps, you’re focused so much on squirting that you’re not really enjoying the process. If you’ve tried squirting before, use these techniques and steps we’ve given here to make yourself squirt, and it WILL help you.
But if even these steps don’t help you, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. You know how it works now. So all you need to do is pee before having sex every time, and just focus on edging and enjoying your orgasm. All we can suggest is to totally let yourself go and relax when you feel feel an orgasm coming.
[Read: 16 sex tips for women to make having sex so much more pleasurable and fun]
If there’s one more suggestion we could give you, it’s to push your pelvic muscles like you’re bearing down or forcing yourself to dribble out the last remnants of your pee, just as you orgasm. This would happen naturally if you’re relaxed.
If you have a boyfriend, ask him how he feels when he ejaculates or the internal push he gives himself as he ejaculates. That’s literally the exact same thing you need to try.
You may not squirt today, or tomorrow, but one fine day, when you’re just following these steps and enjoying an orgasm, you may see a stream of fluid shooting out of your vagina! And when that day does happen, which it will, you’ll know exactly how it feels to squirt while having sex.
[Read: The sex flush and the real reasons why your body and face turn red when you have sex]
So this is pretty much everything ever, that you need to know when it comes to knowing how to make yourself squirt and have a real and powerful squirting orgasm. Just remember the steps, but don’t focus on it. Squirting is not a race, it’s an experience that can be learned just like your first orgasm. So enjoy every step of the way!
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