For most of us, life is terribly unfair.
We strive hard towards something, and yet, we fail more than we see success.
On the other hand, there are a few people who always seem to be lucky.
They are happier. And they almost always achieve all that they wish to achieve.
Are they lucky?
Or are you the unlucky one?
[Read: I don’t know what to do with my life]
Truth be told, there’s really no luck involved here.
Perhaps, there may be a wee bit of luck involved. But it’s definitely not enough to steal your life away from you.
How to change your life for the better
Admit it, life isn’t fair. Some people have better opportunities and other people have better brains or looks.
But if you’ve noticed anything about life, it’s the fact that we’re all balanced in some way or the other.
All of us have strengths and weaknesses, and somehow, all these advantages and disadvantages we have even themselves out to make us all even.
If you want to change your life for the better, you need to learn to use your secret powers that make you special.
Unfortunately though, only you can discover what you’re good at. No one else can do that for you. [Read: How to be perfect in everything you do]
But other than that, if you want to change your life in some aspect or all aspects, all you need to do is use these 12 easy steps on how to change your life.
It may seem easy, but these 12 steps are all that matter when it comes to the difference between a winner and a loser.
The side you’d belong to depends on what you do with these 12 steps.
12 steps to changing your life
Do you want to change your life to attract someone, have a better life, make more money or are you just sick of being a nobody? It doesn’t really matter what you want as long as you know how to use these little steps towards a better you and a better life.
#1 Take chances. Every day, life offers all of us a lot of chances and second chances. But are you keeping your eyes open to find those opportunities? Are you doing anything about it? Almost all the big entrepreneurs and accomplished men and women, well, they didn’t plan for success. It just happened because they seized their chances when they caught sight of it. Have a spongy open mind and always be willing to change for the better. [Read: How to be successful in life]
#2 A role model. A role model isn’t an absolute necessity. But for many of us, we want someone to guide us and help us think the way we should and it’s always easy to learn through someone else’s accomplishments and failures. Read books and autobiographies. Instead of learning from your failed experiences all the time, learn through someone else’s experiences and save yourself the fall. A role model can also help make your decisions for you when you’re confused. [Read: How to use a role model to get someone you like]
#3 Be positive. Believe in yourself and your dream. Don’t let naysayers or failures come in your way of achieving what you want. If you’re prepared to achieve your dream, you definitely will achieve it as long as you’re positive that you’ll achieve it.
#4 Love yourself. Do you really love yourself? Are you proud of who you are? If you don’t love yourself, can you really believe in yourself and your dreams? Be confident of your abilities, and always strive towards perfection even if others around you are happy with mediocrity. If you want to achieve your dreams, you really have to fall in love with yourself and believe that you truly are better than everyone else around you. [Read: How to love yourself]
#5 Follow your heart. If you want to understand the real secret behind knowing how to change your life, you have to listen to your heart. Be passionate in everything you do, and don’t leave anything halfway unless you know there’s a better way to do the same thing. It’s easy for people to say something can’t be done. In the end, it’s always the achiever who has the last laugh.
#6 Meet and interact with people. Don’t isolate yourself. When you’re trying to change your life, you have to surround yourself with the people who share similar dreams or who have achieved what you wish to achieve. Learn to think like an achiever and behave like one.
When you isolate yourself in your pursuit of your dreams, you may lose out on better opportunities that are waiting just around the corner. Meet people and share your ideas, help can come your way. Sometimes, making new acquaintances can also lead to mutual back scratching opportunities. [Read: How to network at a party and look good doing it]
#7 Be determined. Always stay motivated, either by sticking a post-it on your mirror or by constantly thinking of your objective. Determination is the drive that can see you through the darkest hours of your life.
#8 Be ready to take a step back. Some of us are lucky enough to see success at the very first try. For everyone else, there are bound to be failures along the way. Really, it’s alright to fail. Failures teach you valuable lessons, as long as you’re willing to learn from it and avoid repeating the same mistakes. After all, at times you have to take one step back to jump four steps ahead!
#9 Look at obstacles one step at a time. When you want something badly, be it a new opportunity to earn money or a way to impress someone you like, it’s natural for your mind to be buzzing with ideas and obstacles. While it’s good to see both sides, don’t be overwhelmed by too many thoughts. It’ll only leave you stressed. And at the end of the day, you wouldn’t be able to accomplish anything. Instead, make a list of things to do and focus on one thought at a time. It’ll help you focus better, and see better results. [Read: The real reason behind why your friends are drifting away from you]
#10 Don’t overburden yourself with too much work. Yes, you may be a one man or one woman army. You may have the skills to do everything too. But at some point, you have to learn to delegate or prioritize your work. If there’s something you do that can be done by someone else or by using something, step away from that chore. Your mind and thoughts can be a lot more valuable doing something no one else can do better than you.
#11 Balance your life. In your pursuit of better thing or a better life, it’s easy to forget everything else but your dream. While this may seem like a good thing initially, it’ll drain you out and leave your tired and directionless after a while. Always spare a few hours every day for recreation and you-time. It’ll help you become more efficient and motivated during your work hours without losing out on your regular life. [Read: Tips to be happy in life]
#12 Always have a long term plan and a short term plan. If you want to change your life, you need to think one little step at a time. But at the same time, you should never forget the big picture. Always start with the big picture. Ask yourself what you really want to achieve and be brutally frank to yourself. And once you have the big picture in mind, make a list of thing you need to change about yourself that can lead to the big picture. And you’ll definitely get there, a lot sooner than you think. [Read: How to stop lying to yourself and face the truth]
Changing your life for the better can be easy if you remember these 12 steps on how to change your life, just as long as you’re truthful about your desires and passionate about your dreams.
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