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Why Does Everyone Hate Me? 69 Things You Do that People Probably Don’t Like!

Sure, not everyone in the world is going to like you. But if you are asking yourself, “why do people hate me,” then you might need to think about why.

Why Does Everyone Hate Me

“Why do people hate me?” That is an awful question to have to ask yourself. But, if you find it creeping its way into your thoughts regularly, it is becoming a real problem. 

Sure, not everyone will like you. That is part of life. But hate is a pretty strong word. Hate is more than a dislike or indifference. Hate means someone actively has negative feelings toward you. 

They don’t talk to you, or worse, are mean to you. This sucks. It is not pleasant to feel like people hate you. And instead of accepting it, you probably want to fix it. Or at the very least, know why people hate you. 

And there is always a reason. Sometimes it is your fault, and other times it isn’t. It can be due to some character flaws you don’t realize you have or can be more about the person who hates you than you. 

Having the thought, “why do people hate me” lingering in your mind isn’t something that should be happening. 

So, you have to figure out if these negative emotions are because of you… Or because of them. [Read: Learn how to stop caring what others think about you]

Why you’re asking “why do people hate me?”

First things first, people may not hate you. Oftentimes when someone is asking themselves this question, they are projecting.

Others probably aren’t putting in the effort to hate, but you feel that way. Yes, your feelings are valid, but digging deeper to find the cause of those isn’t about others. It is about you.

Do people really hate you, or do you hate yourself? If you are struggling with low confidence, you may dislike yourself or even hate yourself. [Read: 15 reasons why people might hate you]

If you don’t like certain things about your personality, you could simply be projecting that onto others.

This doesn’t sound good, but most people aren’t thinking about you as often as you are. They are so worried about themselves and if other people like them. They aren’t concerned about you. 

So, while you’re worried and wondering about why people hate you, they probably aren’t even considering you. [Read: Stop self-loathing… You’re better than that]

Sure, sometimes people do hate you or dislike you. And we’ll get to all the reasons why, but before we get there, consider the alternative.

People don’t hate you. You just think they do. 

The good and the bad of it

If you have identified that someone doesn’t like you, then it’s important to keep in mind that it may not be about you alone. [Read: Lessons to deal with judgmental people]

Sometimes, people have quite irrational dislikes based on their own weaknesses and prejudices. 

However, if you’ve identified that several people seem to dislike you *and in tellingly similar ways*, then it may be time to do a little self-assessment of your interaction skills.

To help you figure out whether or not the root of your social problems is self-induced, we’ve broken down the following list into two halves. [Read: Love yourself first – where people go wrong, 36 whys, and how to do this right]

The first half of the tips point you in the direction of looking to yourself for why people may dislike you, and the second half of the tips describe situations where it may be the other person’s issue that they dislike you, placing the blame in their court.

Why do people hate me – your fault

In a lot of cases, people don’t hate you as much as you may think. But, in others, they just might. 

Even though it’s not realistic to think everyone dislikes you, there are some reasons why they might. [Read: The truth – why people are mean and extra rude to happy and nice people]

If you’re asking yourself, “why do people hate me?”, these reasons may give you some answers.

1. They don’t feel safe around you

People need to feel safe. Do you typically hang out with people you feel unsafe around? Exactly.

It could be just the fact that you’re a stranger that they don’t know, or maybe you like to live on the wild side of life. Either way, if it puts people’s safety in question, you’re probably not their favorite. [Read: Am I a narcissist? 24 narcissistic personality disorder causes and big signs]

2. You brag

You just love to name-drop and flash all the diamonds on Instagram. There are probably a decent amount of people who think you’re cool, but most people will hate you for this. 

Why? Because it is tacky and classless. Plus, mix that in with a little jealousy… And there you go, you have hate. [Read: 18 signs of self-centered people and the best ways to confront them]

3. You think you know it all

You went to Yale, we know, we ALL know. And with that Arts degree, you’re the Einstein of our generation, or at least you’d like to think so. Being a know-it-all is not sexy or intellectual. It is a way of putting others down. 

Yet, this is a behavior people don’t always realize they are showing off. Even if you always know the answer or want to correct people, let things go. 

No one wants to be made to feel dumb. Be a little humble and modest with your thoughts. [Read: 23 secret signs of narcissism people overlook until it’s too late]

4. You’re selfish

It’s always only about you. In fact, no one can remember when you were there to help them with an issue they had. 

They only remember sitting beside you when you were dumped or went bankrupt. You’re selfish.

Being selfish can stem from a lot of things, like a former relationship or your childhood. [Read: 20 ways to stop being selfish]

But these are excuses. If you look back and realize you might be selfish, it might be time to reconsider some things. 

5. You use people

You actually don’t have any true friends. All the friends you have are due to your self-interest. You befriended someone for a favor or to get ahead. 

Though it works initially, people start to notice fairly quickly, especially when you only call them when you need something. [Read: 27 signs of emotional manipulation to know if you’re being used by someone]

People don’t like being used. It’s a pretty easy way to get people to hate you.

6. You lie

If you want to get people to hate you, then lie. It’s the most efficient way. Lying breaks trust in people. Thus, they start to dislike you. 

Whether you lie about important things or are a pathological liar, lying for no reason is unattractive, unnecessary, and a reason for people to hate you. [Read: How to stop lying to yourself and the people in your life]

So, if you can’t even be honest with what you had for breakfast, maybe you need to seek some therapy. Because lying won’t get you any friends.

7. You don’t let other people talk

So, you’re a talker. It’s not a bad thing. It is bad that you never let anyone else talk, and then you cut them off when they try to. This also means you’re a poor listener. Even quiet people like to be heard. 

Next time you ask, “why do people hate me?” take a breath before talking. You can be the star of the conversation without completely running it. [Read: Do you love talking and hate listening?]

The whole point of socialization is for people to talk and build relationships. If they wanted to listen to you preach, they would join a church or sit in a lecture.

8. You’re an energy sucker

That’s right. If someone is in a good mood, you make sure you get some of what they’re having. You just take and take and take until they’re pruning up in the corner. [Read: What is an energy vampire? 19 signs to spot them in your life ASAP]

People tend to stay away from people who literally suck the energy out of them. You have to change that by finding your own energy. 

9. You need hand-holding

Everyone needs help now and again, but asking too much of others is more than annoying. If you need hand-holding for every little thing, people will find you needy and clingy. [Read: Am I clingy? 23 signs of a stage clinger and how to stop being one]

No one wants to be around someone like this. It seems like you are playing the victim and want attention. 

When someone craves attention and help like this, it tends to have the opposite effect. [Read: Effective ways to stop being so needy and insecure]

10. You’re spoiled

Being a spoiled brat may not be your fault *Hi, Mom and Dad!* But, you can stop it once it comes to light. [Read: Helpful ways to stop being a self-centered person]

Being spoiled means you don’t see things the way the rest of the world does. You don’t realize some people can’t just replace their phone or laptop if it breaks.

Not everyone was raised with a maid, their own room, or even a roof over their head. You expect things to be given to you that others have to work really hard for and don’t even realize.

Open your eyes to reality, and people will stop hating you. [Read: How to tell if you’re the toxic one]

11. You are judgmental

Being judgmental is just not okay. It doesn’t matter if you have your beliefs or religion. You can live your life how you want. But, when you take those beliefs and judge others for their choices, it crosses a line. 

Whether you judge others behind their back or to their face, this makes people hate you, and honestly, for a good reason. You are not perfect. You have no right to judge others.

12. You’re closed-minded

Not willing to budge or even hear someone out? This can make people hate you. They may not be right for hating you, but you aren’t right either. [Read: Am I manipulative? 20 sneaky signs you manipulate the people in your life]

Most things you are close-minded about are probably not black and white. Things need conversation and thought. If you are unwilling to hear someone’s side or something, it can make people hate you pretty easily.

13. You’re codependent

You rely on others to function. The way you see yourself depends on how others see you. [Read: How to spot codependent behavior early and regain your self-identity]

You get all of your self-esteem and confidence through others’ vision of you, not your vision of yourself. 

This can not only come off as clingy or needy, but it is unhealthy. Relying on others for how you view yourself is dangerous and toxic. 

People don’t want to have that much responsibility for how you feel. [Read: Do you have codependent traits that make you clingy?]

14. You’re a loud eater

This can be so annoying – especially when you’re out to eat. Hearing someone chew very loudly from the next table isn’t only irritating, it’s unappetizing. 

No one wants to hear someone else’s food smacking around in their mouth. ICK! [Read: Ways to ignore someone who’s annoying you]

15. You talk loudly in a quiet establishment

Not only is this very rude to the other people around, but it’s also usually done while talking about something ridiculous and not at all relevant to what’s going on. 

Anyone who is obviously talking above everyone else so loud that it’s distracting and ruining someone’s time is the worst type of person.

16. You interrupt people

This is probably one of the universal things people hate. Being interrupted is horrible. [Read: How to ignore people who are ruining a perfectly good day]

It’s annoying, disrespectful, and you can’t finish what you were saying as planned because you have someone cutting off your train of thought. There’s not much more annoying than being interrupted when you’re telling a story.

17. You have an obnoxious laugh

This one is a little difficult to talk about because people don’t really have control over what their laugh sounds like. 

However, there are people with very loud, over-the-top laughs that can get really annoying if heard over and over again. [Read: How not to be annoying and be everyone’s best friend]

18. You make unnecessary small talk

Yes, people are supposed to be polite. However, there’s a difference between saying hello and trying to talk to someone who is clearly not interested. 

This is when people make unnecessary small talk about the weather or birds or cars or any other pointless topic. It’s downright annoying. [Read: Clever ways to get out of an annoying conversation]

19. You’re a horrible driver

This is one of the things people hate that most people also do. Most people hate horrible drivers, but yet they, too, are also horrible drivers. 

Not because they mean to be, but sometimes you miss a turn and have to drive badly in order to make that U-turn back. It sucks. It’s dangerous. And yes, it’s extremely irritating.

20. You’re a SLOW driver

Hey, the speed limit is important – to a certain extent. Let’s be real, you can go over the speed limit safely by like 5-10 mph. [Read: Petty Percy – 18 signs of a petty person that make them so annoying]

Sure, people who are driving “slowly” are only driving the speed limit, but it’s annoying when the rest of the traffic is going so much faster.

This can also be dangerous since it disturbs the flow of traffic.

21. You have awkward eye contact

This one isn’t so much annoying as it is uncomfortable. When people make eye contact with you, it usually means they’re staring. [Read: Why do guys stare at girls so much?]

And staring is definitely another one of the things people hate most. Let’s keep our eyes to ourselves, thank you!

22. Spitting while talking

This one might top the list of things people hate because of how gross it is. When you’re talking to someone and they keep spitting all over the place, it can be very annoying. 

You basically have to dodge their spit whenever they open their mouths. Most people prefer not to walk around with a towel just to clean up someone else’s spit.

23. You act like people’s best friend when you’re not

This is SUPER irritating. If you don’t know someone well and they try to act like your best friend, it’s irritating. [Read: Fake friends – 42 signs and ways to tell them apart from real friends who care]

Usually, people who do this get too close, they talk to you about way too personal of things, and they try to insert themselves into your life – usually by inviting themselves to your events. No thanks.

24. You are super fake 

Being fake will get you nowhere and yet, people seem to think it’ll move them higher up in the world. So many people act fake toward you like you’re not going to notice. 

But the thing is, it’s super obvious. Who wants someone acting nice to them only to talk crap about them behind their back? No one. [Read: Ways to instantly recognize fake people and stay away]

25. You use your phone in a movie theater

Need we say more? This is so obviously rude and disrespectful to those who paid to see a great movie. Quit shining that bright light and distracting everyone!

26. You take too long to tell a story

A great story is awesome – if it’s told well. There are some people out there who are the worst storytellers ever. 

They take so long to tell a story and they only put in the unnecessary, boring details. This is definitely one of the things people hate most. [Read: People who talk too much – why they do it and 21 ways to handle them]

27. You whistle too much

Whistling can be fun and it can help you be productive, but it’s super annoying to other people. People hear that and just want to claw their eyes out! 

It’s way too irritating. Keep the whistling inside your head – nobody wants to hear it.

28. You pick scabs/pop zits in public

If you think nobody is looking, there’s always someone who is. And it is disgusting to see. First of all, you should never pick scabs. [Read: Ways to stop being boring and annoying around people]

They’re nature’s Band-Aid and they prevent scarring if you leave them alone to heal. Popping your zits in public should just never be a thing. It’s so gross and it’s one of the things people hate the most.

29. You have bad listening skills

Or the lack thereof. Nothing is more irritating than someone who doesn’t even make the effort to listen to what the other person is saying. 

Instead, these people are more intent on formulating their own words and cutting the speaker off mid-flow. 

If you are guilty of this, then it’s time to close your mouth and open your ears occasionally. Maybe then you’ll start to lose a few of your haters. [Read: Ways to be a better listener in your relationship]

30. You’re cheap

Generosity is a wonderful quality, but its opposite is notably disliked. 

If you’re always keen to avoid paying your way, then chances are that people have noticed this trait of yours, and word has gotten around that you can be stingy. Time to put your hand in your pocket. 

31. You’re too critical 

Some people really have no filter and are so quick to criticize those around them. [Read: Ways to master the art of constructive criticism]

If this is you, it could be one of the reasons why some people seem to be giving you a wide berth. Try to ease up on the criticisms and watch your friend count soar. 

32. Things you don’t say 

Sometimes it’s not what you say that might be leading people not to like you, but rather what you don’t say. 

“Thank you,” “well done,” “I love you,” “tastes great,” and “how are you?”—these are all polite and caring day-to-day expressions that people expect to hear. [Read: Simple tips to avoid being rude in any situation]

A dearth of these in your conversation could lead people to believe that you are rude or simply don’t care for them.

33. You’re lazy 

Which may, of course, be precisely the issue. If you have a streak of idleness a mile long, yet expect everyone to pick up behind you, this could be another reason they aren’t so fond of you. 

Start pulling your weight and see if this improves your relationships. [Read: Different ways to say I love you without saying a word]

34. You’re a pessimist

Another of the most common reasons that people aren’t liked is because they are negative and bring the mood down. Strangely, a lot of people who appear to be negative aren’t actually negative at heart. 

This can be reflective of an upbringing where they weren’t shown affection, so negativity provided the only route to the conversation. 

If this is you, then maybe you need to turn some of your Negative Nancy vocabulary around. Simple, but very effective. [Read: Negative thinking – 32 signs and ways to stop and get rid of negative thoughts]

35. You’re boring 

Uninterested people just aren’t very interesting. Someone who does nothing but watch soap operas, lie on the couch, and read trashy magazines can be a real drag to be around. 

These people bring nothing to the conversation, which consequently persuades people to dislike them. Answer: get a life. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

36. You’re flaky  

If you’re the kind of person who is quite flighty and doesn’t really take anything seriously, this could be the reason why people are starting to stay away from you. 

So, stop showing up late and/or canceling appointments with people all the time, and start showing them the respect they deserve. 

Commit to your words and keep your promises. Then, people might just start to really enjoy your company. [Read: Got flaky friends? Here are the reasons to ditch them]

37. You acknowledge none of these attributes

If you read through this and thought, “but I don’t do any of these things.” You do…and that’s the problem. If you think you’re unflawed, well, you clearly live in a bubble. Pop it, and then reread this feature.

Why do people hate me – NOT your fault that people don’t like you

Now that you know the reasons why someone may hate you for your flaws, let’s go over the reasons that are not your fault. It’s about them not you.

1. You’re more successful

Jealousy is a powerful emotion – and it’s an ugly one. But so many people are jealous of others who are more successful than they are. [Read: How to stop being jealous of someone else’s success]

This success could mean simply that you did better in school or have a higher-paying job. 

Yeah, it sounds stupid, but it’s what keeps the whole competitive wheel in motion. People don’t like feeling like losers.

2. You remind them of themselves

This is usually the top reason why someone would hate you without having a significant reason. Who wants to admit that they’re flawed? [Read: Why people are mean and extra rude to happy and nice people]

The point is, they probably have more in common with you than you’d realize. They are like you, and that’s why they hate you.

You know that character in your favorite TV show that you find to be cringy and hard to watch?

It isn’t because they are opposite to you, but probably because they remind you of the things you don’t like so much about yourself. Make sense? [Read: Why do I hate myself so much? Self-hate and what you can do about it]

3. You signify their failures

Maybe people hate you because, at one point, you both had the same job, but you got the raise, and they were demoted. 

Now, every time they see you, they’re reminded of the time when they were told they were less than what you are.

This has nothing to do with you but is about their failures and shortcomings. [Read: Feel like a failure? 23 truths to stop feeling defeated and find your way]

4. They don’t have what you have

People may hate you simply because you have qualities that they lack. Maybe you have more Instagram followers, a close circle of friends, and a new car – yeah, this sounds stupid and shallow, but it’s true.

When you compare yourself to others, you get filled with negative emotions for those you wish you were more like. [Read: Ways to stop negative people from sapping your energy]

It is why even when your friends are happy in a relationship, and you want to be happy for them, some of you feel bitter. 

5. You threaten them

Imagine that you’re sitting next to someone’s boyfriend and talking to them socially, and all of a sudden, their girlfriend comes and gives you a hateful glare. 

You’ve never spoken to her in your life, but you’re talking to her boyfriend, and that’s too close for comfort. You’re perceived as a threat. [Read: Envious friends – 18 signs of friendly envy and what makes them feel it]

Do you want her boyfriend? No. But for her, you’re walking into her territory.

Someone can hate you for something small and insignificant. But, again, this is more about how they see themselves and has nothing to do with you.

6. You use your brain

If you’re someone who questions and critically analyzes, people aren’t going to like you much. 

Should you care about this? No. Because you’re one of the rare ones. Keep thinking, and hopefully, someone else will join you. [Read: 15 highs and lows of dating someone smarter than you]

7. You have an independent mind 

Someone dislikes you because you won’t tow their conversational line. It’s good to have your own mind, and not responding to their controlling ways is not your problem.

8. You’re successful 

That’s all it takes for some people to dislike you. But hey, why should you apologize for the hard work you’ve done that’s led you to where you are now? [Read: How to stop being jealous of someone else’s success]

9. They have preconceptions about you

Maybe it’s because of what you do or how you look, but people’s preconceptions about you are not your issue. Maybe they should get to know you first before judging you.

10. Because they like you

A somewhat paradoxical statement, maybe, but some people really don’t know how to successfully express themselves. 

Thus, an unhealthy dose of dislike may conceal the fact that they actually really like, admire, or even love you. [Read: 36 racy, random funny questions for flirty guys and girls]

11. You’re honest 

Some people don’t like being called out for their bad behavior, and if you’re someone who can’t stand by and watch when someone is acting up, then this may be why they don’t like you. Again, this is their issue, not yours.

12. You have opinions 

You have them and some people don’t like that. Especially when they are different from their own. Our advice: ditch the control freaks and spend your time with people who can handle a real conversation, differences aside.

13. You have a family

When you have kids, you often have to sacrifice other aspects of your personal life. If people can’t handle that and don’t like you for it, well, that’s their issue. [Read: How to balance your career, social life, and dating life]

14. You’re generous 

Nothing makes a miser look worse than someone else’s generosity. Don’t be ashamed of being the better person.

15. They are bigots

Racism, culturalism, sexism—whatever the prejudice, don’t even waste your time trying to talk this person around. They aren’t worth it.

16. They are attention seekers

It’s sad, but some people are so desperately lacking in anything else that the only way they can get attention is to be serial haters. [Read: 15 tips to be nice and loved by all instantly!]

Social media is full of these types—disgraceful individuals who should be cut adrift at the earliest opportunity.

17. They have preconceptions about your race, gender, or sexual orientation

Let’s face it – some people are just judgmental jerks. They have biases, preconceptions, and stereotypes about groups of people that are usually inaccurate.

So, if they are racist, sexist, or homophobic, maybe they are judging you because of their bad views of the world. [Read: Misogynistic men – what it is, 48 signs, and psychology of a sexist woman hater]

If they got to know you as a person, maybe they wouldn’t reject you based on shallow things such as race, gender, or sexual orientation. 

Why do people hate me – People disliking you could be all in your mind

Finally, we have to talk about this possibility. It might be that no one hates you and that it’s all in your mind. If that’s the case, then it could be due to the following reasons.

1. Paranoia

Paranoia is a thought process that results from anxiety or fear. It makes a person irrational and delusional. It will make people think that there are threats to themselves that don’t actually exist. [Read: Combat your relationship paranoia in simple steps]

So, you might be making false accusations and have a general distrust of other people that makes you think that everyone hates you. But in fact, it could just be a delusion that you made up in your mind that isn’t actually true.

2. Cognitive distortions

Cognitive distortions are thoughts that cause people to perceive reality inaccurately. A negative outlook on reality is a factor of emotional dysfunction and results in a poor sense of well-being.

Negative thinking patterns reinforce negative emotions and thoughts. These thoughts can contribute to an overall negative outlook on the world and a depressed and anxious mental state. [Read: Gaslighting – what it is, how it works, and 33 signs to spot it ASAP]

3. Loneliness

Maybe you’re just shy or an introvert so you never really put yourself out there to meet or become friends with people. If you self-isolate like that, then you will inevitably get lonely.

These feelings of loneliness make you feel like everyone hates you. When in fact, perhaps people just don’t know you at all because you keep to yourself. Maybe once they got to know you, they would like you.

4. Insecurity

If you don’t feel good about yourself, then you put out a vibe that people pick upon. You don’t even need to say anything about not liking or loving yourself.

People just have an intuitive sense of things like that. [Read: Why am I so insecure? 29 signs and ways to deal with insecurity and feel secure]

So, if you don’t like yourself much, then you probably assume that no one else will either. But that’s silly. People might like you a lot more than you like yourself, so try not to be so hard on yourself.

5. Bullying

There will always be bullies in the world. The ones on the playground at school grow up and become your coworkers or boss. So, maybe you just have bad luck and have been the victim of bullies.

But while bullying behavior is never acceptable, you should still look at yourself and contemplate what they are bullying you about and whether you can change for the better. [Read: How to deal with bullies – grown up ways to confront mean people]

For example, maybe you have poor personal hygiene or are a cheapskate.

What to do when people hate you

Dealing with people who hate you can be the worst. You can’t just shut them down like you can other people. They hate you! And that means they’ll go out of their way to hurt you if they want. 

But now that you may know some of the reasons people hate you, it is time to do something about it. [Read: How to stand up for yourself and get what you deserve]

Here’s how to deal with it.

1. Ignore them

This is really the best thing you can do to deal with the haters. If they’re not affecting you, they’re not winning. Don’t let them get the upper hand by responding and lashing out at them. They’ll never go away.

If you really want to get rid of them, you just have to ignore them. Sometimes, this will seem impossible but it’s really your best option. 

Don’t give them the satisfaction of getting to you. Forget that they even exist and you’ll be happier for it. [Read: Ways to ignore someone who mentally stresses you]

2. Don’t add fuel to the fire

If you know someone hates you, it’s a horrible idea to antagonize them. They already have the motive to work against you and making them angry will only make your life worse.

You never want to egg on someone who hates you. They’ll go out of their way to make your life miserable and you’ll regret it. 

If you can, just avoid doing anything that’ll make them angry. If they get mad at you for just living your life, that’s their problem. [Read: How to be nice – 20 easy tips to make everyone love being around you]

3. Determine why they have a problem with you

Sometimes the only way to deal with someone who hates you is to put yourself in their shoes. Why do they not like you so much? What’s the problem?

If you did something to upset them, knowing what it was can help you apologize and possibly move past the incident. 

Most of the time, it’s just a misunderstanding that can be easily resolved with communication. Approach them and ask what the issue is so you can both move on. [Read: Tips for a hassle-free relationship with a coworker]

4. Avoid being around them

If you want to know how to deal with people who hate you, you’ll need to know how to avoid them like the plague. They don’t want to be around you. More importantly, it won’t be good for you to be around them.

You’re only fueling the fire by being around them all the time. When they just get angry and hateful around you, it’s best to just not be around them as much as possible.

5. Be the bigger person

This means you’ll just have to not acknowledge them at all. If you lash out and hate them back just because they hate you, you’re not being the bigger person. 

You’re actually just stooping down to their level. [Read: Ways to deal with judgmental people easily]

That won’t be good for anyone. Just ignore the fact that they hate you and if you need to communicate with them – like if they’re a coworker – just act respectfully. 

Once they realize you’re acting like a mature adult, they may lay off a bit. 

6. Realize that it might not be hatred

Sometimes when someone is jealous, it manifests as hatred. They could just be upset that you have a better life than they do. Most of the time, it’s because they don’t know the real you. [Read: 25 signs to tell if someone is jealous of you and doesn’t wish you well]

Open up to a person and show them that, despite what they may see, you have a hard life too. Knowing that they don’t have much to envy, you can definitely help their hatred simmer down.

7. Stand up for yourself if necessary

When someone hates you, they may try to break you down. They’ll basically bully you until you can’t stand it anymore. You may even end up going home feeling bad about yourself.

You need to stand up for yourself sometimes. When someone is actually bullying you, go ahead and tell them to knock it off. They don’t have a right to do that. [Read: Standing up for yourself and having self-respect affects your relationships]

If they hate you for no reason or a really bad reason, just tell them off. Sometimes that’s the only way to learn how to deal with people who hate you. 

8. Find humor in it

It’s really great to find out why someone hates you because it can be funny. Find some humor in it. They could hate you for the dumbest reason and instead of getting angry about it, just laugh.

Not only does this make it easier to deal with them, but they’ll stop hating you so much when they realize you enjoy it. [Read: Types of humor and how it affects relationships]

They don’t want to add to your happiness, so they’ll end up leaving you alone.

9. Accept that they just hate you

Sometimes, someone will try to change another’s mind. They think that if they show the person who hates them just how great they are, they’ll stop hating them. That’s just not usually the case.

You just have to accept that someone doesn’t like you. You’ll go through life dealing with those types of people all the time. [Read: How to get over hate when it’s just not worth it]

You need to learn how to accept hatred if you ever want to know how to deal with people who have you. 

10. Never change yourself just to please them

Lastly, never change who you are to please others. It’s not worth it. If someone doesn’t like you, who cares? 

You’re not on this planet to get every single person to like you. Don’t sacrifice who you are just for someone else to stop hating you. [Read: How to be true to yourself and start living life on your terms]

Final thoughts

The best piece of advice is to go to therapy and be honest. Be 100% honest. Tell them your flaws and what you want to work on and why you think people hate you. 

Explain to them why you are worried about how others see you and why that means so much to you.

A professional can guide you in the ride direction. Not only will more people like you, but more importantly, you will learn to like yourself and become a better person.

[Read: How to make new friends – 15 ways to do it right as an adult]

Now you know why you ask, “why do people hate me” and you can stop. Listen, it could be a combination of things, but looking at yourself is the best place to start. Let’s reduce the amount of hatred. 

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...