When we meet new people and become friends, it is because we usually have something in common. Maybe that is the same taste in music, maybe we work together, or we eat the same foods. To strengthen that friendship, we may focus on what we already know. But if you want to get to know each other better and on a deeper level, here are some easy and fun questions to ask a new friend that can really help.
Fun questions to ask a new friend and connect with each other effortlessly
Getting to know someone takes time. But by asking insightful and sometimes even odd or funny questions, you can strengthen your new friendship and become closer.
#1 What is your first memory? Some people remember things from when they were toddlers, others don’t recall anything before they were in school full time. [Read: The 8 types of friends everyone needs in their life]
#2 What is your most embarrassing moment? Learning about what your new friend finds the most embarrassing and what they have learned since then is quite telling.
#3 Who is your celebrity crush? This is always a fun question to discuss.
#4 What is your all time favorite book? Books have a deeper quality than movies and TV shows, so learning about what book touches your new friend the most can tell you a lot about them. [Read: The must-read books for your 20s to reinvent your life]
#5 What fictional character do you wish were real? Is it someone super hot and romantic? Or is it a superhero?
#6 What was your first relationship like? Someone’s first relationship is what moves them into every future relationship. Just think about yours. How did this affect your new friend?
#7 Who was your first crush? Now, this could be the same person that they first dated or maybe it was in elementary school.
#8 How do you stay motivated? Whether you want some advice or just want to know what keeps your new friend going, this can give some insight.
#9 What is your secret hobby? Learning things about your new friend that not many other people know brings you closer.
#10 What is your guilty pleasure TV show? Who knows, maybe you love the same one? [Read: Do you really know your friends? Try asking these questions]
#11 What is your biggest pet peeve? What drives your friend nuts? Not only does this help get to know them, but you can now avoid chewing with your mouth open or throwing recyclable bottles in the trash.
#12 What are your relationship deal breakers? Things people won’t deal with in a relationship are similar to what they won’t deal with in a friendship, so this can be beneficial to learn.
#13 Are you close with your parents? This is such a personal question for some, so it can really connect you two.
#14 Have you spent much time with your grandparents? Some people have never even met their grandparents, others were mainly raised by them. Who helped make your friend who they are today?
#15 If you could only shop at one store for the rest of your life which would it be? Target? Saks Fifth Avenue? Whole Foods?
#16 Describe your dream wedding. This might seem superficial but it can also show how invested your friend is in meaningful moments and who he or she wants there.
#17 What do you think you could do to better yourself? This can help you moving forward any our friendship with this new friend. [Read: 15 things a good friend does that sets them apart]
#18 Where would you love to travel to? To do charity work somewhere? To go on a tropical vacation?
#19 What was your first plane ride like? This is always one of those fun questions to ask a new friend that probably includes a hilarious back story. For some reason, plane rides, especially your first one is always eventful.
#20 Do you prefer summer or winter? Does you friend love the heat or prefer to hid under the covers as snow falls?
#21 What was the best year of your life? Or is it yet to come?
#22 Do you want to have kids? Will you have similar lifestyles in the future? If they don’t want kids, why not?
#23 What is the most expensive thing you ever bought? Did they buy a guitar they can’t play or invest in a real estate venture?
#24 What is your biggest regret? This can say a lot about someone. Maybe they don’t have any regrets. [Read: 20 self discovery questions to bring you closer to learning who you are]
#25 What do you wish you had more time for? Painting? Family? Sleeping?
#26 If money wasn’t a factor, what would you be doing with your life? Traveling? Having a family? Fostering dogs?
#27 Which parent are you closer to? Some may say it is totally equal, but we all know there is one parent you have a different connection with.
#28 How do you feel about your siblings? Of course you love them, but? They drive you crazy too.
#29 What impresses you the most? Work ethic? Faith?
#30 Do you believe in God? This can be touchy for some, but it can truly help you get to know you new friend on another level.
#31 How do you feel about politics? Yes, in today’s world, this is one of those questions to ask a new friend that could halt your new friendship in its tracks, but it is definitely something to know.
#31 Are you a feminist? If not, do you really want to be friends?
#32 Who is your favorite celebrity and why? This does not that to be your crush, but a celebrity that is a philanthropist or maybe it is Beyonce or Oprah.
#33 Is there any technology you wish wasn’t invented? The internet? Online dating?
#34 What is you least favorite app? Facebook? Snapchat?
#35 What childhood game or toy do you wish was still around? Old school Nintendo? The original Polly Pockets? Or do you wish Toys R Us was still around?
#36 What would I be surprised to learn about you? They can cook a gourmet meal? Or maybe they burn water? [Read: How to surround yourself with positive people]
#37 Can you dance? This is something none of my friends know about me, but it can be so fun to learn. Can your friend do ballet? Or maybe they can waltz. Or they can barely bob their head and have zero rhythm.
#38 What is your favorite song to sing? Is it a sad ballad or an upbeat pop song?
#39 Do you prefer Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime? Are they more into TV shows, classic movies, or do they have all 3.
#40 Do you still have a MySpace? Let’s hope not.
#41 Do you prefer dogs, cats, or another animal? Do you click over your obsession with cats? Or does your new friend have a thing for snakes?
#42 Do you ever plan on settling down? Does your new friend want to travel the world? Or do they want a white picket fence? [Read: 15 thought-provoking questions to leave you curious and wondering]
#43 Who in your life do you trust the most? Your mom? Your dog? Yourself?
#44 If you were arrested, what would it be for? Murder? Texting and driving? Or jaywalking?
#45 What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? Go on your phone? Drink coffee? Brush your teeth? Hit snooze?
#46 How do you feel about gambling? Is it a fun rush or do they think it is a waste of money?
#47 If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy? A new car? A house on the beach? Or would you put it all in savings?
#48 What is the best age? Being a kid? An adult? Or is it yet to come?
#49 How do you feel about getting older? Some people love growing up, others are terrified.
#50 How smart do you think you are? Does your friend think they are street smart, book smart, or are they sort of ditzy?
#51 What is the oldest item in your closet? Their prom dress? A jean skirt from middle school? Or jeans they bought last month.
#52 Do you think people are naturally good? This can give you insight into how your new friend really views the world.
#53 What scares you the most? Spiders? Death? Their mother in law?
#54 What excites you the most? The future? Eating? Sports?
#55 What charity or cause are you the most invested in? Are they all about equal rights? Preventing gun violence, stopping animal cruelty, or finding a cure for cancer?
#56 Do you prefer to live alone or with someone? This says a lot about someone. Do they love their alone time and want everything in its place or can they adapt to someone else? [Read: Are some people meant to be alone? 13 signs you’re that person]
#57 Have you ever had a reoccurring dream? If so, what was it? Were they being chased by a clown? Or maybe they walked into school naked?
#58 Have you ever bullied anyone? What have you learned since? We talk a lot about being bullied, which is great. We should share our experiences. But most people who were bullies don’t talk about it. Having your friend maybe admit it and how they have changed since can be so eye opening.
#59 Are you confident? Does your new friend have self image issues or maybe he or she is super happy with who they are? [Read: Good friends are like stars – 18 ways to build lasting friendships]
#60 Would you consider yourself to be independent? This is so interesting. Personally, I am not very independent, but my best friend of 10+ years is. And we still get along great.
#61 What is something you would never do? Go skydiving? Get married?
#62 Would you ever adopt a child? I think this is so interesting. Some people don’t know if they could care for a child they didn’t give birth to. What does your friend think?
#63 Have you ever broken the law? Maybe they littered? Or drank underage?
#64 What intimidates you? People with money, people who are really positive, or big challenges?
#65 When and where are you the most comfortable? For me, it is in bed with snacks, watching The Bachelor. But others feel their best at work or on vacation. [Read: A guide to not giving a f*ck and being comfortable with yourself]
#66 What is something I would be surprised to learn that you are great at? Do they rap? Or maybe they can change a tire in a flash.
#67 Do you recycle? If not, this is your time to tell them how important it is.
#68 What extinct animal do you wish was still around? Dinosaurs? Mammoths?
#69 What is your weirdest habit? Eating mayo and peanut butter together? Picking at your split ends?
#70 How do you deal with rejection? Some people brush it off while others dwell. Which is your friend more like? And how can you help?
#71 What was your high school experience like? Was your friend popular? Did they play sports? Or did they keep to themselves?
#72 Do you cry often? Some people rarely cry, if ever. Others, like me cry at least once a week. I can’t help it, those ASPCA commercials get me.
#73 Have you ever struggled with a mental illness? This is something that affects your life so much and sharing that with a new friend is not always easy, but it brings you immensely closer.
#74 Is there anyone that you truly hate? Your boss? You ex’s new partner? Or maybe Donald Trump? [Read:How to find like-minded people who think just like you]
#75 What do you wish you could forget? The entire year of 2016? Walking in on your parents…? Seeing a pimple popping video?
[Read: The right ways to make new friends as an adult]
Some of these questions to ask a new friend are funny, others are bizarre, but many are deep and inquisitive.
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